Hi,
I have some good news and some bad news related to getting
help with your loved one’s bipolar disorder from me.
Okay, here’s the situation. I have been getting
tons and tons of letters in the mail, emails, phone
calls, even on my cell (I have no idea how people
get my number), faxes and boxes of material
from people needing help.
I spend a great deal of time with people on the
phone helping them. Especially those that fill
out my f.ree bipolar help certificates (for
NON medical and NON legal questions because I am
NOT a doctor, therapist, lawywer, accountant,
etc.) in my
courses/system.
With everything, I respond to of people. But now I am getting
to the point where there is so much, it’s beyond
what any one person can do.
I have to say this, for direct access to me, you
are going to have to get my courses/systems.
Why? Well, if you do, it’s easier to talk to someone
that has and has a background. This speeds things along
because all the answers are already in my material.
So if you want help right away, you can fill out a
consultation certificate that comes with one of these
courses/systems below:
SUPPORTING AN ADULT?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11
SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com/
HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net/
THERE IS A CATCH.
You MUST go through the material before filling
out the f.ree consultation certificate. Why? Is
it because I am mean and want to be a pain? NO.
It’s because that means these things will go
much faster I don’t have to reexplain what I
have already taught in the material.
Now I know I will get some hate mail saying
I am evil, mean, God is going to get me,
I am going to Hell, so on and so forth
but I have to have a life. I can’t spend
all day taking calls, reading letters and
emails or I will have no life. I do more
than 99% of people in mental health. I send
a daily email that takes more than one hour
to write a day. I have tons and of material,
a lot for free on bipolar disorder.
When I was getting started and needed help,
there was no way for me to talk to anyone
who really knew what they were talking about.
I could pay doctors and therapists but they
didn’t have practical strategies to help
my mom. So I had to invent them.
These days, with almost 100,000 people on my
list, I can’t help everyone all the time. It’s
impossible. So I am writing to let you know
this.
I think the guaranteed access system I have
is fair.
I hope you understand.
Dave
Hey Dave,
I for one do not think you should go to the devil for handling your business. I think those who have the money to buy your information are very serious about getting help. I feel sorry for those who can not afford to buy it at this time but I do notice you send out daily letters with bits of useful information to try to help them as well. I see one man trying his hardest to give his life’s lessons with bi-polar to others but unfortunately your only one man and you can not help all. That you even try says a lot. It is overwhelming and trying and I think most people forget you have to deal with a bi-polar person yourself even though you talk about your mom in almost every email. You’re the spark of a small candle trying to light the way for all… but the only way to really turn night into day is for everyone to draw from your light and pass it along. In other words not try to snuff yours out but to draw from your success and them themselves become successful. Head up dear Dave…your doing fine.
Dave,
I say kudos to you for putting your foot down. It must be very difficult to have so many people needing your help all the time. Everyone needs “me time”, especially someone who spends so much time helping others. I wish you well, and enjoy some time for yourself!!!
hello i really don’t know if my husband or any of our children have bipolar but i do and they have some of the feelings, problems,and thoughts. Well i was told i have Bipolar (paranoia, anxiety, post tramatic disorder, deppresion. (mood swings) I was being treated for manic deppresion, anxiety, parinoed dellusion. I am constantly argueing with in myself about stuff. But i feel that i am going through it real real bad this time. But the thing is i don’t like to be around everybody i don’t trust people can’t barely deal with take my kids to school and stuff like that. i’m at the point to were i rather stay in my house in my room i feel safe that way. because if i don’t want to see people if i don’t want too.
“ITS A SAFETY ISSUE I FEEL SAFE LOCKED INSIDE MY HOUSE NOT OUTSIDE MY HOUSE IN THIS EVIL PLACE WE CALL OUR WORLD”
How do I regain the trust that I have lost?? I have tried what you have gone over in your course. I lost the closeness that I had with my husband and 2 sons and friend. I feel like a out sider in my own family. I am the one that pulls the family together usually.
Help….
How do I regain the trust in the people I know?? I have tried the ways you describe in the course. I have lost the closeness of my husband and 2 sons and friends. I feel like a outsider in my own family. I am usually the one that pulls the family together..
