Post Easter Important Bipolar Message
Hi,
I should have sent this note before Easter but I forgot.
With all holidays, you want to make sure you know how
to find the doctor or therapist if there is an emergency.
Even though I teach this in all my courses, this slipped
by me yesterday. We couldn’t get a hold of any of my
mom’s medical people and we needed to.
Now if you find yourself in this situation, you can always
take a loved one to the hospital or call 911 in the
US. I am not sure if other countries have 911 which
is a help system one can call on the telephone
that will send an ambulance.
I also wanted to address something else I keep getting
from people. People are asking, how I lost more
than $242,000 from my mom’s bipolar disorder. It’s a
long story and it’s included in all three versions
of my courses.
SUPPORTING AN ADULT
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11
SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com
HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net
I am not trying to get you to buy
my courses, rather it’s not something that I can
explain in one or two lines.
I go over everything from a to z in more than 30 pages
in my course and a 60 minute audio presentation.
When it comes to m.oney and bipolar disorder, there’s
alot people need to know.
Now many people are also asking me if my main courses
talk about how to g.et o.ut of d.ebt. There answer
is this. I have a VERY short report on how to
g.et o/ut of d.ebt in all my many courses.
BUT, if you are in serious d.ebt, you should look
at my other material that covers this and this only.
You can read about it at:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/debtletter
I must say, if you have been following my story with my mom’s most
recent mini episode, you’ll know that it’s been very stressful.
I was thinking yesterday on Easter how important money is
to bipolar disorder. Yesterday, I had to get ahold of
my attorney on a Sunday and on Easter. I am not even
sure what that’s going to cost me.
Over the next week, I am going to have to pay to meet with
my mom’s old therapist, new therapist, and current
doctor. This all is going to cost me m.oney. I am not
complaining only trying to urge you that you really have
to understand this is an expensive illness.
This is why I constantly harp on people should be looking
for ways to i.ncrease their income. Whether that be
at their job or in some kind of b.usiness at home.
People think I am out of my mind when say these things. When
people don’t get it, I think the people who don’t are
either lying and don’t really support someone with bipolar
disorder OR they are totally clueless.
If you are supporting someone for more than 6 months, I
would imagine that you completely understand how important
money is to the illness.
The strange thing is, even when you get the best doctors,
therapists, and medications, that cost the most, this still
is not the total solution.
Over the next few days, I will explain what I am talking about
as it relates to my mom’s current illness.
Well I have to get ready to do a whole lot of things and that’s
why I am sending this out so early in the morning.
I will let you know what happens with my mom’s doctor and
therapist tomorrow hopefully.
One last thing, I know some of you have had trouble with
my f.ree podcasts. I think it’s because they are too long.
I have to start making them shorter I believe. Sorry.
Hey I just got a call from my mom’s doctor finally 30 seconds ago
as I was going to send this email. I have been trying to get
her ALL weekend. She is going to “help my mom ASAP.” Which
is exactly what I was looking for.
I used a technique yesterday to ensure my mom would get to
the front of the line so to speak to get maximum help. I am
glad it worked.
I will write you more tomorrow.
Dave
Hi David, Sorry to hear about your Mom! My BP partner is doing an excalation of manic this past week. We have to be strong, in supporting our BP family members, crush the wall of negativity in our lives. This holiday, in the midst of family and friends my dear hubby was so evident in his behavior that our adult kids were calling him “crazy” , although said in a “loving” way we all know what this means! He tries he really does, what I struggle with is that the illness does not have any beginning, middle or end! WE have to persist through resistance, too touch to quit and remember the greatest thing in the world is LOVE!
Hi Dave,
Sorry to hear about your mother’s episode! My BP son was okay yesterday,ie,I was glad that I didn’t have any indigestion as I always have during holidays.
I’m so sorry your mom isn’t doing well. Every time my daughter isn’t doing well her case manager asks if she’s taking her meds, and every time she wasn’t. I hope things turn around for your mom soon.
David, I am sorry about your mother. My daughter is BP, and now we have 3 of her 5 children who the doctors feel may be bipolar also. Since they are so young, 7,6,and4 yrs. old, we will have to wait awhile to see if true BP manifests itself in these kids, or if the are just ADHD. We are praying that if they are BP, that we will have them on the right medication, and lifestyle for their teen and adult life. Good luck with your mom, and thank you immensely for all the e-mails and info you have sent us.
dave,
You are in my prayers,for you, and your mom. Yet, I am sorry to say, I am somewhat glad this happens to you. because your heart is able to share with people like me, and, Trust me dave your emails have become a God send to me. I have applied so many tidbits into my own life. so I am NOT a burden to my kids. Your love for your mom is so evedent. She is a blessed woman. Please. Love your mother thru this. and GodSpeed to you all. sincerely, ~Denise~
Hi, David, sorry to hear about your troubled life.
I suggest to impose some routines, easy to follow for your mom. They must be very simple. So, they can be followed. To take a bath, to walk a block, become very difficult for a bipolar fellow. But they really help. They must be defined always forward in order to avoid to be inmersed in the past: is devastating.
With time and pacience, a person can have a nearly normal life with this little tips.
