Hi,
How’s it going for you today?
Hey, before I forget, I wanted to tell you to
be safe tonight you know since it’s New Years
Eve.
Hey yesterday was my birthday and I was working hard on some stuff for everyone.
My friend said, “Dude, why don’t you take your birthday off?”
I have been asked so many times, “Why you, Dave?”
Why are YOU the one who tells us these things?
Because sometimes I bring up some really off the wall stuff, you know?
And sometimes I bring some really scary and shocking stuff.
But I always try to bring you stuff that maybe you never heard of before.
And I always bring you information that I think is important for you to know.
WHY? (like I’m always asked)
Because someone has to.
And nobody else is telling you this stuff.
Not the doctors.
Not the psychiatrists.
Not the therapists.
Not the drug companies.
And definitely not big business.
You know why?
They don’t always care about what happens to you.
But I do, because it’s one of the things that I set out to do when I started my website, dedicated to help people with bipolar disorder and their supporters.
To bring you information that nobody is telling you.
Because I feel you have a right to know.
And I don’t know why nobody else is doing it.
I don’t have an answer for that.
But I do have an answer to that question that I get asked all the time about why me.
Like I just told you, it’s because nobody else is.
And somebody has to.
And I feel really strongly about this.
In my courses/systems below, that’s what I do. I bring up things that nobody else brings up. I bring you information that nobody else is teaching. Things you should know.
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It’s not because I necessarily WANT to, it’s because I HAVE to! It’s because you really need to know this stuff.
Nobody told me these things when I was trying to support my mom in the beginning and I began to do my research.
Nobody was talking about it. Nobody was writing about it. (well, in Doctor-speak and in journals, maybe).
But nobody was writing it in a way that regular people like us could understand. That’s why I had to do it.
Because if you have bipolar disorder or are supporting someone who does, you should want to know the information I have to tell you. Like, think back to some of the emails you’ve gotten from me.
Haven’t they been full of information that has helped you?
I know, sometimes I tell funny stories to get my point across, but the point is always informational, isn’t it?
It’s because I think the information is important.
And nobody else is telling you this stuff!
And the bipolar news is always full of up to date information that you need to know that’s going on out there.
Anyway, I hope you know now why I’m doing what I’m doing.
I hope I’ve answered your questions.
But if you have any more, please write to me about them, and I’ll be glad to answer them. FIND OUT WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING ABOUT ME
Visit: http://www.bipolarcentral.com/testimonials
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Can a person with Bipolar Disorder become a sex miniac ? I am a seafarer and my wife is 53 yrs old. I think she has a bipolar disorder. She has her mood swings and tantrums. She attacks me for the simplest reason. tries to feign suicide. she imagines thigs and makes up stories which can easily been seen through.She tries to be very convincing when telling lies. But the scariest part is that she develops relationships with men when I am at sea. I think she looks for the emotional support and the power over men than the fulfillment of the need for sex. Please advice
dear dave,i don,t know what i would do if i didnt get your email they help me understand alot about biopolar.i just wish we had good doctors here in oklahoma.
Would like to know more about you. You say you attended Yale. Course of study? You hike and work out. Do you live in New York state? Grew up in the East? Approximate age? Married? Children?
Just would like to have more of a sense of who/what you are.
Dear Dave,
Hope you had a Happy Birthday and hope everyone has a Happy New Year.
Thank you for doing what you do to help those with bipolar and our supporters.
Dave,
My boyfriend lives in AZ and I live in CA. We met at a Christain online dating site and have been dating for one year. He comes out to visit me almost every other weekend or at least monthly and stay’s for about three day’s.
I have had personal experiences with several people in my life who have bi-polar and prior to signing up for your site, I researched this disorder.
I believe my boyfriend has bi-polar. It runs in his family and I have witnessed several episodes of both a manic and depressive state. The roller coaster ride has cautioned me to the point that I am are no longer discussing marriage with him. Rather, I am encouraging a “rekindling of friendship”. We have never discussed the possibility of his having this dis-order. I am afraid it will cause another rift (or worse) and I do not believe he will admit to it, or does not believe he has it.
Thank you so much for all of the time and effort you are putting into educating those of us who are affected by this disease. I so appreciate all of the information you give to me.
Why do you do this? I believe it is your calling from God.
God bless…
Have a wonderful New Year Dave!
