How’s it going for you today?
I actually have Jury Duty today so I have to get going.
I seriously hope it doesn’t drag on and on because I have so many other things to do–like volunteer tonight.
Anyway, you know about my goddaughter, right?
I probably talk about her a lot (but that’s because she’s my goddaughter!).
Well, she is so curious, which is probably common for her age.
She tries to get into everything.
But she is also so impatient, too!
She knows what she wants, and she wants it NOW!
Well, that made me think about how there are two kinds of people in this world:
Those who are impatient (like my goddaughter)…
And those who are patient.
Impatient people who like to read are those who will jump to the end of the book to see how it turns out, then go back and finish the rest of the book.
Right, do you know someone like that? I hate that! I couldn’t do it.
Or someone who fast forwards through a DVD just to see how the movie ends, then goes back and watches it. Come on now, that’s beyond impatient to the absurd! (I hope that’s not you)
Well, when it comes to bipolar disorder, there are those same two kinds of people.
When it comes to the patient ones, it kind of reminds me of the line from that movie “Field of Dreams,” where he says, “Build it and they will come.”
Stability is like that.
Be patient, and it will come.
But let’s talk about the impatient ones first.
The impatient ones are like my goddaughter.
They know what they want (stability, of course).
And they want it NOW!
There are two basic problems with this:
1. Stability is a process – it doesn’t
2. You have to work to gain stability –
it doesn’t happen by itself.
People who don’t recognize that stability is a process are not willing to go through the necessary steps and needed changes to get there, and that is sad, because they will have more episodes, and it will take much, much longer for them to recover (if they ever do).
Impatient people with bipolar disorder who are not willing to do the necessary work to gain it will never achieve stability because they are probably lazy and unproductive – and stability is not something that someone else can do for you; you have to do it for yourself.
Impatient people with the disorder will also have problems with relationships and at home on top of problems with their disorder, because their impatience will carry over into all other areas of their life.
They will often find themselves alone, whereas a person trying to gain stability who realizes the value of a good strong support system will be better off than they are.
Impatience pushes people away, even alienates them, and you need people to gain stability.
In my courses/systems, I discuss how important it is to be patient with bipolar disorder and to understand that stability does not happen overnight.
SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Impatient people have a much, much harder time reaching stability than patient people do.
Patient people know how to wait for things (like the “build it and they will come” thing).
A patient supporter is the best supporter because they know how to “wait out” their loved one’s episodes.
And that is a very, very difficult thing to do, as you know.
When both the supporter and the loved one with bipolar disorder are patient, they are an unbeatable team!
When two people together are fighting this serious disorder, there is a much greater chance for stability than if one person were trying to fight it alone.
Your role as a supporter is so important, especially in encouraging your loved one.
And sometimes your patience may be tried, but if you can conquer that, it will make such a difference!
If you have bipolar disorder, and you can be patient with your progress, little steps will lead to greater steps, and eventually you will become stable.
A lot of it has to do with your attitude.
A positive attitude will go far in helping you to be patient.
Whereas a negative attitude just feeds into impatience.
I would much rather be a patient person than an impatient one.
What about you?