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Hi,
How’s it going? Hope your Tuesday is going well.
Actually some people it’s Wednesday and I think
some people it’s Monday. Well hope your day is
going well. It’s really hard with over 100,000
people on the list now:)
Anyway I got a rather alarming email:
“Hey Dave! I love your information and
thanks for it. It’s been really helpful
to me. I should have written earlier
and said thanks. We found an incredible
doctor that has helped my son. This
doctor is great like I think you say
your mom’s doctor is great. I am so
happy. She is the best and we could
never find anyone else. She’s the only
good doctor that has helped. I hopes
she stays a doctor forever.”
-Jane
Do you know why this email is so alarming?
I want you to really think about it
and then scroll down for the answer.
Think about how I think and what my philosophy
is. I know that some will get it right
but many won’t.
So think now of the answer and then scroll.
Did you think of it? NO cheating. I will catch you 🙂
Scroll down…
Have you answer? Scroll down..
Okay there are a lot of issues here. The first
being Jane has ONE doctor and no backup doctors.
Jane doesn’t think she could get another doctor.
She couldn’t have used my doctor finding system
in full because it’s almost impossible to not
have a whole lot of “good” and “great” bipolar
doctors to choose from.
If you are interested in my doctor finding
system, it’s in any course/system below:
SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11
SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com
HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net
It’s about 40 pages long and a audio
material.
Anyway, finally Jane is assuming
the doctor will practice forever…not going
to happen. No doctor will stay in practice forever.
Let me tell you a story. When I was supporting
my mom, she had a terrible doctor. He was a total
joke. My mom told me how he would fall asleep
during their appointments. When my mom was
in bipolar episodes it was super easy for her
bipolar disorder to run circles around him.
Anyway, she got really sick, then went to the
hospital and then went to the bipolar outpatient program
where no one helped her. I then had to invent
my doctor finding system because my mom was
kicked out of the program because insurance ran
out and she needed a new doctor.
My dad went to the phone book and looked and
called 3 people. Nobody picked up. He left messages.
No one returned his calls. He said standing in the
kitchen, and I quote, “I guess there just aren’t
enough doctors to go around.”
I was thinking, “What the heck? That’s a bad
attitude.” I knew there were great doctors
but you have to find them.
Anyway, invented my doctor finding system so
highly qualified doctors would contact a person
instead of a person contacting the highly qualified
doctor. It was a strange concept that people at
the outpatient program laughed at and said that
“this will never work.” It did.
Okay so my mom’s current doctor contacted me
and said she could help. She was totally qualified.
Did I stop there? NO! I said to my self, “Self, we
need a backup doctor and I want the ability to
get doctors on demand….if her current doctor
quits, gets sick, etc, we will have backups and
if the backups fail we will know how to get more
super qualified people.”
So as it stands we have backup doctors and we
can easily start the doctor finding system again
to find someone new if we have to. No question
about it.
Jane on the other hand has one doctor. I would
suspect she used 20% of my doctor finding system
and landed on a great bipolar doctor. I would
guess she didn’t use the entire thing. She that’s
why she feel like she is lucky. I don’t like counting
on luck. I really don’t. I hate it. I work to create
systems and techniques that work based no effort
not luck.
Anyway, if you have just one doctor, ask yourself
“Do I have a backup and do I have a way to find a
backup?” If you do, great if not, watch out.
Hey I have to run and do some conference calls
in my consulting business. You have a great day
and I will catch you tomorrow. Oh I have some
great news for you. I have tell you tomorrow.
Your Friend,
Dave
P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp
P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/
P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com
Dave, thanks for the info it is very helpfull to people like me and the people at the program were I go for support. I’m in the news letter there and I’m going to use this article and others that u have sent me to publish in the letter so the people there can read what u have been doing to help us with Bipolar again thank u very much Ruth
My 40 year old daughter’s bizarre behavior since last November suggests to me that she could very well have bipolar disease. She has refused to accept any help through counseling or otherwise (from family) having been through 7 counselors when she was a teenager, at our insistence. She has been a loving, caring and nurturing daughter, but since her separation from her husband for the past 1 1/2 years and her abuse of family members (she has 4 brothers, she is unapproachable with suggestions that she seek help. Her daughter,16, is very close to her and chooses to live with her, while her 14 year old soon has chosen to live with his father, due to conditions at his mother’s house. She has been a nurturing, caring person
but has broken off all ties with the rest of her family. She either quit or was fired from a fine position, is very capable at whatever she chooses to do, and now is in need of money. I have helped her out a lot at first, but have since been told that I am only aiding her hurtful behavior. It is agonizing not knowing how to help. Her 4 brothers care about her as well and are eager to find any avenues that could help her. She has been diagnosed with lupus but in the past has been reluctant to attend to its needs as suggested by her doctors. Any suggestions on how we can lead her to professional help would be most appreciated. Anxious Parent
so true.. i went to the doctors yesterday and wasnt able to see mine, he has left my free clinic, now i left there feeling that the doctor i saw didnt give a crud about me or my condition. wish i had 2 doctors or more that i felt ok with.. now i have none =[
I wish Dr’s would hurry up too and get the right help I’m so bipolared out today. My partner has been bating me all day and finally my cooking kicked it all off. I screwed up the toad in the hole which gave him the free rein to mouth off about me and my family as if I have enough to put up with. Mind you sitting here I’m giggling to myself thinking back about it. I must have past the sensitive bit as I normally get really hurt. I guess my nan’s terminal illness is numbing me. But really what a parlava over food. he has been on edge for days and I knew it is a matter of time when an episode starts. I bet you two days later after the guilt trip wears off and he’ll be happy go lucky again. It was only a week agao he got upset wondering if I can take anymore of this I stupidly says it’s alright I’ve worked a strategy to avoid getting emotionally hurt and now he has upped the stakes.