Your friend,
Peggy
well happy new years to you.
and thank you for all you do.
and sorry i missed your birthday hope you had a good day and a new year.
cerese voyles
HI Dave:
Happy Birthday! Yesterday was your celebration….today is MY birthday…and my celebration!
I’ve learned a lot this past year! Thank You!
May 2009 be a blessing for you:)
Gail Perkins
Hey Dave… Thanks for all that YOU DO… It has given me a lot of insight and help in dealing with my loved ones situation….if not for YOU… I would of never gotten Janie to a Dr. and in Treatment…. by the way… WE share the same Birthday… Dec. 30…. LOL… When I read your emails… it seems like you are an “OLD” friend… that I’ve known for a long time…… Again ….Thanks .. Have a Healthy and Happy New Year…. Larry Siegfried… Tampa Bay, Fl. (A transplanted “Brooklyn” Boy…
Belated Happy Brithday!
Thanks David! You are like a good dad! I’m BP and having addition prob. Tonight I am at home (safe) w/friends and will party. Tomorrow is a new year and a new beginning. I promise “Papo” I will be complaint 1/1/09 and keep that commitment to get well. I’m glad you are around for me!
Happy New Year all!
acg
First, I do want to commend you for having the desire to help people. I also want to say that as having been a bipolar supporter for my husband, it has been all about him and I lost a big part of me thru our marriage. I will share a bit of our story. We have been separted for 4 months now and are in the process of getting a divorce, which was mutual. I have been thru a depressed episode with him early in our marriage and a manic episode just prior to our serparation. I will tell you that my husband was always good at taking his meds and has been getting counseling since his depressed episode (I took him to the hospital due to him overdosing on prescription meds. and was told I got him there just in time). He even exercised regularly and we changed our diet drastically due to eating mostly organic foods which helped not only him but me as well, since I live with fibromyalgia. I dedicated myself to helping him and taking care of him and was constantly worried about him. I saw the potential in him and as my husband, who I cared about and loved, I supported him fully in every way. When he was concerned about his alcoholic family members, I was there right behind him seeing his counselor with him to help him and again support him in standing up to what he was against and concerned about for us and future children. He never confronted who he said he would about the heavy drinking, he just went back to pretending it never happened. I helped him get thru school (a year program) and he graduated at the top of his class, and absolutely loves what he does until this day. I even had a graduation party for him, I was so proud of him, especially after his parents said “he never accomplishes anything” “we don’t have graduation parties.” I was the one from the beginning who stood up for him and saw the potential in him, when his parents only commented on how he always screwed up in the past and never let him forget that. As a couple, we went thru frustrating times, money was an issue, especially when he was going thru school and he did make big purchases at times without telling me, which led to arguments, since being on a budget and careful with our money was very important to me. He began to say I had issues with money, I guess because I didn’t spend it like he did which he didn’t see a problem with. Things then got better and were doing really well. We didn’t have an argument for about a year, we decided to start a family after being married a few years and then it all changed in a matter of two months time. I had an early miscarriage, which he was more devastated over, we were in the middle of looking for a house (which he constantly changed his mind about where we were living, including telling me he was willing to move where my parents were, several states away, to his counselor telling me he HAD to stay where we were or it would take him over the edge, even though my parents were very supportive of both of us and his parents were of no support, who we lived near, to him then mentioning again this past year that moving near my parents was not out of the question), and we were looking forward to the next chapter in our lives. My parents had also recently mentioned after they got the news we were expecting that they would possibly move near us to help us out. My husband apparently didn’t like hearing that. Suddenly, six weeks after the miscarriage, he called me at my work from his work to tell me he was feeling manic. This was a first for me, yet as soon as I left work, I met up with him to keep an eye on him. To speed things up, he also has a severe heart condition that was inherited. The mania triggered his heart to go into an extremely fast rate and for the second time, he landed in the hospital due to his heart. During that time there was a family reunion on my side of the family and I divided my time between seeing all of those I love. He became so angry at me like I’ve never seen before. He was extremely demanding to the point that he wanted me there at the hospital 24/7, and I just couldn’t do that, especially since he was an hour away from our house and I had to battle traffic and hospital detours just to get to him. He also demanded I get a certain book for him at a specific bookstore and again, I tried, but there was no surrounding bookstore that had the book in stock. I became the worst wife in the world to him. He never said that, but he did say I had to love him more than the rest of my family. That’s when I realized that bipolar or not, no one could demand how I was to love them. I put my all into my marriage