DeAnn
marie and aksugars,
I want to say that you have already taken a huge step by just recognizing what you’re feeling. “Locking your self away” is not going to help your recover. If anything it will make it harder to climb out of your self induced isolation. I myself have to fight depression and at times I wonder if I too have bi-polar like so many in my family. When I feel myself slipping I fight hard with myself to get up, get out and change things up a bit. Taking a walk even if just a half a block helps. Sitting outside and making myself be quite helps. What helps me the most is knowing I am in charge of my own thoughts my own actions and not letting depression pull me under. I think of my kids and how my silence and with drawl hurts them. I picture myself happy and tell myself “SNAP out of IT!” They NEED you! I see myself in the kitchen cooking or taking them to the park or the dollar movies and then I MAKE myself do what I envisioned doing. It is HARD it is so very hard but I tell myself I can not fail. The only sure way for me to fail is to just sit here, lay here and do nothing. When I feel like I can’t give anymore not to anyone I make myself give. Something small something insignificant in the scheme of things but you would be surprised what that small thing can do for your family. It being a back rub for a tired hubby or hot brownies when the kids get home. Don’t lose hope but most of all don’t lose faith in your self. You can do it. YOU CAN DO IT.
Dear Dave !
One should never be afraid to do what he thinks is right for him and others. You have created a service that is in constant evolution… As far as I am concerned it is quite successful
and will continue to be for many years to come.
The ajustments on the way are necessary because there is always a better way…
Great and good leaders know instintively the path to follow…
one as the choice… Do not be distract by the limitations of your ability, on the contrary recognise the specificity of your skills in helping others in your field; bipolar (PMD)
I beleive you are in the right mouvement of forward, you are only starting, your movement will bring you to unexpected horizons providing you keep somme time for yourself !
Bonne chance Dave, bon succès !
Pierre Charles
This, I tried to email you but I don’t think you received it. Please, David… Please read this?? ………………..
Note to David Oliver’s Blog… May 1, 2007
My Dear Friend, David,
Altho I don’t write back to you, I “NEED” your emails !!! Today, I found a paragraph:
( stability equation includes:
medication, therapy, sleep, exercise, NOT eating
fast foods or food with sugar, listening to calming
music before bed, church, NOT talking to friends with
problems, working, NOT watching mindless TV programs
and there are several other things.
She MUST do all these things. MUST. MUST. MUST. It’s
not an option.)
This is a blessing from “above” and one I intend to read, and do my best to follow, or near to it.
I have NOT had any MAJOR episodes in, I’ll say, Years. So, David, just KNOW that you ARE doing a GREAT JOB..in ALL your work.
God has Blessed you, David, and all that are helping you now, that you have…….. OHH WOW. I am soooo emotional right now and can’t find the right words to express what I want to write… lol.. THANKYOU, THANKYOU. THANKYOU..
Note: I’m 74, still married to my first LOVE,”STILL”, after 54 years. Raised a family of 6, now, adult children, and some are bipolar also.
Love Ya, David….
Keep up the EXCELLENT WORK !!!!
Phyllis
( phylliskop@hotmail.com )
…………….
Again, GOD BLESS YOU and all that help You get your emails out to us every day…
Phyllis
Who and what is “The Leverage Group?”
This entire endeavor (including those “personaized” emails that have an awfully contrived feeling) is about making a buck from desperate people.
It’s too bad desperate people are naive and that there are those that prey upon them.
All this information is available from a good support group and the public library.
Amanda…in those short words you managed to call everyone who has bought anything from Dave desperate, then you called the desperate people naive. If indeed you have knowledge to share or words of encouragement to give then lets here that. Not your insults and attacks.
Well said Gloria. I must say, some people think that people with bipolar disorder and the supporters are naive. They are not. The people on my list are super smart. Amanda is confused.
“Amanda” happens to be a psychologist with a bipolar son. You do NOT have to pay for this kind of information from me or anyone else. I refer people to FREE support groups in the community all the time. I’m a member of those groups (as a parent, not a professional).
Pay for it if you want. You do not have to.
I’m still confused about WHO is really behind “The Leverage Group.”
