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Hi,

What’s new?

Hope you are doing well.

My bipolar blog is not well.
It’s ill and might be beyond
repair.

Seriously, I may have to get
a new service. All my tech people
are thinking about it.

I will let you know. If I do
switch services, it will be easy
for you but the blog will probably
look different.

I have something funny to tell
you about my bipolar blog.

Lots of excitement on the blog
over the last few days.

Thank you everyone that posted
positive messages to myself or
others who needed help or support.

Yesterday I wrote a list of all
the things I get accused of.

One of them is that I don’t have
a mother. I wrote that how in
the world can I not have a mother
if was born. Everyone born
has a mother right?

Then I noted that I guess that
I could not have a mother if I
was born in a lab.

Some wrote me and said:

“Hello David,

I saw your post. I love your material
I just wanted to let you know I have
done a lot of research on child birth.
If you were born in a lab, you still
would still technically have a mother
so you were wrong. Just kidding. Hang
in there, you’re doing a great job.”
-Dan

I stand corrected. So no matter
what I have to have a mom 🙂

Okay, enough with the jokes.

I was thinking about some of the
posts and emails over the
last few days I got that
were of an attacking nature.

Then my friend called. I told
him what happen and he was amazed.

He said, “man, don’t these people
realize how much time you put
into this stuff and that you are
just trying to help people so they
don’t have the same problems you
had with your mom?”

I said “yes many do but some don’t.”

The I got to thinking about something
amazing with bipolar disorder.

Before I tell you, let me remind
everyone what started this.

The other day a bunch of people
got mad when I said that people have
to step in and get Britney Spears on the right
track.

Basically some said that I was blaming the
family instead of the patient.

People keep asking who is to blame?
The patient or the family.

I find that many times, the disorder is
so darn sneaky and tricky that it’s
to blame.

It tries to confuse both the person
with bipolar disorder and the supporters.

The other thing that it does and this is
amazing. And I mean amazing.

Some how bipolar disorder can figure out
away to turn two people on the same team (allies)
against one another all while it does
more harm.

Let me explain. So many times when I was
growing up, my mom’s bipolar disorder,
when it was out of control, would create a
situation where different family members
would be mad at one another and would
be separated and never join forces
against it. It being bipolar disorder.

Now I think of bipolar disorder as a
“thing”, “it” or person so if you follow
this thinking, and think of this
as like a war….this is the amazing
part.

If you were fighting a war, would
one of your strategies be to
turn two allies against one another
so then you wouldn’t have to battle
them together and they would battle
each other? Of course.

In my mom’s last major episode and
actually her last minor episode
my dad and I wound up getting into
huge fights.

So many times I was fighting two
battles. One against my mom’s
bipolar and one against my dad’s
thinking.

I remember this one time. My mom
was in an episode. This was a secondary
episode after the first major episode.
Before I knew about what I call
“The bipolar doomsday scenario.”

So my mom was going into an episode
and I was trying to help get it
under control. My mom wanted to stop
working, start spending money and
was making a million phone calls
to people saying all kinds of things.

My system prevented her from spending,
then I told her she should continue
working.

She said fine and then said she
would stop making calls and call
her doctor. She sounded sincere
so I believed her.

At the same time, later I found
out she would call my dad and tell him
that I was mistreating her, demanding
she work, give me money, wouldn’t let
her make phone calls, etc.

I didn’t know this was happening.

Then one day the episode was getting
out of control. I went over to
see my mom, and she wasn’t there.

Then I got there and I was going
to talk to my dad. He was really
mean and cold to me.

Then he told me that my mom shouldn’t
be working so hard. I told him she isn’t
working that hard and she should be working,
exercising like the doctor said, etc.

I also said if she doesn’t get better
in 2 days, I am calling the doctor myself.

Then my dad said that he was going
to allow me to mistreat my mother
and that I wasn’t going to “browbeat”
her anymore.

I was like, “what the heck are you
talking about?????” So then he
went into this entire thing
about all the stuff I supposedly
did.

I said, “dad, I never said or did
any of that. Did you forget that mom’s
in an episode right now? Why are you
believing what she is saying and not
me.”

So then he was giving me an attitude.

We argued for about 2 hours. HUGE
WASTE OF TIME.

I was SUPER MAD. I called my mom
on her cell phone and asked where she
was. I told her that she had said stuff
that was not true and we were going
to clear it all up. I warned her
that I was at the end of my rope
and that I would probably never speak
to her ever again after today.

I told her when she comes home we will
go over everything from a to z.

The other amazing thing I have noticed
with bipolar disorder, is when you catch
it, and you are 100% focused and sure
you are right, it backs down. This is
a very complicated thing for me to
explain via email. Anyway, my mom
came home way later, I waited.

When she came in, I basically
said to her, “I am sick of this
and have better stuff to do in
my life than waste my time dealing
with you guys. I will probably never
speak to either one of you again
after today and I don’t care.

But I am going to make sure that
you know what was said about me was a
100% lie. I have proof of everything
including: how much work I recommended
mom do, how many calls she was making
and to who, the fact that she hasn’t called
her doctor, the fact that she is in
an episode, the fact that she has lied
about a lot of stuff (NOTE-now I look
at it as bipolar disorder not my mom but
back then I would say she lied).

Then I asked my mom question after
question and she tried to talk through
me and ramble. I would say, “mom, if you
can’t answer yes or no, I am done and will
just leave and you will never see me again.”

I was so mad at this point I could seriously
run around the earth twice. I was
so mad that I felt that I could run to
Route 80 and jog west to California with
no break. I have never been so mad in
my life. I couldn’t believe my dad
didn’t believe me. I couldn’t believe
he thought the things he did. It made
no sense.

