Bipolar Supporter Blog

Hi,

How’s it going?

I hope you are doing well.

Today I have a really bad sore throat–
probably from all the stress I have been
under 🙂

I am going to make this relatively short.

I wanted to make you aware of my book:

“An Overview of Mental Disorders”

You can get it for F.ree by visiting the
following site:

http://www.bipolarcentral.com/overview_of_mental_disorders/

Okay, today I want to talk to you about

SPEAKING UP!!!

Not just to anyone, but to your
doctor. This can be to your doctor
who handles your bipolar disorder,
your family physician, or really it can
apply to any doctor you see.

For supporters, this can apply to you
as well.

First of all, you need to ask yourself,
does your doctor really know you?

How much have you really told him
or her about yourself and your
disorder, your life, and how it’s
affecting you and your family?

Many people aren’t really that
comfortable talking with their doctors
because sharing personal health or
psychiatric information makes them
feel vulnerable, intimated, or
embarrassed (or all three). But this
can only hurt you in the long run.

Rosemary Browne, M.D., is asst.
professor of clinical medicine at the
University of Arizona, Tucson. She
says, “As physicians, we are here to
provide help in any way we can, so
we need to know what’s on your
mind, but we can’t read your mind.
The more forthright and direct you are,
the more we can help.”

See? She gives the doctor’s point of
view. They can’t help you if you
don’t SPEAK UP!!!

One thing I teach in my courses/
systems is, if you don’t feel
comfortable with your doctor, maybe
you should find another doctor. There
really are good doctors and bad doctors.

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
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Visit:
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HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

If you’re embarrassed and you just
need some help getting started, try
simply saying, “I’m really stressed
out and it’s interfering with my life.”

Or, “I’ve been experiencing some
mood changes recently.”

Or, “I’ve been having some trouble
sleeping lately.”

These are some ideas of conversation
starters with your doctor.

Maybe you’ve got some of your own?
If so, I’d like to hear them.

The key points you need to bring up
are:

-How your mood is affecting
your life

-Your ability to function

-Your eating habits

-Your sleeping habits

-How long you’ve been
experiencing these changes

-What worsens or helps your
state of mind (body)

-Whether you (or your family)
have a history of this

It’s also important to express your
concerns/worries.

I have to run.

Your friend,

Dave

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=>PLEASE FORWARD TO FRIENDS, FAMILY AND LOVED ONES <= Hi, How’s it going? I hope you are doing well. Hey today I was suppose to talk about the
truth about using my mom’s story and how
she feels about it but I am going to do that
tomorrow or the next day. I hope you don’t mind.

I have a shocking bipolar story to tell you. Read on…

I am doing great! Yesterday two of my key people
that work for me came back and let me tell you,
in a very short period of time, they started
getting a huge amount done.

The number #1 thing that they did was focus
on how to deal with the handful of people
on my list that are creating all kinds of problems.
People who have:

-committed massive fraud

-said I broke into their houses and stole their
rent money, grocery money, etc.

-People saying that I owe them money for
“tools” they bought at Home Depot (Not only
do I not really know how to use tools well
but I certainly don’t sell any)

-People who threaten each other on the blog.
This is really alarming. The “don’t say that
or I will get you. Then oh yea, go ahead and
try” groups of people.

-People who use really, really, really, bad
language on the blog.

-People who have threaten to “get me”, “kill
me”, and all kinds of other things.

-People who keep giving my cell phone number
out in psychiatric hospitals around the country.

You might be reading this and thinking that I am
out of my mind because it all sounds so strange.
It really is. My friend said me, “Hey Dave, did
you ever think you would be dealing with the kinds
of things that you are dealing with?”

I said, “Yes.” Because I always knew and
always have been involved with a) things I like
b) things that are fun c) things that are challenging.

Dealing in mental health is all of what I listed.

Anyway, after hours of brainstorming
with these super smart individuals they formulated
a plan and a strategy. I must say I was super
impressed.

It’s amazing when you take individuals with
a mental illness that USE to be doing bad
things and get them focused on good things
for society.

I swear that the individual with one or more
mental illnesses such as bipolar disorder as
tremendous capacity and is smarter, more
creative and more capable than a regular person.

I know the doctors on my list will say, “Dave
that’s just not true. There are no studies to back
up what you say. Where’s the research?”

I understand that, I am just telling you what
I see in front of me—doctors may look for
research before they know something is
true or false. I go on the results that I see.

Maybe that’s why I am not a doctor.

On that note, let me say that again.

I am NOT a doctor, lawyer, financial advisor,
and I am NOT offering medical, legal, financial
or any other professional advice.

Okay, so we were making the system yesterday
so we will be allowing the posting of comments
to my daily bipolar emails on my bipolar blog
in the future after the new updated blog and new
system goes into place to deal with the handful
of people who are severely ill and posting threats.

So yesterday, after tons, and tons of research we
tracked down one person who was making attacks
against me. One person who was saying I stole from
them. One person who was writing the most disturbing
things and making up so many things.

I called the person to find out what was going on since
the person said that I owed him money.

Anyway, I got on phone and the person had an attitude
with me. I basically said you might as well forget about
getting f.ree money from me. The person said he would
go away if I sent him m.oney.

I was like, “I don’t care and I am reporting you so
don’t worry. You can keep on posting all kinds of things
and basically you aren’t hurting me, you are hurting those
who have a mental illness like bipolar disorder. You are
doing it by scaring those without one into believing
their loved ones will never get better. You are giving
the impression that those with a mental illness are crazy
and do crazy things. “

I told this person how many people who were worth
both bipolar supporters and bipolar survivors wrote me
personally and said how the posts were “crazy” and
how sad it was. Those with bipolar disorder were embarrassed
and those who were bipolar supporters said things like,
“Man, Dave I feel sorry for you. I would never want
to be you. I can’t imagine what it’s like to work with
people with bipolar disorder. I think my loved one
will never get better.”

I explained to this person how much damage posting
things like he does to society and not to me.

SIDE NOTE-I made it clear to anyone who called me
and suggested that anyone who works for me is in anyway
like the people who posted crazy things on my blog. They
are NOT. People that suggested this said sorry and understood.

Anyway then this guy was speaking to started to cry and say
sorry.