I continue to find the “folksy” style of a daily email that appears to be written to me personally which then hits me up for money manipulative.
Amanda Again I say IF you have a support group link you want to put here that would benefit us or IF you have words of encouragement to give or life lessons to share then please put them here. IF you have questions for DAVE then keep them privet. You disrupt OUR group when you come in attacking. It was Very rude and bad form for a professional. On a different NOTE though..
Sorry to hear about your son having bipolar and know that we all wish you the best and your son as well. I am very interested in the group you say you lead up. Is it like this where you bring up a situation and then we all talk about it? Each trying to give a little bit of encouragement and if possible examples of what we did right or wrong?
Amanda. I correct myself.. you did not say you lead them up you said your a memeber of one. Please change my questions to fit correctly.
Amanda please,
If you are satisfied with suport groups then its your choise and we will not do our udmost to convince you otherwise. If we on the otherhand choose to learn from David then it is our choice. If we buy his course then it is OUR money that we buy it with. Please respect our choice also.
David please take the doc. of your adresslist. Thank you.
Amanda please,
If you are satisfied with suport groups then its your choise and we will not do our udmost to convince you otherwise. If we on the otherhand choose to learn from David then it is our choice. If we buy his course then it is OUR money that we buy it with. Please respect our choice also.
David please take the doc. of your adresslist. Thank you.
Dear Dave,
You are absolutely correct and I intend to purchase your course material. As well, I have read through the basic material and have read it more than a few times.
It’s funny, because about a year ago, I came across YOUR material by typing in “bipolar” I don’t know how many times just to search for information relative to what the symptoms were that my fiance’ was and still is having.
I’m still trying to get my finances back on track as this is the third time this month that my fiance’ has not come home and has given all of our rent money away to strippers. He gave ALL his paycheck away and had to walk twenty-five miles to get home (if he’s telling the truth which I don’t think he is, there was glitter all over his face and his clothes were in disarray.) Look’s to me like he paid someone elses rent! So, I put his clothes in bags on the porch and made him sleep in the lawn chairs out there to let him think about getting some help. Our rent is paid weekly and it almost virtually left me homeless. Thank God, through your information and validation that you give, that I have been able to prepare myself for this, but I must say, I hadn’t even gotten the full amount together and saved as “just-in-case” money, so that if he ever did this, which he continually does and I am left to pick up pieces,..that I won’t be in the street. I can’t help him if I’m in the street with him.
Needless to say, that’s where the money went. I went on this morning to complete something that I have a deadline for, secured our place to live and got dressed and went to work. My former army training is taking over. I used to get emotional when he cheated, (which is normal, it hurts) but the difference is now, that in keeping up with reading what you are writing, I am able to discern more things than before regarding the aspects of bipolar disorder. It didn’t hit me as hard. I do realize one thing though, that I truly am alone and have no partner in life like I thought. He’s there, but he’s not there.
Instead of yelling back and forth all morning, He went on to try to understand himself (if it’s not an act as a psychopath would do)and went on to tell me that if he didn’t get right regarding me and family etc., that he would probably end up dead some where God forbid. He ends up blacked out not knowing what he’s doing and a couple of times he’s been rolled for money, he once did a hit and run and I had police in my bedroom trying to get him to answer questions. They saw his meds and asked if I wanted him baker acted (dummy-me)and because he seemed o.k. I thought I could handle him, and I did. Nothing came back on whatever he hit. It appeared to be a wall or something.
It sounds weird but I’m glad it was a wall and not a person and I’m glad that he was o.k. – I found long blonde hair in the car, ashes in the tray and he doesn’t smoke, a lighter under the driver’s seat etc. and two wet twenty-dollar bills that were crumpled, out of his approximate one-thousand dollar pay that he got that day. It appeared to me from my past investigative experience, that there was a struggle for the money of some sort. That was probably the reason for the crash. He, till this day refuses to talk about it.
