Hi,

How’s it going?

I hope you’re ok.

I have a friend who calls himself a “recovering alcoholic.”

One day I asked him what’s the difference between a “recovering” alcoholic and a “regular” alcoholic?

He said, “I don’t drink.”

So what’s the difference between a high functioning person with bipolar disorder and just a “regular” person with bipolar disorder?

For one thing, if you were to look at a high functioning person with bipolar disorder, you’d never know that they even have the disorder.

They are productive, stable, and successful, and live a pretty normal life.

So what else makes the difference?

Usually their attitudes.

A high functioning person has a positive attitude…

While a low functioning person is just the opposite – they have a negative attitude.

Another difference is that one is willing to do whatever it takes to reach (and maintain) stability, while the other one isn’t.

Guess which one isn’t.

Right.

A low functioning person is like those people with bipolar disorder who you hear complain all the time, or blame all their problems on the disorder.

A high functioning person will do the things like I teach in my courses/systems:

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They will change their lifestyle to suit their stability.

They will eat right, exercise, and keep a good sleep schedule.

They will be productive.

They will take all their medications willingly.

They will see their doctor, psychiatrist, and therapist faithfully.

They will have a strong support system.

They will avoid what they’ve learned are triggers to a bipolar episode for them.

They will keep their stress and anxiety to a minimum.

They will watch for any signs and symptoms of episodes, so they can avoid them.

In other words, in one word, they are STABLE.

And they worked hard to get that way.

While the low functioning person is just the opposite.

They won’t be medication compliant (or will complain about having to take it).

They won’t have a strong support system. They think they can handle this on their own.

They won’t go to see their doctor, psychiatrist or therapist, because they don’t think they need them.

They will probably sleep too much and even be lazy and unproductive.

They will go through several episodes.

In other words, they are NOT STABLE.

What’s the difference?

Just what I said in one sentence before:

The high functioning person with bipolar disorder will do whatever it takes to get and stay stable.

Willingly and with a positive attitude, they will do WHATEVER it takes.

Are you doing whatever it takes to maintain your stability?

If not, you could lose it.

Hi,

How’s it going?

You know I do a lot of reading about bipolar disorder, right?

I read everything I can get my hands on, all the time.

Because in order to keep you well-informed, I have to stay well-informed.

And also because I am still a supporter of a loved one with bipolar disorder myself.

And there is always new stuff coming out all the time.

Well, I read something in a brochure from the National Mental Health Association (NMHA) called “Making the Journey to Recovery,” and I thought it was really interesting.

So I wanted to share it with you.

This excerpt from the brochure said:

“All of us are unique. What works for

one person may not work for another.

But one thing is true for everyone: The

more you know about your illness and

treatment choices, the more ready you’ll

be to make the decisions that are right

for you. You can control your illness and

your life. With the help of friends, family,

health professionals, and support groups,

you can recover.”

———————————————————–

I really liked what that brochure said, because too many times the information you read is negative.

It can even discourage you.

But this was very encouraging, I thought.

In my courses/systems, I always talk about recovery from bipolar disorder, that it is possible, and how to get there. I try to give people hope, and direction.

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That’s what I think this brochure did, too.

It raised some good points.

It’s especially important to remember that what works for one person may not work for another.

Because you may hear things like at a support group meeting, that you might want to take home with you, and that wouldn’t be the right thing to do.

For example, just because some person says that this one medication is great and did wonders for their loved one, doesn’t mean that it would work for your loved one.

Like the brochure says, everyone is unique.

You also can’t compare yourself to another supporter, because each of you are different as well.

Don’t try to be like someone else.

Just keep doing what works for your loved one and you.

I also like what the brochure said about the thing that is the same for everyone.

That the more you know about your illness and treatment choices, the more ready you’ll be to make the decisions that are right for you.

Notice it says, “…right for YOU.”

Because, remember again that everyone is different.

And you know I’m always stressing education.

That’s because I don’t think you could ever know everything about bipolar disorder.

There is new information coming out all the time.

And there are decisions you and your loved one both have to make in controlling and managing their bipolar disorder.

The more informed you are, like the brochure said, the better off you will be to make those decisions.

The best part of the brochure to me, though, is that it tells you that you CAN control your illness and your life.

Because that’s one of the main things I’m always saying about bipolar disorder – that it can be controlled. And that it doesn’t have to take over your life.

And, like the brochure ends: “…you can recover.”

