Hi,
I need to respond to a blog post I sent out entitled “We Sometimes Have to Do This with Bipolar.”
In this blog post, I quoted the Serenity Prayer, but by mistake I called it the Lord’s Prayer. Believe me, this was just a mistake – I do know the difference between the two.
My appreciation goes out to those people who simply sent emails to point out the difference and to express concern for me personally, knowing that I would not usually make such a mistake. But, just like you, I am only human, and I do make mistakes.
So to those of you who were offended by my mistake, I sincerely apologize. Let me tell you, I have learned a great lesson because of this mistake.
Some things have been going on and I have been working too hard and losing sleep. I haven’t been following my own advice to you. I’m always talking about how important it is to follow good sleep habits and to stick to a good sleep schedule. Unfortunately, between the things going on at work and my dad having medical procedures every other week, I have let my own sleep
schedule get off track.
I know this is no excuse for mistaking the Serenity Prayer and the Lord’s Prayer, even though it was an honest mistake, but it at least explains my error to those of you who asked for an explanation.
I was simply tired when I wrote that blog post, and didn’t notice that I had mistakenly put the
Lord’s Prayer instead of the Serenity Prayer like I had meant to. Again, I sincerely apologize if I offended anyone. I certainly didn’t mean to.
To those followers who stood by me and understood that it was simply a human mistake and wrote to tell me about it, again, I appreciate your kindness and understanding. You were simply pointing out an error on my part that had gone unnoticed. Thank you for that.
To those of you who attacked me for my mistake, all I can say is that I’m sorry, and yes, I do know the difference between the two prayers. Someone even accused me of not knowing what
I’m talking about when it comes to bipolar disorder because I didn’t know the difference between the two prayers. That really hurt.
I can only hope that they read this blog post and find forgiveness in their heart.
People do make honest mistakes, and when they do, we have to forgive them. Just like your loved one may ask you to forgive them for something they may do because of their bipolar
disorder.
Forgiveness is something you can choose to do or not. But if you choose to forgive, you will feel so much better.
Just like your loved one makes mistakes, I do, too. So I am asking you to forgive me for my mistake.
Well, I have to go!
Your Friend,
Dave
Post of responses below
you are forgiven, we all make mistakes
David, don’t worry about this because if people can’t understand a mistake, they are the ones with the problem. We really can’t please everybody!! You are doing a great job and a much needed job. Actually being somewhat of a non goddie person this didn’t make any difference to me at all. Keep up your wonderful work and don’t let this discourage you.
Lowell McMullin
Dave,
Wow! I can’t believe you went through so much because of a simple mistake! I’m sorry to hear that you were attacked for it. I’m also sorry to hear that your dad’s health is in trouble and you are trying to balance too much. I hope you can take some time for yourself and get some rest.
I was surprised at the extended apology you wrote. I can’t believe it was even necessary. I am a writer. I have made BIG mistakes. I say, “Sorry. Won’t happen again.” That’s it. No punishment, no fear of not being forgiven. We all are human.
As far as I’m concerned your mistake was small and doesn’t need more than an “oops!”
Thanks for working so hard to bring the information you do. It’s very helpful.
Goodness! I can’t believe that people actually “attacked” you for making this mistake. Get a life, folks! Nobody’s perfect. And you provide such an important service, I would think that people might give you some slack if you make a small error.
So, take heart. You don’t need to apologize any further than you already have done. If people can’t forgive, it’s really their issue, you know?
Everyone makes mistakes and you are entitled to one too. I appreciate all your help and hope your loved one is getting better. You do need to get some rest for yourself and your loved ones because they need you.
Sincerly,
Janie Doolos
Thank you for your email. I ABSOLUTELY understand that EVERYONE makes mistakes. I am the supporter of a child that I adopted that has bipolar disorder and he keeps me so busy and is so complicated to handle, I also have nights when I do not get enough sleep.
I REALLY APPRECIATE THE HARD WORK YOU DO.
We all make mistakes Lord knows I made plenty of them. It is correcting them is the hard part. I know I had episodes that put me in the hospital. But I am still here, and able to speak about it. I am happy that you did catch it in time. Don’t forget we are human and make mistakes God Bless You.
Hi Dave
How are you? And how is your dad doing.I don’t have bipolar but my daughter does.And i thank you for the daily emails.Either prayer is find because we need to prayer the Lord’s prayer to keep us grounded.Pray that the Lord will watch over own love ones.Pray he will keep them from hurting themselves.
And the ones that wrote saying you didn’t know the difference then they must not have a love one sick.They have had to go throught anything we all make mistakes.
All i can say please go on the the work you are doing you are helping a lot of people.God know your heart.
STAY BLESSED
Sorry that you were attacked about labeling the incorrect prayer. People are interesting! High fives on helping others. Consider the source and go on!! 🙂
Everyone, and I mean everyone makes mistakes. For those who quickly judged you and jumped down your throat, it is they who should read both of those prayers and take heed. U really only had to apologize once because like u said you are only human. People in glass houses shouldnt throw stones.
Sincerely,
Kathy Campbell
Dave, you are only humas, so forgive yourself also.
You should not feel so bad. Those who appreciate what you do for themselves and their loved ones know you did not do this on purpose, they know you and the rest of us are all human.
Thank you.. I have made many mistakes in my life.. and up until 3 years ago I would not have known the difference between the 2 prayers myself.
I am disappionted how people can say you know nothing just for this error. Your emails have helped me for over 2 years now with my daughter, and have helped her too. I even forward them to other friends and they love them.
One thing I learned when people say rotten things about me.. I have to look at where it is coming from.. and it is really none of My business what others think of me.. What matters is what My Higher Power thinks and knows..
