How’s it going? I hope you’re doing ok.
Have you ever seen this TV show called Deal or No Deal? Each time, the contestant has to choose whether to open a suitcase or not, that will have a dollar value in it. The idea, of course, is to choose correctly and win the game.
So how does this relate to bipolar disorder? I’ll explain. If your loved one has bipolar disorder, they are sometimes going to act in ways that you don’t like. Especially when they go into episodes. And really especially if they need to go to the hospital, and are refusing to go.
When my mom was like that and she needed to go to the hospital, I had to make a deal with her for her to go. It’s ok to make deals with your loved one. In fact, it can be very effective.
In my courses/systems, I go over strategies to helping your loved one, including hospitalization.
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Some people say that it’s playing dirty to make a deal with your loved one to do certain things. I don’t think it is. Especially if it works. Some loved ones are more receptive than others. But why not try this with your loved one? It could be the answer you’ve been looking for.
Other supporters say that making a deal with your loved one is like making a deal with your child – like you promise them candy if they behave in the store. They claim that you’re treating your loved one like a child. But I don’t agree with that. I think this idea works.
Say your loved one has to go to the doctor today, and they are refusing to go. You could make a deal with them. Tell them that if you go to the appointment together, that afterwards, you can go out for lunch, or something like that.
It’s not childish – it involves cooperation.
And, in this case, getting a person to agree to cooperate with something they don’t like or want to do. You can use this idea with other things as well. What if they are not wanting (or forgetting) to take their medication? Well, if you’re on medication as well, this is easy. You just make a deal that the two of you will take your medications at the same time.
Even if you’re not on medication, you can still make a deal with them to take their medication. It’s not only important, but it’s crucial to their stability.
What if your loved one isn’t sleeping right? Make a deal that you will go to sleep with them, or offer to give them a backrub or some other enticement to go to bed. (Although this might get old, so you’ll have to think of something else.)
I know it may be hard for you to treat your loved one this way (making deals), and you may not like doing it. But I can tell you from experience that it IS effective! Why don’t you try this idea and let me know how it goes – I love success stories!