I asked if he was on medication and asked when he last saw
his doctor. He said that his doctor changed his bipolar medication
and now he isn’t feeling well or doing well.

I said, “you need to immediately call your doctor and go in for
an emergency visit. This is an emergency.”

He said the doctor is busy and one doctor threw him out of
the office. He told me that his wife left him, his family
will not return his calls. He has no friends or family.
He said that bill collectors call every day demanding
money but he doesn’t get any of the bills. He said
they all get lost.

In my courses/systems below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

I talk about how to handle when you have every single
thing going wrong because of bipolar disorder.

I you have lots of problems. I urge you to check out
my courses because the solutions to 99% of them
are in there whether you are a bipolar supporter
of an adult, a bipolar supporter of a teen or have
bipolar disorder yourself.

I have created solutions for so many situations no
matter how bad they are.

Oddly this person actually did get my course but he
said that it was stolen by the mail man—which is hard
for me to believe J

As he spoke to me, if he followed what was in my course
he would not be having a lot of these problems.

Anyway, he said how he is tired and bipolar has destroyed him
and he doesn’t know what to do.

I advised him to call the doctor. I told him I would
call for him and three way him in now. He said
he was really sorry and he would call and wanted
to call. I told him I would call right back in 7 minutes
to confirm that he called.

I also said to him. Do you want to help people?
Would you like to help people with this disorder?
He said yes. I said well I am invite you to call
your doctor, get well and then do an interview
with me about your experience and what mistakes
you’ve made so you can help others.

He said to me, “would you really want me to
do an interview?” I said “yes if you are stable
and can help people learn from your mistakes.”

He said okay and then I said okay will you
call the doctor now and promise to do so?

He said “yes.” I said, okay I will call you back
in 7 minutes to confirm your appointment.

I then explained what kind of language to use
to ensure he would get in ASAP.

I gave him a fail safe of calling 911 (emergency
services) as well. I asked him if he understood
and asked him if he promised to call if he
felt suicidal.

He said “yes.” He said “thank you, and I am
sorry I said all that stuff about you. I can’t
believe you care about me.”

I said “don’t worry about it.” Just go ahead
and make that call to your doctor and I will
call you back.

He said okay. I called back 7 minutes later
and he said he had the appointment and thanked
me. I told him I would check up on him to
see how he was doing afterwards.

This was a sad story of a person who really
has no support. He alienated his entire
family. He was basically sitting in an apartment
just barely existing and must have found
my website and then targeted me.

Hopefully his doctor will be able to modify
his medication very quickly so he can get
stable quickly.

It’s also interesting to note that he said a change
in his medication made him “feel” worse. I am
not sure if this is true or false. But he also did
indicate that he never told the doctor.

In these cases, it’s hard to know the exact truth.
Many times a person in an episode thinks something
is true when it’s not. It’s just hard to tell without
doing a comprehensive investigation.

The bottom line is that a change in medication can
create problems and you and your loved one need to
keep a good doctor posted every step of the way on
what’s going on.

Never forget that.

I hope the person who was attacking me can
become one of my success stories. There are
several people who have attacked me and then
a year later have come back and become my
friends. I don’t hold a grudge J

Hey, I just looked at the clock, I have to run.

Catch you tomorrow.

Your Friend,

Dave

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emails sent to you for F.ree? If so, visit:
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Get More Help On Bipolar Disorder
Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each
one is designed to help you with a different
area of bipolar disorder whether you have it or
you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

View Past Daily Bipolar Emails For F.REE
Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

Get Audio Information On Bipolar Disorder For F.REE
Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

=>PLEASE FORWARD TO FRIENDS, FAMILY AND LOVED ONES <=
Hi,

How’s it going?

Yesterday I took my mom out to brunch (which is something
they have between breakfast and lunch for our international
readers).

Unfortunately yesterday I was really annoyed.

Why?

Before I tell you why, make sure you
download this document (I will talk more
about it later on):

http://www.bipolarcentral.com/testimonials/

Well it wasn’t because it was Mothers Day. I was
telling my mom that there are a few people
that are getting totally out of control.

My mom asked “why?” I said I don’t know.
Maybe it’s because it’s a full moon.

Oddly, I have spoken to several friends in
several different areas–one works at Staples
an office store. Others are teachers. One is
a social worker. One is a sales person.

I swear, all of them have had hard weeks
dealing with nightmare customers, students
and as one said, “crazy people.”

My friend who is a teacher said that in
one day at her school–food fights broke
out, 20 teachers called out sick, there were
regular fights, students painted stuff on
a tree and other very strange things.

Anyway, I was telling my mom that I think
that it’s maybe like a cycle and it will
go away. Also I told her how it’s a super
small percentage but that percentage
creates major problems.

I was telling her how virtually no one
in society wants to deal with people like
this. I am talking about the worst of the
worst. There is one person that actually
called me on my cell phone and does so
repeatedly and is seriously one of the
worst people I have ever had to deal with.

She said, “yea I don’t either. I can’t
believe how much you put up with.” Then
my mom explained how she never ever goes to
support groups and it’s because she went to
one and one person their was really ill and
yelling made her afraid.

I told her, “mom, that’s why I never wanted
this to evolve into other groups online where
you see almost total lawlessness–anarchy.”

She agreed. I told her how people had been
posting terrible things on the blog but I wasn’t
sure what to do.

She recommended that I shut it down for now.
I said, “well I don’t want to do that.” She
said that I should. She said that my own
health is not worth the blog.

I said good point. So then we just had a normal
Mother’s day.

I then called several people who work for me
and told them the problem. One said, “yea that’s
why I avoid support groups like the plague. Your
stuff is so positive, it’s too bad a few people
are going to ruin it.” The person I was talking
to started subscribing years ago and was not
doing well and now is totally high functioning.

This person said that they too went to a bipolar
support group and had the same problem.

IMPORTANT NOTICE
I am not trying to beat up on bipolar support
groups. I volunteer at 3 of them and have been doing
so longer than I have been doing this online. I still
do it. But the reality is the reality. Many times
the groups turn super negative. I have seen it
time and time again along with many other people
I know in this field.

So yesterday my mom and others universally agreed
that I should stop allowing the posting of new
comments until a new system is developed to deal
with that small percentage of people who are
posting horrible things.