God Bless and Keep up the great work
It think the “Lord” does’t mind and perhaps thinks any prayer is the Lords prayer.
Don’t be so hard on yourself…I did notice the mistake, but I was just happy to KNOW that you pray and even if everyone does not understand we know who WILL AND FORGIVE.
I am sorry to hear anyone would give you a hard time for a simple, honest mistake. Your e-mails have given me hope during times when I did not have any. Keep up the good work!
Hi David,
Oh my goodness, I am shocked that people would be offended and / or attack you for an honest mistake. I sent you a brief e-mail just indicating the error, as I thought you’d want to be informed. We all need to be a lot more gentle and forgiving, more Serene with each other. I am sorry you were harangued for an innocent error.
All of us are human and are bound to err. I’m sorry some people do not understand that. We are all struggling with this often debilatiting (spelling i’m sure is wrong) illness and it effects us all in many ways. I hope everyone can understand the human part of us all and keep our meanness to ourselves, as this is often one of the symptoms of my bipolar. I am aware of it, so I do my best to keep it in check, but I am human. I really appreciate all the hard work you do to send out emails to me, as I often feel so dam alone with my bipolar/adult add.
Hi, i noticed it but just assumed it to be a simple mistake. Anyone can slip up and make an error. Both prayers are beautiful.i was sure someone would call it to your attention but really, i do not think it something that required an apology, just an affirmation that you know the difference. Joan
Dear Dave,
I noticed that you had put the wrong name for the prayer, but it was no big deal!
I have enjoyed your emails, as my son has Bipolar Disorder, and appreciate the helpful information
you have given. Always look forward to hearing from
‘my friend, Dave’!
God bless you and all that you do!
Linda 🙂
David,
Consider yourself forgiven, and consider all the criticism you received as a sign that you are doing a fabulous job of reaching a lot of people who are stressed out. Keep up the good work.
Dave, don’t worry, you were still thinking of the Lord when you wrote the prayer down for all to see. Being a Catholic, I knew a mistake was made, but it didn’t matter, It was a lovely prayer anyway.Don’t feel guilty about doing the Lords work, which you were doing.
Dear Dave, Please do not agonize over this very innocent mistake, I know both prayers very well indeed and that’s what they are to me, prayers to God, equal in every way and interchangeable. Don’t give it a second thought. You have given so much guidance, attention, energy, thought, consideration to your family and all who have involvement with BPD, it just doesn’t matter. I have never bought any of your programs, simply because there is not an extra penney in this household, but what I have read of yours has helped me and led me to believe that you are a fine person indeed. LP
To those that attacked you, all I have to say is that they should remember that they are human also. I am also sure that they also make mistkes. Let’s all face it, we are human and make mistakes. We need to not judge when others make them. Follow the Golden Rule is what I say!
Do understand. Don’t be so rough on yourself. We do all make mistakes. Both prayers are good for us, there is nothing lost. Keep doing what you are to help those with loved ones and bipolar. We need are the support and help we can get. I thank you for taking your time even when you have so very little of it right now. The best to you and your dad. I will say a prayer. Any prayer we say is good.
Anyone who is offended by the word “Lord” isn’t likely to forgive you. Because forgiveness only comes from the ability to love, which comes from “the Lord” who slaughtered His own Son on the cross to make a way for those who hate Him to find out His love and forgiving power. What kind of love is this? Hopefully those people who scathed you, will be convicted by the “Lord” that they hate, and He, in his great love, will enlighten their eyes to understand. He loves and accepts each one of us, no matter how vile, hateful or small minded. We were born into this life to be a reflection of Him. When we are a reflection of Him, we will be loving and accepting, being kind to one another, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake forgives us, (when we ask).
Maybe those critical people who clearly have too much time on their hands, will find their real purpose in this life.
First of all, I am bipolar and an alcoholic. I have been sober for 33 years. We say the Serenity prayer and the Lord’s prayer at AA meetings. They both work! So I don’t see your mistake as a big deal.
And while I’m at it, this is a very good time to thank you for all the information you have given daily.
May God richly bless you Dave. Keep up the good work!
Getting better everyday,
Jacquelene
Dave, I Hope you and your family are well. Thank you for you inspiring emails, they are really helpful.THe last two emails show me you are typing from your heart, even in the most difficult times, you show dedication to your cause. I hope that all your readers will understand . Thank you, God Bless , Lori
I am having a very hard time understanding how anyone that reads your articles and knows the type of person you are would condemn you for this error. Anyone who deals with the bipolar community and looks to your writings for guidance and understanding of the roller coster world it entails, should have gained some type of patience and understanding with the human race in general. I truly sympathize with the bi polar member that is dealing with this on a day to day basis. We are all human, we all make mistakes and we all mis-speak at times….I am sure GOD is just glad that you know these two prayers at all…their are many that don’t and that he thanks you on a daily basis for your sharing your insight into the lives of his special people. Have a wonderful day…and get some rest…I look forward to our communication.
Dave,
I noticed it but simply overlooked it. I appreciate you for all your emails I get in my inbox every week keeping me strong for my bipolar spouse. You are a God-send!!
dave i forgive you. i make so many mistakes myself. i suffered bipolar for 14 years. my identical twin sister had it too. the dr had her on too much medicine and she fell asleep driving and hit a telephone pole and severed her heart. i felt the painthe time of the accident. im under control.forget about the mistake you can’t worry about the small stuff. well take care.
