Hi,
How’s it going?
I have a friend that I call the Prophet of Doom.
Why?
Well he’s the friend I told you that believes in a world wide conspiracy to enslave all people across the world under one government, remember? I want to get something clear he does NOT have a mental illness.
He does not have a mental illness.
He does not have a mental illness.
Don’t write me and say he has a mental illness. He does not.
Okay?
He uses words like, “they”, “them”, “the elites”, and “by design”.
It’s kind of annoying because he always spins good news into the conspiracy.
If the cost of oil goes up, he says that’s proof that “they” are conspiring.
If oil goes down, that means they are tricking us.
If there is any kind of anything bad, it’s more evidence that “they” are working to “control” us.
Anyway, it’s kind of weird we are still friends because I am an optimist. So anyway, things have been going really bad for him lately. He has lost a lot of money.
So I told him that he needs to stop listening to all these negative people who say all this negative stuff.
Previously he said that he was “being informed” and “getting prepared”.
He would say to me that I am going to be sorry since I don’t listen and won’t know when “they” finally strike.
So anyway, I told him to stop listening to all this nonsense and only talk to positive people.
He finally agreed and admitted to me that things were getting better. He told me no more conspiracy stuff and talk.
I was proud of him.
Every now and then he slips up and starts talking about “them” and the “elites” plan for global domination but he has been “good” for about 8 days now.
What’s this have to do with bipolar disorder?
Nothing I just wanted to tell you a random story.
Just kidding.
It does have something to do with it.
With bipolar disorder, whether you are someone who has it, or are a supporter of someone who has it, you are going to face a lot of negativity.
You have to ignore it. Stay focused on the positive.
Don’t get bogged down with doom and gloom talk.
Glance at the negatives but focus on the positives, that’s what I say.
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If you focus on the negatives, you will have a negative attitude.
But if you focus on the positives, you will have a positive attitude.
Which do you think will get you furthest in life?
Not just furthest in handling bipolar disorder, but in life in general. You have to be realistic, I know, that there are negatives to deal with, and that’s why I say to glance at the negatives.
Just don’t focus on them.
Glance at them. Deal with them. Then go on.
And FOCUS on the positives.
That will get you so much further.
See what a difference it made in my friend?
Hmmm… eight days now.
Now I know some are going to write me with websites and books that prove of the universal conspiracy by “them.”
Do NOT send me this information. I will NOT read it.
I don’t know want to fill my head with negative stuff.
You want to hear something funny?
I know this younger kid who is like 20 or so. He has a business and it’s doing great.
All he does is work out and run his business.
I asked him how his business was doing. He said, “incredible. Best year ever.”
Another person asked him about how the economy is affecting him.
He said, “umm what’s wrong with it? I was going to look into that a couple months ago but I forgot.”
I kind of interviewed him and he told me he never watches tv and didn’t understand economics so he just ignores it. He thinks it’s over his head and in his opinion, “why listen to stuff you don’t understand.”
I firmly believe by him always focusing on the positive and putting positive stuff in his head, he has done well.
Same thing with bipolar disorder.
If you run searches online you can find so many bipolar disorder horror stories. If you keep reading them you will be afraid of people with bipolar disorder. Or, you’ll feel you can’t be a success if you have the disorder.
What good does that do?
ONLY FOCUS ON THE POSITIVE
Glance at the negatives but just don’t dwell on them.
Don’t be a prophet of doom.
Anyway, I wonder how long my friend can go before talking about his conspiracy theories again?
What do you think about glancing at the negatives but focusing on the positives?
Do you do that?
Does it work for you?
