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Hey,
How are you today? I hope you had a
good day yesterday.
I want to ask you one simple question
right now. What do you think the single
worst thing you can do with a loved
one who is NOT stable and has
bipolar disorder?
I want to you think long and hard
and then scroll down for my answer.
Don’t cheat. Guess first and then scroll.
It’s to do absolutely nothing. It’s to be paralyzed.
There is a concept that I coined call bipolar
supporter paralysis.
What to do when you experience bipolar
supporter paralysis?
I think there are two steps. You need
to get away and clear your heard. Too
many times when you are trying to help
a loved one with bipolar disorder, you
are so close and so caught up in it
that you simply can’t think of anything
that will help or work.
Where can you go?
-The movies
-A friends
-The Park
-A walk
-In your car for a long drive
-A hotel for a night
-Somewhere that’s fun and gets your mind off things
Then after you have “cleared your head”,
you make a list of potential options
to deal with the most pressing problem
at hand.
SIDE NOTE: Sometimes we get caught up
in insignificant problems like, “I am
mad at the receptionist at my loved
one’s doctor because she lost
my power of attorney form.”
That actually happen to me and
I was so mad but then I was like, “Hey
after I fix the other important bipolar problems,
I can deal with this which is not that
significant.”
So don’t get caught up in the non important
things.
Now after you have your most pressing bipolar disorder
problem, start to make a list of potential solutions.
You get a blank sheet of paper or blank sheets
of paper and you start to list potential solutions
to your most pressing problem with bipolar disorder.
HERE’S AN IMPORTANT KEY
Your list of solutions has to be immediate and
free flow. Free flow means there is no restrictions
on what you write. You just write really fast.
WARNING!!!
Do not worry about grammar, spelling, what you are
saying or even if it makes any sense.
Now after you have your list, read your list,
then go to sleep. First thing in the morning, do
the exercise again. Then read your old and new list
together before bedtime and then do the exercise
again one last time.
If you do this you will find solutions to even
your greatest problems with bipolar disorder.
This technique helps to overcome bipolar supporter
paralysis which causes people.
Now one of the things that you can do is the following.
Get the course/system that is appropriate for you
and go through the entire thing from a to z.
SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11
SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com
HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net
Then what happens is the information is stored in
your head and using this process you wind up
having solutions to problems with bipolar
disorder that previously seemed impossible.
If anyone has gotten my course/system you know
I have a doctor finding system. The way I find
doctors was the result of this process. People
laughed at me when I said what I was going to
do but for those of you who followed the system,
you know it works and it works really well. Period.
Well I have to run. Catch you tomorrow. Have a great
day.
Your Friend,
Dave
P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp
P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/
P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com
Stephen R. Covey’s The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People has been one of the best resources I have found to bring out personal strength. The first three habits bring private victory. Check it out! Habit one: Be Proactive. Habit two: Put first things first. Habit three: Start with the end in mind
My bi-polar son is in jail right now. He will not comply with treatment. It is like living with Dr. Jeckyl and Mr. Hyde. He gets violent. He has a hearing next week to revoke his probation. I love my son but not what he does. I do not know if I can keep doing this. I will not be someone’s punching bag.
Dear David,
Thank you very much for all the information about the bipolar disease. I have a 20 year old son and he is suffering from it.I am really so worried about him and I don’t know where to start to help him..Maybe you can help me where to start.I am desperately in need of help……….
Demure
Here’s a unique story.
My sweet Wife-To-Be, Jasmine was diagnosed with Bi-Polar nearly three years ago. Now, here’s OUR AMAZING STORY.
About one year ago, last August 18, 2007, THREE WEEKS before that Special Wedding Day, I was peddling to the Train Station after a full day of work as a Chemist for a firm in Cranbury, NJ. Jasmine had nearly completed her LAST DRESS FITTING for that SPECIAL GOWN she would be walking up that Aisle in.
Lo and Behold, there was a VIOLENT car accident on the road, no more than 20 feet from where I was making my way, on my Collapsible Transit Bike. One car flipped on its’ side and MANAGED TO PLOW INTO ME AT 45MPH! I flew off my bike, 50 FEET IN THE AIR, and came down on my face and head.
To cut a SICK STORY short, here I was, ON MY WEDDING DAY, three weeks later, in a Coma AND on Life-Support!
Can you imagine the affect this Traumatic Incident had on a Bi-Polar woman THREE WEEKS before AND THEN ON her Wedding Day? GOD!!!
Needless to say, I have recovered, from both my PHYSICAL AND Traumatic Brain Injuries. That SPECIAL BLESSED DAY has been RESCHEDULED for May 17, 2008!
