Hi,
I wanted to say welcome to another about 1700 new subscribers in the last 24 hours or so.
We have had two really, really big days.
Someone wrote me how come I don’t welcome every new subscriber. I would if I could but we get up to 2000 a day some times : )
Anyway, I hope you’re having a good day.
Oh wait, one other thing. Someone had a great suggestion to have a link in this message that says who I am. They said that friends had signed up but weren’t sure who I really was. I am going to get someone to set something up.
Okay, let’s jump into today’s topic that I thought of because of all the problems I have been having in IT (information technology).
SIDE NOTE:
In order for me to make all this happen and make the entire organization help lots of people who are dealing with bipolar disorder, there is a on, and I mean a ton of IT related stuff.
It’s taken me a month to really get a handle on understanding what I need to understand. Fortunately I have many smart people who are doing a great job.
I wanted to ask you something, okay?
Have you ever thought about how things were in the beginning compared to how things are now? I know how frustrating things can be sometimes, because I’m a supporter, too, but…
Sometimes it helps to think back to how helpless you felt back before your loved one was diagnosed and before you had any information on bipolar disorder to begin with. Then think of how much you’ve learned since then, and how much your loved one has, hopefully, also learned since then about how to manage is/her bipolar disorder.
In my courses/systems below:
SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11
SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com
HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
Of course I teach many things about how to manage bipolar disorder and how to deal with it, both for survivors and for their loved ones.
But think about it –
In the beginning, you knew nothing about the disorder. All you knew was that your loved one just wasn’t “normal,” just wasn’t “themselves.”
But now you know so much more, don’t you?
Hopefully, you’ve done some research, gotten educated, read my material, and at least I know you’ve been learning from these emails.
Educating yourself is the main thing, as I teach in my courses/systems. You have to learn as much as you can about the disorder in order to help your loved one. It’s like you have this enemy that you’re fighting, and the enemy isn’t your loved one, it’s bipolar disorder.
In any war, they tell you to know your enemy. in order to know your enemy, you have to know as much about your enemy as you can.
So I encourage you, keep learning. Keep studying. Keep reading. Keep researching.
Never stop growing in knowledge, for the more you know, the better equipped you are to deal with the disorder and your loved one.
- Keep researching on the Internet
- Order BP Magazine or read it online
- Read books about it
- Visit your local library
- Research online articles or at your Library periodicals section
- Go to your loved one’s bipolar support group for f.ree literature
- Ask your loved one’s doctor for f.ree pamphlets
Keep learning as much about bipolar disorder as you can, so you can stay in control of it instead of it in control of you and your loved one.
Remember, knowledge is power!
It takes time. I know bipolar disorder inside and out because I have done a ton of studying on the subject AND I have real world experience. I have a mom with bipolar disorder. I have friends with bipolar disorder. And I have people that work for me that have bipolar disorder.
It takes time to get all the learning down. Best thing to do is try to short cut it by learning from someone else who knows what he/she is talking about.
Well, I have to go.
FIND OUT WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING ABOUT ME
Visit: http://www.bipolarcentral.com/testimonials
David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide “Bipolar Disorder—The REAL Silent Killer.” Click Here to get FREE Information sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.
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Thankyou so much for all you send my way.My love one is in hospitall went in today.But yes you are so right .I do know more now also there is no blame.Thankyou for these enlightments-29 years together it was such a shock the first one. my mother is bi-polar also.I feel just as affected as my love ones it has been with me a life time as well. sincerly john
To Theresa:
Yesterday you asked about wheather & BP.
I always feel better as a big storm system moves through.
Another GREAT! tool that I’ve found is th online support group at
Revolutionhealth
Go to menu item community then groups.
They have a group called the Ambush of Being Bipolar with over 500 members.
They have led to me to a lot of great links and are always there to help.
I tried giving the exact address but that didn’t work for some reason.
Thanks David for all you do for the BP community!
I am just beginning this journey with my 26 year old son. He’s a beatiful person and I just hate that he is having to go thru this. I want to learn all I can. I’m most afraid of doing too much for him. I want him to be self sufficient. He’s still struggling trying to get a two year degree. He’s almost there but this bipolar thing has really messed things up.
I agree with the idea of educating yourself. As a “supporter,” I had no idea what was going on with my sister as BP symptoms started showing up. Our relationship always had been close, and then she became alien to me…totally different! Once I figured out that it was probably BP (I haven’t heard a “for sure” diagnosis because she is still keeping me at arm’s length to some degree), I researched and asked questions about BP disorder from people in the know. Things are much better a year later…mostly because I have a much better understanding of what was going on. Thanks for your info!