I really like that part, because it reinforces what I tell you as well:

That recovery from bipolar disorder IS possible!

What do you think about what this brochure said?

Hi,

How’s it going? I have to get going pretty quick. I’ll catch up with you next week.

Here’s the news.

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Here are the news headlines:

Breakthrough in Mental Illness Diagnosis

DO> Interesting article, take a look.

Psychiatric Medications Remain a Mystery

DO> It sure does. I have asked how it works over and over and nobody can say exactly other than it works.

Being in Two Minds Always

DO> What do you think of this?

Youth Push for Louder Conversation about Suicide

DO> This is a huge problem around the world.

Butler Provides Anonymous Tool to Diagnose Depression

DO> Do you like this idea?

Mental Illness Sufferers Urge Message of Hope

DO> Great article, take a look.

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Dave

Hi,

How’s it going?

Actually I am in the process of lowering by body fat to under 6%. My goal is to get there by October 22, 2009.

I am not sure if I told you this, but I used to weigh 282 pounds at my peak when I was playing football.

Well, after football, I decided that it was not wise to carry that much weight, so I wanted to drop down to about 220 pounds.

I did it. I lost that 60 pounds.

And I have kept off that 60 pounds for over 10 years now. Which, according to statistics, is incredible.

See, for a lot of people, they lose the weight, but then they gain it back. But I didn’t.

I don’t say that to brag, but only to qualify what I am about to say.

In order for me to do this, I had to create a system and to follow it.

That’s why I am always telling people with bipolar disorder and their supporters that you have to have systems in place if you’re going to get better.

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Well, I faced ups and downs, I’m just being honest with you.

No system is perfect, because no person is perfect.

Like, you could be on the perfect diet, right?

And you could follow it every day for weeks to a T.

But then one day you would just have to have that piece of chocolate, right?

You would just have that craving so bad!

So it would be tough to keep up being perfect all the time.

But as long as the main system is in place, it will be ok.

Have you ever played that game where you stack up the pieces of wood?

Well, the idea is that each person one at a time takes out one piece, until one of the people makes the stack fall.

The point I’m trying to make is that they could take out just a few pieces of wood and it would be ok.

But there would come a point where the whole pile would come crashing down.

So you need a good system.

One that will stand up to one or two pieces being ok to be taken out without the whole thing coming crashing down.

So let’s look first at being a supporter:

You have to have a system too.

You are dealing with bipolar disorder just as much as your loved one is.

Your system might be that you have to work to support the family financially, and that you handle the family finances.

Another part of your system is to watch your loved one’s patterns, triggers, signs and symptoms so you can tell in advance if they are going into a bipolar episode.

But you can’t be a babysitter all the time, so that’s ok. You just do the best you can.

Another part of your system is to take action of you do see that they are in a bipolar episode.

Do you see how you have to have a system? Of course, these are only a few parts that should be included in your system.

Now, for the person with bipolar disorder:

Your system, first of all, MUST include taking medication, as prescribed, and on a daily basis. This is crucial to attaining and maintaining your stability.

Other parts of your system would include proper rest, a good sleep schedule, exercise, and a healthy diet.

You also HAVE to see medical and mental health professionals – a doctor, psychiatrist, and therapist (or counselor, social worker, clergy person, etc.) for your medication and to deal with issues surrounding your bipolar disorder and your life because of it.

Having a good strong support system with several people in it would also help, but is like that wood piece game I was talking about. If you only have you and your primary supporter, at least you have that.

Just like your supporter, you need to be watching your own patterns, triggers, and signs and symptoms for an oncoming bipolar episode, and have a system of what to do if you do go into one.

Of course, these are only some of the things that should be part of your system.

What about you?

What systems do you have in place?

How do they work for you?

Hi,

How’s it going?

I hope you’re doing ok today.

You know, some things are to be expected in life.

Like in winter, you can expect that people are going to get the flu.

You can expect that if you work at a job, that you will get a paycheck.

You can expect that if you pay your rent or mortgage, you will have a house to live in.

(You can also expect that at some point, you will have to make repairs to that house, however.)

Same with your car –

You can expect that if you keep up the payments, you will have a car to drive.

(You can also expect that at some point, you will have to make repairs to that car, however.)

Well, it’s the same with bipolar disorder.

You can expect certain things when your loved one has the disorder.

On the one hand, if they are doing what they should be doing to attain stability, then you can

expect that they will get stable.