and I told him I wasn’t going anywhere, yet he used me as his verbal punching bag and blamed me for everything and no matter what I did, it wasn’t the right thing. I then started to become fearful of his long lasting anger. Again, I reached out to his parents, his doctors and didn’t get any help. The only one who helped in the moment was the person I spoke to at the local crisis center. His doctors believed the lies he told them and they saw me as the bad guy. I was desperate for help, in the middle of a major crisis, and one of the answers I got was “I’ll call him and try to calm him down.” His psychiatrist even minimized his mania by telling me he wasn’t in a full blown manic episode. I can tell you that by even looking at my husband, it was as if a stranger was looking back, he was not the person I knew, the person who was furious at me and he never got angry at me before. It was as if when I looked at him, he wasn’t there. He was manic and they were on his side, and only his side and thought he was perfectly fine. When my husbanc came home one day and said “we need a break, it doesn’t mean this is the end of our marriage”, I just knew watching him walk down that driveway that it would never be the same. I got counseling, we saw someone once together, but he didn’t like what she had to say because he wanted a professional to tell him he was right and I was wrong (this was when he came out of the mania). I couldn’t stay in a marriage where I gave all of me and struggled with my own health issues, and he only wanted to pull me away from my family and friends and demand and control how our marriage was to be. All I ever wanted was to married to have children, but I refused to be miserable so he could live the best life possible. I learned that I couldn’t be his hero, and that he may be sick, but it was a form of abuse that I was not going to allow myself or future children to go thru. I respect myself too much for someone to tell me (and that includes his family and doctors) that all I was doing was wrong and to let everyone blame me for my husband’s condition. If I’m guilty of anything, I’m guilty of loving him and that wasn’t good enough. I have no regrets, overall it was a good marriage. All I know is that bipolar does take a lot of support, but those who have it, have to accept it and support themselves first before anyone else can. I was aware he was bipolar before we got married and still chose to marry him. I never walked away, but now that we are apart, I’m doing great. I have myself back again and I’m doing things I love to do that I couldn’t do when I was with my husband- it was always all about him. He didn’t know what team work meant in a marriage, that both have to give to help each other in times of need. If my husband just accepted himself for who he was and just dealt with being bipolar instead of saying his problems were the fault of others, then maybe it would’ve worked out better. I did love him and this has been a difficult process and a sad situation, but when he told me in the end that his “true feelings” came about, then I realized I fell in love with someone he was pretending to be. He has to accept himself first before he’s able to have any healthy relationship. So, yes I believe in support, but support doesn’t work if the one you are supporting doesn’t want it. I just know I did my best and I’m not the worst wife in the world.
A K B
Hello Dave,
I just want to say happy birthday and you are doing a hell of a job!
keep doing it, i am always looking forward to read it. I am a borderline
and your work is helping me a lot. You know how hard this condition can
be. Again, tx for everything.
Have a nice day and a happy new year!
your friend,
June Plante
Thank you Dave for doing what you do!!
Happy New Year “2009”
Hi Dave,
I SINCERELY APPRECIATE YOUR WORK!!!
Let me tell you about good pain and bad pain. We all suffer in some way in life. We all have problems, pain, troubles and sorrow. But we have a choice, to turn these problems/situation in to good or let them be for bad. If we suffer, and suffer and do nothing about it, just sit in our problems and do nothing about it, that is bad pain. If we do what we can, like you and I have, do what we can to get better, deal with the problems and issues and get better, that is better. But when we turn around and help others, that turns the bad pain into good pain.
Just think Dave, if your mom never had bipolar, you would not know what it was like. You wouldn’t have suffered, but then again you couldn’t have helped anyone. And that would be not so good. But you, like me in other ways, have turned the lemons life gave us into lemonade. We took what was an impossible situation and turned it in to one that benefits others. Now that is what I call good pain. Pain in never fun, it really causes a lot of problems for us, but when we have a positive attitude and say, “What ever it takes, I’m going to get through this!” – beat it, then turn around and help others, that converts bad pain into good pain. It makes the bad situation we had to go through into a positive experience for others… That my friend, is converting bad pain into good pain!
While it isn’t good that any of us have bipolar, we can get better and then in turn help others get better. We can support our loved ones, then turn around and tell others how we did it successfully, share our experiences and then they feel better and we feel better… You are God’s Gift to people who support people with bipolar and those who have it. Where would I be without your help? Lost, feeling alone in my suffering, ignorant of the magnitude of this problem and not knowing I wasn’t the only one going through what I do, both supporting and having bipolar.