So yesterday at about 4:00pm Eastern Time, I
asked Andrea for the process to do this and it
was done.

So for now, no more posting comments until a new
system is made on how to deal with it.

Michele Soloway is coming back today along with
a number of other folks that work for me.

We are going to be brainstorming possibilities.

-We may have moderated comments (which means
someone has to approve comments to the blog).
I can’t afford to pay someone to read blog comments
all day so it would have to be a volunteer position.
If you are interested email me at feedbacktodave@mental
healthworld.net

-We may never have comments again.

-We might have to have comments tracked by ip
address and then attempt to report people who
make all kinds of threats to various police
departments around the world. Again, this would
require one person handling this and I can’t afford
to pay someone.

-Michele has other ideas well.

I was kind of sad. I was thinking in my head about
the expression, “A few bad apples spoil the bunch.”

It personally makes me mad that a few people, some
of which I know and absolutely know they should be taking
their medication make all kinds of threats and cause
all kinds of problems.

Then I got to thinking why so many mental health organizations
just shut the door. People like this are one reason. I got
to thinking why police don’t want to deal with those with
a mental illness. People like this are one reason. I got
to thinking why people at the hospital don’t want to
deal with people like this. I got to thinking how so
many people in society no matter how good they are,
do NOT and I repeat do NOT want to deal with a person
who has a major disorder like bipolar disorder and
is not undergoing proper treatment.

As one police man put it, “I’ll do anything to not have
to take those calls.” Those calls meaning a call with
someone who is an a major episode and has bipolar disorder.

In my courses/systems below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

I talk about comprehensive systems to not only get
a loved one into treatment, but help the loved
one understand they need treatment.

Getting treatment is just one thing that needs
to be done in a long list of things.

If you or your loved one aren’t doing well with
bipolar disorder, I would urge you to take
action and do something positive. Either spend
a concentrated amount of time for a long time
to learn what I learned or get my material.

My material isn’t a cost, it’s an investment.
I know people will say, “oh Dave, of course you’re
going to say that.” I am telling the truth.

It’s like anything if you want to master it,
you have to get knowledge. You either learn on
your own or you make an investment in books, manuals,
guides, seminars, college courses, etc. It’s shocking
to me how people don’t understand this in the mental
health field.

There are people I have talked to that will think
that buying a bigger car, taking a vacation,
buying new clothes is more important than investing
in themselves or information for their loved one
or a doctor or a therapist.

I use to get into arguments with my dad about my
mom’s therapist. My dad called it “expensive.”
I would tell him a million and one times that it’s
not a cost it’s an investment. He would be like, “that’s
easy for you to say.” Then at one point my mom stopped
going and guess what happen? My mom went into an episode
and if you took the small cost of her therapist it was
LESS THAN and I repeat LESS THAN the cost of being
a bipolar episode for 2 weeks.

If you know anything about bipolar disorder episodes,
things happen so fast and tremendous damage can be done
over night.

Tomorrow I am going to be addresses a comment
I got from a women who basically says that my emails
have spelling errors (which I doubt since I do run
spell check), grammar errors (which is absolutely true)
and typos (which true as well) and that I basically
disrespecting my mom because I post in this women’s
opinion negative things about my mom.

If you have been on my list, you know exactly what
I am going to say tomorrow about all of this. Because
you know others have said this in the past and you’ll
know how I am going to respond.

Also, I work really hard at this. It’s obvious that
I don’t run this through editors before I send it
out? Well let’s think about it. If I write it every
morning and have no more than 1 hour, how could I
get it to an editor I sent it out? The answer is,
I couldn’t.

I hope you can appreciate the fact I do this every
day and it takes time. I can’t spend more time
getting it to an editor, putting pressure on an
editor to get it back to me and then sending it.

The bottom line is that lots of people like this
entire concept. Positive people like my daily
emails. Negative people hate them and me.

I want to end on a positive note.

Take a look at the positive things people
are saying:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/testimonials/

I am reminding people about this document again
because I received a number of emails from people
that said something like, “Dave I saw that blog
post. That person sounds like my wife. I don’t
want to be negative but I think my wife will
ever be right. She’ll never do well like
your mom. My wife will be like that crazy lady
who posted that comment on your blog.”

When I read that, it made me sad. I was sad
because people look at these people who post
insane things and then think there is no
hope for either themselves or their loved
ones.

I want to motivate and inspire you to believe
this is TOTALLY NOT TRUE. You or your loved one
with bipolar disorder can do well. Period.

I have over 220,000 people who have signed
up to my list. Many have graduated. They started
off either with themselves or their loved one’s
in terrible shape. Now they are doing great.

I have over I think 7000 success stories or testimonials
which you can see 5000 here:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/testimonials/

Do NOT be discouraged with what a few bad apples so
to speak write.

Thank you to everyone who has submitted something
to me.

Catch you tomorrow.

Your Friend,

Dave

===>> Great Resources For You <=== Get Your Own Subscription To This Newsletter
Want your own copy of these daily bipolar
emails sent to you for F.ree? If so, visit:
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Get More Help On Bipolar Disorder
Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each
one is designed to help you with a different
area of bipolar disorder whether you have it or
you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

View Past Daily Bipolar Emails For F.REE
Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

Get Audio Information On Bipolar Disorder For F.REE
Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

Hi,

How’s it going?

Hope you had a great Mothers Day.

I wanted to send you answers to frequently

asked questions about my Amazing Fat Burning

Formula for those with bipolar disorder.

People have been asking me questions

about my offer called The Amazing

Fat Burning Formula for Bipolar Disorder.

I wanted to answer the questions that

I keep getting here:

1. Does this program recommend any stimulants

like epherdra?

A. No it doesn’t.

2. How is this different from other weight

loss programs.

A. It really is. It allows you to lose

weight and keep it off. Plus you can

still eat foods that you like. It’s really

unique.

3. Is this program complicated?

A. No it’s not. I have been using it

myself since 1998 and kept off

60 pounds. I have taught it to lots

of people with bipolar disorder.

4. Does your mom use this program?

A. No. My mom doesn’t need to lose

weight. She never had a problem with

her weight.

My dad on the other hand is very overweight.

He refuses to really do anything about it.

5. Does your program work?

My program works for people who review it,

and follow it. If you get it and do nothing

it will not work. My dad has access to it.

