Bipolar: It’s Not for Lack of This

Hi,

You know, you hear a lot about the word WILLPOWER. But what happens if you don’t have willpower? Or that lack of willpower is one of your problems? It can certainly interfere with what you want to accomplish. For example, your loved one wants to take their medication regularly, but they keep forgetting to take it, then say that they just don’t have the willpower.

I want you to consider that lack of willpower is actually a cop-out. What if willpower is something that can be developed? What if you CAN do something about the problem? When I talk to people, I don’t recommend using willpower to do what you need to do to get stable –

I recommend using a system, or several systems instead.

People in 12-Step Programs have abandoned the use of the term “willpower” and instead talk about “powerlessness.” In other words, your loved one would say, “I am powerless over my bipolar disorder.” Which may be true, and may help them to think of it that way, as long as they don’t use it in terms of their bipolar disorder, in turn, having power over them. That is the exact opposite of what they want. There are some things you and your loved one do have power over, and some things you don’t. Your loved one, for example, is powerless over the fact that they have bipolar disorder, that is true. But they are not powerless over the disorder itself – they can fight it for control, they can learn how to manage it (instead of the other way around).

The way to fight lack of willpower is with consistent, conscious decisions and actions that follow. For example, many people, survivors and supporters alike, want to lose weight. Say they even made it a New Year’s resolution. But now they’re struggling, and saying that they just don’t have the necessary willpower to stick to a diet. Well, I would say that if you just change the wording, it might help. Again, I think lack of willpower is a cop-out. The reason many people can’t stick to a diet is because they aren’t committed. They believe they have to start eating different foods (foods they don’t like), or it’s too hard. I think those are the 3 biggest reasons.

But you CAN have control, in spite of having willpower issues.

You control what goes into your body. If you are trying to lose weight, it is your responsibility what foods you eat. You can vary your menu and eat foods that you like and that will help you to take the weight off, rather than focusing on what you cannot eat. If you don’t do that, you will probably find yourself craving those things that you have decided you can’t eat.

Does that make sense? So with bipolar disorder, you don’t think about the things you CAN’T do, you concentrate on the things you CAN do. For example, you may not be able to work out in a gym for an hour a day, but you find that you can walk for a block or two. Whether it’s dieting, exercise, or taking your bipolar medication, remember that it’s NOT about willpower. It’s about making good decisions, and then following through on them. If your loved one is struggling in this area, they should some of my suggestions and see what happens.

Well, I have to go!

Your Friend,

 

Dave

 

  1. I agree. I have been able to stick to a diet by being careful of what I eat. I have relapsed, and then I start again. I was successful before, so I know I can do it again. I nned to keep on practicing to the good decisions.

  2. I just discovered what I need to have if I truly am serious about winning a lottery. See it is my ultimate dream, my ambition that will hurt no one. It will go to serve the higher good not just my own “selfish” persuasion. I discovered like anyone who has something to overcome in life – Bipolar, High Blood Pressure or Poverty one needs Will power.

    I will exercise Willpower particularly towards the lottery dreams – who knows – Perhaps by divine arrival an exciting amount will arrive and change my life forever.

    with love

  3. Currently as far as I know my sister is in the hospital with a present situation of her health being in full status problem. She has refused to take her medicines and it is causing her to not get well. There is a big struggle then on the part of the nurses, in how to get her to take her meds. I don’t know if they have had any success or not, but it is not helping my sister to refuse the meds. This has happened since she had learned of the passing of her aunt, which has had an adverse affect on her emotional condition as well as her psychological and spiritual status too. If any of your are CHRISTIANS, and able to pray please pray for my sister, she needs help to take her meds, and be able to calm down, she has been talking to herself, and for awhile it has been non-stop. I don’t know if there has been any improvements or not. It has been nearly a month, since the passing of our aunt. I am writing this because of the need to let others pray which I trust there are those of you who do so. This subject matter is current for my sister in her need.

  4. Dave,

    there is a difference between talking to yourself and talking about yourself; need Will Power in both cases to STOP!!!!!

    Today I spoke the whole day talking……about myself not to myself – there’s a difference

    I
    TELL MYSELF GO TO SLEEP
    TELL MYSELF I TALK ALL DAY LONG
    TELL MYSELF I AM SHARING WITH A TELEVISION LOVER
    TELL MYSELF “OH YEAH”
    TELL MYSELF WHAT DID I EAT TODAY
    TELL MYSELF I DO NOT APPROVE OF HEARING MY VOICE
    TELL MYSELF OK, ALRIGHT ETC.

    IT TAKES WILL POWER TO “BE QUIET” DISCOVER THIS

    ARE JUST A FEW OF THE MIND CHATTERS I GO THROUGH IN A GIVEN DAY – I WAS LOST FOR WORDS AND THAT’S RARE FOR ME AS I AM A TALKER WHEN SOMEONE ASKED YEAH BUT WHAT YOU SAY TO “YOUR MOM”??? FOR THE FIRST TIME IN 3 YEARS I WAS SILENT, IF YOU EVER NEED FOR ME TO “SHUT UP” JUST ASK THAT QUESTION – THAT DID THE TRICK – THAT IS SOMEONE THAT I WOULD ONLY SAY THE NICEST, MOST PRECIOUS, MOST GRACIOUS WORDS FLOWING FROM HEAVEN ABOUT

    I JUST LOST A FRIEND TO DEATH AND SHE TOLD ME “BLESSED ASSURANCE” I AM GOING HOME TO BE WITH MY LORD I WILL NOT BE MISSING THE WORST PART OF WHERE I JUST CAME FROM BUT I WILL MISS THE GREATEST REFLECTIONS OF CHRIST RIGHT HERE ON EARTH THESE CAME IN THE FORM OF “TRUE FAMILY, FRIENDS AND THE NICEST SITUATIONS I EVER CAME IN CONTACT WITH. NO ONE WHO EVER TRIGGERS, NO UNNECESSARY TAUNTERS OR THOSE REPEATING THINGS THAT HAPPENED IN HISTORY DECADES AGO I’M SOOOO HAPPY FOR HER A LITTLE ENVIOUS OK! STARTING WITH THE “SELF TALK” –

    AS I DONT TALK TO MYSELF – I SURE DO SAY ALOT OF AWEFUL THINGS OUT LOUD EVEN MY NEIGHBORS THINK I’M TALKING TO MY DOG BUT THEY ALL KNOW I’M USUALLY REFERRING TO MYSELF WHEN I’M MAKING THESE DISTRUCTIVE WORDS – HOW DO I STOP PROJECTING THIS “SELF LOATHING” UNTO AN ANOTHER

    WOULD YOUR MOTHER CRY AT YOUR WEDDING? NOPE I’M MARRYING THE RIGHT MAN, WHEW!
    WHAT WOULD YOU SAY TO YOUR MOTHER (I see you CARE)

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