I asked him, “why would I take off almost
a year from work to help mom if I am such
a mean bad son that mistreats her????”

He had no answer.

Anyway, after 45 minutes of my mom being on “the stand”
my mom came clean and said that I didn’t mistreat
her or do any of that stuff. She admitted
that she didn’t call the doctor and that she
kind of liked how mania felt and was holding
off for a few more days.

Immediately we all called the doctor and in
one day she was fine. Her doctor changed
her medication slightly. I learned a ton.

NOTE-I can’t get into this today. Actually
I have spent almost 2 hours writing this.
BUT, I have a way to really talk to a person
in an episode. I explain this in my courses/systems.
But I will say, you have to be direct and be
very serious. Bipolar knows when to give up
and throw in the towel. When you are super
direct, it generally backs down. It’s kind of
hard to explain here. Check out my course/systems
for more info.

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

Anyway, during the entire thing my dad sat in
amazement. He was amazed that he had
been taken. He had been fooled. He
had turned against me. He knew that
he was wrong.

I know this is going to sound bad
of me but that’s when I started telling
my dad that “bipolar loves you.”

I started telling my dad that bipolar loves him
because it can easily fool him and
he doesn’t think. Keep in mind I spent
hours defending myself. I also told my
dad I was going to make “bipolar loves
my dad” bumper stickers and sell them on
ebay. LOL.

I know that’s terrible but I was super mad.
Read my story and imagine after all the work
I put in, I get accused of mistreating my
mom. Imagine how I felt.

I know some will write and say, “I can’t
believe you said that to your dad. You’re
a bad person. Shame on you. You are evil.
You aren’t respectful. Etc.”

I am just telling the truth so people out
there that feel and do the same stuff don’t
feel bad. I don’t feel bad for saying it.

I told my Aunt as well about what happen
and she was mad at my dad for getting
mad at me.

When I thought about it, we were spending
more time getting mad at each other instead
of bipolar disorder.

I always say exactly what happen and I know
some people will think that I am out of my
mind, mean, crazy, have bipolar disorder
myself, etc. I am sure my favorite most
critical person on my list will write
and post hate messages. Oh well. I just
want to tell you the truth about what happen
and what I did so you can relate and learn
something.

But, I really do believe that my dad gets lazy
when it comes to thinking about bipolar
disorder. As a result he gets bad results.

I teach in my courses/systems below, the
quit investigation when you hear something
that is not true. This is super important.

I seriously didn’t talk to my dad for a month.
Today I understand it’s because bipolar disorder
splits allies.

I wound up having to use diffuse
my efforts instead of having focus
on her bipolar disorder.

Luckily I could take off work
and make all happen.

I notice that this phenomenon doesn’t
just happen to me, it happens to lots
of people who deal with bipolar disorder.

It’s common that:

-a boyfriend and girlfriend fight each
instead of bipolar fully

-a husband and wife fight each other
instead of bipolar fully

-a brother and sister turn against each other
instead of turning against bipolar fully

-a friend fights with another friend instead
of fighting bipolar fully

So much time is wasted and the bipolar
winds up getting worse and getting
over because while the fighting is
taking place it is doing everything
it can to dig it self in so that
stability can’t be regained.

I know that some with think that I am
out of my mind when I keep talking as if
it is “something” but it is.

Let me ask you a question. Has this
ever happen to you?

If you find yourself having this happen.
Make a peace treaty with the person
you are fighting with and focus on the
real enemy–bipolar disorder.

There was a person who posted an
attack on me the other day. Someone who works
for me said that it’s really said
when bipolar disorder makes a supporter
so crazy, so angry, so hateful they posted
strange, illogical messages and attack
someone who is helping instead of spending
all their time attacking the real enemy
which is bipolar disorder.

This person has a good point. It’s one
thing to post strange messages if you
are in a bipolar episode and you kind
of have a reason but when you don’t
even have bipolar disorder and do
this, it’s really sad.

I have seen bipolar supporters go
almost crazy with anger and lose it
with people who don’t deserve it.

I see if so many times where I volunteer.

My mom doesn’t lie. It’s her bipolar
disorder that does. If she becomes unstable,
it will lie. But my mom tells the truth.
It sounds crazy but that’s the way it is.

Today my dad is much more proactive. He
would never just believe anything. He
has better training and now takes stuff
more seriously and isn’t as lazy.

Hey, I just looked at the clock and
I have to get going. I am actually
going to a library in the middle of
New Jersey all day or maybe half
the day today.

Catch you tomorrow.

Also, if you have ever been split with
an ally because of bipolar, post to my
blog. Thanks.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

Hi,

How’s it going?

I had a good day yesterday. I hope
you did too.

There was a woman that posted a message
on my blog and she really needed help.

So I had her email me with her phone number.
Unfortunately I was suppose to call her
2 days ago but ran out of time because
I have been working 16 hour days.

Anyway, yesterday I called and spoke
with her. She was a great supporter
and a super nice person.

I felt like a quick phone call from me
would help her out and it did.

In her case, I felt she has been
doing too much for her son and that
she has to do a lot less. She is
really on track now.

She wrote a great message which
sums up some important points:

LAURIE(Dillon’s mom) said…

HELLO EVERYONE, I AM FEELING SO HAPPY AND
EXCITED TODAY. DAVE OLIVER CALLED ME!! to
talk about my son who has bipolar. I don’t
know why so many of you people get angry
with him.