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I totally believe in the positive attitude bringing positive things to peoples lives. I am a supporter for my husband who has bipolar disorder. I have always been an upbeat happy person. The first year my husband and I were together was great. We shared activities, laughs, etc. Then he had a manic episode and everything has gone downhill from there. We have been working with his docs and have changed his meds several times. He will come out of his “slump” for a couple days and then go back into it for a month or more at a time. His family does not care about his disorder and tell me “he will come out of it soon – I’ve seen him worse than this”. Well how worse can it get? He has been in his “slump” going on 2 years now and his family is always negative and he seems to dwell on that. He stresses over all the little things and makes life miserable for everyone around. We have only been married going on 2 yrs – he has tried to kill himself twice and has been in the hospital numerous other times. He tells me I am the best thing that happened to him but I have lived almost my entire marriage by myself. If I want to spend time with him I have to go lay in the bed to do it. I try to joke all the time and watch comedies and try to laugh all the time, but he shows absolutely no enthusiam or passion for anything. Does anyone who has been through this have any suggestions on how to handle this? I am also type 1 diabetic and have no one to support me and it is taking a toll. I love my husband very much and do not want to lose him in any way, shape or form but I don’t want to live my marriage alone the rest of my life either.
My husband left me on Feb. 15, 2008 after I found out he had maxed out about 15 credit cards, was into porn on the internet, trying to find sexual partners, and had spent all our savings. We went to counseling which did not help. He said there was nothing wrong with him, that it was all me. We had been together over 22 years. He has all the symptoms of bipolar, (even his counselor said so). But he refuses to get help and told us to leave him alone. So I have applied for a divorce. He has never given me any spousal support. I am 73 yrs. old. What else can I do? I lost my home and everything I had ever worked for. Thanks for listening.
Hi Dave,
I agree with you. Just glance, but don’t fear. Because that is what the controllers want. Focus on the positive and you will manifest positive in your life. Doing this will draw more people who are doing the same and you will have a whole network around you full of the positive. That would be very upliting to anyone who is stuck in the negative.
DAVID, I THINK SATAN IS ALL THE NEGATIVE!!! AND THE HOLY SPIRIT JESUS CHRIST IS ALL THE POSITIVE IN OUR WORLD TODAY!!! THANKS, JULIE
No,your doom and gloom friend is not bipolar.
He does have a mental illness though. When he subscribes to the theories of “them and they” he is suffering from a psychotic break.
Their reality ceases to be what reality is.No manner of positive thinking will fix that. Sometimes, breaks last for a short period. Too often, they are permanent conditions, with medical roots. Unforunately there are those that can’t be helpedWho hasn’t seen those people walking downtown wearing those sandwich boards proclaiming the end of the earth is near.
Since to those suffers what, may seem irrational thought patterns to us, is the suffers reality. Cruelly often they are just laughed at, instead of turned to medical help.
In regards to your friend you could say “the power of positive thinkings”, “ignorance is bliss” or “dumb luck”.
I have no doubt that the people who have been devastated by our economic crisis, by either losing their jobs, homes or both, are thinking positive thoughts that things will get better before they are out in the street.
I hope you are right in your theory.
Dave? Have I been bandanated? Can’t post here!
David, your friend is mentally ill. Paranoia is an illness. Not only that but every one has mental illness of some sort. I’m bipolar. My brother insists he has no mental illness. Well, he is obese and that is a disorder – in the head – mental illness.
You are correct The Secret – thesecret.tv – tell all about positive energy. Check it out. I don’t have a problem with the economy – it’s just being shoved down our throats. Everything is perfect and as it should be.
Suppose every one supported our President as everyone should support their leader – a lot of the world does We would get everything we wished for and would evolve that should be where everyone’s energy should be directed towards – evaluation
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Meant to say a lot of the World supports Obama…
I am in a relationship with a bipolar man. We have been dating two and half years. I do love him. But like lady in the first comment you do spend alot of time alone. You do all the care taking and get little help for your own needs. I rely alot on my girlfriends. His family does what they can but do not understand bipolar. I do recruit their help because I know I can not do it all the time by myself. I always make sure I do things to keep myself happy and positive. I am and always have been a positive person. This helps him alot but he still is negative especially during a manic episode. I soak up the good days with my boyfriend to help with the bad days. He also sleeps alot and does not work. Some nights we watch tv in bed or I talk him into laying on the couch together watching some of our favorite shows. One thing that helped us both was getting a puppy. It is very satisfying for me to have something give me tons of affection. And it helps my boyfriend have that unconditional love regardless of his moods. And he walks her and she follows him everywhere. She helps us both be positive.