Thanks Dave, A Million Thanks To You!!!
Have a GREAT New Year!!!
Your Buddy,
Bob
Dear Dave,
Thanks for doing what you do. If I had had this info. years ago, I may not have become estranged from my mother (bipolar/schizophrenic/manic depressive) when my first child was born 20 years ago. The flavor changed with each successive doctor. I also would have recognized that I was also bipolar a lot earlier ( I was 40 when I was finally diagnosed). I am lucky that mine is a mild/moderate case (as my psych. says), but at least now I can be aware enough to help my children if one of them have it. Even though I have 40 college credit hours in psychology, its hard to recognize certain things within yourself or those close to you. Hearing it on a daily basis, in laymen’s terms, it makes it easier to deal with and recognize an episode.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY! and HAPPY NEW YEAR!
hello David,
I just want to thank you SOOOOOOO much for all your information!!!! I am BiPolar and so is my son, along with my cousin, brother, father, uncles and many more…. Some that commited suicide, which is my absolute worse nightmare, Ive lived through that and it would kill me if it happened to my son!!!!!!!!!! He has been in and out of hospitals from the age of 15, but as soon as he starts feeling better, no more meds…. soooo sad!!!! All he talks about is dying or killing someone else, he socks himself in the face and into walls, walking on the 10 fwy had to be tazered twice, the list goes on and on!!! Im so devastated and trying to keep my head above water. My husband refused to believe there was anything wrong with him, he was just rebellious…. His lithium level at his last 2 wk stay was .01, mine was .02. Its so hard to deal with my child when I go through the same things, so far I havent found a med that works long term, and the Drs want to keep you like a Zombie. If there were more people like you in this world it would be a much happier place!!!!My dream has always been to work with the mentally ill, someday I know I will! Addiction and mental illness absolutely go hand in hand,(dual diagnosis)
Amen. Don’t stop!!
David,
I’m glad you are doing what you are doing(Bipolar/Supporters Courses). I am a Bi-polar Supporter and
I don’t have a lot of time to do a lot of research on this disease, so I really enjoy the short daily doses of info you send out everyday. Thank you! I appreciate it!
Lori
Dear Dave,
I just wanted to wish you a Happy Birthday and a Happy New Year!
I want you to know that your website has helped me tremendously. My 32 old daughter is bipolar, and right now living with me again. The information is very helpful in dealing with this.
My birthday is Jan 2nd. We are both Capricorn’s. Again, I just wanted to thank you for all your help
A belated birthday to you.
Happy Birthday Dave!
And to everyone else, Have a safe, happy and Healthy New Year!
Happy Birthday (a day late) Dave. Thanks for providing the information as you do. I do greatly appreciate it, as well as a lot of others. This information has helped me cope with my son’s disorder. There were many times were I just had no clue what to do, so I went to my email, reviewed a lot of what you have sent (as I save them all for this reason) and then went back and dealt with the situation in a completely different manor. Not only with more information, but also with more cool and collected thoughts. Thank You!!!
HAPPY NEW YEAR, EVERYBODY!!!
Also, HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY to you, David.
We’re having a Roast Dinner for this evening and an early night, because although we’ve been invited to various parties, we’ve both started the beginnings of a Cold and the thought of dressing up and being sociable seems like too much effort. Also, I’m tired after constantly having to nurse my sick Doberman all night and day, but he’s starting to appear better now.
To be honest, unlike when I was younger and could use Midnight as an excuse to kiss the best-looking man I’d been fancying all evening (!), I find the date a little negative because people regret not fulfilling everything that they’d planned for the year now departing and the making of ‘New Year’s Resolutions’ which are usually broken within a few days, tends to deflate one’s ego and self-respect.
So, to avoid this problem, I just try to be the best person that I can be at all times, without putting unnecessary pressure on myself.
Take care all of you around the World and may peace and humanity rule from now on, overtaking cruelty; neglect, greed and apathy.
Have a great time celebrating,
Sue and all the animals. x
I do appreciate all you do. I read your e-mails on a daily basis. I wish I’d have had this information 25 years ago or more. The Bi-polar weekly news is astounding to me. It all makes complete sense. GOD BLESS YOU DAVID
OLIVER!
happy late birthday 29 th was my grandson birthday! thank for all your information.
Hi David,
Happy birthday & new year!
I have a very close friend that I am very concerned about. He is a 48yo vet He has many problems going on in life (self made for the most part), mentally & physically too.
