How’s it going?
I hope it’s going well for you.
You know, when people go through certain experiences, they gain something.
A person who goes to college gains a good education.
A person who trains for it can gain a good career.
A person who gets married gains a partner.
A person who has children gains the experience of parenthood.
But when people go through other experiences, they lose something.
A person who experiences a divorce, loses their partner.
A person who gets cancer loses their health (and, sometimes, even their life).
A person going through today’s economy can lose their job.
Then that person can lose their financial security as well.
Which can cause them to lose their home, too.
When someone we love dies, we definitely lose something.
And when someone gets bipolar disorder, they lose some things as well.
Sometimes they lose their ability to take care of themselves…
They can lose their rational thought.
They can lose things due to episodes and their consequences.
They can lose trust from their supporter.
They can lose their self-esteem.
They can lose their self-trust.
They can lose friends and family.
They can lose their job.
And they can lose their stability.
In my courses/systems, I talk about all the effects that bipolar disorder can have on a person.
SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
But what about you?
You suffer right along with your loved one.
You can lose your freedom.
You can lose your job.
You can lose your home.
You can lose your friends and family, too.
On the other hand, you can gain some things.
You can gain pride from being a good supporter.
You can gain a sense of closeness with your loved one.
You can gain a goal (stability for your loved one).
You can gain a sense of self-respect because of your new role.
Some people lose something very important.
They lose their peace of mind.
It may be hard for you, having to deal with your loved one’s episodes, but you still need to hold onto your peace of mind.
Reminding yourself that they’ve made it through before can help.
Remembering that you’re fighting this battle together can help, too.
There are some supporters who are very negative.
They are always, as the saying goes, “waiting for the other shoe to fall.”
Instead of gaining the enjoyment of their loved one’s normal periods, they focus instead on their fear of the next bipolar episode.
These supporters have lost their peace of mind.
Looking towards the future, to your loved one’s stability, should help you keep your peace of mind.
Being a positive person will help you as well.
And trusting that things will work out for the best is the best way to hold onto your peace of mind.
Have you lost your peace of mind because of bipolar disorder?
Or have you managed to hold onto it in spite of bipolar disorder?