These are the things I talk about in my courses/systems:

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On the other hand, if they are not doing the right things, you can expect that they will not

get stable.

But let’s just concentrate on the positive side of things.

If your loved one is taking their medication like they’re supposed to, you can expect that the medication will work and help them become stable.

If they are going to all their appointments – doctor, psychiatrist, and therapist – then you can

expect there to be progress there.

If they are eating right, you can expect them to be healthy.

If they are exercising, you can expect that they will stay in shape physically.

If they are sticking to a good sleep schedule, then you can expect that they will have good

days, without the mania from lack of sleep.

Unfortunately, sometimes you don’t always get what you expect.

Bipolar disorder is just sneaky like that.

Your loved one could be doing everything right and still go into an episode.

So you can expect that with bipolar disorder, there will be setbacks.

If your loved one is keeping a journal and/or a daily mood chart, however, you can most likely see the pattern as it approaches so you can avoid a full blown episode.

However, if your loved one does go into an episode, you should know what to expect then, as well, because you’ve experienced it in the past.

You can expect that they are going to exhibit certain behaviors, like they have before.

Which actually gives you an advantage, because what they’ve done before, they will do

again, and you can be prepared.

If you do what you need to do as far as being a supporter to your loved one, then you can

expect that they will feel that support.

And if enough time has passed, and your loved one has continued to take their medication, see their therapist, and do the other things they need to do to attain stability, you can expect that they will, indeed, someday be stable.

What are some of your expectations?

Hi,

How are you today?

I hope you’re doing well.

Well, football season is here again.

It made me think of the expression, “all geared up.”

That’s what they call it when they’ve got all their gear on and are psyched up to play the game.

Well, I think we can use that expression for bipolar disorder too.

You need to be all geared up for the game – in other words, the battle with bipolar disorder.

You should be psyched up about the fact that you can help your loved one to manage it.

It may not seem like a possibility right now, but think toward the future.

Stability is just waiting for them.

But, like with football, they can’t win the game just by being geared up.

They still have to play the actual game, and play it hard, play it the best that they can.

Then they can hope to win.

But they have to go in with an attitude that says they ARE going to win, or else they won’t do as

well.

That’s what being psyched up is.

Believing that you’re going to win.

And we can apply that to bipolar disorder as well.

In fact, you are kind of like your loved one’s cheerleader.

Cheering them on toward recovery and stability.

Making sure they take their medication.

Insuring that they go to all their appointments with their doctor, psychiatrist, and therapist.

Making sure they get enough sleep.

Helping them stick to a healthy diet.

These are some of the suggestions that I talk about in my courses/systems:

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You are part of your loved one’s team.

A major part of their support system.

Without a strong support system it’s almost impossible to reach stability and “win the game.”

It’s just too much to do it by yourself.

Now, a football game consists of certain “plays” that force that football down to the end zone

for a touchdown.

It takes time to do that.

That’s why they have all those annoying commercials! 

Each play has to be coordinated.

They have to have a strategy.

And that’s what you have to have with bipolar disorder, too.

A strategy.

You don’t want the other team (the bipolar disorder) to win.

So you need to develop ways to beat it.

Strategies in place.

For example, you need to know what you’re going to do in advance if your loved one goes

into an episode.

You need to have a strategy for that.

It is carefully placed strategies that win football games…

And it’s strategies that will win your battle against bipolar disorder.

Can you see how bipolar disorder can be compared to a football game?

And don’t you want to be on the winning team?

Hi,

If you need help explaining bipolar disorder, please take a look at this link:

http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/specialoffer/explainingbipolar/

I made these booklets actually for my family so I didn’t have to keep on explaining what bipolar disorder is.

It’s designed for the most hostile people and get them to be brought around to it being a real illness and serious. Actually it was first given to my brother who it actually worked on. It was much easier for me give him a little yellow booklet than explain what bipolar disorder is verbally.

Anyway take a look if you need help.

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Dave

Hi,

Are you having a good day?

I hope so.

You know, when parents raise their children, they always tell them to do their best.

It’s a value that we receive and hopefully pass on to our own children and live by it ourselves.

When I used to have a lawn service, it didn’t matter whether it was the lowest paying customer

or the highest paying customer.

I always did my best.

I couldn’t do it with my mom, though, because I didn’t have the right “tools” (like I did for

my lawn care business).

Still, knowing my mother’s story and mine, you might be thinking that I did the best I could with

what I had to work with.

