Hi,
How’s it going?
I hope you are doing well.
I wanted to tell you about something. It’s a book I read last night.
Last night I went to my book shelf and decided to read something new. I have a ton of books. I buy them all over the place. Sometimes in libraries I go to, they give away books or sell them.
I have about 10 book cases of books.
Well anyway, I grabbed a book at about 12:00pm called:
The Luck Factor by Dr. Richard Wiseman.
This is an EXCELLENT book. I HIGHLY recommend you get it. You can get it at Amazon, local book store or from the library (I checked online and a number of libraries I have access to have it.)
This book really should be required reading for everyone on the planet. I am not kidding.
What’s it about? It’s about why some are lucky and unlucky. The book actually teaches anyone how to be lucky. It sounds crazy but it’s true.
The information in the book is step by step. I have been doing a lot of what it’s said for many years and it’s why I get a lot done.
One of the concepts in the book is “Expect Good Fortune.”
The book talks about how lucky or successful people expect to be lucky and successful and that’s one major key.
Now you might think, “Dave, what the heck? That’s really dumb, if I was lucky I would expect good things to happen. What’s wrong with you today?”
Hold on. Let me explain.
The book talks about how before people were lucky, they expected to be lucky and this expectation caused a lot of luck to happen.
It’s an entire book and the guy really explains it well. Get it and read it for further explanation.
But here’s the key thing with bipolar disorder.
When I first started with my mom, I expected good fortune and I expected my mom would get better, become stable and it would all work out.
There was absolutely no question in my mind this would happen. Isn’t that odd that I would think this way after more than 35 years of it not being this way?
For some reason, I think I was too dumb to know how hard it was going to be. I looked at it as a project and I am good at projects. I just thought, “Hey, this is another project and I will knock this project out like I knock all projects out.”
No matter what the situation was, I expected it would work out.
My mom was in massive d.ebt, and I expected that she would pay it all off. I expected that I would find or make a system to make that happen. People around me thought I was out of my mind.
I was thinking about this concept in the Luck Book and thinking about how I helped my mom. Then I was thinking about everyone I know who does well with bipolar disorder.
ALL these people expect good things about their bipolar disorder. They expect they will find and have good doctors. They expect they will be able to manage bipolar disorder. They expect they will find people who understand their bipolar disorder.
They basically expect it will all work out for the best. They do what the book says to do, which is expect good fortune.
Now, I know a TON of unsuccessful people with bipolar disorder. They do a ton wrong but the one thing that stands out the most is they do NOT expect good fortune. They actually expect bad fortune. They expect massive side effects from their medications. They expect doctors won’t want to help them. They expect no one will understand them. They expect life will always be very difficult.
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Of all the success stories I found, and there’s a lot in these course, expecting good fortune was critical for people. Whether the person was a bipolar supporter or bipolar survivor.
I ask you, what are your expectations and what do you think of this concept? Agree or disagree?
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That book is not a new concept. Have you herd of the secret?
Get it, read it watch it belive it.
The world and everything in it is energy and we attract what type of energy we think.
Think possitive about anything and that is what you will get. Think negitive and thats what you will get.
It is the laws of attraction and it works!
Greetings- Hats off & you do a cool service here, for certain, but… ‘luck’?? ‘Scuze me, but don’t believe in it,’star-destinies’, soothsayers, or the cup o’ tealeaves. I believe in faith, in Absolutes, Divine Intervention & Purpose. Left off ‘luck’ factor about age 9. As for faith, it kicked in & kicked butt in a Way that I know that I know through experience, prayer, & certainty. You lost me on this one pal; I just hope more people who seek REAL changes in their troubles & in their life, will cease fooling around w/ faith like they’re fooling around w/ ‘luck’, & begin to take prayer & God seriously… for starters; one doesn’t qualify ‘luck’ outta’ one side of your mouth & then try to qualify Almighty God & our Lord Jesus outta’ the other side of the mouth- God will not leave that option open, I can promise you friend- Godspeed- Larry Changes
You re so right!
I know that what ever you can conceive you can achieve.
If you think of good or great things you bring it into existence.
Life is boring, but it’s up to use to make things happen.
If we can really know that our past do not determine our future
we can move on in a more productive and powerful way.
One of my favorite affirmation is:
I forgive myself for all the mistakes that I have made in the past
and I blame no one.
All my mistakes were stepping stones to get me where I am today,
and they shall be my stepping stones for my success tomorrow.