I am sorry that you were attacked. This should not have been a big deal. Dealing with bipolar family members, medical needs of other family members, work, that is alot. I deal with some of those same issues. I am always tired, and I make mistakes. You shouldn’t be made to feel guilty for nameing the wrong prayer. They all belong to our Lord. Hope things get better for you, in any aspect at all.Thank you and God bless you for all that you do.Debbie
You made a mistake, that is human, we all do it, everyone of us. Some of the time because we are tired and sometimes because we just do. As they say, to err is human, to forgive is divine. My husband is doing awesome now with is bipolar disorder and he still keeps asking for forgiveness for the things he did while his bipolar was at its worse. I told him, they were not you, they were msitakes. We put them in a box and threw them out. Now he does not ask again unless he sees something thatreminds him of all thos dark years. He made mistakes as you did but if people do not forgive mistakes, they will live in a world of their own with all the mistakes made in the past in their heads.
Humans make mistakes and that is okay, it did not offend me.
david, every one makes mistake,so don`t be so hard on your self.you are trying to do good and that the main thing.so david it was no big deal, only those that picks things apart,that don`t forgive easily, i always say big feet poor understanding.keep the good work. may god bless you.i`m sure god is smiling at all this.
Dave, anyone who has been reading your emails should have known it was an honest mistake and you certainly know what your talking about. Please continue doing what your doing.
DAVE~
IT MAKES ME SO VERY SAD TO SEE YOU SO UPSET OVER A TINY LITTLE ERROR. MY MERCY, I READ IT AND DIDN’T THINK ANYTHING OF IT. I KNEW WHAT YOU MEANT.
WE ALL HAVE MUCH BIGGER PROBLEMS/ISSUES BEING A BIPOLAR SUPPORTER.PERSONALLY I NEVER COULD MAKE IT THROUGH THE DAY IT WITHOUT YOUR E-MAILS.YOUR WORDS OF WISDOM AND UNDERSTANDING ARE PRICELESS.
EVERYONE NEEDS TO PUT IT ALL IN PERSPECTIVE AND THANK THEIR LUCKY STARS WE HAVE YOU!
THANK YOU FOR ALWAYS BEING THERE FOR US.
I am presently extremely frustrated as I try to deal with my loved one’s banking dilemmas while she seeks treatment. Your email actually made me laugh! We all do make mistakes, keep up the great work!
Dave I am so sorry to hear of the added challenges in your life.For those that sent e-mails to you berating you,they need to be more thankful for the great work you are doing.If your work wasn”t so fantastic,no-one would notice when you made a mistake.So take it as a compliment,drives the devil crasy!Thanks so much for your positive and helpful e-mails!Linda N
David,
Having been a consumer of your very helpful newsletters for a while, I’m suprised that you felt the need to apologize for such a insignificant mistake. You are a good person who is helping many others in a complicated situation – a place with few answers. G-d bless you and keep up the important work.
Can’t believe you were attacked for that. Whoever attacked must be just looking to put someone else down and must be very unhappy.
Dave,can’t believe people could be so cruel as to say such mean things to you. Are they themselves perfect? I think not It was just an honest mistake. We all make them. Why are some people so quick to point them out? Being a supporter of 2 sons with bipolar I have learned what the word “forgiveness” really means. Maybe those other people out there need to search their hearts a little deeper. I’m just glad they aren’t my supporter! Keep doing what you do Dave I for one think you are awesome. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts during this difficult time.
Hi Dave,
I noticed the mistake the other day, but didn’t comment. I figured it was just an honest oversight.
To err is human, and I would certainly want to be forgiven for my many mistakes. Above all, I am certain that God forgave you! You are always trying to help others. I appreciate your daily emails, and anyone who attacked you for making that one slip-up should know better! Can they honestly claim to have NEVER made a mistake? Ignore them Dave, and continue doing what you do. There are lots of us who do appreciate you!!!!!!
I personally know what it’s like to care for parents. Although you love them, it consumes you! I totally understand what you’re going through with your dad. I was caring for my parents…both…at the same time. One had Alzheimer’s and the other, dementia. It was a nightmare, but it had to be done and I was exhausted! All the while still caring for my bipolar daughter! I completely understand why you made a mistake! Whew!
David, We are all human & we ALL make mistakes everyone should understand that
Boy, Dave, thanks for all you do. There have been so many times I’m wondering about something to do with bipolar disorder, or just life, and my next e mail is you making sense of it all for me.
Our personal resources get drained and we are too busy to notice. Sorry you have had so much to deal with!
What a sad commentary, that people would attack you or not appreciate your expertise over this silliness. To me, it sounds like you are hitting home and they are angry.
Tells me a lot about them, and nothing about you.
If you need a soul lift after this, try to find “Scandalize My Name” sung by K. Battle and J. Norman.
(My favorite song in the world is them singing “He’s Got The Whole World” on that same CD.)
If your heart is in a good place , btw, they are all the Lord’s Prayer.
Sorry for the drama in what sounds like a tough time. Hope it was an outlet for you somehow at least. lol
HUGS
Pati
First I say “Those without sin can cast the first stone.” I don’t see any human being able to walk on water. You have taken it upon yourself to write “daily” encouragements and literature for those of us plagued with bipolar disorders. I work with the public myself and no matter how hard you try, there is always going to be someone you can’t please. Do your best, thats all you do but know that there are many others who don’t condemn you for this mistake and appreciate your heart for sharing and caring enough to give hope, understanding and education about bipolar disorder. God sees your heart Dave, too bad some people don’t. You know its in the right place! Thats all you need to be concerned about . . . carry on my friend.
Dave, it’s amazing how people can nitpick and focus on the semantics (albeit an honest mistake)when you had such a wonderful message to impart to those of us who truly need to hear words of support while dealing with a loved one suffering from bipolar disorder. Thank you for sending your letters, and please don’t stop writing them. This caregiver truly appreciates what you have to offer. Take care.