Yours. Ps. Jorge Turenne
Thanks for your emails…my wife is bipolar and holidays are difficult for her. She exibits physical symptoms that are close to “we need to go to the ER, AGAIN”. This time it is stomach pains…we have a good doctor and a good thearapist…being the spouse of a BP is a never ending challenge. I look forward to your emails
greg
Ok Dave,
I am doing research on the Bipolar type ii. No manic symtoms but can overspend and steal and put us into financial ruin. I am going to check out legal advice for legal separation. He is not going for treatment. And Do you know of anyone at Cornell Univerisity doing diagnostic testing? THey have a special program to get mentailly ill back to work. I do not think I can financially support my husband anymore. This illness is expensive. Every episode is something like $20,000. After 4 of these he has paid for them wiht his father’s support but I can’t sit by anymore and what him just say oh it is not an illness. Denial is the worst and now of course I have to watch my own teen agers for this onset in late adolescence and my grandchildren when they come. SOme are saying there are ups and downs on the roller coaster of living with a mentally ill. Well I am not getting up. I am getting lies. Denial. And only as long as his father can pay which cann’t last for ever. I have to consider legally separating.
David,
You are really taking on a lot with your mother’s condition, and all the while sharing info. with the rest of us schmucks! 😛
OK, I’m not a schmuck, but I feel like a fool for marrying a man with a mental condition! He hid his mother’s situation from me, then AFTER we marry, it comes out that she likely has BD AND my hubby starts to display erratic, unnatural mood swings! When he’s OK, I’m just in love and so admire him–then he switches gears with no explanation and well, you know the drama that ensues!
Your words of wisdom are so reasurring. I just did not understand my husband. Your materials; however, did connect with me.
I forced my husband into treatment with court-ordered counseling. He’s now under supervision for pushing me during one of his fits.
Oddly enough, his mother also had many years of psychiatric care. It’s hereditary, unfortunately!
You don’t seem to have picked up that gene, but please don’t push yourself too hard! We need you sane!
Thanks!
I discovered Saturday a couple important points. One– Don’t rely on your doctor to write the correct amount of pills to get you to your next appointment (count them yourself) and Two–don’t ever call the doctor on call to help you, make sure you have a number to call your regular doctor. My doctor just put me on new meds on the 26th and then told me to get an appointment for 2 to 3 weeks later for a follow-up. So that is what I did and didn’t realize till it was too late that I didn’t have enough pills to get me till the next appointment. I figured that there must be a refill but I figured wrong and on top of it I had also left town for Easter. So I figured I would call and talk to the doc on call and get help. It was a nurse and she consulted with a doctor and got me the amount of pills to get me home. Here is the problem, she only called in 7 pills and when I got to the pharmacy I discovered I had to pay the same amount for 7 pills as I would have to pay for a full prescription (because of my insurance) and then when I got home I would have to pay that amount again to fill any prescription I could get my doctor to call in. I was not happy and so I tried to call back and had to talk to a new doctor and explain this whole problem again. He was so rude to me I couldn’t believe it. I was standing in Wal-Mart trying not to break down as he was telling me it was my fault and I was the reason why health care costs were so high, because I didn’t take responsibility for myself and count the pills right when I got home. He was so rude but he had one point right-don’t count on the doctors you pay the big bucks to because they are not reliable. You should be able to expect that they will write your prescription correctly but you shouldn’t count on it. So, lesson learned the hard way! So here I am home at last with no pills left and I call my regular doctor and discover she is gone until Thursday!!! I have to start all over again and hope there are some reasonable doctors in her office that will realize her error and help me. I am not going to count on it. Dave is right BP is not a cheap illness and the sad thing about that is, it brings on more stress which is something a BP person doesn’t need or the person trying to help them. Plus, I just got a letter from my insurance telling me they won’t pay for anything related to my BP because it is pre-existing. I have been treated for a long time for BP (when I didn’t have insurance) but they have never officially diagnosed me so that when I did get insurance it wouldn’t be a pre-existing illness but that doesn’t matter because if you have been treated in the last year for medical/psychiatric care or drugs they consider that pre-existing and won’t pay for it. So don’t expect that you will make it through this disease inexpensively but like someday80 said persist through resistance and be to tough to quit!
David,
My heart is with you…..I have lost everything due to this disorder, my husband is ill, losing my home, marriage etc.. Your material has bewen very helpful for me. My daughter is stabilized, and I am regaining my strength, and sanity , which was lost as I watched my family struggle witht he illiness, recently discovered to be had by the two above mentioned. Feel free to contact me if I can help you…
Andrea
Hi Dave,
Just wanted to let you know that I am praying for strength for you and peace for your Mum as you go through this difficult time. My son and i have just gone through an episode and are now coming out the other side. We were lucky we only had to wait for 4 days to see Jacob’s psychiatrist, as a result we were able to drag him back from the edge and have had some very positive results at school as well as a lot of help and understanding from the teachers. Wishing you and your mum all the best. Fay
Keep on supporting your mom as you always have as you have supported us. Best wishes in your efforts from Egypt.
Ahmed
i have been with a man for the past two years with duel diagnosis, bipolar and addict. i understand the money end of the disease as i have been through too much. my heart breaks reading about the mentally ill and their caregivers. i have finally stepped away from this man whom i truly love. he keeps reverting back to his parents who enable him to stay in the same situations without getting him any help. my prayers are with you all
Hi David. I’m sorry to hear about your mom’s recent episode. My son disappeared about 4 years ago. I am certain he is bipolar. Each day my hope and prayer is that he will contact me. Best of luck to you and your mom. You bring hope to so many. Hang in there!