Remember the games we used to play as children? Some people even remember whole block
games of tag and hide and go seek. We used to play a lot of games that used our imaginations, didn’t we? Like dressing up as super heroes and ballerinas. These days we don’t see that as much. We see more technology in children’s toys than we used to. Unfortunately, we don’t see them using their imaginations as much. And whole block games are really out of the
question – Most people rarely even know their neighbors any more. Yes…Things aren’t what they used to be. But, unfortunately, people do still play games. But when they play games as adults, it’s not a good thing.
You may even be feeling as if your loved one with bipolar disorder is playing games. Some people call that manipulation. Being manipulated is never a good feeling. It makes you feel as if you’re being used. But even if your loved one is exhibiting manipulative behavior, it may not be their fault. It may be because of their bipolar disorder. It can make them act like that. So if you do notice this type of behavior in your loved one…You can identify it as a symptom that they may be going into a bipolar episode. In that case…You can try to get them to seek the help they need by getting them to call their psychiatrist as soon as possible, and hopefully avoid a full-blown bipolar episode this way.
Unfortunately…Some supporters report manipulative behavior in their loved one as being more prevalent than just symptomatic of an oncoming bipolar episode. They have asked me if this behavior then is due to the bipolar or if it’s just their loved one? I really don’t have an answer for that, as each person is different. But, in general…Some people are just more manipulative than others. And some people with bipolar disorder do use their disorder as an excuse for manipulative behavior.
For example…Someone with the disorder who has problems managing money may manipulate their supporter by getting them to give them money when they inevitably keep running out of money because of their inability to manage it well. How do you know it’s manipulation? Because it’s a pattern of behavior. So what can you do about it? It becomes the responsibility of the supporter to do something about it. Because the person with the disorder won’t stop as long
as they’re getting what they want. So you have to force them to. In this case, you have to stop giving them money. Or set conditions or limits to the money you do give them. You do not have to stand for being manipulated. And your loved one having bipolar disorder is not an excuse for them manipulating you.
Well, I have to go!