I hope you’re doing all right.
I get many emails from supporters who are still worried about whether they’re “doing it right,” or are worried about what other people think about how they’re doing it. You need to stop needing approval from others – you have to believe that you’re doing just fine!
In the beginning, when your loved one was first diagnosed, you learned as much as you could about bipolar disorder, didn’t you? No one was looking over your shoulder to see if you were “doing it right.”
You got yourself as educated as you could, because that’s what you had to do to help your loved one, and that was the main thing. You probably helped your loved one become educated about the disorder as well.
Then you got involved in your loved one’s treatment plan. You found out about their medications, doctors, psychiatrist, therapist, etc.
You became their primary supporter and, hopefully, helped them build a strong support system, including a bipolar support group.
You’ve learned about what the signs and symptoms of bipolar disorder are, and what the warning signs of your loved one’s episodes are – you’ve learned about what their “triggers” are, just like I teach about in my courses/systems below:
SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
And you’ve both experienced bipolar episodes together, and come out on the other side.
So, tell me, where does this involve other people?
And where does this involve their opinion of you?
There is no wrong or right to doing “this thing.”
You just have to go with what you know, and what you learn along the way.
Each person with bipolar disorder experiences it in a different way.
Each person has their own signs/symptoms, triggers, sets of behaviors, etc.
Each supporter handles their loved one’s bipolar disorder in their own way as well.
What works for you may or may not work for the next supporter, and vice-versa.
You have your hands full enough without worrying what other people think of you.
You are a good supporter if you’re keeping your loved one from having bipolar episodes.
You are a good supporter if your loved one trusts you enough to keep good communication going, to tell you when they’re feeling “off,” and asking for your help.
You are a good supporter if you’re helping to keep your loved one out of the hospital.
Worrying about what other people think of you, or if you’re doing this thing “right,” or any number of useless worries, will only stress you out and decrease your effectiveness as a supporter.
Don’t worry, you’re “doing it right”!
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