In parting, I need to convey one additional thing. All those Bi-Polar Supporters out there, heed this—- Who-ever you are INDEED Supporting has NO BLAME for their mental incapacity. If you can KEEP THIS IN MIND while experiencing one of their Outbursts or Fixations, you will make it through your episode STILL mentally SUPPORTING them. They NEVER ASKED for Bi-Polarism. BUT, even though they WON’T ADMIT IT SOMETIMES, they are asking for your STRENGTH AND SUPPORT in more ways than one!
AND, DO READ the information this Site conveys to you. It is VALUABLE and extreamely HELPFUL to ALL OF US.
Thanks for hearing me out…
Dear Demure,
besides Dave’s articles, I would reccommend the site called, “Daily Strength”. My 20 year old daugther is also bipolar, and suffers immensly. This site lets her talk to others just like her, and it helps her to feel better about herself. Worth a try. from Eddi.
Dave, I realy like this email. Supporting my husband I have felt like this offten and have learned to just get away sometimes. I like the movie idea.
I have a quick question. I was wondering how important you feel it is to have power of attorny papers done when you’re supporting someone? Do you think it would be a good idea? thanks
i have bipolar supporter paralysis, i think. my partner of 8 years was diagnosed bipolar in fall of 2004 after an acute manic episode that left his life, and mine, in ruins. together, we put the pieces back. he struggled through a hopeless depression; got his health back on track; got a job; took his lithium until sept 11, 2006 – today is his 1 year anniversary of medication-free life. i gave him space when he made the decision to stop lithium – as i know it is ultimatlely his choice – and i was aware he was taking meds just ‘for me’. i found myself walking away from him just 1 week ago, as the dark curse of mania is lurking all around him, starting to strangle the good in him again. in his own words, ‘i look around and realize i’ve set it up to happen again – to go crazy – i have, and always will do things that are scary to you and i edit these things from you. a storm is brewing; i don’t know if/how to stop it and i don’t trust myself to make the right decisions’. so, as a bipolar supporter, and his partner of 8 years – what can i do? i can not make him see a doctor; i can not make myself sick (again) trying to manage this disorder for him; i absolutely can not watch him deteriorate again. if he says these words from his own mouth, but refuses medication and doctors, what can i do? i certainly can not do as i have in the past and expect a different result – he is a grown man, one who has always taken risks. i love him unconditionally, but i can not stand by and watch. our families live in another province; my family does not support me being with him (which has been hard on both of us, always). his friends seem ‘tricked’ (again!) by his explanations. it’s been more than a week without communicating with him…i swear i am not abandoning him, but i can not look at him and see this darkness looking back at me..and carry on, believing (as he does) that he can manage his life on his own – without doctors & medication. am i paralyzed? or am i making the right move..? my fear is that nobody but him, can actually make the changes toward a healthy life of managing this
Shorty – YES, by all means, as a supporter, you MUST get a Power of Attorney. During my last hospitalization, I had my very best friend, a CPA, take my POA to handle my money/affairs. She would give me $20/week, which covered cigarettes and any other sundries I would need (not much – deodorant, toothpaste, etc.). When the person you are supporting is going through a manic episode, they are not, I repeat, THEY ARE NOT in control of their faculties, their spending sprees, etc., and a cap has to be put on their use of money. So, yes, I would get a POA.
Bridget – this is just too big for the two of you. A person in a manic episode IS NOT themselves, or the person you WANT them to be, the person you LOVE. Their mania overtakes them, and their delusions and hallucinations – including NOT taking their Lithium – are REAL to them. I suggest you DO leave for awhile, so that YOUR mental capabilities can take over and you see your relationship clearly. The bipolar “paralysis” has already gotten to you, if you don’t see that he needs to follow a treatment plan for HIS and YOUR own good. By all means, let him be for a time; continue to “be there for him” if he wants; but DON’T ruin your health along with his. Get some sleep…
BIG HUGS and God’s blessings on you all.
gracb2u@yahoo.ca
Why are manic bipolar so abusive ,
yell all the time, and have anger
outburst on the ones they say they love. I really would love to know the answer to this . Anyone knows
please help me , I am at my witts
end. Dont know if I can take his
lies, yelling, name calling etc.
etc. and why are they so self centered. to the point of grandios.
Sept.12.2007.
Eight year ago my son was diagnosed as manic biplor/skitsafrenic We have been though money problems, drugs, jail, and prison with him. They put him on depracote, but he was having to take such large quanities that it began to distroy his liver. He is now on meditation theropy but he still gets the highs and lows. He has done good for the past tww\o year iI think but I’m never sure. He is married and has 3 beautiful girls, and they hadve been through a lot. He has a problem holdeing a job for any length of time and we don’t know what to do. We do not have a POA on him. We would like to order tyour program but cannot at this time afford to. I am checking the liabary in our area to see if anyone has it but so far have not been able to find one. I am so scared he will have another episode and his wife won’t be able to take it any more. She has always stuck by his side through everything, but every one has there breaking point and she also has to consider her children.
I love her very much but we need advice.