Boy Dave,
Before I found out about bipolar I was just boxing in the dark with Mohammad Ali. Except he had night vision goggles on… lol. I kept getting knocked out! Time after time after time. I had no information about my enemy, I couldn’t see him, I couldn’t duck a punch, I couldn’t lay a finger on him. Now I can see my enemy, for I have night goggles too! I can duck punches, I can even land a few! My life was hopeless and meaningless and dark without the information you have provided about bipolar and the help I have gotten from other literary sources. I know my enemy, and know him well. I win now most of the time instead of losing all of the time!
I know about my sister, but I am still saving up for your supporter package. I was half way there, but had an emergency. I will get it soon and learn how to deal with her. At leas my niece is getting help and doing much better. Her life would have been as bad as mine was if I hadn’t gotten help and suggested that she may have bipolar. They took her to a psychiatrist and he put her on bipolar meds and she smoothed out big time. She is a teen and teens have problems, but she is not anywhere near where she was without help, and the help I got from you and others has made all the difference in her life. Thanks for helping me to save my niece a life time of horror like I had, and I’m sure your supporter package will help me with my sister.
Me and my niece are two lives that you have impacted in a huge way! You are a bipolar Hero Dave! No telling how many lives you have saved, how much suffering you have prevented, all because you care enough to be a doer and not just a bump on a log. Thanks for being a real go-getter!
Your Buddy,
Bob
To Tried Them All:
Just hang in there!
As so many of us here know, it DOES GET BETTER!
Keep learning about the condition and yourself. Learn what triggers your episodes and new ways of coping with those triggers.
Come join our discussions at REVOLUTIONHEALTH AMBUSH OF BEING BIPOLAR a FREE online support group and those of us there can give you more direct encouragement. I never know here if you get to read all the posts or not. It can be a lot to sort through some days.
To Kay in Indiana: Thanks, I have looked at Revolution Health’s web site. Some of it is helpful. I apparently have many things that ‘trigger’ an episode. But, I am really very stressed and am in a bad financial position that I can’t seem to get out of. It is always very difficult. Seems like everything is a struggle. And, the only light I is see at the end of the tunnel is another train approaching me from the opposite direction. Doesn’t sound very hopeful or optimistic does it?
i have unsubscribed from this because it is evident that neither you nor any of your staff/personnel read emails/comments sent to you or your site.
There is not anything you can tell me about this disorder.
I am appalled that you profit from your mother’s illness. If I understand this correct, you do not have Bipolar your mother does. What a great son!!
How can you presume to tell us who live with Bipolar most of our lives what Bipolar is & how to live with it?????????????????????
thank you sorry verry munch for senting this to me.
this is reely helping me with my love one.
PLEASE came senting things to me.. as you
your reseach is more then what you get from the dr,
THANK,S agian. and have a nice day.
by for now.
Kimberley.
Thank you for all of your difficult devoted effort! Your struggles have opened my eyes and encouraged me to become educated about this influential disorder. I absolutely LOVED the article you had about Omega 3 fatty acids helping to treat bipolar research patients. It was very well written and made a great deal of sense with an extra benifit of such highly qualified individuals planning and promoting the research. Again, thank you for all of your trouble you are definitely shedding light on a very dark and mysterious subject!!!
To A: First, Dave DOES pay attention to emails on this site and occasionally he responds directly to them. You obviously have not viewed this site very long to know that. Second, Dave does not claim to be a doctor, psychiatrist, therapist or professional. He simply is a person who is writing on his own experience with his mother and the subsequent research he has done concerning bipolar. Dave is not misrepresenting himself as bipolar, he never claimed to be bipolar, he says his experience is from learning from his mother’s condition. Dave is a supporter, not a survivor.