You don’t have to come here if you don’t
like what is being said. He only calls
it as he sees it from the experiences he
has had with bipolar and his mom and he
makes everyone aware of just that. He
doesn’t blame the family he only points
out that bipolar is difficult and especially
without a support system.

That support system is usually your family
or some part thereof. I think Dave is great
and I could not believe my ears when he
advised me that is was him on the phone.
He took time out of his day to call me when
I indicated how in distress I was and
struggling to know if I had done the right
things or if I am or am not doing at least
some of the right things to help my son
overcome his challenge of bipolar.

It is also obvious that Brittany Spears
has no support system. Everybody was there
when she was a shining star but what about
now? People are really something else and
so quick to judge too. People who are bipolar
do care they just don’t have the same thoughts
as what some would consider a “normal” person
or mentally healthy would say it better.

I think what Dave does here is super fantastic.
Try to keep in mind that nobody is going to
agree with someone elses ideas all the time.
If coming here helps more than it doesn’t
then it is certainly serving its purpose. It
is great just to know we are not alone in this
battle. THANKS AGAIN SO MUCH DAVE FOR CALLING ME.
I STILL CAN’T BELIEVE IT. HAVE A GREAT WEEKEND.
-LAURIE

Well my Sunday didn’t start off well
today.

I got a number of phone calls from people
who work for me that someone was calling,
emailing and also posting totally ridiculous
things. Saying this and that about me.
The interesting thing was, it was from
two bipolar supporters.

You want to know something amazing. Well
two things that are amazing.

First, working with people who have
bipolar disorder is truly amazing. It
really is. I have super smart people
who work with me. They are amazing.
They catch stuff super fast and
report it to me.

Second, the people with bipolar disorder
are generally not the ones that threaten
and attack me the most. It’s the bipolar
supporters. I have had people who are
bipolar supporters scream and yell
at me beyond what I have ever had before.

I understand these people are mad but
sometimes it gets totally out of control.

Anyway, I must say, I am annoyed
today. I am just being honest. Why?

Well I have about a 3 hour conference
call today. It’s going to be very
intense and involve math and very complicated
things so I wanted to have a fresh mind.

I had to get up early when I like to sleep
a little longer and deal with some nonsense.

In a strange way, it rarely bothers me,
when people with bipolar disorder attack
and threaten me because I know they
aren’t doing well. I don’t give them
a total pass but I can understand.

I actually had a woman who threaten
to kill me. She actually hurt someone
else and went to jail. She wrote me
about a month ago saying she was out of
jail and sorry. I forgave her. She is
a nice person. BUT, she told me and
learned that she must always take
her bipolar medications. She said
she learned the hard way.

I actually had a different topic
I was going to write today. It was
going to be more upbeat. But I must
say, again, I am annoyed at the nonsense
that I heard about this morning.

Someone who works me indicated:

a) she would never put up what I put
up with

b) she would never want to be me
and run this stuff

c) she would never allow people to
email, call and post freely.

She said however she was happy
that I do because she can w.ork at
home working with me.

Yesterday I was thinking of something
as well.

None of this would exist if it weren’t
for my mom agreeing that I could use
her story.

Early on, I spoke with Pascale who works
with me and we both said, well if my mom
won’t let me use her story, then the site
really won’t make sense. I didn’t want
to be one of those sites that information
was from Bob Jones even though my real
name is David Oliver. I didn’t want to
be anonymous like all the other sites.

I had a lady come to me the other day
and it was odd. He site said one name
and her real name was something else.
That’s just weird to me. I know like
people like Mark Twain I think did
that but it still doesn’t make sense.

Take a look around. There is only ONE
other site out there were the person
who runs the site is totally open and
transparent as to who she is. I applaud
her.

Today I have my real name and address
on the site. More than 1 million people have
viewed it now.

Any many people have access to me.
I don’t know of any other site owner
who takes calls, makes calls, meets
with people, responds to emails, letters,
faxes, etc. Maybe there are some but
I don’t know them.

Anyway, I called my mom yesterday and
thanked her that she agreed to let me
use her story. She said
no problem.

She then expressed concern
that she was bothered that some people
attack me, threaten to kill me,
make stuff up about me, and say this
and that. She said she was worried about
me and she said maybe I should focus
on other things.

I told her don’t worry about it.

But now I am worried that she is worried.
My mom doesn’t really know how to ready
my blog or see anything. I just don’t
want her to get stressed about it. Recently,
I kind of slipped up and told her about a
few situations.

As I told my mom, the reality is, and some times I tend
to forget, the vast majority of people
are kind and friendly. I have over I believe
now 6000 testimonials. There’s so many
it’s hard to count. Over 500 pages in
MS word.

Take a look here (NOTE- I have one file posted
here but actually have another file with like
175 pages in it):
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/testimonials/

I remember when I first started this
site. It was one page. Today, it’s
the largest, biggest and most visited
in the world for this topic.

Anyway, back to my mom, I told her, I have
two choices, I can either just let this all coast
and not put any effort into it. Simple
keep what’s up and let it just go. OR,
I can simply ignore the people who
say things that make no sense and move
forward and try to help as many people
as possible.

I know that I can help a lot of people.
Why? Well because of two reasons. #1
I have a great team. Actually an amazing
team. I know people with other organizations
that don’t have a great team at all.
My team is great. We have absolutely fantastic
people on the team.

#2 I know how to get the word out. I am
good at marketing. I realized early on,
that all the supporter groups that I volunteer
at, are not good at marketing. As a result
they reach very few people. In addition,
they have no money. It’s a sad reality.
As a result, the struggle to exist. Ones
that use to exist no longer do.