He has never read it or looked at it. It’s

sat on his desk for many years. He hasn’t

lost any weight 🙂

6. How does the f.ree trial work?

Basically you just pay the shipping and handling

and it’s sent to you for f.ree and then a month

later you’ll get charged. BUT you have a guarantee

after the f.ree trial period. Take a look

at this page for the complete details:

http://www.bipolarcentral.com/amazingfatburningformula/

7. This is a program that you can’t ever have junk food?

A. With my program, having junk food is critical.

8. Was there something wrong with your website

when you first launched it?

A. Yes. We had some problems. Some people

were confused. We had a couple of bugs. They

are all fixed now. If you looked at the site

and were confused, take a look again.

Here is the link:

http://www.bipolarcentral.com/amazingfatburningformula/

I will catch you tomorrow.

Have a great night.

Dave

=>PLEASE FORWARD TO FRIENDS, FAMILY AND LOVED ONES <= Hi, How’s it going? Happy Mothers Day if you are a mother. Much better day yesterday. I am going to write more about some of
the folks that I have dealt with recently
that are severely ill.

It’s unfortunate that a few people almost
ruin it for the entire group.

We have a much better system of dealing
with all the threats I face–blackmail,
death threats, attacks of various kinds,
etc.

Today I wanted to talk about several
whys and bipolar disorder.

Let’s look at a few.

1. Why people get off their medication.

My research finds that people get off their
medication for a combination of reasons.
Some feel they were bad but now they are
better or cured from bipolar disorder.

Some feel there is nothing wrong with them. Some
feel that medication is not making them any
better. Some have too many side effects.

If you have side effects, realize their
are lots of medication possibilities. Talk
to your doctor about your situation and he/she
can help find the right medication to reduce
or eliminate the side effects you can’t
tolerate.

If you get off your medication because you
think you are better and don’t need it,
you are wrong. Part of you being well is
medication. When you stop taking it, you take
away the very thing helping you be stable. Then
you go unstable and then can wind up doing and
saying all kinds of things that are terrible.
Remember there is no cure for bipolar disorder.

The kinds of things that 7 really bad people
said and did to me in the last week. People
who I have to call the police on. People who
are going to be in a whole bunch of trouble
with the law. People who have committed all kinds
of fraud and now have been found out.

If you don’t think you have any mental illness
at all and don’t think you need to take medication,
do yourself a favor and get a second and third
opinion before you self diagnose.

2. Why people don’t accept bipolar disorder.
I believe the reason is because it’s tough
to have bipolar disorder or a mental illness
in society.

People aren’t like, “hey you have bipolar,
wow that’s great. I want to hang out with
you and be your friend. Here’s a great job
as well.” It doesn’t work like that. There’s
tons of stigma in society which making acceptance
of a disorder that others frown down on hard
to do.

Also, it’s the kind of people I have dealt with
in the last week–people who are truly menaces
to society and cause all kinds of problems and destruction
that cause people to think negatively about those
with bipolar disorder.

I on the other hand have tons of great experience. When
I think of mental illness I think of a person being
smarter, more intelligent, more creative than people
without a mental illness. I have lots of people who
work for me who are high functioning and do great.
This is my experience. Other people have negative personal
experiences or read or see negative things about
those with a mental illness.

I will tell you, if someone heard 7 people I spoke
to last week that were just down right mean, they
would be worried about those with a mental illness.

This is why I urge those with a mental illness like
bipolar disorder and others to STAY ON their medications
and if they have any problems with their medications to
work with a great doctor to get the best one. The alternative
is to get off and then wind up doing absolutely insane things
and making it hard for the people in society that have
a mental illness that want people to think positively of
them.

3. Why do people say and do really mean things.
No one knows exactly but what is known is bipolar
disorder is a mood disorder. It alters the way
you think when you are not stable. So you can wind
up saying and doing things you normally would not.

Here’s some of what my mom has done when
she wasn’t stable:

-thrown a phone at me

-bought $1500 of groceries on a Monday
and thrown 80% of them away in same
day for months on end. Cost more than
$10,000.

-Said that my dad threw fork at her
when I saw the entire thing and this
was not true

-Screamed, yelled and threatened me over
the years. One time my mom threatened to
kill me when I was a kid.

All these things happen when my mom was not
stable. My mom is not like this. But if she
is not stable, not taking medication or
on the wrong medication this and more
is possible.

When you look at the headlines that are horrible,
you find the common denominator is that so and
so got off their medication and then did this really
bad thing.

In my courses/systems below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net
I talk about how to not only get some to admit
they have the disorder, but to get them into treatment
I have found more than 20 ways to do this), and also
help a person feel better about the disorder and want
to accept it.

It takes time and you need a system. It’s taken me a lot
to put it together.

Anyway today I wanted to talk about these 8 whys
in depth and give you some “food” for thought.

I hope it was helpful.

Finally I want to say to anyone out there that
is not treating their bipolar disorder seriously.
Not only are you hurting yourself, but you are hurting
your family. You are making yourself look bad. There’s
nothing positive. If you aren’t getting proper treatment,
do yourself a favor and go ahead and go and see a
doctor and get back on track. I urge you to do so.

Okay, I have to take off to take my mom out for mothers
day. Have a great day!

Your Friend,

Dave

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=>PLEASE FORWARD TO FRIENDS, FAMILY AND LOVED ONES <= Hi, How’s it going? Bad day for me. I seriously have like 5 people with bipolar disorder
driving me insane on my list. They
email, call, email, call, email call. Each is
making things up that is beyond comprehension.

Even worse 30% of the time, some of them
are happy then mad. It alternates.

2 of them wanted to work for me? What
a strange thing.

What a week.

Sadly I see why so many people in this field
throw in the towel and go into other fields
with far less grief.

I also see why the turn over in organizations
that help those with these type of illnesses
is massive.

Anyway, I have to take off for a meeting.

Before I do, I wanted to talk about today’s
topic.

Here is a simple truth for you:

LIFE IS NOT AN EMERGENCY!

I’ve had hundreds of people who have
written or called me and they are so upset
and there is so much drama surrounding
them that you would think that to them,
life is an emergency! But as they go on
with their story, I see/hear that it is only
an emergency to them.

