Bipolar Lesson: David Oliver Wins Fight Using Sneaky Trick

Hi,

Yesterday I got into a fight. No I didn’t get into
a fist fight. I got into a fight with Microsoft
Outlook. That’s the program I use to send my
personal and business emails.

Well, since I save EVERY single email that I get
that isn’t junk, I have a lot of emails in my
outlook.

Yesterday I went to use my outlook and a message
said that I had exceeded my limit and something
bad was going to happen. I panicked. I didn’t
know what to do.

I had a million things to do so I didn’t
want to fight with outlook. I opened the program
again hoping it would fix itself like magic.

It didn’t. Then I was in a fight with outlook
and I was losing.

So, I made a decision. I called someone way
better with computers than me. I paid the person
to type up EXACT instructions on what to do.

I got the instruction back very quickly. For
this person this was a joke of a problem. For
me it was a big problem.

I followed the step by step, even a monkey could
do it, instructions and my outlook was fixed.

I couldn’t believe how easy it was when I knew
what I was doing.

I won the fight using a sneaky tactic you should
be using with bipolar disorder–get information
fast.

As you know, I have courses and systems:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

I want you to know, I am not going to push them
on you. BUT, what I am going to push you to do
is get information fast. Sound like that doesn’t
make sense?

Well if you don’t need or want to get my information
and you can get the information you need fast and even
for f.r.e.e then do it. My goal with this
is to help you. It’s not to make tons of money.

I know that might sound like a lie. But
it isn’t. I started this to help people. For
some really strange reason, I really enjoy
doing this. More than consulting for private
equity funds, more than selling health and nutrition
supplements, more than doing the other things
that I do.

But I will say this, there are a number of people
on my list that are in SERIOUS TROUBLE. Why?
Well they are taking way too long to figure out
what to do. For some reason, if it’s cancer, a stroke,
etc, there is a MAD RUSH to get information, but
with bipolar disorder, some people take the “slow
boat to China.”

I don’t know why there’s no urgency or seriousness?
Even my own dad, to this dad really never “tried”
hard to figure anything out about my dad.

In 30 years, here’s my dad

Never went to the library
Went to one support group meeting
Spoke with two doctors
Never bought a book, tape, manual, etc on bipolar disorder
Never looked for anyone with bipolar disorder who was
successful to speak to and learn from
Never contacted any therapists
Never setup up any systems for my mom.

My dad would say it was a problem and “something” had
to be done but he just never got around to it. And then
in 2004, I took over. And the results speak for themselves.

Everyone should be taking MASSIVE action to get the information
they need right away and not doing this over many months or worse,
years.

WARNING! You know, you find in life, there are people
who are getting ready to get started, to get ready, to
get set, to get started, to get ready, to go. I hope
that’s not you?

People are full of excuses why they aren’t taking action
to learn what they need to. This is a SERIOUS ILLNESS
like other serious illnesses.

When being a supporter of someone with bipolar disorder,
I see this all the time. Someone posted on my blog,
they are a “5 year” bipolar researcher. I was thinking:

a) why are you researching for 5 years?

b) this person is a slow researcher

c) How much time has been wasted when the process could have
been sped up. 5 years is a long time for someone who is not a doctor.

d) I wonder if this person is a success…unfortunately I doubt it. Like
so many friends I know who have been “researching” how to start a business
or how to write a book for years and years on end. Guess what? These
friends have not accomplished one thing. BUT, they have lots of reasons
why they haven’t.

Again, there are plenty of people on my list that have been “researching”
bipolar disorder for so many years. I have spoken to many, and most
aren’t successful.

Don’t become one of these people that can’t move forward with yourself
or your loved one because you are slowly researching and years are
passing you by.

I could have spent weeks fighting with Microsoft Outlook to
figure out how to fix the program to use it. In the process,
of not having a clue, I could have done something and deleted
all my emails. Who knows? Lots of people handle bipolar like this.

I am all for continuously learning, but in these cases, these people
aren’t learning continuously, they are still trying to figure
out the basics after so many years. It’s amazing to me.

Do whatever it takes to short cut your learning curve, just like
I did with beating Microsoft Outlook.

I told my friend what happen. He said he would NEVER EVER pay
someone to explain a program to him. My friend
unfortunately has many problems in his life that he is always
working on. Some for 12 years.

REMEMBER
You aren’t getting any younger. With bipolar disorder, before
you know it, years and decades can pass by and you are no
further ahead.

Make sense? Hope so. Have to run.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails that I have sent in the past and lots of great information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give mini seminars designed to teach you information you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

  1. I have just recently found out my girl friend was diagnosed with Bipolar, I don’t know how long ago she was diagnosed. I have only known her since August of last yr. everything was absolutely great until her meds. changed and the holidays came around since then she started flipping back and forth from wanting to spend time with me to not even wanting to talk to me and returning no calls she has admitted to me in an email she is avoiding me. Today she spends most of her time sleeping which I know is not good. Being a research scientist, I have researched the disease extensively however not as much as you I am sure. I am just starting this adventure. I want to help her so much, but she has not revealed to me her condition, I found out this past Sunday evening from her sister through my investigations. That is what brought me to your site. I would really like to purchase your course however if I can’t talk with her and help to apply your learning’s and teachings it leaves me up in the air.