If you have been following me for a while
I use to talk about this group 2 years ago
that was incredible. They had the best
speakers, meetings, food and topics. It
was incredible. BUT, there were only like
15 people ever at an event. It was amazing.
On the positive side, you could ask unlimited
questions because there were so few people.

Anyway, eventually I figured out why there
were so few people. They did no marketing
of themselves. They had no marketing budget.
BUT, they had a food budget which kind of
annoyed me. I guess they were backed by
a big drug company that provided food but
not money for marketing.

Anyway, they really didn’t reach very
many people.

So after I decided to really work at
this, I know a lot of money had to
be spent in marketing to reach as
many people as possible.

BUT, I knew when I decided to try to reach
as many people as possible not everything
would be good. I said to myself:

1. I will be criticized.

2. I will be told that I don’t know
what I am talking about because I am not a
doctor or therapist.

3. I will be told I take advantage of people.

4. I will be threatened

5. Some will say that I am a really the marketing
arm of a drug company because I say people with
bipolar should take medication.

6. Some will say I don’t have a mom really and
the entire story is made up.

7. Some will say I have bipolar disorder

8. Some will make fun of my mom

9. Some will say that I am crazy

10. Some will say that I will fail and
no one will read or like my stuff.

11. I will be told that I am a con man, scam
artist, evil, and going straight to hell.

12. I will be told that I work secretly
for the drug industry pushing medications
on those with bipolar disorder.

13. I will be told all I care about is money and
I am greedy.

14. I will be told that I hate people with bipolar
disorder secretly.

15. I make up or pay people who write positive
things about me. This is super funny because I
don’t even have the address or phone number of
the thousands upon thousands of people
that have written positive things
about me. Also look at:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/testimonials/

The list goes on. You want to know the crazy
thing? Everything I wrote has been said. As
crazy as some of it sounds. The I don’t
really have a mother is the most funny.

How could I be born if I don’t have a
mother?

I guess I could have been born in a lab 🙂

Anyway, I really do have a mother like
99.9% of everyone else.

This entire situation started because
some bipolar supporters believe that
I blame the family instead of the
patient.

This is not the case. When you get
my courses/systems below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

You’ll see I don’t blame the family
all the time. There are some families
that deserve some blame. Like my family.
My dad will admit he didn’t do a whole
lot about my mom’s bipolar disorder.

On the other hand, there are tons of
families out there that do way too
much for the person with bipolar disorder
and that person is taking advantage of them.

Finally I would like to address something.
Why did I write about Britney Spears
yesterday? It’s really simply.

A friend of mine that watches TV 8 hours
a day brought her up. I didn’t even know
what was going on. Then I realized I could
tie it into a daily email.

I saw a post on my blog that said that
I intentionally tied my daily email
into a “hot topic.” OF COURSE I DID.

Everyday I have to think of something
to write. Sometimes there is stuff in
the news that is a tie in for bipolar
disorder. Many times there is not.
Tomorrow if there is a story about
SOMETHING that could be tied into
bipolar disorder, do you think
I will be writing about it?
OF COURSE. Very strange. It’s so
obvious.

Remember when they were debating
about taking Terry Schiavo off
life support? What did I talk
about “bipolar lesson from Terry
Schiavo” which was having a
a living will, medical power of attorney
and all your paperwork set BEFORE
a bipolar episode.

I really would like to see the person
who criticized me come up with
and write a daily email EVERY SINGLE
day and tie it to bipolar disorder.

Finally, I want to say. You may
see some really crazy stuff posted.
I have people who monitor 24 hours
a day and take off dangerous things.
You may see what I wrote about above
or even worse. I can’t help it or
stop some people. Just realize this.

Also, just realize, I am trying
my very hardest to help as many
people as I can using all the methods
that I know how, and trying to
employee more and more
people. Especially those with a
mental illness.

Okay, well I have to run. Sorry for
the long email but I was kind of
annoyed today. Have a great day.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

Hi,

What’s new?

I hope you are doing well.

I have 1 million things to do today.

Actually there are two people that I was
suppose to call back with urgent situations.

Unfortunately, I finished working at 12:15am
last night.

I will be calling you today.

Okay, today I wanted to talk about
something super important.

If you have read the news, seen
a news website, watched tv news, you’ll
notice that Britney Spears, the singer,
is having a whole lot of problems and now
is in a mental health facility under a
72 hour “watch.” That’s where they
can hold you for 72 hours to see
if you are a harm to yourself or someone
else.

Anyway, my friend who proudly watches
8 hours of tv a day and only works out
for a living said to me “hey, Britney Spears is in
jail again. Her mom should get your
stuff. I heard she has bipolar disorder.”

From that conversation I got to thinking
about a number of things about this situation.
First however, I did about 15 minutes of research.

If you go into google you’ll see that
many say Britney may have bipolar
disorder. Who knows? I sure don’t.

BUT, we can learn some lessons from
this case.

First let me say that I am NOT a doctor,
therapist, lawyer, insurance agent, drug
company spokesperson and that I do NOT
offer legal, medical or professional advice.

With that said, I have some opinions.

As I look at Britney Spears, it appears
that she has indeed changed, is doing
very strange things.

The thing that I find fascinating is
that it doesn’t seem like a whole lot
of people are doing anything to help
her. If I had to guess, the people
around her are confused and hoping
that she will just fix herself.

Based on what I have seen, it doesn’t
seem like her family is really stepping
in. What makes it way worse for them is
that they have lots of money. Why is this
a problem?

It’s because of TOC. What the heck is
TOC you may be thinking. TOC is
total outsourced care. It’s every
supporters dream but it really never
exists.