Being in a depressive state can alter our thinking process and have us wanting to give up but, we must realize that if we just hold on and know that what ever may come our way, we have a choice to how we decide to deal with the actions we take.
Staying positive in the mist of an episode can teach us how to deal with the negative emotions we feel and teach us that we are truly blessed/lucky in so many ways that we don’t even realize.
We can’t let our minds become idle and drift in to a point of no return.
because an idle mind is the devils play ground.
So we must choose to utilize our creative thinking mechanism to keep us
afloat, and ready to challenge the constant negative voices that are in our head, or from other people. we must work hard to understand and prove that we have a purpose in life and we must fight the powers that be, to make sure that we do fulfill our purpose.
Today, I decide that I will have a good Day!
And I know that I will because the laws of the universe makes it so.
FOR REAL!
Oh please, not more new age woo-woo crap about the “laws of attraction.”
This stuff cycles out in a book every 3-4 years and believe me, it is no “Secret.” The only secret is why anyone would pay money for something so silly.
Do we live in a culture where people think live 6 year olds? Unfortunatetly, it appears we do.
Hope all of you with bipolar disorder receive the help you need and just keep the faith-I believe in the power of prayer! I live with a man who is bipolar and have a an adult son who is high functioning autistic. Last summer I was told that I have clinical depression and now they say I may be bipolar, too! All this is a lot to handle but I try not to give up on life and know there is help out there. Here in North Carolina they plan to close the state mental hospital, Dorothea Dix, which is located in the state capitol, Raleigh. Most of the patients they see there live in Wake county where the hospital is located-doesn’t make any sense?! I will have to look for the book-love to read too-we go hiking at Raven Rock-only four miles away.
absolutely a positive outlook can help a positive outcome!
Well, I don’t know about religion and ‘luck, ‘but I do think that those who think negatively will only get negativity. Whereas, those who are motivated and think positively will get positivity.
I can think that is true in my own life. When I think negatively, then I do not want to take action to change. I sit in my home, feel sorry for myself and basically wish my world would go away. The opposite is true…if you think positive, then positive things happen….usually, anyway. If you do nothing, then things remain the same or even worsen.
There are occasions of ‘fate’ or ‘destiny,’ where, I believe, we have no control over the situation. Those are the things I am struggling with. The things in life in which I cannot control. It is difficult….any ideas?
Hello. I am a 30 year old mom who is bipolar, and my son is also bipolar. I just wanted to share something with everyone that popped in my head one day. I was sitting and thinking, more like pinning over our situation when it hit me. Bipolar is actually a gift that we have been given, but don’t really know how to use it yet. I thought about this for hours and after reading about how there are many successful people and intelligent people with bipolar, I now believe that more so. We have been given a major gift here. We can know how to use it, we just have to learn as much as we can about it, and do necessary steps to help ourselves.
As you say – I believe we make our OWN luck. I’ve got a massive tax debt that WASN’T my fault – but I’m not dithering over it and hoping it will go away. No – I’m being proactive – going to the right people who say they can help me. I have to leave my condo in about 5 months, so I’ve found an apartment to lease. My pain medicine wasn’t working – I had doubled my dose of morphine (not good), so I asked my Pain Specialist for the Fentanyl patch – and I got it!
Yes, as one of my psychiatrists said – and it made a lot of sense to me then – we have CHOICES, and how we cope with outside influences – especially the ones we have control over – determines what happens to us. It’s the occurrences that are OUT of our control that bother me.
Larry – you are soooo RIGHT! I believe in an Almighty God, who won’t test us beyond our endurance. He is there when we call on Him – in prayer or meditation – and gives us the peace only He can give us. I may be the only person on the planet who HASN’T read “The Secret,” because the MAIN “SECRET” is God. I, too, don’t believe in “New Age” concepts; they’re only “Old Age” maxims in new clothing.
May God bless you all real good, and open your eyes to new possibilities.
Good luck, bad luck? Positive or negative outcomes? Surely it’s all about what we expect we will see, not what actually is the case. We have a psychological, a perceptual scotoma whereby we have a blind spot for things that are lucky, or unlucky, depending on whether or not we see the glass as being half empty or half full. So, if you think you are unlucky, you will only see when you are unlucky and not acknowledge good luck when it comes your way. But if you think you are lucky you will see all the times you are lucky and not not register the unlucky events as being unlucky.