Hi David,
Keep that information coming because you never stop learning. Luckily I was somewhat educated by having a close friend of mine of many years dealing with bipolar. It never touched me directly until about 43 years into our marriage. I know that sounds incredible, but nevertheless true. My husband held a very responsible and stressful job for almost 34 years, overseering 40+ men at one time and never had any signs of it. He was diagnosed back in 1950 at he end of an Army tour. But when we were making the move to Florida, even though retired, apparently that stress overwhelmed and brought him to a point of a Manic episode. It lasted several months in and out. I spoke with the Dr. about his behavior and since being in denial, there was no way he could be helped. Somehow it passed and did not crop up again until 10 years after a severe medical problem (undo stress again)this time a bit more severe. Still in denial, thankfully through my neurologist and his internist, I was given medication for him without his knowledge. Unorthodox? yes but for survival there was little choice for us. You know as well as I you cannot force someone to go to a hospital if they don’t wish to comply, but through a bizare coincidence(he mistakedly called the ambulance for me being upset, I convinced him to go with me and when we arrived at the hospital, it was apparent that he was the one who needed help and the Baker Act was performed and he was in a pyschiatric facility for 3 days but no follow up after. again he got through it. Last year, only 4 years later (also health related stress) this time a full blown episode – The nightmare that followed, would take me too long to write down but this time was together with psychosis. Had I seen the signs coming even the first time, absolutely and thereafter, but this time was far greater out of my reach and I reached out to a lot of people, professionals alike, but with his denial, there was no where to turn. I had to resort to an ex parte (a court order for commitment) it was the worse time ever in our entire lives. We were married 52 years. Best friends, two peas in a pod and no one to help us. Police are not trained. With authority of any kind, many in an episode are very convincing they are fine and behaving (at the time) He spent 1 week in the pyschiatric facility and then transferred to the VA in Gainesville for 2 more. The transition was amazing with the right med. I thank God every day for their help. He is now on the meds 1 year, more importantly, now acknowledging that it is a must requirement all the time. For us a miracle. A total reversal. He is back to the beautiful person he always was and knowing it can still happen again, we now have the proper professionals and contacts for it not to happen that way again. Thanks again for all that you do.
Hi, David. I read all the articles that you send me although I don’t post a comment on all of them. I’m in the process of learning… and gathering information, and that is thanks to you.
My daughter gets all the articles you write. Since I am the only bipolar person she knows, I am helping her to help and understand me. I thinke your articles are very clear and very helpful in understanding bipolar behaviour. I know it helps to clarify things for me. I just wish I had *found* this resource sooner. 🙂
A few years back I attempted suicide. Later, as I look back on it, I remember it as the bipolar episode it was. I was taking care of my son, also bipolar and schitzophrenic. Here is the poem I wrote:
[=======/ The Ache in my Heart
A long time ago my heart screamed and cried when you were homeless
My son, my dearest son
Bittersweet moments ago you saw and heard things that were mere shadows
Oh, the wrenching and ache in my heart for want of your future
Though the cries of an animal kept you awake
Again and again you came to my bedroom
It was a horrid movie and not reality
The animal was not there!
You became as a young child and flopped down on top of my bed
My own tired soul looked for escape
I became more tired each day
Until I plotted for my escape
For a long time, there was none
And your delusions concerned me more each day
I became the hunted and felt so even after you moved away
My dreams became delusions -I would search for you and not find you
Terrible things had happened to you and I could not help you
I woke thinking you had entered my yard
That you were getting closer and I was afraid
My son, my dearest son, the tormented
Finally my heart got tired of life
I did not want to live
For my illness there were pills-put away for a rainy day
One day I took them all
I finally got the sleep that I needed
My tired heart had wanted to die
I woke up to find myself still alive and wondered at it
I had made no prayer as I lay down to die
I hoped that God would remember me
I still believed in an earthly paradise
It was not time for me to die!
I started to hope more each day
I found my life and started to grow
There were friends that became my family
Now you are far and I am near
That doesn’t necessarily mean that your’re not dear to me
You have your help-I know it’s not your way
But it is an answer to a prayer for me
For you to have someone to care for you–
Someone to watch over you
Litle Dave; You know nothing, you do NOT have BP.
Do you know Tom Wooton? He knows a little, says he has BP. Says 4 or more Clowns “Proof” read his Book, yet it’s still repeditive. I read it late last night. It’s OK, dosn’t say much in those pages. I believe he had it made repeditive in order to seem as he was a Ruined BP, (one on “Meds”).”
He says he is on 1500mg Li2CO3. I was on 2000mg Li2CO3. Daily and 30mg Olanzapine, and another injection which they told me I could NOT refuse as a Volunteer Patient. They said it was “Vitimin B” Didn’t hurt going in, didn’t effect urine. KO’d me in minutes. I woke in strange Rooms for the psych to tell me:”No that was not you, that was Scott.” 4 Security Guys would hold me down and inject me! I was no trouble the Staff wrote glowing reports, the others liked me. Why the “treatment?”