Love to you all bye!
Dear Dave,
I personally have received help from your emails, and then this blogging forum is great!
However, I also know of others that have came to this site and accused you of trying to just sell your course. Maybe you are, but it is for the benefit of those of us that is honestly looking for support and information. Your mini-courses provide this help.
However, I do have a problem that I need to blog about other then the above.
Now my other comment is actually a request for help, as I can’t buy your course at this time, but would like you to put out some emails on those just beginning to get help and support for a 8 yr. old daughter. One parent is (my daughter, the mom) doing research, took her to her first doctor appt. yesterday; but she has no support from her husband when it comes to medication; and he tells her that she is too lenient with her daughter. I am bipolar myself, and her grandfather committed suicide, so she has a double whammy so to speak. My daughter checked the book out from the Papalos’s book, but they don’t offer suggestions on how to deal with a mate about the child being bipolar. My granddaughter is now beginning the bad dreams; rages lasting more then 2-3 hours; craving for sweets, in fact stealing sugar packets from a rest. and hiding them under her bed; abusive to her younger sister; can not accept “no,”; will have a rage episode in the rest. or when ever it strikes; then my daughter gets the stares and shaking of the heads from the other customers.
Any way, PLEASE help her! she doesn’t have a computer, but if you ask me for her number in an email, I’ll send it to you. If you can’t talk to personally, have someone that can, and actually understand where she is at.
Thank you,
Irene Graham
A very concerned grandmother
Hi Dave! You’re wright about this point. Actually I have some difficult to see my Doctor, because He’s working in other town and now He’s not working in the same hospital where I was interned. So I need to find a back-up doctor to continue my treatment. Your sistem is wright, but only works on U.S. and Canada. I live in Venezuela, Miranda Town. Thanks for all Dave!
I don’t have a PSYCHIATRIST as such right now. I have a Nurse Practitioner who is allowed to prscribe meds, and she has done a wonderful job. Only problem I have with her is I only get 15 min with her.
I also have a Psychotherapist/LCSW whom I have known personally for 30 years. I have almost a full hour with her bi-monthly. It’s really easy to talk to her, and she always understands where I’m coming from every time.
A new Case Manager has come on board, and I have an appt with her next week.
So, you see, I have three back-ups when I need them. In addition, if none of them is available, I can call Emergency Services at our local Community Mental Health Services, and get someone on the other end, who can evaluate and decide whether I need hospitalization or just to talk. This is 24/7.
I highly encourage ANY bipolar to have back-up. You never know when you will need it…
I don’t know what it’s like in the States, but here in the UK charitable organisations can give you a lot of help and support so you don’t actually need a whole bag full of doctors (which aren’t in good supply here!). Bipolars and supporters need to ensure that they are getting everything these organisations can offer—eg helplines, support groups, one-to-one befriending, counselling,links with hospitals.
Hi Dave having a bad day. Great info i have to make more time to go over alot of info. My son was arrested for domestic violence he is in jail. I have to figure out how to get him help so they don’t send him off to prison this is his second one and he broke someone nose twice. I still can’t get him to see how inportant it is to get the right meds he will not talk to the doctors or anyone.He is 19 yrs old i have been going through hell since he was 13.
i have a suggestion for anyone with bi-polar who will not take their meds. a family and friend intervention. basically the caregiver would assemble as many caring and interested parties, especially friends and significant others who will voice their concerns and observations of the person during a bi-polar episode to tell the person how their behavior has changed and is affecting others
noting the many losses in the bi-polar’s life without meds. take a video or audio-tape of the bi-polar episode to show the person how they are and how others see them. use the evidence whenever the person backslides, or decides to backslide from taking their meds. for anyone who lives with the bi-polar person, have them take the meds in front of you and make sure they swallow. doctors tend to overprescribe, so don’t tirade up the meds past the functioning point. go on as few meds as possible, to prevent side effects and unnecessary interactions. be involved with the daily affect a med has on the patient. if the med doesn’t work effectively after 2 months, change the med. have the bp person keep a daily journal with feelings and occurences with a list of the meds taken at the time. this way, you have a history of what works and what doesn’t. also the bp person has a written, visual, and auditory record of their behavior with and without meds. if that’s not convincing then a loss of something in their life might convince them, take away something they want until the meds are adhered to. i hope this helps.
common sense in an uncommon world
i forgot to mention, always have a supply of klonipin available, it is a lifesaver in keeping your loved ones out of the hospital before a bout of insomnia gets out-of-hand. make sure your bp loved one’s gets a full night’s sleep. lack of sleep is a trigger for an episode, so don’t let it get out of hand. you may need to raise meds during this time to keep from going over the edge. then when sleep sets in again
tirade down. anixiety and bi-polar are often concurrent, klonipin helps sleep and anxiety. watch your stress level, that’s the main trigger in any episode. good luck.