It’s a situation where you simply
hire someone, some place and they do
all the work and everything is fixed
and perfect.

I can tell you, that there are so many
people on my list that call me looking
for TOC and they will pay anything.

They call and said, “Where can I send
John to get him fixed. We don’t care
what it costs. I just want him fixed.”

I tell them about finding a good doctor,
therapist, my system which is in
my courses and systems below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

They’re like, “no, no, no, I don’t have
time to read through stuff. I need someone
who can do all the work for me.”

I explain that it doesn’t work that
way. They start to get mad. Then they
say, “I will pay you.” I say, “I don’t
do that type of thing.”

Then people start offering all kinds
of money. One person offered $15,000
for me to “handle it all.” I told
them I thought that would be a poor
use of their money and it wouldn’t work.
I highly recommend they save the money
invest in one of my supporter course
and use the f.ree consultation certificates
for non medical and non legal questions
after they went through it.

This person I am talking about yelled
at me and hung up on me.

Time and time again, I see bipolar
supporters simply want to turn the problem
over to someone else. For it to be outsourced
like I outsource my phone calls for orders.
It doesn’t work like this.

Be warned if you are looking for this.

The other problem that I see is that
the people around her don’t appear
to be trying to get her into treatment.

You just hear:

she is going crazy
she is out of control
she is this or that.

But you don’t see people realizing that
if she is ill, mentally, she needs someone
to step in. You just can’t hope that
someone how some way it will all work out.

Much like my dad for years and years
and years would hope that my mom
would get better some how almost by
magic.

My mom would go into a bipolar
episode. My dad would do nothing.
Bipolar loves when a supporter does
nothing.

The important lesson that you can
take away from this is the following:

If you are a bipolar survivor:

-You want it well known that if you
go into an episode, you want people
to step in and get you into treatment.
You should talk this over with your
supporters. The worst thing for you
is your supporters don’t know this,
you go into an episode and you wake up
and you have lost everything and destroyed
your life.

-You should setup systems to limit the
damage of bipolar episodes Especially
when it comes to finances. Remember this,
it takes a lifetime to build wealth but
only a day to lose it. BUT, if you have
lost all your money from a bipolar episode,
don’t worry I have a plan to turn that around.
BUT, just because I have a plan doesn’t mean
you should be lazy and not setup systems
to prevent a problem in the first place.

If you are a bipolar supporter, realize:

-If your loved one is in a bipolar episode,
he/she may do or say things they normally
would never ever say. Don’t sit and try
to figure out why they are doing and saying
things. Realize there is NO logical reason.

Spend all your brainpower and effort trying
to get them into treatment.

Realize that you have to stand up to bipolar
disorder and that it (bipolar), will fight
you tooth and nail so that you do not get
treatment. It will be YOUR job to get
your loved one into treatment.

Too often, a person in an episode is out of
control and everyone just sits around and
says:

“man this is crazy”
“they are so crazy”
“I hate when they do this”
“I hate these episodes, I am sick of them”
“I can’t believe this is happening again”
“why did they say this or that”
“I hope they get better soon”
“Geeze this is a mess”
“I can’t deal with this anymore”
“One more time and I am leaving”

You may read these statements and say, “hey
I said that.” Notice none of these statements
are proactive.

What should be said is:

“We’re going to get them into treatment.”

“I refuse to be beat by bipolar”

“She will be in treatment. Period.”

“We will win this battle against bipolar”

“We have to focus on treatment.”

This is the kind of things I say to myself
when my mom was in a mini episode after her
first major episode. I was 100% determined
she would get her treatment plan changed
so she was fine again. As a result, she
got it changed.

Now if you ask my mom, she says she is
thankful that I did and that I didn’t let
her bipolar disorder get way our of control
again.

My dad is totally reactive as oppose to
proactive. In many cases, he does nothing.

I told my dad once, “dad, bipolar loves
you it hates me, know why?” He was confused.
I explained that it loves him because he
doesn’t do anything and hopes that it
just goes away. It hates me, because I am
proactive and determined. It can’t beat
me.

Now some will write and say “Dave, you
are so arrogant. I think you have bipolar
disorder. Why would you think such things
and think so arrogantly.”

Question: What’s the alternative? Bipolar
disorder can beat me, we have no control,
there is no hope, we will lose?

Look, you have to think such things when you
are dealing with this type of illness. You can’t
be a push over.

Anyway, today my dad is more proactive, well a little
bit, still not up to my standards. But better.
My aunt says “sometimes it takes people a little
longer to learn new concepts.”

Anyway, hey, I have to run and go to the gym. Catch
you tomorrow.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

PLEASE TELL YOUR FRIENDS

Hi,

How’s it going?

Sorry this is so late. I had a million
things come up. Sorry again.

Here is the current Bipolar Disorder news.

Make sure you take a look at the news. It takes
a lot of time to put the news together so please
read it.

To see the news visit:

http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews359

There’s some really interesting news stories this week.
Take a look at them. Also, write me some feedback by
visiting my blog below.

Here are some of the headlines:

Noven’s Stavzor tentatively approved
DO> New drug for bipolar disorder!

Recognizing bipolar disorder
DO> If you are a parent, this is a must read.

Westchester psychiatrist studying bipolar disorder in senior citizens
DO> Fascinating must read article

Forum, concert aim to save lives
DO> Very sad story.

Calm after the storm
DO> Great story for you to read!

For these stories and more, please visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews359

==>> Get Help with ALL aspects of bipolar disorder<<== Check out all my resources, programs and information
for all aspects of bipolar disorder by visiting:

http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

Your Friend,

Dave

Hi,

How’s it going?