Dave
Yes I agree with you about the negativeism. There’s enough it to go around for everyone. I’m an outcast or
black sheep of my family because I changed political
offiliatoins, daring to be different from them. So be it. I try my best to respect their feelings and opinions. It certainly not returned to me in the same
manner. Only one of my family I get along with. We have come to an unsaid agreement about politics to respect each others views even if we don’t agree with each others political beliefs. It works well, so far.
Wayne Sease
ALL of the “doom and gloom” doesn’t HAVE to be bad. During all my manic episodes (3), I believed in the “end of the world,” and that a new world order would come about, with Jesus as the Holy Head. Of course, any “conspiracies” I would have are unrealistic, too. However, there is the Tripartate commission (supposedly led my the richest, most influencial people in the world, who I believed were plotting the economy and political changes and everything in between), as well as the Society of Seven (basically the same as above), and others, that DO have something to do with our economic future. That is NOT “paranoid theory;” it CAN be proven.
As I said above, the New World Order under Christ, is NOT a negative thing at all. PEACE will rule the planets and the Age of Aquarius will reign. I used to believe the old 60s jargon, and still carry some of it with me. Where can our country’s problems go but UP??!!
Unlike Annie, I do NOT support our President. He’s making tooooo many mistakes, and I don’t believe he’s good for America. I listen to Rush, who seems to have logical and practical answers to the economy and political situations.
Look on the bright side. It’s NOT all “doom and gloom” as the cardboard wearers hold onto. Our country, as a democratic republic, WILL survive in SPITE of who runs it. I am a cockeyed optimist, and don’t believe we will run ourselvs into the ground with this Administration. Obama is doing a good job of that despite what we, the PUBLIC, really want.
To all bipolar survivors – stay positive. There is no conspiracy to “blow up” the world or “assassinate the President.” Continue to hold onto your dreams, and be sure to follow your treatment plan, and you’ll be OK.
BIG HUGS to all bipolar survivors and those who love us. May Goe bless you real good. I pray for my country.
Once upon a time I was a half full, positive thinking sort of person. Then I went through a very bad period before my bipolar was diagnosed and stabilized by meds. I believe my spirit was broken during that time and it is now hard for me to revise that bubbly (manic???), positive person. I am more wary now. Every time I have a depressive episode it is a tiny bit harder to envision how something good will ever come out of having bipolar. I tread water, I crave stability, I live for regular days without drama or trauma. Good food, exercise, productive activities, including part time work, and a good nights sleep are all I need. I try to keep the cup filled but don’t berate myself if I fail sometimes. That’s the best I can do.
Trisha: You are doing what every person with or without bipolar find hard to do. You are doing the best you can to stay positive. I commend you. Take care.
DAVE, your friend may not have been diagnosed with anything, but this type of paranoia seems like a symptom of bipolar or similar.
VICKIE, telling jokes and watching comedies can help to cheer up people like you and me. Unfortunately it can’t bring anyone out of a bipolar depression. 2 years seems a very long time for a depressive episode. It looks like your husband’s doctors have not yet found the right cocktail of meds to stabilise him. Maybe you could speak to his psychiatrist and / or therapist. My boyfriend went through a manic episode just under a year ago and spent 6 weeks in the psych ward. Since then he has been in and out of depression, while the doctors are still experimenting to get the dosage of his meds right. Like you I’m spending too much time on my own. I have not been able to persuade him to go out again like we used to. I see my friends when I can, which helps me, although they don’t understand bipolar. Go out when you can. I used to go out a lot, but right now I’m in extreme financial difficulties struggling to keep the roof over my head.