He admitted somethings been wrong for a long time, has done his share of self medicating & messing things up bad. No license, no phone, no $, owes everyone, no job & might lose his home or end up in jail for DWI etc…. Drinking & smoking pot (prior use of coke) to self medicate, blood in urine & stools & losing his mind,depressed.
He says he’s hit bottom & that he needs help/meds & a job. I have been there to support & advocate & get him where he has to go. We made it to the VA hospital about 2 weeks ago for the initial intake & a brief consult with docs & psychiatrist. He probably should have stayed inpatient, but he answered the ?’s right & they didn’t get enough info to see. Weather & holidays have held up next appts until 1/13 & 14.
He’s been getting worse in the interim, losing control, overwhelmed, racing thoughts, possibly suicidal thoughts, depressed, angry & now lashing out & threatening violence, ex:yelling & hitting his dog & then being remorseful.
We believe he is bipolar, has the whole list checked-but not confirmed.
He is stranded at home without a phone or license in the country about 20 minutes from me, & has 2 teenage kids who visit, but aren’t really educated about bipolar. They love him, but in reality there is very little support. They complain he is moody & tell him to get it together. His ex wife & daughters show up unscheduled, but often- to do laundry at his home, but other than that no one of helping nature really.
He says I’m the only one that has really helped him & till now we’ve been very close for a long time. He’s been flip flopping about where we stand & I have told him if we are friends then no physical relations. At times he makes advances & he has jerked me around & sent mixed messages so I get hurt because we have alot in common, share something beautiful & it could really help him & work out well. He says he can’t provide, doesn’t know what he wants, he isn’t ready for a girlfriend or commitment, but we spend a lot of time together & have all the elements existing anyways.
I understand if he just wants to be friends & I will be there to support him.
He’s feeling cornered. He got mad & lost it the other night & for the 1st time he was very abusive toward me even in front of my young son. We have been more than friends & he’s scared of anything more right now & feeling lost, pressured/overwhelmed of what is ahead.
I have been his support, but don’t want to push myself on him.I was suppose to take care of these appointments & see if we can get him in sooner, but now I’m not sure if he will still want me to take him. It’s like he feels things for me, tries to deny it because of the situation, now is pushing me away either because he’s a proud man with an ego, trying to protect me or doesn’t feel worthy or feels he’s using me.
I’m not sure what to do. Can you suggest anything? I have no money to buy a book, using change for gasoline right now.
Thank you,
Kristy Barnes
Wurtsboro,nY
A belated Happy Birthday to you David and I hope you have a fantastic 2009! I would like to say “thank you for allowing me to regain some of my sanity back” I have a 25yr old son who for many years has struggled, just to survive sometimes. I took him to the doctors on more than one occassion while he was growing up even asked his teacher if he could repeat a year but that was a no no as they needed the numbers to pass through the school so it could remain open in our rural area.
The straw that broke his back came 5 months ago when he was living in the city and was suicidile and thank the Lord we have a fantastic relationship where he just kept ringing me and then at 12.20am ended on our door step with what he had on and nothing more.
“What is wrong with me? Why am I a total stuff up?” is all he could ask.
It has been 4 months now since he has been diagnosed with bipolar and ADD apparently having these 2 conditions together is apparently unusual and also gives him other struggles to overcome .At least now he has somewhere to work and build from and your news letters came at just the right time, that not only could I relate to many areas it also gave me answers, more understanding which in turn has helped him. It is going to take a while a life time actually but now we know where to start and how to off load some of his swings and other areas to his life are finally falling into place.
I thank you from the bottom of my heart, and hope you realise how important you are in your quest. Thankyou and God Bless.
jan
Australia.
HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY, Dave!!! Being a “year-end” baby, and a Capricorn, you are known for being inquisitive, and never stopping until you get answers, as well as being a helpful and nourishing person. That DEFINES you!!!
Just want to take this opportunity to THANK YOU for your selfless work and attention to us bipolar survivors and supporters – I, myself, can’t remember a time you’ve MISSED in writing your emails, even when sick or injured – you are DEDICATED, and that makes me TRUST you and your pertinent advice. Though you’re NOT a doctor, therapist, Indian Chief, etc., your homilies on bipolar disorder come from an intelligence that can only come from God.
I wish YOU and everyone else on your Supporters Blog, a VERY HAPPY, HEALTHY and PROSPEROUS NEW YEAR!! It can’t be much worse than 2008!!