David,
I am in AA and recognized the mistake right off, but saw through the thought process and knew you slipped. No big deal. At least you know people read your messages!
Thank you very much for your service. My fiance has Bi-polar and the lessons you have given us are not to have a price put on them! They have saved our relationship and helped her to become more apart of our community.
Every has an unsubscribe, they may choose to use it and lose advice that will change their life. THAT would be a mistake.
Hi David –
We all forgive you and for all of those who stupidly pointed out your mistake I say “GET A LIFE”.
JANICE
David,
I have to tell you something. Your email affected me more than you know. Today I was having a real problem with my situation and forgiveness and asking God for an answer as to how to move forward. My husband’s Bi-Polar disorder and his affair has wreaked absolute devastation on my life and the lives of my children. I have prayed for him every day for 15 months and forgiven him a million times a day. This morning, however, I was weak.
God used you to send out that email reminding us that forgiveness and love are choices that we make. He used you in a mighty way today, as He uses everyone and their own unique circumstances to help others. While I can tell that you have been hurt by people questioning you, I believe that message was especially for me and my situation. And I’m thanking God for it, and thanking you for allowing him to use you that way. I wasn’t as weak as I thought. God is still with me and sending me messages every day, and today through a very generous soul. May God bless you! I know I am to continue to love, forgive and pray for him.
So many posts here say they can’t believe you were attacked or that you needed to apologize. I can imagine also, that those who attacked you must have a lot going on in their lives as well. Just like we cannot see what is happening in yours…we don’t see what is happening in theirs. I’ve learned recently that unless you are walking around under someone’s skin 24/7, you cannot know what they are truly dealing with.
And while no apology was needed by any of us for such a simple mistake, the message was loud and clear. Funny how God lines everything up to work for us.
The book of Mark says that no one is perfect except God alone. David, you must be doing something right…God uses you in a mighty way.
Today I pray for you, your father, and those people who attacked you. I wish you all peace and hope.
David, I noticed what you said and didn’t think ill about it. We all make mistakes,but, I’ll bet you really got alot of attention from that. Inside God’s knows what you were saying and thinking and so did I. So,thank you for all your hard work for all of us. We all do appreciate you. God bless you my dear. Margaret!
Thank you for all the helpful information.
I remarried three years ago and my husband was diagnosed as bi polar last year.
At first I wondered why I hadn’t seen it and even thought about annulment but I realized that there was a reason for my being in his life and vice versa.
My husband is 74. I have reclaimed my life by not taking personally his antics but have gotten on with my life by going for my MBA (It is on my bucket list)
Some days are rough and other days are not so smooth but realizing that the bi polar coupled with his stroke hrt attack etc limits some of his life activities (in truth most of them) I plug along the best I can. A health aide helps out four hours a day but weekends and the daily living beyond that falls on my shoulders.
For whatever their reasons his grown children are of no assistance so I have learned to take my own advce and get on with my life being sure to get rest sleeep mental sdtimulation and to see the glass half filled.
As for the Lords prayer title versus Serenity..It basically parallels the Lord’s theme of leave it to HIm so it doesn’t matter what title was given. Those of us who understand the difference and the similarities wouldn’t give it a second thought. Forgiveness not necessary nor is it proper to do so.
Humans transpose words letters and mix up titles.
In my world in the large scheme of things it just doesn’t matter.
It’s not that big of a deal.
Dave, I’m very sorry to hear about your Dad and I’m keeping him in my prayers. Is is any wonder how and why you wrote the Lord’s prayer instead…Everyone makes mistakes and I sincerely hope that you know the wonderful job you are doing, there are always going to those who are out to criticize when you make a minor mistake, but please know just how many people you reach with the fantastic information you supply to us. I feel that instead of trying to correct you for a minor mistake that I’d rather thank you for all the informative emails and great website too! I apologize I really wanted that DVD, but didn’t have the funds. If you ever have again please let me know thank you for everything David!
People need to lighten up.
Understand this; We all have the absolute right to be offended – and then get on with our lives.
We cannot continue to be so, so, offended by whatever we do not fully understand or by every mistake made, or by every change that presents itself in life.
Are we really that sensitive that we cannot choose how to react to something that we do not agree with or believe in.
I could choose to be “offended” or I could choose to not agree and not let it spoil the moment, day, week, month or life.
Even if this had not been a mistake, if someone wanted to believe the serenity prayer was the Lords prayer, how does that affect my life?
Please people; CHOOSE!
WE ALL MAKE MISTAKES, GOD FORGIVES US ALL EVEN YOU YOUR JUST HERE TO HEL US , GODBLESS YOU THANK YOU TERESA
Dear Dave,
First, my thoughts to you and yours. Family first! I learned the Serenity prayer 30 years ago in the ORIGINAL 12-step program. I am delighted that so many folks, in many different situations, use it to suit their individual purposes. I am in agreement with the majority of other commentators that anyone attacking your knowledge of bipolar, your motivations for sharing that knowledge with others, or any other ridiculous accusations and attacks is simply just that..RIDICULOUS! How small minded and petty to even focus on such a mistake. Glad my great guider is tolerant and loving. Otherwise, I might not be here sharing myself with others..just like you do so faithfully! Peace and love to all! Miss Katy Rogersxo
I can’t believe that those people blasted you so badly! I want you to know that you are doing a wonderful job! The error was a very minor one and everyone who has a brain knows what you meant. I am terribly sorry to hear of all the trials you are going through at this time. It is so refreshing to have the emails that you send out daily. This is the way I can keep on path with my son’s bipolar disorder. Just want you to know that there was no forgiveness needed and you shouldn’t have had to go through all that; and for those who blasted you, I say “Get real! Haven’t you ever made a mistake? God is the only one perfect!”