I have never posted before. This was a good message today. Because I am Bi polar I need to be surrounded by upbeat positive things and people. It is very hard to create a positive healthy atmosphere when you live in someone else’s home and they want to watch CNN most of the day and dwell on the economy, etc. What I wanted to say to Vickie is I hope your husbands doctors can find the right combination of meds and therapies to help you both. I am trying to remember what you called his depression. I call it my Zombie state, no matter what kinds of meds I try most of my life is in this state. I have no passion for anything. I rarely talk, do the very least I can get by doing. I rarely bath or even get dressed. I avoid doing anything but watching TV, mostly movies or reading. I usually have to get into a mini-manic or mega-manic to come out of the Zombie state. Then for a few days, weeks or even a brief few months I am normal. I am awake, aware, alive. I can carry a conversation with someone. I may get off my but and do some of the many, many things I have put off doing for months and months. and then I slowley sink back down. I have never been stable even though I faithfuly take my meds. Today I tald my Mom that on my next appointment I was going to be totally honest with my Doctor about how appathetic I get and that he would probably change my meds. This distressed here greatly. I guess my family feel it is just fine to float through life as a zombie with only a few days here and there being alert and awake. I am so tired of living this way. I am 52 been on this roller coaster ride since I was 16.
Sorry, I pressed the Submit button too soon. Vickie, anything to take your mind off your problems helps – any interests or hobbies and spending time with friends.
NEL LYON, my heart goes out to you. The same thing happened to me nearly 3 years ago. My ex-husband could be your husband’s twin brother. He would not admit he has a problem and refuses to get help. There is no chance that we would get back together again, though we still keep in touch as friends. From what I know he is all alone now since he left me. He has spent all his money (and mine) on drink, sexual affairs and crazy business ideas. Now all he has left is the drink. If he will not accept help there is nothing you can do. A year after we split up I fell in love with another man who has more severe bipolar than my ex. We are helping and supporting each other and are there for each other. It can work. I hope you have friends or family to support you. I have also found friends and kindred spirits on this blog. My prayers are with you.
DEENA, I totally agree with you that animals can be the best therapists. My boyfriend had a dog until he ended up in the psych ward and had to find a new home for her. My cat died a month ago and I miss her badly. It would help him to have a pet again, too, though at least he can visit his dog now and then and knows she is happy and well looked after. Right now I’m in severe financial difficulties and couldn’t even afford a cat. The only way is up. Enjoy your time with your puppy – it’s worth a lot.
I don’t know if this is allowed, but if anyone has suggestions for me to bring to my Doctor next month I would appreciate some ideas. Thank you
Hi Dave, I have been negative most of my life. Then I joined a group called Peer Specialist Training an I taught class for a few months. I love to teach and learned many things. One of which was the need to be positive. Well I got physically sick and moved to another town. Now I have gone back to being negative, BUT I know I would be happier if I could be positive again. I blame my husband for it, but I also realize that I am allowing his negativity to get me down. Well now I am in Peer Group and have met other people with mental problems some of which are Bipolar disorder too. When I help others I feel better about myself and view my life as being good and I feel happier than when I am not negative or let others around me help me to feel negative. I enjoy helping others and that really helps me to feel and to act more positive. Right now I am feeling negative, but I know what to do to change my mood and when I get physically better I hope I can go back to helping others and feel happy again.
Hello Dave;
I am the wife and supporter of a bi-polar. I totally agree that a positive outlook is essential to life and especially life with a bi-polar. I will admit that it is sometimes hard to live that, however, with the gloom and doom I get from the husband’s point of view. I’m not giving up. Thanks for all you do for us.
Dave;
BP is a GREAT Gift. The Gift of Genius, and also psysical Strength/Power/Endurene/Speed…
The DISORDER is ENTIRLY IATROGENIC:
OF THE QUACK, BY THE QUACK & FOR THE QUACK.
VIA POLY PHARMACY. QEB: THE ONE TO MAKE “DIAGNOSIS” & THE DRUG CARTELS.
How can you sleep when you R constantly PREACHING SHIT!
Unless of course you believe it, which would mean you have an IQ UNDER15.
Get back under the Rock you crawled from nder. With your trogalidite psych. buddies.