Hope you are doing well.

Before I get started, I wanted
to ask for some help.

I am looking for a person who posts some
great comments on my blog called “Graham N.”
If you are him or know him, please have an email
sent to feedbacktodave@mentalhealthworld.net

Thanks.

Okay, I have a really important lesson for you today
and it’s based on the total nightmare day
I had yesterday.

What a day I had yesterday.

Here’s what happen. So I start working
and…

I had one guy call and scream and yell
at me on my cell phone. He then threatened
me if I didn’t “stop promoting medication.”
He said his wife had bipolar disorder
and he was mad because drug companies
were greedy.

I had another woman call and scream and
yell at me. She said my emails “sucked”
and they were worthless and then she
demanded that I pay her for wasting her
time.

I had another lady who said that I
scammed her. She said that I stole
money from her last night. She lived
somewhere on the west coast. I haven’t
left my area in a long time 🙂

When I told her that I didn’t she
said that I had an attitude and she
was going to unsubscribe from my
list. I told her okay. Then she
told me that she was sure that
I was helping some people just
not her. And then she
screamed at me some more.

I was getting hammered by person
after person.

I started to think bad thoughts like
“why the heck do I do this?”
It is annoying some times when
you get yelled at and screamed
at for nothing. Anyway, I
stopped thinking negative
thoughts.

But, in reality, I know why many
mental health places have massive turnover
and shut down. It takes a whole lot to
run something that helps people who are
dealing with disorders like bipolar disorder.

It’s amazing. In EVERY group that I have
volunteered at, the turn over is almost
90%. The only people who seem to stay
are those who aren’t doing well anyway.
It’s really strange but I understand.
But at the same time, it makes me sad.
The best people I know don’t go and
support the support groups, in my
area at least. But I have asked
others and they tell me the same thing.

So you have to realize this when
you are going there. Actually,
if you have been on my list for a while,
you’ll remember that a few years ago,
I talked about a support group that
was INCREDIBLE. They had INCREDIBLE
speakers and INCREDIBLE events.

I was talking to a friend that has
a wife with bipolar disorder. He volunteers
like me and goes to EVERYTHING. We were
talking and realized that the group we loved
had ONE event for the year. The entire year.
It seems that many people who ran it left
or are going to be leaving so things have
fallen by the wayside.

The bottom line, it takes a lot to run
an organization that deals with mental
health and most people unfortunately
are not paid or paid so little it
scary.

I guess I want to say something. If you go
to a support group or mental health organization,
cut them some slack. Be nice. Realize they try.
The try hard. They may be short on photocopies
or other “stuff.” But they try.

Give them some money because they all
need it. At the places where I volunteer
at, some people are so darn mean. And
it’s generally almost always the supporters
who are angry.

Anyway, back to my story. Then on top of
that, my blog was broken for hours yesterday.
It was driving me out of my mind. I kept trying
to publish and it was “sick” and not working.

At almost 12:00pm, I was like, “what a day?”

On a funny note…

In the middle of all these problems, my friend
called and said, “Dude, what are you doing?”

I said, “working, like most everyone in the
world.” He said, “Dude, who cares about work,
let’s go to the movies?”

What a life. Let’s go to the movies
in the middle of the day.

Anyway, I didn’t go 🙂 I had too much to
do.

My friend is so funny. He’s like 25.
He never has any money.
He barely works. He doesn’t get the connection
between not working, hanging out,
and not having any money 🙂

Anyway, as I thought about all my problems, I
was then scanning my email and some bipolar
blog posts. I saw that many people were having
problems as well. And I know at any one
time, there are thousands of people who
are having problems with bipolar disorder
on my list because it’s so large.

So today I decided to talk about it.

The bottom line is, when you are dealing with
bipolar disorder, you can have a whole lot
of problems. Amazing problems. Ones you can
think of but many that you never can think
will happen.

Sometimes you are overwhelmed. I have had
the worst possible situations. And for
some reason, problems from bipolar
disorder almost always happen
when you don’t want them to.

Ever notice problems don’t seem to
happen when you have an army of people
to help, you have tons of money, lots
of family members around for support,
etc.

When my mom was going though her
major bipolar episode, things would
always get worse when I didn’t
want them to.

There were days when I would
get up in the morning and say,

“wow, I am feeling great. I am ready
to take on bipolar disorder today.
Let’s fight!” (fight against bipolar
disorder). But then nothing happen.
It was odd. This is when I started
believing bipolar disorder was like
a thing that was in my mom and it
was smart enough to not attack me
when I wanted to be attacked.

Whenever I write stuff like this, I know some
people will write me (100+) that I am crazy,
but I am sure you know what I am talking about.

Anyway this happen time and time again.

There are many people who are contacting me,
especially in my coaching programs that have
many problems. They “freak out” and get so
stressed as one said to me, “I think I am
going to have a stroke and die.”

With that said, I felt that I had to
send out a reminder email on how to deal
with lots of problems from bipolar disorder.

Here are some things that kept me going
and keep me going when I have days like
yesterday.

#1 Realize things will get better. If you
talk to someone who had lots of problems,
they will generally tell you, things looked
hopeless but after a while, it turned around.
Things always turn around.

#2 Things are never as bad as they seem
at first. At first, something or some things
looks like the worst possible thing that will
create almost the world coming to an end…
it never does.

