Psychic bipolar disorder doctor?

Hi,

How’s it going? I have to take off really early
today because my friend is in one of those strongman
competition and I am going to watch it. As a side
note, strongman competitions are when people move
really heavy things around on a field. Some could
argue it is “crazy” but my friend really likes it.

With that said, I wanted to point something out
that is really important and something my
dad struggles with concerning my mom’s bipolar
disorder.

Generally speaking, for about 40 years, my dad
left the treatment up to my mom and her doctor. Which
ever doctor she was seeing at the time. When I took
over being my mom’s chief supporter one thing
that I clearly saw was a problem was my mom
not having a good doctor for her bipolar disorder.

So my first goal was to find a good doctor that could
help her. So I developed my doctor finding system that
makes doctors who are qualified contact you. That worked
great.

But then I accidentally discovered another part of
the equation that I am going to share with you.
Before I tell you what it is, I will tell you,
for some reason, I felt compelled to report everything
I heard and saw to my mom’s doctor. I am not sure
why but nobody told me to do it. Her doctor didn’t
tell me. My dad never said to. I never read it
in any book. Nobody anywhere ever told me.

I just kind of did it. Maybe I did it to clearly
explain how strange my mom was acting and to
pass along the “suffering” I was experiencing
to the doctor so she could kind of feel my pain.

Anyway, this worked wonders. The doctor was almost
getting real time data to make decisions with. I would
have summaries and information all the time.

NOTE-I wasn’t sending over a long rambling message
that didn’t make any sense. I would send or call with
information like:

She is not sleeping
She has trouble concentrating in the morning
She yells all day long
She is moving really, slow and seems to have a hard time thinking
She is not able to do anything during the day
I am seeing her handle tremble a lot.
Etc.

That’s the kind of stuff that I was reporting.
My mom’s doctor told me this was VERY helpful for
her. She never even had to ask questions or respond
she just took the data in and was asking my mom
questions and seeing her.

In a short period of time, my mom’s doctor found
a combination of bipolar disorder medication that
got her to like a 6 on the bipolar stability index
( 10 meaning totally stable 0 meaning totally
unstable, this a term that I coined which I will
cover probably tomorrow).

I was REALLY, REALLY shocked how well my mom’s
doctor did and all the other doctors for many
months couldn’t do what she was able to do in
less than a month. It was amazing to me.

BUT THEN IT HIT ME one day.

psychiatrists are NOT psychics.

In the old days, we assumed that my mom’s doctors
would some how always know what was going on
without actually living with my mom. BUT THIS
IS IMPOSSIBLE.

One 15 minute visit and some questions doesn’t
cut it either. Meaning many times a patient
only has 15 minutes to talk about what is going
on. And a patient with bipolar disorder that
is manipulating the system will NOT report
what is really going on.

It will go like this:

Doctor: “How are you doing?”

Patient: “I am doing okay.” (EVEN THOUGH this is not true)

Then the doctor will have to either press for
more detail which many don’t or they would have
to be a psychic to know what is really going
on.

So we learned an important lesson in our family,
we have to report what is going on. Here’s
my NON medical and NON legal advice for you (since
I am NOT a doctor, lawyer, insurance person,
financial person, etc).

If you have bipolar disorder:

Report all side effects
Report how you feel exactly
Report any problems you have
Report and concerns you have
Report it all. Do NOT hide things.
Don’ assume they do know or they will know

If you are supporting someone with bipolar disorder:
Report exactly what you see in your loved one in concise
bullet point fashion
Don’t assume your loved one is reporting the truth or
right things when they are not stable
Don’t assume doctors will know what is going on because
they are doctors.

Okay, well I have to run and get ready to take off
have a great day and catch you tomorrow.

SUPPORTING AN ADULT?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

  1. Hi Dave I want to tyvm for yur articles they are all helpful I am bi-polar and have been for 20 sum yrs Your last article is really helpful to me I have been have really bad days the last 2 wks I know what the problem is…too much stress! Could you please tell me,Is short term memory loss go along with bi-polar? Thank you so much again looking forward to more…hope you have a super duper day! Sue

  2. Hi Dave I am a wife married to a 40 yr old guy that suffers from BPD I’ve been going through really hard times with him due to his condition, he’s also suicidal, right now he’s in Jail, he suffered a manic episode that got him in trouble with the law, and It seems that I am the only person that acknowledge his condition, he’s in denial, I hope the judge sees beyond the felony and order him to be evaluated and treated, so far he’s been seated in a cell feeling anger, resentment, frustration, a lot of bad feelings that for start got him in trouble and put him where he’s right now, I love him so much in spite of his lies, cheating, unresponsable behaviour that left us without a house since it’s been in foreclosure right now, people often says I have to be crazy to remain by his side but I don’t listen, I won’t give him up now that I know he’s not well, I am the only person that cares right now and is by his side in this horrible ordeal, none of his family or any of his few friends want anything to do with him. HELP
    Thanks for your advice and information, very helpful, I just pray to GOD for a miracle, I know my husband deserves a second chance, it’s not fair, he’s a prisoner in society and prisoner of his own condition. Thanks and GOD bless everyone that suffers from this condition and all of their families that have been through hell, there is hope and cure and that feels good just knowing this.

    Yolanda

  3. hia dave. ive been with my boyfriend for a year now. he was honest with from the start and told me about his condition straight away, and i didnt worry too much about it. then the most unbelievable arguments would happen, and for ages i was devestated because i couldnt understand how someone could be so nice and then change into a monster who seemed to hate my guts deep down. any way i found your websites and they are brill. i had questions that i was struggling with and most of the answers are there in your course. we live in england and ive got to tell you jasons (my boyfriends name) mental health team isnt very good at all. im on a low income with two small children and cant afford to pay more then maybe ten pound a week installments. would this be ok?

  4. Dear Dave,
    A steller article once again!I am so happy this blog was created! I is true that pi-polars-by nature, do not want to tell their team what is really going on. I know because I am bi-polar. I have not copped to everything in the past and I really don’thave the vaugest idea why. Weird, is it not? Well, signing off from Georia Marilyn Bauer

  5. Hi dave,my sister has BPD your e-mails really help. She blames everyone else for her life being messed up. My family thinks the Dr. is wrong about his diagnosis.Me and my husband have done everything we could to help her ,even had her daughter live with us.While her daughter lived with us she claimed we were saying bad things about her, she came and got her,screamed at my husband and hit him.We hav’nt talked since.Its been months.Now her X is fighting for custody.Your info has helped me understand her position in life.My other sister is helping her right now but she doesn’t believe she has BPD.So now she is really messed up with her help.I don’t know if I can handle getting involved again.Thanks for all your info and God help us all!!! Amen!!!Connie

  6. Hi David, i’d like to thank you for the information i have received so far it has all been very helpful and cleared up alot of questions i had already. The Girl i was seeing has recently told me she is Bipolar and that is why she can no longer go out with me coz she dosn’t want to hurt me, but she means alot to me so this is why i’m trying to get as much information as i can.

    Many thanks Nick.

  7. hi Dave. I am at my wits end I have a son who is 26 hasn’t been diagnois with bipolar but has some of the similarities..he is being treated for mood swings, depression with anti depressants which don’t seem to work..I have found another doctor but how do I get him to go..he has 6 jobs over the past year and has walk out on them because they have cause him stress he has so much potential and his employer see this but he can’t seem to handle it…he is like a time bomb ready to go off..what can I do. Cathy

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