These people come to me for advice, but
they are so upset and so caught up in their
stories and what is going on in their lives
and their or their loved one’s bipolar disorder,
that they don’t even let me get a word in
edgewise.

Now, I’m just a third party, so of course,
whatever they’re telling me is not an
emergency for me. But even though they
wrote or called me for advice, they can’t get it,
because they won’t even stop long enough
to listen to me!

These people remind me of the Type A
personalities we hear of in business who
work 80 hours a week, who are so driven,
who have such high expectations, that if
they don’t meet that 80 hour work week,
that they have failed in some way. They
are always walking around like a chicken
with it’s head cut off, afraid that everything
won’t get done, because to them, everything
is an emergency!

I had a supporter who called me who was
like that. She was so upset over her inability
to be perfect that her doctor had prescribed
her anti-anxiety medicine. She was acting
(and feeling) like there was a gun pointed
at her head and the sniper was demanding
that everything she did as a supporter had
to be perfect – or else! Again, the silent
assumption was, this is an emergency!
The truth was, no one other than her had
created the pressure she was experiencing.

The truth is that:

LIFE IS NOT AN EMERGENCY!

In my courses/systems, I talk about and
teach ways to lower the stress in your
life, and that is a very important thing
to learn when you’re dealing with
bipolar disorder:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

I’m not saying that some of us
have never done it, sometimes
we’ve jumped to conclusions
before getting all the facts, and
maybe overreacted, making an
emergency out of something that
wasn’t, but not all the time!

Sometimes we take our own goals
so seriously that we forget to have
fun along the way, and we forget
to cut ourselves some slack. We
take simple things and turn them
into conditions for our own
happiness. Or, we beat ourselves
up if we can’t meet our self-created
deadlines.

The first step in becoming a less
stressed person is to have the
humility to admit that, in most
cases, you’re creating your own
emergencies. Life will usually
go on if things don’t go according
to plan.

John Lennon said, “Life is what
happens when you’re making other
plans.” I’m sure he would have
agreed that life is NOT an emergency.

You need to cut yourself some
slack. Remember that your goal is
to stay relaxed, to not get too
worked up or concerned about how
you are doing. As long as you’re
trying your best to be a good
supporter, then that’s all that
matters. No one is a perfect
supporter all the time.

Practice what you’ve learned,
keep your strategies in mind,
and don’t worry about being perfect.
There will be many times when you
lose it, when you revert to being
uptight, frustrated, stressed, and
reactive – get used to it.
When you do, it’s ok. Life is a
process – just one thing after another.
When you lose it, just start again.
It doesn’t mean that it has to be
an emergency, though!

You just don’t have to make
little setbacks into large
emergencies – cut yourself
some slack. Look at your
mistakes as learning experiences,
not emergencies.

All that’s important is that you do
your best and that you are moving
in the right direction. Keep your
perspective, be the best supporter
you can be, and eventually your
loved one will respond to your
support and will be able to mange
their bipolar disorder.

This way, you can learn to live
with your own imperfection,
give yourself a break, stop
trying to be perfect, and
remember that:

LIFE IS NOT AN EMERGENCY!

Your Friend,

Dave

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PLEASE FORWARD TO YOUR FRIENDS

Hi,

How’s it going?

I decided on getting the news out
early today. Before I take off
for the gym.

A few things.

.5. (What’s .5? well I forgot something and didn’t
want to renumber. Sorry.)

People have asked me where all my programs are.
Here is a link to most of them. Not all of them
but most of them. I am working on having them
all in one spot.

http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

1. I am going to be doing a f.ree teleseminar
answering NON medical and NON legal questions
about bipolar disorder (since I am NOT a doctor,
therapist, financial advisor, circus worker (someone
asked), or dentist (someone wrote me their is a
famous David Oliver dentist. That’s not me).

I will keep you posted. We have this new technology
to make this happen. As soon as we work out some bugs
with the system I will send a notice.

2. I may have positions opening up in my consulting
company for hedge funds and investment banks (what
I do to support this organization), I will be possibly
sending a link to a small segment of my list. Since
my list has grown so big, if I send a job listing
out it get filled super fast.

3. We are expanding into Borderline Personality Disorder
(which my mom therapist thinks she has and my mom’s
doctor doesn’t feel it’s important for my mom to have
any other labels), along with schizophrenia. We have
a new person on the team with schizophrenia so we are
going to be writing articles in this area as well.
I will send you a link.

4. I am really tired today 🙂 It’s been a tough
week. We had a whole lot of difficulties to deal
with and three key people that work for me
are away. 2 are coming back on Monday so I
will have less stress.

5. I am going to be taking volunteers. Lots of people
want to volunteer but I don’t have a system to
keep track of everyone. Someone who works for
me that has 6 different disorders and is
SUPER SMART gave me the perfect idea. I will sending
it out and if you are interested in volunteering
let me know.

6. Lots of people are asking again if I am
a real person. Someone wrote me a long letter
saying I don’t have a mother. I actually called
my friend who is a scientist and asked if it’s
possible that you can not have a mother. I think
he thought I was totally out of my mind. Everyone
knows I do stuff in the mental health field and
when you ask random questions they think, “oh geeze,
he finally lost it. I feel bad for him.”

He said even if I was born in a lab which my
mom and dad swear I wasn’t that I would still
technically have a mother.

The other questions I get is if I am a real person.
I am confident that I am real person. I have even
meet subscribers in person. Many in New Jersey.
Some in New York. One in San Diego. One in
a book store in PA. One in CT.

Finally I am asked how I have the energy to
send all these emails every day. Well it’s hard.
There are days that I don’t feel like it. But
I just do it. I have gotten use to it. It’s now
part of my schedule like brushing your teeth.
It takes me up to an hour a day.

If you wonder why I sound stressed or rushed
well some days I am. It’s not automated. I type
each one first thing in the morning and
send it out. Imagine that you had to subtract
a hour from your morning every morning 365 days
a year–including holidays. You might be rushed
or stressed.

7. I have a goal of adding 20,400 articles
related to mental health on a site. Actually this idea
was presented to me years ago. It was really
expensive and way more than I wanted to invest.
The articles will be free to review, read, print
off, etc.

It’s a MASSIVE project. It will require up to
25 people working on it every week for a year.