#3: There is always a solution when you
have time to think. Don’t make rash decisions
even if you feel pressured. Always take
time to think. Allow yourself a day or two
to let it sit in your mind. Many times,
just one night of some kind of sleep (I
won’t even say good, because when you have
problems you don’t seem good or well), will
bring you a whole lot of solutions.

Bipolar disorder loves to make you make
quick decisions so they are bad.

#4: Many other people had your same problem
and dealt with it effectively.

#5: There is help somewhere. In the case of
bipolar disorder, many solutions to problems
are in my courses/systems below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

#6: It could be way worse. I use this
a lot. If I have a super bad day. I think
of the worst possible thing that could be
going on with me and then think, “Wow,
I am glad that I am not there or having
that happen to me.” For example, on a really
bad day, I say to myself, “I could be totally
homeless, living in a third world country,
with no food, medicine or water.” After I think
this, I generally feel better.

#7: Bad events generally produce positive
outcomes. More times than not, something
positive always happen from tings that
seem really, really bad. For example,
my mom went into a huge bipolar episode
years ago. It was a total nightmare. BUT,
from that bipolar episode:

-my mom is now almost out of d.ebt (only
one more payment). If she didn’t have the
episode, her d.ebt could have gone to
$50,000 or $100,000.

-she has learned how to total manage
her bipolar disorder

-she figured out who were good friends
and who were bad friends, including
family members.

-I started this entire organization that’s
now helping hundreds of thousands of people
a year.

-I found that a company that I worked with,
that paid me were TOTAL crooks. When they
found out my mom had bipolar disorder and I
was paying her hospital bills, they
tried to “get me” and stopped all payments
trying to bankrupt me.

-My mom now has better health care and a
better job

-My mom is now able to take care of herself
financially

-Because my mom a major episode, I had
to stop running three other businesses. Something
amazing happened. As a result, I had to find
good people to run them for me. I didn’t think
this was possible, I use to do everything myself
and couldn’t grow really big. I was afraid to
turn things over to people. As a result of my mom going
into the episode, I figured out you can find
great people and they can run things and run them
better than you. Now I can have 3 businesses running
without me and they have grown substantially.

-I figured out who some of my real friends were.
Some friends stopped talking to me when they found
out my mom had bipolar disorder. Other friends helped
so much. One friend helped me put together a strategy
to deal with the evil Mr. Mundy who was a d.ebt collector
after my mom and then after me. NOTE-Mr. Mundy was
the collector I called the incarnation of absolute
pure evil. When you talked to him, you seriously
felt like you were speaking to pure evil. He had
no soul. He was ruthless. He lied. He was mean.
I remember him saying, “I don’t care what your mom
has, she could die for all I care. You better
pay her de.bts or we will destroy you.”

He called my mom, myself, her neighbors and
made so many threats he made my mom worse. I remember
he got a list of everyone who lived next to my mom
and he called them. He actually convinced one neighbor
to bring her cordless phone over to my mom’s house
so he could talk to her.

At first, he talked in such a way, he scared me. He caused me
to lose a lot of sleep. My friend helped me
launch a counter attack against him. He put so much
pressure on my, I couldn’t think straight. He called
me relentlessly on every phone number all day.
I asked my friend to help.

She helped me with a plan and basically
to make a long story short, Mr. Mundy was demoted and
in serious trouble at his collector company. All calls were
stopped to my mom and we got an apology. People
in the collector office said, “wow, no one ever controlled
Mundy before.” My friend was the key person to help.

It’s amazing all the work she did. I am totally
thankful. But she showed what a great friend she was.

Well I have to take off. I hope this gave
you some good things to think about if
you have a lot of problems because of
bipolar disorder.

Tomorrow is the bipolar disorder news.
I’ll get it to you first thing tomorrow
morning. Have a great day.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

Hi,

How’s it going?

I can’t believe I am already running behind
schedule.

Anyway, hope you had a great day yesterday
and did something fun.

I just went over to my parents house and
had dinner and did some planning. I was
suppose to go visit my friend who has
recently had a baby but they were all
tied up. It seems that it’s kind of
hard to them adjusting to have a new
born. I guess, like bipolar disorder,
overtime they will figure it out.

On another note, I have gotten a whole
lot of people asking:

How do you have the time to write these
daily emails every day?

One person wrote:

“Dave, I started getting your emails 8 months
ago or so. They have helped me tremendously.
Thank you.
I thought to myself there would
be no way that you could keep sending them.
But you do. I am amazed. How do you do it?”

Well, it does take 1 hour a day. I have made
a commitment like brushing your teeth or taking
a shower. I just schedule it in.

But in order to do this, I have to not do
other things. I have to say no to doing
certain things that I don’t have the time
to do.

That actually leads to today’s topic.

Today I wanted to talk about something
super important for the new year. Something
you are going to have to think long and
hard about if you are going to be a successful
bipolar supporter OR a successful person with
bipolar disorder.

I call it saying no.

What do I mean?

When you are coping and dealing with
bipolar disorder and trying to figure things
out whether you have it or your are supporting
someone with it, it requires time. You have
to study. You have to think. You have
to do a lot of stuff. This is for anyone
dealing with bipolar disorder.

With that said, you only have so many
hours in the day. There is only so much
time. As a result, if you are serious
about winning the war against bipolar
disorder, you have to prioritize.

Prioritizing means saying yes to
some things but saying no to many
things.

I find that bipolar supporters AND
bipolar survivors come to me half dead
so to speak and running themselves
into an early grave because they
have not said no to a whole lot of
things they should be saying no to.

They have this large task of figuring
out what to do with bipolar disorder and
at the same time, they still are doing
the same things prior to their being
any problems with bipolar disorder.