They love to weaken everything. Make you SICK. Brain Damage can give the same symptoms. I have hardly any “symptoms” of BP? Medical induced Brain Damage! That’s what they have INTENTIONALY done to me. then the Illeagal LP…..
Before I met the psychiatrist & her drugs, I was Fine. I have been off it’s Drugs now for years, all drugs. I still havn’t came back. Why?
I need know how to rebuild Neurotransmitters, so as to at least regain Whole Brain function. IQ dropped to 133. Terrible. I should leave.
The “antipsychotic” “meds” make me feel very down, angry, sad, alone, lonley, no perception, Brain lesss than half, hence NO life may as well be Dead… Why R the “meds” so BAD!? They do ALL the Oposite of the Manufactures claims! I used them for a couple of years, how long did you or your Masters use for?
If they R so good why do they test my vital organs Monthly?
Why will NO psych. or yourself try them?
Probably won’t effect a mere Mortal. Yes the “Meds” are MY Kryptonite.
The Judge tells me: “”If you have had a dose in the last 48 hrs. DO NOT answer ANY Questions.” Must be “Good for the Brain.” When you can’t state your OWN NAme?
You state in a War you must know the Enemy. Hence I have been studying the organism, calling it’self the psychiatrist. And staying clear of “meds.” The organism is the problem with “mental health.” It for one thing goes out of its way to inflame the “Disorder.” At all times. Studies PROVE what we know the organism makes us FAR worse! Why have them?
Americans know the Enemy SO well, they shoot more of there own, than there enemy does?
Hence the Aussies go the other way through Enemy lines, it’s not as hostile. All Returned Service Men & Women tell me: “Go the oppisite way to the Septic Tanks. You will survive. The enemy does not have as good a fire Power, and there not as keen to use it.” The yanks are too trigger happy….
Have a good one little fella.
To TROY HENRY: I detect a LOT of hostility and anger in your blog. If you are so “stable” without medication, why do you take out your frustrations on Dave Oliver, when they obviously come from WITHIN you??
Before my “organism” was medicated, I was freaking out. I had religious delusions that I was Jesus as a woman, healing and preaching to whoever would listen to me. I slept around promiscuously with whoever would take me up on my “offer;” who knows WHAT SID I would have been prey to??
I was NOT living in the “real world,” but one I created for myself. I had friends – who believed my delusions – who abruptly left me when I was hospitalized, and didn’t turn out to be what they believed me to be.
At one point – before my last hospitalization in 1977 – I tried to run my brother down with my car; I also “almost” slapped my mother when she swore at my therapist over the phone. I KNOW I hurt my Mother emotionally; I can’t imagine the amount of tears and fears she felt when I was in a manic episode.
I’m a lover, not a fighter, but had TWO physical fights with boyfriends when I was manic. During one of them, the guy dislocated my shoulder – you should see the “other guy!”
Yes, it takes awhile for the right combination of medications to be found, but working with your doctor is Number One. I haven’t had a hospitalization in 31 years; I have had episodes on an out-patient basis, but was allowed to live my life OUT in the world, and NOT in a hospital.
I am now stable, and highly functional. Although my therapist says I “cannot work,” I use all my energy daily on the computer. I do mystery shopping and take surveys to earn a “little extra.” I am on Social Security disability – but still have a $25,000 tax debt that I’m PROACTIVELY working to eliminate.
I COULD write a book about EVERYTHING I’ve been through – who knows – it could be a best-seller! What I’m TRYING to say is – you are NOT coherent; you need to be assessed by a GOOD doctor/therapist to control your anger issues. I know I don’t appreciate having to read your rants on this blog – they only upset me. Being unmedicated CAN and WILL destroy the “organism” faster than being under control. Right now, you sound inappropriate in your comments. Save them for your “friends.”
To DEBORAH: Your poem made me cry; not because of the subject matter – although that was, in essence, the gist of it – but the pain you must have gone through with your son. Attempting suicide, and coming out the other end, can be a revelation. More power to you on your completeness.
BIG HUGS to all bipolar survivors and those who love us. May God bless you real good.
Dave:
You said someone was talking about writing some information about yourself in these e-mails.
Actually, if they click on any of the links for your courses, you explain how you came to know about bipolar disorder. Also, just below where we click on the blog, you have the link for “Find Out What People Are Saying About Me,” which has a short bio of you, plus lots of statements of praise for your stuff. Maybe you could rename that link “Information
About David Oliver”… what do you think?