But the difficulty with this positive-thinking for someone who is BP and depressed, or for anyone who is depressed, is that it’s near impossible to think positively! And it only drags them further down it, when in such a state, some bright-eyed and bushy-tailed supporter or therapist says, “You should think more positively…” because this kind of comment is akin to the other dreadfully destructive “Pull yourself together” advice! Someone who is very depressed is incapable of thinking positively, so telling them they should be thinking that way just reinforces their negative self-image because they think they should think positively but can’t!
HOWEVER, negative thinking is habit-forming. So, if you spend months in a depressed and negative state, when you come out of the depression, it is highly likely you will still think negatively. And thinking too negatively can cause a reactive depression … which in turn can cause an endogenous one or trip off a fresh BP episode.
But supporters, please remember, it’s no good telling someone they should be lifting a heavy weight if they have a broken arm. Tell them that when the bone is fixed. Similarly, don’t tell your BP loved one to think positively when they are flat in a depression. Wait until they are out of it because, like the guy with the broken arm that’s mended, only then do they have a chance of being more positive, or lifting those weights.
Dave your advice all makes sense, BUT I am a woman living in a small
midwestern town and I’m lucky to even have a Dr who specializes in Bipolar Disorder. I had to drive 80 miles just to find one that will listen to
me. My Therapist has moved and I will not have him after august. I will
have a differant one then, If they replace him. So far this year my husband’s health insurance covers my situation, It’s Still Very expensive though with
the co payments, meds etc. I don’t know what next year will bring. Or if This will be covered at all. Fighting the insurance companies themselves is
Depressing! I don’t know what your mom’s age is, but I just turned 60 in
May. I had to quit the job I was working due to the stress it involved and due to Austio Arthritis I am limited to alot of things. I Cannot afford your courses. No Matter what.
I have a daughter 49 yrs old. She has been”diagnosed” as a Bi polar
person. However she was a drug user for 20 years and was rebellious
in her early teens. I have three other children, oldest is 53,43 and 40
respectively. Probably all of used drugs on a limited basis, but the daughter is the only one that was fired after 23 yrs on her job has had who knows how many abortions, and goes around in circles, clutters the house and blames her condition on a thyroid condition. she has a 11 yr old
soon to be 12 yr old son that I ‘saved’ from abortion.
My point is you have to have the “patient” agree that here is a problem before you can treat it. I have been married for 53 yrs to the same woman
and she has always been a clutter person. But it wasnt until I read some of your material that I beleive she fits the profile for Bi Polar personality. she would never agree that she has a problem and I am 76 yrs old. I have considered leaving the entire mess, But I have not been able to pull the trigger. Number one is my Grandson, and he is beginning to manifest the same traits as his mother, but I believe these are learned behaviours.
Anyway I dont have a positive outlook that I will ever effect a change in either my wife or my daughter because they will not take any mediciation or seek counsel. Every problem they have has been caused by someone else.
Hello, David, Thanks for all the information. I enjoy your sunny manner. My fiance is a very fortunate man and says that he is lucky but I notice he is constantly thanking God and talking about how grateful he is for all his blessings, including me. I suspect that gratitude is a huge factor in “luck”
I do believe in positive thinking but people make their own luck. Things happen that are out of your control sometimes. My partner is bipolar and lost his 4 year old son due to a problem with undeveloped lungs. Is that bad luck? Do you think if my partner had “thought lucky” his son wouldn’t have died? Of course not.
I just wanted to make one comment also on your “Please Let Me Know” email. I do not want to fill in your recommendation form, just make a comment. If you have received a “tremendous response except from three people” why would you question yourself? You lecture about positive thinking and then allow three people – who may have mental health problems and not actually view things very clearly – to make you doubt yourself. Saying that one adverse message “made you feel bad” is juvenile and it’s passing control of your emotions to someone who you don’t even know! YOU control how you feel. Other people make statements, YOU control how you react to them.
I’m afraid that comments like that, and pleas for “tell me how wonderful I am” messages make me doubt that your courses are worth spending money on. As with many people supporting a bipolar spouse (whose work pattern can be irregular) money is very tight and a choice between paying bills to keep a roof over our heads and buying your course is an easy choice to make.
It is also a shame that there are adverts for your courses in every single message you send out.
I just found out about having bipolar disorder, I just knew that something is keeping me in one spot, and not letting me finish what ever I start. I didn’t know what it is for all this years, and I was fighting with opiates, didn’t know better. Of course, we all are masters of our own destiny, no one can make me not to see how highly we are responsible about ourselfs.
I decided long time ago that I am lucky. And I am. And that is what I am expecting from life, strenght to keep up my hopes.
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