Recently someone who works with me gave me
an amazing idea that will ultimately lead to
getting this done. I will keep you posted.

Hey I have to go.

Okay finally, Here’s the current bipolar news.

To see the news visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews377

Here are some of the headlines:

Twice as many teens seek help for mental health
DO> Sometimes I think teens think having a mental
disorder is cool. Hmm. I am not sure if this is
good or bad.

Police get training on dealing with mentally ill
DO> Police are generally afraid of people with a
mental illness. I have lots of friends that are
police. One said they would rather go to Iraq then
go and deal with someone in an episode. I told him
dealing with people in an episode is not difficult.
He told me I was out of my mind 🙂

Signs of bipolar disorder
DO> You should now this but reread for a refresher
course.

Talking bipolar awareness
DO> Great article.

For these stories and more, please visit:

http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews377

POST COMMENTS TO THE NEWS HERE

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Your Friend,

Dave

=>PLEASE FORWARD TO FRIENDS, FAMILY AND LOVED ONES <= Hi, How’s it going? I actually have to get going fairly
quick.

I can’t wait until next week when 3 of the really
smart people that work for me working in this
organization dedicated to helping bipolar supporters
and survivors get back. Three
have been out for the last week either
one vacation or doing personal things.

Yesterday I sent out an email on the dangers
of using the word “why” and bipolar disorder.

You can read it on my blog below again if you
like.

I saw some interesting AND thoughtful
responses (as opposed to responses that
make no sense which you might have seen
a few days ago).

josephine_mamo_17 said…

“Hi Dave,
I am normally a very big follower of yours
and i always appreciate the help that you give us,
whether we have bipolar or are supporters. i do want
to point out the danger to you in saying what you
said in your last email.

i found when i was with my partner, that even when
i was on stable mediacations and a great treatment
plan if i ever felt a normal emotion of anger or
frustration, he would not take me seriously and just
say ‘oh its just your bipolar again’.

in the end i was always so afraid to confront my feelings
because i thought that i was off my nut or having an
episode just because i felt a normal emotion. i agree
saying stupid things like you owe a woman money in a
different state is quite crazy but to say ‘there is no
why’ is a bit extreme alsodont you think?in fact i
think it is unjust and comments like that are what
make people like me feel so isolated and alone in the
world.

no one will take us seriously if we all have
that mentality. i appreciate that you are watching
out for all of those who suffer crazy accusations,
but maybe just be careful with us who dont make
many accusations but still get told we are crazy
all the time.”

Another person wrote something else:

TNJ Fish Enterprises said…
“hi dave,

I just wanted to say bravo! Many people don’t
get it. Josephine I realize your anger but when
I pointed out to my husband how rediculous it
was to blame every emotion on being bipolar He
started looking for when I truely was bipolar.
When he started looking so did I and that was
scary.

I realized that alot of times I may not
have been in a full blown bipolar phase but I
did over exaggerate the situation to make myself
right. I want to say to david thank you so much
for all the words of encouragement with your help
I got back on track and started my own internet
b.usiness. I never could have done it without you
and my husband. I am happy that I can see what
is going on in my world(the world of bipolar).
I love feeling like I am back in the real world
again.”

I want to clarify something. When I was talking
about the danger of asking why, I was referencing
asking why a person says or does something in
a bipolar episode–nothing else. I was NOT talking
about asking why a person gets off medications,
doesn’t want to go to a doctor/therapist, doesn’t
want to admit they have bipolar disorder etc. That’s
a different why and I am going to write about
that soon. Not tomorrow because tomorrow is the
bipolar news. Probably this coming Monday. I am making
a note.

What I am talking about is this. Okay a person
is in a bipolar episode and he or she turns
into a different person. You are a supporter and
they scream and yell at you. Maybe they throw
a phone at you. Maybe they say you the bipolar
supporter are the worst person in the entire world.
Maybe they (in the bipolar episode), say that
you (the bipolar supporter), have done so many
bad things. They make up things, say horrible
things.

Now, the natural inclination to the untrained
person is to try to figure out why this person
is saying that to you. You may think, “could
I be the worst person in the world?” “Did I
do something wrong?” You start to second guess
yourself. On the one hand, you know you are
working VERY hard to help. But on the other hand
the person who is in the bipolar episode is hurling
negative things towards your way.

You keep asking why. Then you get almost depressed.
You just can’t understand. You search for answers.

This is the danger. This is a waste of time. There
is no logical or rational reason (99% of the time).
It’s just that the person is not themselves. They
need to get into treatment. To have their medication
changed or modified.

This is what I was talking about. Again I wasn’t
talking about the other whys: why someone won’t
take medication, go to the doctor, admit they
have bipolar disorder, etc.

Make sense?

Now to address what Josephine wrote above.

Here’s the deal. Many bipolar supporters
have great difficulty figuring out what’s bipolar
disorder, a normal emotion, or when a person is
in a bipolar episode.

To me, it’s easy. In my courses below for bipolar
supporters, I talk about how to determine this. The
interviews in my course go into this in great depth.

This is a SKILL. It’s like riding a bike. It takes
time to learn this skill. I can tell 95% of the time
when something is a normal emotion of my mom or it’s
something related to her bipolar disorder.

My dad struggles with this. Why? Well it’s because he
never had to learn it. He just counts on me telling him.
He uses me as a crutch.

My brother absolutely positively never understands that
people with bipolar disorder have normal emotions. For
example, one time someone cut off my mom, screamed and
yelled at her for NOTHING. For nothing. She did not
one single thing. How do I know? I was there. I was
SUPER MAD! I was ready to get his license plate and
repot him to the police and have his license taken
away for the rest of his life (which you can’t do
by the way). Anyway, I was super mad. 100 times more
mad than my mom.

My mom was kind of mad. Not that mad. She told me to
calm down. I get mad at that kind of thing. That’s the
way it is on the east coast. You cut someone off and
you can trigger world war 3 LOL.

Anyway, back when my brother was talking to us,
my mom mentioned it. She did so in a calm way
but expressed how she couldn’t believe someone
would be so mean. I was still mad. My brother
made the comment to me, “oh there she goes
again with her bipolar.”

I was like, “huh?” He said, “yea it looks
like she is going into an episode or whatever
it’s called again.”