    I spoke with her sister this past Sunday and let her know I would purchase the lessons for their family‚Äôs benefit and perhaps mine. But if I can’t get my loved one to talk to me then there is very little I can do. Her sister has not even responded to the email research I provided. One site I provide for her sister is yours.

    Do you have any suggestions on how I could / should go forward with this? How I can try to approach my girl friend and perhaps get her to open up to me so I can help her. After doing considerable research I understand the potential consequences.

    Please any help or ideas you can offer would be greatly appreciated. If I can get her to talk and open up to me once again I will order your lessons. There is no doubt in my mind they would be wonderful and very helpful. But if I can’t apply the knowledge to help her it does no good for me or her. So now I sit and await a response from her sister, it has been 3 days now.

    Thanks for being a wonderful person and sharing your knowledge and experiences.

    My girl friend just says everything was great with us and nothing was my fault. I have heard her lie to me a number of times but have said nothing to her about it. One week she says she wants to see me then a few days later she will not return calls.

    We never had an argument I am a very understanding person.

    Do you have any ideas on what I should do or how to approach this?

    I do have a feeling somebody around her does not want her to get stabilized into a half way normal life. Whether it is her mother or therapist I have no idea. But somebody just wants to keep her in the zombie state.

    Thanks
    Eric

  2. I have a boyfriend, who also happens to be my 7 month old son’s father. I also believe his mother doesn’t want him to become stable. And he is only 16 going on 17, and I’m 17 goignon 18- so there sin’t much I can do, but talk to her. And she always says to “just ignore him and he’ll cool off.”

    So I understand where you are coming from. I don’t know if I coudl help you any, but I can offer my support and ears to you. I myself am looking for answers still.

    Good luck and best wishes, take care.

    Sarah

  3. I happened upon this website my surfing about Bipolar, and I hope to stay in contact with others who have it AND who are with people that do! I have been in a serious relationship with an incredible man for almost 11 months, and have told him of my disorder from the beginning. Yet unfortunately…it has shown it’s UGLY face a couple of times, and I’ve hurt him beyond belief. I haven’t “physically” cheated on him…yet our love is SO strong and deep that I might as well have to be honest. I’ve lied to him….and I thought that was from an 8 year abusive relationship I was in (defense mechanism) but now I read that it’s the Bipolar?? Is that true? I am currently on Lithium and just had added Seroquel. I mainly have
    the manic side of mine. Before the medicine I slept ALL the time!! And was SO depressed!!
    Being in LOVE, takes that away, and I DO NOT want to lose this man. I’m doing all I know…but I need more help, who doesn’t? He means the world to me, and I WANT to be better!! I thought that perhaps some of you might offer advice to me. What YOU wish your loved one would do to help you understand, etc…nothing is too minor, I’ll be grateful for any help at all!! Thanks for reading!!

  4. Mr. Oliver,
    I have trouble accessing replies to your blog responses. I have been reading your material daily for almost a year but I have remained silent on my questions for you. I wish to speak up at this time. Can you let me know how I can participate?
    Thank you,
    Erin

  5. In response to “trying2help”: I can relate to your dilemma. It sounds similar to mine except my relationship was with a high school friend (we happen to reconnect after 27 years) who lives 1600 miles away (we have seen each other twice in the last 8 months). I thought being a professional in healthcare, with the ability to research and think critically, would assist me in understanding Bipolar. I was wrong. Thus far, I have been unsuccessful in any break-through communication with the individual concerning the Bipolar (they are aware and admit they have Bipolar but claim to be stable for 10 years). At this time, it appears as if I won’t have the opportunity because they have chosen to exit my life. I, also, picked up on the inconsistencies and said nothing. If I had the opportunity for a do-over, I would challenge everyone of them after logging them over a certain period of time. Actually, I did log them in my head but I was never provided the opportunity to present them. It’s like the “Bipolar” knew I wasn’t afraid of “it” and beat a hasty retreat. I am still seeking information for my own understanding and comprehension. I wish you luck on your journey.

  6. I, too, am a supporter. My spouse with bipolar disorder has a therapist whom he likes and trusts and all has gone swimmingly until I requested aid due to money and relationship issues (spend $65K picking up the pieces in keeping dreams afloat, aiding bipolar son, dysfunctional ex’s family, and elderly parents on his side. The therapist believes the concerns of mine should be handled by a couple’s therapist, but in my readings, I suspect the problems deal with the bipolar disorder. Interestingly, my spouse is so comfortable with the therapist that we may well not make it to marital counseling. I’m confused why I, a new wife of a year and a half, am not taken into consideration to be aware and learn the buttons I’m pushing.

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