My husband was diagnosed with bipolar schizophrenia the doctors are not taking it seriously, he doesn’t think he needs medication, the diabetic doctor thinks it is just diabetes. My husband lies to these doctors, he has severe bipolar and I believe also schizophrenia. I am stressed out, my husbands first wife dies of cancer and I got married to him it will be 3 years in December. He is constantly looking at woman and doesn’t realize he is doing this – is this normal for a bipolar person. Can a bipolar person
fall into having an affair without realizing what they are doing. My husband hallucinates alot, thinks woman are talking to him, looking at him, smiling at him when they are not. When I tried to get help from my Pastor he told me to leave him because he said you don’t want to find him in bed one day. My husband is a minister and we were ministering together and I at first thought it was just a sugar problem he was having till I started reading about bipolar, when he ministers he actually flirts with the woman when he sings if he sees a beautiful woman he just sings to her constantly, this is very hurtful to me, because I am ministering with him but he doesn’t really work with me, he gets lost in this fantasy land with these beautiful lonely woman. He is not treating me like a wife, infact, he made me leave my job, I had a wonderful job to do minister with him and then I realized something is wrong he can’t do what he says, we have hardly any funds, and he expects me to go to work, he will just continue ministering in his mind, he doesn’t think he needs to get a job, he feels minister is a job for him. He is out of the will of God and I don’t know what to do.
My husband was diagnosed with bipolar schizophrenia the doctors are not taking it seriously, he doesn’t think he needs medication, the diabetic doctor thinks it is just diabetes. My husband lies to these doctors, he has severe bipolar and I believe also schizophrenia. I am stressed out, my husbands first wife dies of cancer and I got married to him it will be 3 years in December. He is constantly looking at woman and doesn’t realize he is doing this – is this normal for a bipolar person. Can a bipolar person
fall into having an affair without realizing what they are doing. My husband hallucinates alot, thinks woman are talking to him, looking at him, smiling at him when they are not. When I tried to get help from my Pastor he told me to leave him because he said you don’t want to find him in bed one day. My husband is a minister and we were ministering together and I at first thought it was just a sugar problem he was having till I started reading about bipolar, when he ministers he actually flirts with the woman when he sings if he sees a beautiful woman he just sings to her constantly, this is very hurtful to me, because I am ministering with him but he doesn’t really work with me, he gets lost in this fantasy land with these beautiful lonely woman. He is not treating me like a wife, infact, he made me leave my job, I had a wonderful job to do minister with him and then I realized something is wrong he can’t do what he says, we have hardly any funds, and he expects me to go to work, he will just continue ministering in his mind, he doesn’t think he needs to get a job, he feels minister is a job for him. He is out of the will of God and I don’t know what to do.
IN ALL HONESTY DAVID, YOUR DAILY E-MAIL HAS BEEN MY SALVATION IN LEARNING AND UNDERSTANDING HOW TO DEAL WITH MY WIFE. IT’S CLEAR SHE, AND A FEW IN HER FAMILY ARE SUFFERING FROM THIS. SHE IS STILL,VERY MUCH IN DENIAL, AS THEY ARE ONE VERY NARCISSTIC GROUP,ALWAYS RIGHT, ALWAYS AN EXCUSE, ALWAYS READY TO SHOOT THE MESSENGER.”TRUST NO ONE”, AND “THEY ARE ALL OUT TO GET YOU”, NEARLY REPLACES MERRY CHRISTMAS AND HAPPY NEW YEAR! I’VE LEARNED SO MUCH, AND HAVE ACTUALLY FELT MORAL SUPPORT FOR THE PAST YEAR. I DON’T KNOW WHERE I WOULD BE WITHOUT THIS TREMENDOUS RESOURCE.I WOULD LOVE TO PURCHASE YOUR COURSES, BUT MY FINANCES HAVE BEEN WRECKED BY THIS DISEASE. I FEEL VERY INDEBTED TO YOU FOR WHAT YOU HAVE GIVEN ME, AND WHEN I DIG OUT FROM THIS NEAR FINANCIAL RUIN, I’M ANXIOUS TO PURCHASE IT. THAT WOULD BE THE VERY LEAST I COULD DO FOR WHAT HAS BEEN GIVEN TO ME. THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH, AND NEVER, EVR LET THE NAYSAYERS GET YOU DOWN.
I HAVE EXCELLENT HEALTH
Hey Mr. Oliver, I doing fine am dealing with my highs and lows. I been looking for a online jobs but the ones I seen you have to kick out money for to get started or over time so I am still looking I hope I find something soon wish me luck. Thank you for all the information on Bipolar disorder and things dealing with it.