A week later, he got his third D.U.I. (it sounds weird again, but) thank God they took his license for ten-years. I thanked the Judge for that. I got him the best attorney that handled his defense very well and who let the judge know of the mitigating circumstances so they were easy on him enough to keep him out of jail so that he could get the help that he needs. The problem is, if he admits to what he does he’ll end up in jail instead of getting the help he needs. the 30 days in jail made him so mentally unstable, that I had to constantly communicate with the sheriffs and as well the jail psychologist. Instead of 30 days, they let him out in 15. The risk of sexual assault was too great for him to be a victim of since one of his personalities becomes child-like and is very impressionable under the wrong influences when he’s in a manic state. So if it didn’t happen in Jail, it happened at his job where they (the one’s that he’s admitted to running with (if you know what I mean) erase his absences in order for him to keep his job but of course it’s a “quid pro quo” situation and they are fully taking advantage of him sexually by passing him around at times and they threaten me that if I call to check on him, that they’ll create a fiction and make a false report that I’m harrassing the company. He loves the attention as the child-like personality does. He comes home telling me what they plan to do to me. So, it leaves me having to get a court-order. What I have dealt with is unbelieveable, whereby now, I leave alot in God’s hands and just compile as much information as I can. I am between a rock and a hard place. Jail is not the place for him, therapy is. He’s realizing this as for the first time after last nights episode where he had to sleep on the porch with his clothes after giving all the rent money and food money away,..that he has considered TALKING about his illness and did not shout defensively. He also for the first time stated that he would finally get in touch with family after ignoring them for 14 years. I had to find his family in Maine when he had that accident. He has no-one but me. I’m prompting him to speak with his family and mine. If he does that, I do believe that there is more of a chance that he’ll accept help and can be helped. He said today, that if he doesn’t change his life, he will end up dead. Those were his words at almost 35 years old. P.S. now he says he wants to get married, whereas before, he wouldn’t hear of it. My statement to him, not until he has done the right things by himself, his and my family, and that includes getting the right treatment along with marraige counseling classes.
Marraige is sacred to me and when I say for better and for worse in sickness and in health, I mean it. I’ve been as patient as any woman could be in this situation, as the mentioned things were just the tip of all that I deal with. He’s only been diagnosed with depression. Some bipolar has depression with it. They experts know this. The problem is also that when he gets before anyone which is rare, he pretends that he’s o.k., as I have read, psychopathic people do that and the doctor’s cannot diagnose them.
The good thing that came from today is: that he finally has also realized and said, that he hasn’t loved himself enough to help himself.(so at least he’s now aware of it) and that he now knows that he’s self-destructive, he has been wanting to look for another job that will not put so much pressure on him and also, as I figure, the same people will not have access to him to help him facilitate his bad actions and enable his messing up.
He seems like he’s starting to realize that he needs help, but I’ll see…he’s lied many times just to smooth the moment over. I believe making him sleep on the porch with his clothes in bags did him good. It only took me two years to be able to get the nerve to do that. It’s hard when I am a firm believer in Romans 11 and 12. So I have to temper everything evenly and begin to be a lot more strict as to what boundaries that I cannot let him violate in my life as I have in the past. Thank you Dave, for the information that you put forward. I intend to purchase your material as soon as I can get caught up a little.
Dear Dave,
I am not having a good day today, the fact that he was with another woman is hard-hitting to me today, I’m kind of heart-broken and disappointed.
He(fiance’)is making the most lame excuses for having his cake and eating it too. It’s NOT a bipolar issue this time I’m sure.
Get this! I am about to serve the Florida Statute to these clubs all over the area; from the Alcohol, Tobacco, and Firearms Division. Chapter 562 of the Florida Statutes. It has to be served by Certified Mail accompanied with the issue at hand and an attached picture of the habitual drunkard. I told my fiance’ that if he cannot control himself from giving away all of our money and sleeping around which is a huge safety risk for me as well as himself, than I’ll have to serve this…
562.50 Habitual drunkards; furnishing intoxicants to, after notice.–Any person who shall sell,give,away, dispose of, exchange, or barter any alcoholic beverage, or any essence, extract, bitters, preparation, compound, composition, or any article whatsoever under any name, label, or brand, which produces intoxication, to any person habitually addicted to the use of any or all such intoxicating liquors, after having been given written notice by wife, husband, father, mother, sister, brother, child or nearest relative that said person so addicted is an habitual drunkard and that the use of intoxicating drink or drinks is working an injury to the person using said liquors, or to the person giving said written notice, shall be guilty of a misdemeanor of the second degree, punisheable as provided in s. 775.082 or s.775.083.