BIG HUGS to all bipolar survivors and those who love us. May God bless you real good. I pray for my country.
P.S. DON’T drink and drive – have a SAFE New Year’s Eve…
Happy belated birthday David.Mine was 23rd,might have known you were a sensible,caring Capricorn!
Happy New Year to everyone on here.Let’s hope for a good one.I certainly am overdue!
Hope you had a good birthday Dave, and like all the other’s that respond to you I second what they say about why you do what you do and if it were not that I stumbled onto your site, I would never have been able to recognise the signs that my boyfriend showed and will not admit to, are the behavioural patterns of either bi-polar or borderline personality disorder. You have been an angel in disguise with all the e-mails and information that I have received from you. Just this past week-end I moved again for the second time in a space of three month’s, my boyfriend pushed and pushed for us to move in together and I made a giant leap of faith and did move in with him. His behaviour was so difficult to deal with and his ourtbursts towards me and my son was stressful to say the least. I have just moved into another place of my own with my son and as HARD as I have tried to understand and deal with his mood swings and outbursts etc, I’m not able to tell him to go and get evaluated so that he can get onto some sort of medication to stabilize him, but he does not like to take medication as his a recovering drug addict/alcoholic too. So Dave let me say again to you, thank you for all you do and all the information I have received and hope to continue to receive from you in the new year. God Bless you and your family and yes this was and is your calling from God to us out here who are supporters and those who do have the illness.
Beverley
Dave,
Happy Birthday!
Thank you for what you are doing to help others
I agree with AKB and I felt for her that I cryed. It made me see how bad things could get, I’m not married to the one who has bipolar but I use to be we weren’t married for long as we devorced 4 years latter. 10 years latter he came back into my life, he stayed less then a year. 10 years on again he came back into my life again and I can’t seem to get him to move on, and he frightens me alittle. He didn’t seem to have bipolar when I first meet him or even when he came back into my life the second time, but after reading her story I can see alot of resemblence in his behaviour and I don’t wish to live like that again. So I thank you for the information over the months and especially AKB for enlightment.
I’d like to wish you all the best for a Happy New Year for 2009 with strength, support and alot of love. God bless you all.
Dave: Please accept my birthday and New Year greetings. You are a very good person, and with american dedication and some good humour you give excelent advices to people that struggle against bipo mental impairment.
Thank you very much, and please continue in your effort, and your mails really helped me and my bipo girl
Jorge
Dear David,
Happy Birthday to you. Thankz for all ur research and information regarding ur email letters. I have found it most helpful and sometimes
lets face it our memories just need a little refreshing.
Anyhow keep up all the good work and keep posting those bits of info
out sometimes they r just what people need to hear at that particular point in time. thanks again hope u have a safe n prosperous and creative new year ur friend Ingrid.
Dear Mr.Oliver;
I am just getting to back e-mail and cannot access some of your information. Can you advise me how to go about it? By the way, I have responded to one of your letters some time back and sounded like I do when I am writing my research papers. It’s hard to separate my professional self from my co-dependent (of a bipolar spouse) self.
I read of your info-leters and related to just about all of them. My 30+ years of being married to an abusive bipolar person. I stayed married for the sake of having a fatherfigure present, I THOUGHT, no RATIONALIZED. After my children were old enough to leave home, I realized I was afraid to be out of the insane drama that was my life for so many years hoping that my husband would change with less stress. I stayed until 4 years ago and finally left for the final time. I can’t claim life has radically changed but I’m working onit – back to school and such.
I am a clinical depressant so the positive outlook has been difficult to latch on to but I have been “faing it tillI make it” (I’m Alanon, too) Reading your daily personal observations has been better then digging through mass quantites of blurb books.
Thank you for your visions of bipolar life.
Constance
Dave,
Happy Birthday. Thank you for all your e-mails. I am of mother of two bi-polar children and your e-mails have given me alot of great advise and kept me going. Happy new year to you.
Holly
Happy New Year, Dave. Hope your birthday was deservedly wonderful. Thanks for all you’ve done for us. Couldnt have done it without your encouragement and info.
Happy New Year Dave
and all those who are reading this!
Please keep on doig what you do – it is really appreciated.
Blessings to you all
xoxo
Chris
Hi Dave. Happy birthday and have a happy new year too. Thanks for everything you are doing for all the supporter of bipolar disorder. May God continue to bless for your goodwill.