Dont worry about that, 97% people would see it was`nt you.
Take care.
Neil.
David, people on the net can sometimes use little things like this to vent their vitriol at their life frustrations, etc. You have more than adequately apologized, and as Jesus said, “let he who is without sin cast the first ston.” I would not surprised to learn that some, at least, of those who attacked you consider themselves “good Christians.” Nuff said, go on about doing the great work you do, and let the rest
pass from you….all best to your Dad, your whole family as you struggle to make life better for us all!
I just want to say that as a new member of your mailing list and someone with a loved one with bipolar I have found your emails uplifting. I’m with you we all make mistakes. Thank you for want you do I for one really appreciate you time.
Hi Dave… For the amount of work you do for this site I am surprised you can even remember your own name lol. Thank you for all the information you have given us on bi-polar. You are a God send.
I see no reason for you to apologize. Both of those prayers are GREAT prayers and spoken many times by Christians. To err is human, to forgive is truly Divine. Your simple mistake harmed no one and those who have been hard on you about it, knew the difference. They could have and should have just let it go. I sometimes call my children by each others’ names. They know that I know the difference. Thank you for just being here for us and doing your part to help others.
Hi Dave!
Thank you for the letter. I can identify with your mistake and stress. I support a 19 year old daughter with Bipolar Disorder, a wonderful wife who struggles to survive the after effects of treatment and surgeries for multiple cancers, and I have Major Depression and Generalized Anxiety Disorder. I must take care if me to insure I can care for my family. I make way to many mistakes and struggle to manage my family and limited income and medical needs. You do amazingly well in all your work. I wish I was as effective/successful in all my efforts as you are and have been.
God bless you.
John (If you use my email for anything please don’t use my name.)
Hi Dave,
Every one is human and makes mistakes!
I just want to thank you for all the fantastic
email that you send out to me.
It is a big help to me, because I suffer from
ptsd,and bipolar.
I look forward each day from you.
So look!! No one in this world is perfect, so don’t
let this thing bring you down.
Sorry to hear about your father, you and your family
are in my prayers.
Every day is a new day! we slip from our words!
We fall on our knees, and on our hands.
We may get dirty from the fall! What do we do
with all this?
We get back up! And dust our hands,and knees
there may be pain for a short while.
We heal our marks that may had been from our fall.
Stand up and walk forward, don’t look back.
Take Care, Dave,Thank You,
Loretta, 🙂
Dave, I am sorry your were attacked for a simple human error. I have done “silly” things like that. Yes, it can be hurtful, but I hope you will take the time to get some decent rest. Thanks for all you do!
David , Yes we all make mistakes and that was a mistakebut nobody should gripe at you for it because I’m sure that God does. So if they can’t than they are worse than those that make mistakes.
David, I am sorry that you have had to do all this for a simple mistake. As well as being bi-polar, I have fibromyalgia, and I constantly make mistakes saying one thing and meaning another. Most people don’t even let it become an issue. Those people that attacked you and made comments aren’t even worth worrying about. You provide us with a great service, and I don’t ever want you to worry about making mistakes like that….it happens to everyone.
Peace, love and prayers your way.
the person netpickin dose have bi-poler to come plane about that as much time you give to help all of us they need to get alife for shore!
“People do make honest mistakes, and when they do, we have to forgive them.”
Forgiveness is a gift that we can give to each other.
When “have to..” statements are made people are often turned off. You normally have such a soft delivery.
Maybe it would be a good time to think about the words that you use and how they may be coming across to your readers. I really enjoy your emails. Thank you for the information and for your insight. I would think most people just wanted you to know about the titles being changed and nothing more. Your readers just wanted you to acknowledge the facts. When I get things mixed up I want people to let me know. I don’t think anyone’s forgiveness was needed. I think just an acknowledgement would have been fine.
Dave, I dismissed it as i read it, knowing that it was just a simple mistake. we r all human and no one is perfect. Forgiven!!! : )
WOW, give yourself a break. Any one who can get so worked up over a simple mistake, obviously has some serious issues of their own. Maybe living with someone with BiPolar has put their life in such a tizzy that they are scrambling for control and order which then comes out as perfectionism. But then again, maybe it is just too terrifying to see the “expert” make a mistake. it is all FEAR,FEAR, FEAR. The really sad part is if they are so hard on you for a simple error, just think how they are treating themselves for not being perfect. Thank you for your honesty and humanity and an important lesson about forgiveness.
Hi David:
Your apology accepted. For me there is nothing to forgive, I knew it was a simple mistake, and you would have corrected it. No big deal.
Forgiveness is certainly granted. When you can share about the reasons why you are tired as you have done, it is most certainly understandable regarding why the mistakes easily come. As I can see in the email above me, you certainly need prayers. Aging parents will have many needs until the Lord takes them home. I know for myself that I have a mom who lives with my sister who is the one with the health condition that you seek to minister to, only she doesn’t have web access. So I try to look here once and awhile to see if there is anything she can make use of. But she lives with my mom, and they have 24/7 care who does their best to help them with the day to day living. Plus the fact that she has to have dialasys as well three days a week, and when the weather is as it is currently the stress factors go up a bit more. She worries very easily about road conditions etc. regarding how she is able to get from point a: home to the place of the b: dialasys and then back to home once again. So that is what they are up against, as well as seeking to get the ‘disability’ aid that she is entitled to get, we have a lawyer who is presently working on that for us. It has been many years and the research needed for verification is hard to obtain in some places because that was long before computer files came out and everything was either put on microfish, or what have you for record keeping at the time. So the lawyer has his work cut out for him. Trust though that it will go well in the long run.