Do you know what he told me? That he would just go to another club or somewhere else to pick up women…so I said, “I’ll make a list of every club in the tri-county area and serve everyone of them” He said that that would push him “over the edge.” I guess from embarrassment.
Why is he telling me to “help him and that he doesn’t want to do stupid things like cheat and give away all our rent and food money” if he doesn’t truly want me to help?
All four times that he’s done this in the past month and a half, there has been purple glitter all over his face. That means it’s the same girl in my former investigative opinion. That also means that chances are it’s not a drunken bipolar state of mind. He’s fully aware of his need to see her. He claims that there were alot of girls that he gave money to, but than in his speech he refers to a definite “she” in his context of his sentences. He doesn’t want me to find out who “she” is… and whoever “she is,” she is not using safe methods and is taking his money for such matters. What does this tell you?
He claims that he is bored with using safe methods with me and that is why he has a need to go out and do what he is doing… Which again tells me that he has just admitted to having sex with someone else on a continual basis, unprotected. AND THEN TELLS ME THAT HE DIDN’T HAVE THOSE RELATIONS WITH ANYONE@!!!
He is not acting from bipolar, he is a man ( or lack thereof) who is cheating, and does it constantly with the same glitter wearing person, who wants me essentially to facilitate his nasty lifestyle. I told him that he’s using his illness to do what he wants, and his mouth dropped open, he was speechless. He had nothing to say because it’s true.
Furthermore, I called that club and told the management to counsel those girls on the issues of prostitution. The laws here are very strict in this county. If there is supposed to be no contact, how is it that her glitter is all over him every time?
I told the management that he is bipolar and diagnosed with depression and is not supposed to be drinking by law, and that they are to tell which ever girl it is with the glitter to stop prostituting herself. The management told me that they couldn’t do that…I said, “oh really?” If you can’t counsel your girls in a meeting, I’ll just send the Sheriff in to do it!” and I hung up. That’s all…
They all know what they are doing. Then there is 562.23 Conspiracy to violate the Beverage Law; penalty.–If two or more persons shall conspire to do any act which is in violation of any of the provisions of the Beverage Law, and one or more of such persons do any act to effect the object of the conspiracy, each of the parties to such conspiracy, if the act so conspired to be done would be a felony under the provisions of the Beverage Law, shall be guilty of a felony of the third degree, punishable as provided in s. 775.082, s. 775.083, or s. 775.084.
If I were my fiance’, I’d want all the help that I could get if I were not able to controll myself in the way of just giving ALL OF MY MONEY AWAY, when he doesn’t have much to give. He wants no help. Because he likes what he’s doing and as long as I stay, he’ll keep doing it and using his illness to have other women.
He says that this time, he really thinks he’s losing me… I told him that he has to meet conditions for me to stay, which are: to discuss all that he is telling me with a therapist while I’m there. I ask his permission to record his statements like he’s done before, but he won’t let me…
(he’s guilty of cheating and blaming it on a mental illness) if he’s not guilty and REALLY DOESN’T KNOW what he’s doing, than why won’t he let me keep him out of those areas that he’s not suppose to be in anyway? I have given him almost one year to see if he could control himself from the same tactics..he can’t. He keeps claiming that he doesn’t like those places. Seems to me that even if a bipolar person doesn’t like something…he/she would not go to what they don’t like. I mean, since bipolar people usually do only what makes them feel good for the moment, if he doesn’t like those places, what’s he doing there? There must be someone in there that he likes.
Keep in mind, there are approximately five other bars without women in them that are much closer than crossing a ten lane highway on foot. I presented that fact to him and told him to be honest, and he admitted that it was the women that made him want to go. Well, I said, if you’re not touching these women and if you’re not having an affair with the same “glitter-wearing person” why are you so busy paying her bills with our money? Seems to me that he goes because of the convenience of the hotel that is twenty feet away from the club, and it seems to me, that if it were truly just the alcohol, as he tried lying about…than there are five other normal bars right across the parking lot from his job, to go to…He’s a liar. It may be partly bipolar, but not all bipolar. mens rea…the guilty mind. At some point, before he takes his first sip, before he goes across a ten-lane highway that is almost impossible to cross, he has to want to see that girl pretty badly to risk his life, me and everything else.