Cindy Mejia,
I don’t know if you will get this, but it is imperative to find a dr that works with you and your son to find what works for him and you. The dr’s who want to keep you like zombies are not “good” docs. I am on a lot of medication, one major tranq, two mood stabilizers, two anti-depressants and I feel fine. My dr worked with me until I became stable and had no adverse effects. We had to try a lot of different kinds and different doses to find what worked for me. The only thing it is easy for me to lose my balance, but that is nothing compared to saving my life. I am not a zombie, and I am very stable.
I don’t know if you got Dave’s course on finding a good dr. It is in his Survivor package and will help you find a dr that doesn’t keep you zoned out. Being made to feel a zombie is probably why your son doesn’t want to take his meds. No one wants to be made into a zombie. They should work with you and him to find what works, listen to him and his concerns and feelings, if they don’t they are not a good dr! Dave has a great system for finding a good dr. I highly recommend his Survivor Package to you…
Best of wishes and prayers for you and your son! I know bipolar is a killer, and it must be taken seriously. I hope and pray you find a good dr this year, if you cannot afford the package, keep switching docs till you find a good one, that is what I did, and my life is much, much, much better to say the least!!!
Sincerely,
Bob
Deepak Sikand
I hope you get this, I am a little late posting it. Yes the Mania in bipolar can make us have reckless sexual relationships, we can get angry over simple things, try to tell lies that are transparent. All the things you said are typical for us with bipolar. Can you afford Dave’s Supporter Package, the one he always inserts the link to in the middle of his emails? If you can, you will find very valuable data on how to deal with her and get her the help she needs. It is very admiral of you to be working with her, and understanding of her, that this is not normal behavior, but understand that she does love you.
Bipolar will make us do all kinds of crazy things, though we are not really crazy people. There is an imbalance in her brain chemistry that is causeing her to act, and behave this way. Medication can clear the vast majority of it up for her. But you gotta know how to work with it and Dave’s supporter package contains that information…
I wish and pray the best for you two. Please give an update if you get this in a following topic on a following day…
Sincerely,
Bob
Thank you for your emails and other information that you have provided to me and so many others. I need to hear from you and your keeping yourself physically fit because that is something that I need to do for myself and to encourage my bipolar daughter. Here’s hoping that all that come to this site and YOU and your family have a very blessed New Year 2009, that more people will become more aware of mental issues and the need for financial support in mental health areas. I had wanted to be someone to help others like you are helping…right now I am not
I just want to say that my New Year’s resolution is not to be a victim of bipolar disorder. Having bipolar doesn’t give people the right or the excuse to behave anyway they feel like it without consequences. Dave points out that many people won’t accept they have a problem and refuse to get treatment. I myself dealt with a bipolar girlfriend who refuses to admit she has a problem and won’t get help; inspite of the fact she would turn our lives upside down every few weeks for no reason. I finally had to accept that she wasn’t going to get help and she wasn’t going to change. I made a clean surgical break. It’s painful, but at least it will heal in time. Staying would mean a lifetime of heartache and misery. To those of you who are bipolar supporters I would say to you that if they are not trying to help themselves then get the heck out of there, unless of course you’re a masochist. Good Luck in 2009!
You tell us nothing, oh you do, you tell us psych. garbage.
Their is NO Scientific PROOF to back any of the psych. trades “BELIEFS.” SO WHY ARE THEY ALLOWED TO TRADE?
Wake up. psych. trade Puppet!
DID YOU READ A PSYCH. BOOK? HENCE YOUR “KNOWLEDGE,” NONE AT ALL!
THEY STILL STUDY FREAUD, THE MISOGINIST PEADIFILE… FOOL. FAILED GP. KNOWN AS A FOOL BY ALL IN HIS OWN TIME, NOW SEEMS A HERO, WELL HIS BELIEFS ARE LUCERATIVE. AND PROVIDE MUCH PROTECTION FOR THE CRIMINAL PSYCHIATRISTS AND THEIR PAWNS.
Good one, that one you posted about the old Seafarer and his Wife who “may be playing up” If he was of any use sho would not think to.
Strange I never feel like Sex, why Dave? Yes I have been “Manic” did not sleep for over 2 Months, all was fine. I had stopped drinking, se I could not get my 24hrs per Week I had since 12 Years old. NO harm was done, Life was GREAT!