Dave, take care of yourself too. I was sorry to hear that so many people could be so mean. Everyone makes mistakes at some point in their life and they should be more forgiving. Thank you for all you do and all your information and time that you give. I think that people do not realize when you have a mission or a cause that you are working for, a ton of time goes into it and life continues on around us. With that said , I also understand as I am an abolitionist/missionary for human trafficking. I could work 24/7, but then my family still needs me too. So with that said, take a health day or some time out for you. Thank you again for all your support. Celeste
I can really appreciate your character in apologizing for wording/miswording the prayer title. As for myself and working in the ministry forgiveness is automatic. I’ve never been perfect or blameless. I’ve made really terrible mistakes, and forgive has been given easier when my character compelled me to amend the situation as quickly as possible.
I applaud you!
Antonio Sanders
Texas
Dave:
I noticed Your mistake and thought, He must have his mind on other things and just let it slip by as a human mistake. I donot think that You didn’t know the differance. I know You know what it is like to have to deal with Bi-polar disorder. I thank You for Yor well thought out letters of info and knowledge. I am a Bi-Polar suffer and think We all need someone who understands how others see Us .
Dave, Why did you feel the need to apologise for that? Your email makes you sound like those women who get smacked around and then apologise to the person for making them so angry. While I understand that dealing with your family is very draining and tiring, you do not need to pander to idiots because it is easier. It was a mistake, forgiveness is for when you have knowingly done something that you shouldn’t have done.
Perhaps it would be best if you took a few days off? I do not think that you are in a clear headspace. That was a very weird email and I can not understand why you were grovelling to people who don’t have anything better to do than yell at you for something that wasn’t worth worrying about.
While it is drilled into our heads to respect religion, religious people need to respect that it is a BELIEF and that not everybody is interested in sharing those beliefs. In fact, when you are bipolar and have had hallucinations and delusions while in an extreme manic state, I would say that it is quite dangerous to be around religious people and their zealous encouragement of belief in some sky fairy alien thing.
Personally, I find it very offensive that you occasionally mention spirituality when you know that your target audience is unwell people. However I have to accept that some people aren’t strong enough to cope with reality and that you only mean it in a good way.
Religious people have to return the favour. We are doing you a massive favour by tolerating prayer and religion at all, they do not have teh right to attack you for not knowing every facet of their made up doctrine.
You really disappointed me with that long email. A simple “oops, it was a typing mistake” would have been enough. There’s respect for religion and there’s being a sycophant.
don’t worry about it!!!
let’s move on to whateveers next.
David, of all the things to worry about in this world this is not the one. Those of us who have bipolar disorder and those of us like me a supporter you have been a God send with your support in e-mails. I was having a bad day when you posted it and it made me cry because it really hit home. That prayer is the perfect prayer when it comes to this. I have been struggling with this illness because my daughter has it she is 26. I pray for her to get better or at least give me just one day of peace. My family is being torn apart because of it. They don’t understand. I am her supporter. So when it comes to the lords prayer just try to accept the things you can’t understand then you might look at the world differently. Thank You Keep posting
Hi David: You are forgiven. Like you said anyone can make a mistake. We are only human. From Susan
Dave it sounds like you definately need a vacation. You need to take a break & escape.
Dave.there is no way anyone should have attacked you for that mistake as it should have been evident to them that a mistake was made. I feel that the spirit of the Lord is to forgive, attacking someone or making a mistake is not consistent with the spirit of the Lord in my view. Here is a quote from the Bible, “let he who not sinned cast the first stone,” well your apology is accepted and for those who went on the attack, remember, you too will and have made many mistakes and will again. You’ll want to be forgiven for all of them.
Dave
Dave,
For real you are too hard on yourself!!! U help people everyday. I would probably still would be lost with a house on my head if it wasnt for your research, I would not have been able to teach my how to fight the beast. I did read somewhere “Do not expect me to take you advise and ignore your example.” It was on a wall at a school. Get some rest Dave!! Love you, God Bless!
karen
David don’t get too upset-you do a wonderful job and like everyone make a mistake now and again.Under your circumstances I think it’s wonderful you still send out emails which are greatly appreciated.Though I do think you should have a rest and look after yourself and don’t overdo it.Thanks for your emails which help a lot of people.
Dave,
I am tired look how many mistakes I just made in that brief paragraph!!LOL
karen
Dave you have helped me more than I can say with your daily emails. I am a supporter. Keep those emails coming.
I knew you didn’t make that mistake on purpose. And very sure you knew the two prayers. Keep up the good work. Alice
Dave,
Both your parents are so very fortunate to have a son
like you, bless them for raising you the right way.
No need for apology. There are a lot of mean, cruel and
unhappy people out there trying to force their negative
attitude around any way they can to whoever happens to cross their path that day. I know, I have such neighbors. Obsessive compulsive Alwaysright Lunatics.
They just have and create issues looking for attention.
Everywhere, in everything, with nothing else to do but
waste time, energy and spread venom. All in one day!
Only the best get criticized so continue on with your
compassion and ability to help the rest of us keep hope
and faith living with difficult bipolar circumstances.
Caring for aging parents is very stressful and demanding. Yet you make time for all of us still.
Thank you for all you do so well. REST when you can
and God bless. You truly are a breath of fresh air.
Dave,
Let it go…critical people need to calm down. You do so much for so many people!!! I’m glad to know that you can make a mistake, makes you more human. Hope your father is doing better. We appreciate all that you do!!!
Katie
Dave,
When we pray to our heavenly father, he does not keep count of the name of the prayer but rather what is in our heart. Our heavenly father wants us to pour out our problems to him, speak to him, and he will listen.