I am tired of this, and as I recall, I asked him to have dinner with me that day. This time he said “no” my own man..and spent his time and money with someone else. Before he used to tell me to go get all dressed, he’d tell me to wait and he’d come home from our mutual job to pick me up, as he worked a little later than I did. Well, not many, but ALL OF THE TIMES, HE STOOD ME UP and never came home, same stuff, women, that club and more and the spending of thousands on women..Two years of this over and over. That is not bipolar, it’s premeditated and it’s cruel and it’s sadistic and masochistic behavior meant to hurt me. He once told a counselor that he hated me for being there for him and that he didn’t want to see me enjoy anything. That is not bipolar. It’s some kind of sickness, but I don’t know what.
Incidentally, when I stated that I didn’t know which personality would come out last night, he was o.k. last night. Today, I tried to get him to call his family to say Happy Mother’s Day after ten years of never calling anyone in his family. His response…Just as I said, he asked why he should waste his breath on non important things. He did finally call his Grandmother after I had to tell him that I was disgusted by his lack of respect and conscience for anyone. I told him that he needed to read the “Phsychopath Bible Book”
P.S. Dave,
I also went over some of your writings with him, so that he could see that he’s not alone in his manipulative tactics. He listened and appeared sad. See, he’s got a problem, if he’s not sick and he’s pretending to be sick, in order to keep me around…he has to put himself into therapy,
If he is really sick, he has to go to therapy. He’s stuck either way.
Dave,
I think helping to help educate others about bipolar disorder is admirable.I can understamd how frustrating it can be when there is so much need out there. I initially contacted you to see if we could help each other. My husband suicided in Dec.2002. He had bipolar disorder. Since his suicide I have founded Tom’s Hope.
Tom’s Hope for Bipolar Research seeks to financially assist individuals who are committed to finding a cure for Bipolar disorder. Aiding research, creating educational opportunities, and raising awareness of this illness will honor the man who inspired its creation, and spare others from the same pain that drove him to end his life.
As you can see in our mission statement we also desire to educate the public about bipolar disoder.In my attempts to contact to were to offer support.
Thank you for helping to bring bipolar disorder out of the closet.
dear dave i am bi polar and one of many who can not afford meds or treatment but heck keep up your good work we all appreciate it thanks much john h
Dear Dave,,
I have recently found your website and have recieved alot of help from the daily emails you send. I am a 32yo female. I have been diagnosed with bipolar disorder for a little over a year now. Although for yearsi just thought that i had multiple personality disorder…because i did not do the research. I have rapid cyclying mood swings. I go into uncontrollable rages that makes me feel like its kind of an “out of body experience. These rages leave me feeling exhausted and then into deep depression. The last BAD episode i had my husband took me straight to the emergency room. I refused to go fo course and did not go. However,,,in the last week i went into a deep depression and tried to committ suicide and break my fingers and wrists. I am VERY paranoid when i go into public. I will cuss ANYONE out in a heartbeat and think nothing of it. I admitted myself to an inpatient mental health program last week and found that the group therapys helped ALOT. More than i ever thought they would. I hear voices in my head that tells me to do bad things even as far as killing someone as i walk into walmart…which is about the only place i go. I tend to isolate myself because iknow that every where i go someone will piss me off and i will go off the deep end no matter who is standing there. I do not like people to look at me at any time and that makes the paranoia much worse when it comes to goin out into public. I have a very supportive husband and family and i consider myself very lucky for that. I know that i am not alone. My goal is to stay on my prescribed meds and take them as prescribed. Also to keep my doctor appointments. I do not like myself at all. I am starting a 6 week group therapy session at my Doctors office June 1 and am praying that i can make it all of them because i know it will help. Thanks for all that you do for so many people. I make it a point to read your emails every day. YOUR TERRIFIC! Keep up the great work!