And that’s kind of you.

But still I wish things had been different.

That’s why I developed my courses/systems – so no one else would have to go through what I went through with my mom.

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People who have Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder struggle with the idea of doing your best, unfortunately.

They can be such a perfectionist that it interferes with their lives.

Or their work.

Or their relationships.

I know, because I’ve done research on this.

So you actually have an advantage.

You don’t have a mental illness, so you don’t have to try to be a perfectionist in everything you do.

Especially when it comes to dealing with your loved one.

No one expects perfection from you, so don’t expect it from yourself.

You can only do the best you can do with bipolar disorder.

Otherwise, you will stress yourself out.

And that’s something that you really don’t need.

You know how to be a good supporter.

You have information that I didn’t have.

Just from these daily emails, you should be learning information that will help you.

But if you’re doing your best to be the best supporter you can be, but your loved one goes into an episode anyway, just remember that it’s not your fault.

It’s not your fault that they have bipolar disorder, and it’s not your fault when that disorder exhibits itself in your loved one.

Some supporters beat themselves up over it.

Don’t be one of those people.

Just do your best. That’s all that is expected of you.

You are not perfect, and you can’t expect to be, especially when it comes to bipolar disorder.

It’s not because of anything you do or don’t do that your loved one will go into an episode.

They will go into an episode just because they have bipolar disorder.

It’s just the nature of the disorder, and has nothing to do with you.

You know how to be a good supporter to your loved one.

So just do the best that you can.

Nobody expects any more from you than that.

What about you?

Are you trying to be the perfect supporter?

Can you see now how there is no such thing as perfect when it comes to bipolar disorder?

Hi,

Here’s the news.

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Mental Illness Awareness Week

DO> Good reminder, take a look.

Removing the Stigma tied to Mental Illness

DO> Worthy goal, but it’s going to take a long time unfortunately

Seeds of Wellness: Bipolar Disorder can Make Everyday Life Difficult

DO> Isn’t this obviously?

Families, Officials Wage Battle with Mental Illness

DO> I completely agree, don’t you?

Gene Controlling Number Of Brain Cells Pinpointed

DO> Very interesting article, take a look.

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Your Friend,

Dave

Hi,

How’s it going?

Hope you’re ok.

A friend of mine had to go to a business meeting the other day.

Well, the day of the meeting, someone in her office was rude to her, and she became

defensive.

To the point that she did not even want to go to the meeting.

She was thinking with her emotions instead of her head, and I told her so.

I said, “Make the decision to go to the meeting with your head, and let your mind direct your actions instead of letting your emotions dictate your reactions.”

She was still feeling very anxious, so I told her to “Just breathe.”

That’s it – “Just breathe.”

I’ve talked to so many people with bipolar disorder who use that method for anxiety and

stress.

It’s so simple, but it works.

Deep breathing can help you to deal with anxiety and stress.

So she listened to me, and she went to the meeting.

She did what I told her to do.

And she made things happen.

She was a success at that meeting.

I think sometimes we complicate things in our minds, and our emotions take things out of

proportion.

Then we can get nervous, feel defensive, take things wrong, etc.

In my courses/systems, I tell you to really listen to your loved one, not only to what they’re saying, but also to what they are NOT saying.

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Good communication is so very important when it comes to success.

Whether it was success for my friend, or success for you and your loved one fighting bipolar disorder together.

I was also thinking about how supporters kind of get lost in the shuffle when it comes

to bipolar disorder.

I don’t think we get enough credit.

Have you ever heard the saying, “Behind every good man, there’s a good woman.”?

Well, I think it’s kind of like that.

I believe that behind every successful survivor of bipolar disorder, there’s a strong supporter helping them.

I’ve known very few people who were able to achieve stability all by themselves.

VERY few.

Bipolar supporters make things

happen.

They make sure that their loved one takes their medication.

They make sure that their loved one goes to see their doctors and therapists.

They make sure the home setting is as stress-free an environment for their loved one as they can.

They are supportive and understanding.

When they see their loved one start to show symptoms of a bipolar episode, they make sure their loved one gets the help they need to avoid it.

They take care of themselves, so that they can be the best supporter they can be.

Supporters just…

MAKE THINGS HAPPEN.

As a bipolar supporter, you should never be taken for granted.

Your job is very important to your loved one’s stability.

What are some of the things you do to make things happen?

What do you do to help your loved one get closer to stability?