I look forward to the promise in the bible where it states, “No resident will say I am sick” what a wonderful blessing that will be.
Dave,
Don’t sweat the small stuff. It really is no big deal. I am sure that there are those that would attack for such a mistake. They are wounded, hurting people who lash out when offended. We are all broken in one way or another. Not an excuse just a reason. Forgive them and move on. You made a simple error and they reacted poorly. Everyday stuff.
Thanks for all you do.
hi,just so you know we are human and we do make mistakes all the time,apoligize once is good enough for me because your news letter is important to alot of people
thanks for being here for us and i hope your father is doing good my prays are with you and your family
if you don’t make any mistakes you are not trying hard enouph. totaly forgiven
Dave,
Thanks for the letter. I hope your father and you both are doing better. Don’t worry about it. It was a small, human, error and at least you care enough to try to help people deal with bi-polar. Remember it is always easier for someone to be critical rather than for someone to actually be helpful.
Hello Let me say big deal, what if a person reading was a none christian, i know i have a problem i fell in love with a women 2 years ago and never met her family,but her mother on the the phone tells me she her daughter is bipolar so now for two years she comes and goes out of my life i am disabled with major depression and every time she comes back to my life and leaves i suffer all over again,and blame myself,and take it out on myself.I hurt my family with this action i have tried to listen to your tapes and they help me cope a little bit, but my thoughts or always on what i did so wrong for her to leave over and over again with out even a phone call i have sent her money in the past i am so depressed today i want to feel better please help me, so if what you do is help people like me maybe i am bipolar too.i don’t know, don’t worry about your mistake,keep up your good works our higher power is all forgiving and people are not if this helps good,keep up your good works.
Dear Dave,
Thanks for the apology email. Sorry, too, if I came across too judgementally; it was not intentional.
I’ve had to forgive my bi-polar mate for a few things, even for something that I once thought was ‘unforgivable’. Your mistake doesn’t even come close to comparing to the help you give. My girl had a support group with other bi-polars yesterday and I was bragged about as being a very supportive mate. She even mentioned the things I learn from you and apply to our relationship. I felt good and appreciated. She is working hard and getting better. She is also working the steps with a sponsor and we say both prayers all the time at meetings. I got the point of the message you were giving and didn’t think twice about the little mistake. Apology not needed, but accepted. Hope you feel better for it.
Too much on too little. Dave Friend, lets move on.
any one who don,t make mistakes isn,t human there pretending.
I have never written to you before but really felt the need to now… as most others responded- this was just a mistake- no one should be blasted for, you do a wonderful thing supporting those in need- and over the past year I have felt much encouragement from these e-mails… please keep up the good work, and thank you for really an unnecessary but well worded apology! God bless you and your family!
Dave, Do “those” who called you out on this, I offer just 1 thing: Small things, for small minds. Move on and be real!
HELLO DAVE!! I HAVE BEEN OFF WORK SICK. PLEASE,DO NOT FRET ABOUT A SIMPLE ERROR,EVERYONE MAKES THEM.ME INCLUDED.MANY THANKS FOR ALL YOUR WORK!! AND I PRAY YOUR DAD IS OKAY. MY DAUGHTER IS BI-POLAR AND IN SEVERE DENIAL.SO LIFE HAS BEEN STRESSFUL/CHALLENGING, MY PRAYERS GO OUT TO YOU AND YOURS.MANY THANKS.GAIL ZULE
David we all make mistakes,to err is human…to forgive is divine!!!! Why would some be so upset & judgemental because of a honest mistake. Your writungs have been a God send to me!!! I do not think you received my e mail,regarding my son who suffered with bi polor disorder,dying suddenly on Dec.3,2010. My loss is very great & your writings/teachings on bi polor disorder,still help me understand what my son suffered with,& his fight to overcome the cross be had to carry! He leaves behind his little 4 years old daughter,please remember her in prayer. She misses her Dada so very much,as do I. My goal & focus is to keep Henry’s memory alive in her little broken heart! Henry lives on in my beautiful grand daughter! God will bless you abundantly over & over for your good works!
Hi,
You are totally forgiven. Life is not perfect. Anyone having a problem with this mistake has issues. God bless you.
Gyn Aleman
Dear David, I was so surprised that you even had to apologize for such a small error. What I’d like to know is did these people who attacked you, did they even get the message you wrote in this blog? I’d say apparently not! Let this go, for sure! Thes people will just have to “Get over it!” Our favorite line! I’m kidding! See it’s over! Keep up the fantastic work you’re doing!
David, yes we all make mistakes. I hope this does not cause you too much grief. I have enjoyed your emails for so long that i wouldnt think of even making your mistake an issue. we all want the best for you. we all know the difference between the prayers and to question you is a little rediculous as i am sure you would have caught it yourself had you been given a chance. So carry on with your wonderful work and let it roll off your shoulders. Jeannie
David, we never apologize for god..whether he wants us to have serenity or daily bread for that day.As I say to my bipolar daughter, you notice it, itsn’t that great and tell her the same thing as I just saud to you. Never apologize for God. Keep the good letters comming in.. It is our faith that keeps us going with our love ones with this disorder of Bipolar. God Bless
No worries here David….it takes a lot more to offend me like that…so no worries, and like you said you are human…it was an innocent accident, so all is good here with me 🙂
Christina.MacDonald168@gmail.com
I can not imagine why that was a big deal to anyone. Who cares what the label is…a prayer is a prayer and no one should be so picky about labels. Bipolar…manic-depressive==labels, but much the same thing. Hugs, love and peace to you. Do not sweat the small stuff.