Love the lying reference… RE: The Wife. Very “Textbook. You must be “very familier” with this IATROGENIC DISORDER. Yes a Dr.s creation. Hence professors believe the Brain is destroyed by the “medication.” TRUE I KNOW after suffering over 8 Years of CRIMINAL ABUSE. FROM PSYCH. Losing MT Mind, MY LIFE, MY Family…. I am wase put into a state worse than Death, I am still their have been over 8 Years. I had a GREAT LIFE pre psych. NOW NOTHING! TOP JOB!!!
THEY CANNOT FIND ANY VICTIMS TO STUDY WHO HAVE NOT BEEN “MEDICATED.”
“NO MEDICAL VIRGINS EXIST.”
WHY? FOR THE “MEDICATION” & PSYCH. IS THE DESEASE. BP.
SOON AFTER SEEING PSYCH. 1ST VISIT. ME THEIR WAS A WORLDWIDE GANG OF MUSLIMS AFTER ME. THEY HAD ALSO TOLD MY DAD THEY WILL KILL ME. THE SHOPKEP ALSO TOLD DAD. HOW A “DELUSION?” ONE HAD A CHOFERED ROLLS ROYCE, USED TO PARK IN FRONT OF MY UNIT, AT FIRST I THOUGHT HE WAS JUST ANOTHER DEALER, DR.
THEN WE ARE “MEDICATED HEAVILY,(PSYCH. ONLY BELIEVES THAT WHICH IT WANTS TO HEAR, THAT WICH IS PROFITABLE). WITH PILLS AND UNKNOWN INJECTIONS,WE ARE THEN KEPT COMATOS FOR WEEKS, IN MY CASE YEARS, THEN WE ARE “DIAGNOSED.” I WAS “DIAGNOSED” IN 4 MINUTES 2 VISITS, BUT DECERIBATION CONTINUED. NO MENTAL HEALTH TROUBLE IN 26 YEARS, “MEDICATION” THEN “BI-POLAR.”
QED MANUFACTURED ILLNESS.
OTHERWISE THE PSYCH. HAS ONLY THE POOR SCITZOPHRENIC. THEY ARE VERY GREEDY, SADISTIC… ABOVE THE LAW.. THEY MANUFACTURE BP DISORDER, POSSIBLY MORE I DON’T KNOW I KNOW ONLY PSYCH. & BP. SIMPLE. IT IS AKIN TO MAKING GOLD FROM Pb. ONLY FAR MORE PROFITABLR & SATISFYING FOR PSYCHIATRIST ORGANISMS.
NOBODY KNOWS OF “MENTAL ILLNESS” AS IT IS MADE, NOT GOTTEN.
THE POOR SCITSOPHRENIC, GOES IN PARIONOID FROM aLCOHOL AND cONES, WELL HE NEEDS ONLY ANPHETAMINES, HE’LL BE FINE, NO THE PSYCH. GRABS HIM, HE IS GONE. WORST LIFE POSSIBLE.
I DO NOT FIT THE MOULD, BUT I AM SUFFERING MEDICAL INDUCED BRAIN DAMMAGE, POLYPHARMACY! IATROGENIC.
THEIR WAS LOBOTOMY, THEN THE LOBOTOMY PILL, & SOMEWHERE ELECTROSHOCK “THERAPY”. (AGAINST THE GENEVA CONVENTION).
YET WE CAN BE FORCED TO HAVE IT? WHY DAVE?? WHEN ANYTHING IS FORCED THE OUTCOME IS FAR WORSE. ALL “TREATMENT” IS FORCED. IN THE LOCK UP WARDS WE ARE THRETENED WITH THE NEEDLE… BY NURSES, SECURITY GIVES IT… NOT PRESCRIBED..
NOW THEIR ARE PILLS & INJECTIONS TO: DO THE LOBOTOMY,DESTROY THE HIPPOCAMPAS, MEMORY, SHORT & LONG REMOVE ALL THOUGHT… DECERIBRATION. BRILLIENT TRILLIONS OF DOLLARS FOR THIS, THE MANUFACTURE OF A DISORDER!
THEY HAVE CAME A LONG WAY. WHY NOT USE, I WON’T SAY IT IS AN EFFECTIVE FORM OF NO DRUG, NON INVASIVE MIND CONTROL OPEN TO ABUSE.
WHY DAVE DO YOU ONLY POST THOSE “LETTERS” YOU TYPE?
PERHAPS IF WE DEBATE, YOU CAN SHOW YOUR TRUE WORTH, YOU BEAT ME, PEOPLE MAY TRUST YOU & BUY YOUR ADVERTISMENT FOR THE VILE PSYCH TRADE?
HOW ABOUT IT?