I was super confused. I was like, “why?” He said
because she is mad about someone cutting her off.
At that point I realized how unfair my brother
was being to my mom and how clueless he really
was. I tried to explain to him but he never listens
to anything.

At that point, I realized I had to train myself
to know what’s bipolar and what’s normal reactions.

The bottom line Josephine is that it seems that
your supporter needs more training in this area.
He has to realize it’s a skill and he has to
learn it. He has to be willing to do so.

That’s the bottom line. The hard part is,
many bipolar supporters are too lazy to learn
the skill (half of my family). Know what I mean?

In my courses/systems below I cover how
to learn the skill of knowing what’s a
episode and what isn’t.

In my bipolar success course below for those
with bipolar disorder, I have a f.ree report
titled “How to get people to believe you.”

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

Why do I have that report? Years ago I found
that for many with bipolar disorder it’s hard
for them to get those around them to believe
them when something is serious. So I created a
system for my mom in case I wasn’t around. The
system is outlined in the f.ree report.

I think that everyone should read TNJ Fish
Enterprises response above a few times.

It contains some great information. I don’t
have time to go into it right now. But it’s
all there.

Finally I want to say one last thing about the
danger of asking why.

There was a post on my blog where some had
some suggestions as to why someone who I don’t
know, has never bought a thing from me, who lives
thousands of miles away would call me and say I took
a plane last night and stole $400 from them and the
flew back home.

The person wrote:
“maybe she felt influence in doing something
that probably cost her $400 and she regrets it,
so she has to blame someone.”

I appreciate the suggestion but this is an example
of what I mean. There is no logical thing or reason
we could come up to explain what the person did.
She was not in her right mind at all. That’s it. We need
not even spend one minute thinking about why a person
would do or say such a thing. They are not thinking
straight. There is no, “maybe she accused you because…”

Do you agree or disagree?

Your Friend,

Dave

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=>PLEASE FORWARD TO FRIENDS, FAMILY AND LOVED ONES <= Hi, What a day yesterday. It was really strange. Okay, a few days
ago I was thinking how well my mom was doing.
I was thinking well what if this that or the
other thing happen related to bipolar disorder.

I said to myself, “wow we have a system a solution
for everything.”

I felt confident.

Then yesterday morning it started.

I felt like I was getting attacked by people
far worse than my mom had ever been.

There was something that made no sense posted on
my blog. A person called my cell phone and demanded
that I take down all my websites because it “all
was a lie.”

Another person said that I ripped them off 2 years ago
and they want m.oney from me.

This is on top of the woman who said that I broke into
her house stole $400. This woman lived thousands of
miles away, I didn’t have her address and the cost of
flying to her state was $600. I asked her, “why would
I spend $600 to steal $400?” She said she didn’t know
but she wanted $400 from me and she said I stole
her rent money.

Finally I got her to stop calling me after hours.

Some ask why I am frustrated sometimes. Others
wonder why I am rushed in my emails. When you have
all these things to do, when you have limited time,
you are frustrated and rushed sometimes.

Yesterday was seriously one of the worst days
ever. I am just being honest. Dealing with 3 people
who swear they are right and saying things that make
no sense is difficult. Especially when those people
start attacking everyone in the company.

But back to my stories. In all those cases, you could
ask this dangerous questions–“Why?” Why would someone
say that I stole their c.redit card and shipped
things to their house. Why would someone say I broke
into their house and stole $400 when they live thousands
of miles away. Why would someone demand for me to
take down all my sites and say that I am part of a
conspiracy to eliminate all people with bipolar disorder?

There is NO answer. The people that say these things
are not in their right minds. They are generally off
their medication or not following their treatment plan.

As a result, they can say and do absolutely anything.

Over the last year you may have seen “crazy” things posted
on my blog. I allow free speech and sometimes ill people
post things that are incomprehensible. I NEVER ask
why they do. I already know why–they are off medication
or not following their entire treatment plan.

The big mistake that many bipolar supporters make is
to ask “why did he/she do that or say that?” Did I
cause it? Why? Why? Why? Many supporters spends so
many hours trying to figure out the why. There is no
answer. Remember bipolar disorder is a mood disorder
and a person who is not following a proper treatment
plan can say or do absolutely anything.

The focus has to be getting someone on a good
treatment plan. Getting someone to a doctor who
is good. Etc.

In my courses/systems below I teach exactly
how to do this. It’s complicated but it can be
done.

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

In my courses/systems I have spent a lot of time
figuring out how to counter what happens when
a person gets off medication.

Most of the ideas have come from people with disorders
themselves. You can never find or get this kind of
information from anyone but me.

For example, I have someone on my team that has gotten out of
many psychiatric hospitals and been off medications
for years.

Finally after wasting more than 25 years “gaming”
the system, this person finally accepted bipolar
disorder and followed a treatment plan and has
done great.

This person is one of my “go to” people to create
complicated systems to combat a person who
refuses to take medications and is on bipolar
disorder.

Anyway, this person volunteered to help me
develop a system for my customer service and myself
to deal with people I was dealing with yesterday.

I must say the system is amazing. It’s currently
being refined. In addition to this person, 4
other people are helping to look at, improve
upon a system to deal with the worst of the
worst that we have recently encountered.

It’s sad but when people do and say crazy things
that have a mental illness it undermines all
those high functioning people or functioning
people in society doing well. It makes them
look crazy as well.

The people who work for me get super mad when
people get off their medications and do crazy things
or say crazy things.

They feel that it makes it harder for them to
say that they have a mental illness.

This is true.

If I look at this organization. EVERY TIME there is
an event that has to do with a someone who has a mental
illness anyone connected to my organization contacts me
fishing around to see if I deal with the same type of
people.

Many times, many people don’t even want to do business
with an organization that has people that work for it
that have a mental illness. Why? Because of all the
bad stories they have heard. Because of the people
who get off their medications and create all kinds
of problems in society. Is this fair? Of course not
but this is reality.

If the world saw all the stable and high functioning
people who are super smart, creative, etc. people
would want to hire those with a mental illness
not avoid them. The problem is, the people who
get off their medications and don’t follow a treatment
plan do so much bad that they draw scrutiny which
causes people to be afraid. See the problem?