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

Maybe this is not clear so let me
explain.

I will start with bipolar supporters
first.

If you are a bipolar supporter, you may
have to:

-say no to charity. Why? You don’t
have time. Even though you may have
made a promise years prior that you could
do a lot of charity work. Unfortunately
a new priority has come up–bipolar
disorder.

-say no to volunteering. Why? You don’t
have the time because you have to help
your loved one.

-say no to spending extra time at work
even though you would make extra money.
Why? You don’t have the time.

-say no to SOME activities you use to
say yes to all the time. Why? You
have to spend your extra time reading,
thinking and planning for bipolar disorder.

-say no to listening to friends and family
members complain about all kinds of
things…Why? You already have a
major problem you are trying to solve…
figuring out bipolar disorder to help
your loved one, you don’t have time
for now to listen to other people’s
problems which most of the time aren’t
problems anyway.

I had to say no to a whole lot of things.
At the time, many of my friends were not
understanding. My girlfriend at the time
was understanding. But, I feel that
saying no was one of the critical things
that helped me help my mom.

Now for bipolar survivors, they
have to say no as well:

Say no to working for a short period
of time or a long period of time.

Say no to volunteering or charity (if
in the middle of an episode).

Say no to taking care of baby sitting.
NOTE-My mom was doing into an episode and
tried hard to still baby sit my brothers
kids. When I asked her why, she said, “because
I promised last year that I would.” I explained
to her: “Well that was last year, this is,
this year and things of changed. Sorry.”
She agreed but at first really was going
to try to “do it all.”

Say no to hanging out with friends and
family that may be a bad influence on
what you need to do to do well with
bipolar disorder.

I could go on and on but I am sure you
get the idea.

Here’s the deal. Obviously bipolar disorder
is really serious. So you have to focus
your time and energy on it to get it
“handled.”

Too many times, people come to me and they
are running themselves ragged trying to
do it all. Trying to be a super
person. It won’t work. You will wind up
making yourself sick or if you have
bipolar disorder, you will prevent
yourself from ever getting stable.

Actually I myself have not even followed
my own philosophy recently. I have had
all kinds of people demand time from me
and I should say no but I wind up saying
“okay.” As a result in the last two months,
I have been working like a madman.

The reason why I wrote this today was:

#1: I was talking to my mom about how
she say no to many things now and how
great that was.

#2: I know today I have to say no to
a lot of people so it reminded me of
how important a topic this is and how
it relates to bipolar disorder.

#3: I know that thousands of people on
my list should be saying no way more
than they are.

Okay, well one last thing that I want
to say. Saying no is tough. You might
feel bad. You may feel guilty. You may
feel like you have to break a promise.
Remember you are saying no for a good
cause.

Wow, I just looked at the clock. I seriously
have to go. Catch you tomorrow. Hey, tell me
some stories of how saying no has helped
you deal with bipolar disorder if you any.

Thanks.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

==>>Help with ALL aspects of bipolar disorder<<==
Check out all my resources, programs and information
for all aspects of bipolar disorder by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

Hi,

How’s it going?

Hope you had fun last night.

Well, here it is New Years Day!

Some people like New Years
because of the parties and all the
hoopla and all.

I am not a big party person.

I like it because to me it
represents new beginnings.

And I really think there are
more people like me than
there are for just the parties,
cuz when it comes down to it,
in the morning the party people
are all hungover…

while the people like me are
busy starting their new year
off on a positive note with the
changes they have decided to
make.

I think more people like the
idea of making New Year’s
resolutions – a chance to
change some things, to make
them better.

At least that’s what *I* think.
I mean, have you ever heard of
a negative New Year’s resolution?

When we were little kids, and
we didn’t like the outcome of
something, we called a “do-
over,” remember?

Well, New Year’s resolutions
are like “do-overs,” only now
we’re adults.

In my courses and systems,
I teach a lot about being positive,
having a positive outlook, and
striving toward a positive future:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

I have spoken to a lot of people that
have basically said, “my life is in
shambles, I am depressed. Will
I ever be successful again?”

For all these people, the answer is
yes.

Just look at my mom. A few years ago,
her life was a TOTAL and I mean
TOTAL disaster. Everything was wrong.
Massive d.ebt. No job. No health insurance.
Friends left. Lots of family left. No doctor.
No therapist. Incorrect medication.

For many months, there was no one
single positive thing. Some in my family
thought that it was “over” for my mom.
There was no hope at all.

I didn’t think so.

Anyway, you know the story. Fast forward
today. My mom is doing great. Everything
is different.

Here’s the deal. I really don’t know any cases
that are worse than my mom. And my mom
has overcome her situation and now is doing
great. You can too.

I know it will be tough but I am telling you,
if you are struggling, you can do it. Seriously.

Just work as hard as you can and realize
progress will take time. My mom couldn’t
fix her entire life in 30 days. It did take
time. But it was worth it.

Today spend some time thinking about
where you want to go. If you have any
of my material on bipolar disorder, review
it. Or if you don’t have any, get it, then
review it. Everything is guaranteed so
you have nothing to worry about.

Just do something today. Move forward.
Too many people don’t take action. They wait
for “something” to happen all on it’s own
magically. This doesn’t happen. Good
things happen to those that do something.

Well I have to run to the gym and then I
am heading over to my parents house today.
Oh that’s right before I go there, I am going to
see my friend’s new baby again.

Happy New Year, and may this year
be even better than last year was.

What kind of goals do you have for
yourself. If you feel comfortable, post them
below.

I will catch you tomorrow. I have to take off to the
gym.

Your friend,

Dave
–
P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com