You know Dave I’m sorry that you went through this. I didn’t even noticed what you did and I guess being bi-polar was just something that I missed. Besides I’ve been working on my problems this past week. You need not worry. Its all ok in my books.
We (my wife & I) are issuing you a pass on this one. It was a simple mistake, not meant to offend anybody. Compared to the good work you do on a DAILY BASIS, one could hardly fault you for this mere pittance of a mistake, commonly referred to as a “brain fart”.
BTW: The Serenity Prayer is also known as The Desiderata.
Love ya,
Claude & Cindy McCaffrey
I just love your humility-so encouraging in a world where people find it so hard to apologise and so many take offense. I am so blessed by you. Please keep on being yourself.
No problem at all
Dave,
We all mnake mistakes and it sounds like you have a pretty full plate, so it is understandable. I know what it is like to have to help take care of a parent. I lost my father to cancer 1 year ago Thanksgiving. So don’t sweat it. The good Lord knows that you know the difference. So that is all that matters.
I just wanted to say, as someone with bi-polar and as a human, you need to avoid the stress of taking on so much guilt. I know that we are susceptible when our loved ones are suffering, but you don’t need that much stress. Please don’t heap guilt on yourself. You made a typo and corrected it. Its all good. Please take care of yourself.
just read about the mix-up. the only perfect one is JESUS. so we r just human and make mistakes. i sometimes are thinking one thing and say/do the other. so don’t sweat it. have a good day today! just trying to get some stuff done.
Dave,
Don’t sweat the small stuff. I think that making mistakes is what makes up human – Please continue to ”
Be Human” and know that this is not the only error you have made or will ever make. My motto has always been: If you are not making mistakes you are not trying hard enough. The info you send out has saved my sanity on more than one occasion so please keep on going.
Dave – You have brightened my day countless times when I felt so isolated and such a failure handling my daughter’s bipolar condition.
Please keep up the great work. Remember, we are all human.
Anyone who cannot accept a mistake and move on must have other issues in their lives that drive them to take their anger out on others.
The serenity prayer is very helpful.
Keep shining your light!
Barbara
Dave,
All I can say is Thank you for all that you do. Your emails hit home so often and are so very helpful. I can’t even believe that people are so judgemental and quick to point out others errors. Like you said “we are all human and make mistakes.” Anyone with a brain would have known what you meant and that it was an honest mistake. Keep up the great work. I really really admire the work you are doing. Don’t know where you find the strength and time! I would love to do the work you are doing. I’m a supporter of a 26 y/o son. Please contact me if there is ever any work that I could do to help! Sincerely, Terri
you’re fine dude. no sweat. take care of YOU!
What a fuss! There are good people and you are one of them. An honest mistake from someone like you needs little if any apology. Not so sure of the people that are making a big deal of this. Strength to your elbow!
Irene
Hi Dave,
Thanks for all the wonderful emails. Please don’t stress over your mistake. Those who attacked you were probably just having a bad day and needed to make someone else miserable too. Why, even in the Lord’s Prayer we ask for forgiveness as we forgive others. Indeed, if we cannot forgive, then it would be impossible to obtain forgiveness. So, David, keep up the encouraging emails. I certainly benefit since I have two family members affected with tis mental illness.
Sharon I.
Hi Dave,
I’m sorry it took so long for me to respond. My life has seemed a little frazzled lately. Please forgive the person who wrote such an absolutely unkind note to you about the prayer name. I can’t believe that either God or Jesus would be angry or even have a second thought about the name of a prayer! But then, too, I am a Buddhist.
Happy Valentine’s Day! Your advice is very comforting to me and to many others. Thank you.
Virginia
Dear Dave, wow, I can’t belive that people are so quick to condem someone like you who has been a blessing to me and many, in the year that I have been reading your messages you have helped to understand my boyfriend with bipolar and although he is very, very difficult at times he is also a good person that is hurting and doesn’t know how to fix himself. Every time I feel like giving up on him I read you newsletter and I feel Hopefull for one more day. And for that I Thank You, Dave
Keep the good job up Dave it was just a mistake people need to realize that this is my first time responding been dealing with my husbands bipolar wandering what to do but no money i tried him on abilify it just made him a nervous reck and he started pulling his hair out we told the doctor he said he couldn’t do anything about it so he went to his psych dr he took him off it then put him back on seroquil that makes him sleepy and kick his legs all night n he don’t even take it bcuz of those symptoms they even put him on lamictal it doen’t help that he don’t take it so he went to his therepist and told him he wants to try zyprexa and clamzepam and also stay on lamictal and the adderall and be taken off the seroquil i don’t kno how much i can take with these drs i swear they take their own meds i pray to god this is going to work on top of bipolar my husband is add adhd and ocd 🙁 any one have advice???
To Olivia and also briefly to Dave!
Sorry, today I am pressed for time so I’ll be brief. Dave, you have NOTHING to apologise for! I cannot believe the mountain out of a molehill people have made of a tiny mistake. We are all blessed to have you, and what you do in our lives! Keep up the good work.
Olivia, my husband has bipolar, plus other disorders like ADD, a little OCD, and two others I strongly suspect but haven’t yet asked his doctor about. He has been through a bunch of doctors while being hospitalised 3 times for weeks at a time. Each put him on different things most of them made him much worse. He now sees a wonderful doctor who has him on only ONE medication (lamotrigine/lamictal) but it took a while to “kick-in”. I honestly believe your husband should not be on Adderall – it made my husband way worse (I have read it is NOT good for bipolars) and did NOT help his ADD. 5mg a night of Zyprexa helped my husband until the lamictal kicked in (at 100mg). Sorry I’m in such a hurry, I will continue this for you tomorrow.
My best to you Olivia, kindest regards, Carol.
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