Yesterday some how my accountant found out what
happen with all the people I was dealing with.
He called me and tried to persuade me to not
work in this field. He said that the people
are dealing with are “dangerous.” He doesn’t
know much about mental illness except the bad
things he hears.

Anyway, I have to run but be careful about “why.”
If your loved one goes into an episode, goes
off his/her medications they are capable of
doing anything. It won’t make sense. You can’t
have a reason. It’s not your fault.

Don’t spend time trying to figure out why.
Just like I didn’t spend one second yesterday
or last month wondering why someone would accuse
me of things like I took a plane, flew to another
state broke into their house to steal $400 which
was less than the cost of the ticket in the first
place.

There is no why. The person is out of their mind
because she was off her medications. That’s the bottom
line.

The person off their medications is capable of
doing anything or saying anything. Don’t ever
forget that.

Your Friend,

Dave

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Okay now….

I have to say sorry again (I had to say it yesterday
as well).

Yesterday we just discovered that
some of the phone calls that we have received
in the last month were not being sent to
the right area.

This meant that some people didn’t
get a return call.

I am really sorry about this. We fixed the problem.
Actually Michelle H (I have 4 people that work
for me with the same first name), fixed it.

Barbara is working hard to return all calls
she has logged.

If you called in, still have an issue and need
a call back, please call us back and someone
will get back to you.

I must say, I have learned a ton. I have never
had anything grow so fast and become so
big. It’s required hiring lots of people,
investing in lots of technology.

It’s been really fun however and I really like
doing it. The reality is, everyone on the team
loves what they do. If they didn’t we wouldn’t
do well or have a great site like we do.

Someone wrote yesterday or the day before
that some of my emails look “borderline bipolar.”

It’s really funny when I read that stuff. First, I challenge
anyone else to take on all that I do and do it without
being rushed someone days. There’s a simple reason
why some of my emails come across being rushed.

Know what it is?

Well it’s because I am rushed. I have 4 different
businesses and a lot going on. I have to send these emails
out and it takes at least an hour a day.

Imagine subtracting an hour a day and having to
do something like type of an email, send it out,
etc.

You probably would have days that you would
be rushed, right?

It doesn’t make any sense to me when people write
stuff like that.

If you sit back and think about it, logically a person
can see that I put in a whole lot of work into this
but I have other stuff going on.

We try really hard to get everything right but
me have made mistakes. We have bought wrong
things. Make some errors. BUT, I have a phiolosophy
of you can’t be perfect. I never beat myself up when
a mistake is made. I never get mad at anyone on
the team.

I see with bipolar disorder however, some people
make a deadly mistake and believe other wise.

This may come as a shock to you, but

YOU DON’T HAVE TO BE PERFECT!

Too many supporters have this
misconceived notion that they have to
be perfect, at least in the sight of their
loved one. They’re afraid to “upset the
apple cart” if they share any negative
feelings with their loved one, or if they
even express their feelings at all. They
think that if they even offer an opinion,
that that’s a no-no, because everything
centers around their loved one and their
bipolar disorder.

Boy, is that wrong!

I don’t even know where that notion came
from, but it is very wrong. NOBODY is
perfect! And thinking that you have to be
perfect is setting yourself up to fail.
Nobody can live up to that kind of expectation.
All you can do is the best you can do, and
that’s all!

I know some supporters have written to me
and told me that their loved one expects
them to be perfect, but that doesn’t make it
right. They say that if they say or do anything
wrong, that their loved one screams or yells
at them, until they’re scared to say or do anything,
for fear of upsetting their loved one. I know,
this happens in some households where the loved
one has bipolar disorder. It’s true, but that
doesn’t make it right.

These are the cases where you (the supporter)
have to sit down with your loved one
between episodes and express how you feel
in the most loving, supportive way possible
and talk about acceptable and unacceptable
behavior, and set boundaries, and then stick
to those boundaries.

Your loved one will be more receptive
to listening to your feelings and opinions
when they are between episodes. Don’t
even try to talk to them when they are in
an episode, because they will not listen to you.

But let me ask you this – Is it your loved
one who is expecting you to be perfect, or
is it yourself?

Expecting yourself to be perfect will only
lead to burnout. You can only keep it up for
so long. You still have to meet your own needs
while you are meeting your loved one’s needs.

You can’t keep stuffing your own feelings, or
one day they will erupt and you will find
yourself very angry and in a fight with
your loved one. Stuffing your feelings is
not the answer.

In my courses/systems, I have several
teachings on how to deal with your feelings,
especially the negative ones:

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Trying to be perfect is not an ideal
you can live up to, no matter how much
you want to. You are trying to be
someone you can’t be. It will cause
you to secretly resent your loved one,
and will lead to a strained relationship.
There will be tension between you.
Eventually it will stress you out.

Supporters who do this will take on
too much responsibility – including
responsibility that should be their
loved one’s – in their quest to be the
perfect supporter. They will hide their
concerns behind a mask of “Everything’s
ok” (even when it isn’t).

Unfortunately, this “perfect supporter”
will try to be Superman (and fail miserably).

Eventually their systems will break down,
and they will run out of steam. Then they
will be no good as a supporter for their
loved one. Remember – no one is perfect.
So stop trying to be!

You need to accept your flaws. You need
to know that you’re going to make mistakes –
that’s just a part of learning how to help your
loved one manage their disorder. And if they
do go into another episode, well, that is NOT
your fault! Just like it’s NOT your fault that
they have bipolar disorder in the first place!
You couldn’t stop them from getting the
disorder, and you can’t stop it from flaring up
at times, either. It’s not under your control.

If you’re expecting perfection from yourself,
chances are you’re expecting perfection
from your loved one as well, and that will
be a dismal failure, because they’re not perfect
either. Especially if they’re newly diagnosed
with bipolar disorder. Their flaws are probably
glaring right now. They’re probably struggling
with this diagnosis, and looking to you for help.
And you won’t be any help to them if you’re
trying to be Superman.

If this has described you, then take a break
from perfection. Give yourself permission to be
human. It’s OK to NOT be perfect! Join
the rest of the world of NON-perfect people.

You can only do the best that you can, and
that’s all right!

Your Friend,

Dave

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one is designed to help you with a different
area of bipolar disorder whether you have it or
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