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How are you?

Boy, am I excited about today’s daily email
on bipolar disorder!

When you read it, you’ll see why.

Here’s an email that I got:

“Dear Dave,
I recently went on a cruise to the Bahamas
with my husband, and we were talking to another
couple we had just met, and I was telling the
woman about your website, and this man came
up to me from another table and apologized for
eavesdropping, but he said that he knew the
website I was talking about, and that 3 years ago
he found that website and got help for his son
from it.

He said that they took action because of
the information they got from the website, and
now his son is 20 years old, on medication, goes
to therapy, and is in college, and doing great!
He said it was all because he found
I just thought you should know
that people are being helped by your website.”


Too often, I get emails that are from people
complaining, or being negative. But this
email is so encouraging to me, because it
tells me I’m doing my job, you know?

If this man’s son is doing so well now at 20
years old, that means he first found the
website when his son was only 17 years old!
And that he’s been reading and following the
website and reading my materials for 3
whole years now!

The point is, that he took action on my
materials, and look how good he is doing!
In all my materials, there is a section on
taking action in some way, shape, or form,
because if you only have the materials,
but don’t do anything about them, what
good are they?

I have three main courses/systems for helping
with bipolar disorder:




If you take the information from the
courses, like this man obviously did for his
son, you can rise above the bipolar disorder
just like he did, and you can beat it! Then
you can have success, just like his son did,
at the time when he would have needed it
the most!

Imagine it – at 17 years old, when most
adolescents are struggling with who they are
and other self-esteem issues, wondering what
to do with their lives, at that in-between time
of their lives… and also at that time that the
DSM-IV (the psychiatric “Bible”) says that
people begin to be traditionally diagnosed
with bipolar disorder… this young man got
the help he needed from
and his whole life changed!

Can you imagine what his life would have
been like if he hadn’t gotten that help at
that time of his life? Do you really think
that he would be in college right now? Do
you really think that his bipolar disorder
would be under control like it is? Do you
really believe that he would be as stable
as his father brags that he is?

The big “secret” that his father was
bragging about, and that I want you to
take away from all this is that this
father not only discovered the infor-
mation on the website, but that he
TOOK ACTION on the information
he discovered on the website.

You also have discovered much
information, since you have been
reading these emails and, hopefully,
been getting my courses as well,
which truly educate you all about
bipolar disorder. But it’s not about
whether you get the information or


This father TOOK ACTION on the
information he received 3 years ago
from At a time when
there weren’t a whole lot of bells and
whistles – at a time when there weren’t
a whole lot of extras – at a time when
there was basically just the courses.

But what did he do? He TOOK ACTION
on what he learned in those courses, and
he got help for his son, so that his son is
SUCCESSFUL today because of the action
his father took 3 years ago!

I would encourage you to take a lesson
from this story, and from this father’s

Unfortunately with my family action
was not taken for decades. It really wasn’t
until I was determined to help my mom
control bipolar did things turn around.

I made a lot of mistakes but eventually
found my way. You have to take action
especially when you are a bipolar supporter
you can’t just sit around and hope your
loved one gets better on their own.

It won’t happen.

Well I have to run, see you tomorrow.

Your friend,


P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:

P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.

  1. A bit wordy! After a month of unimpressive starts at reading your eMails, today I made it about half way. Then I skipped to info on the course. Made it about half way through. I’m 66, have been bipolar my whole life (according to mom), been receiving treatment since I was 18 and been diagnosed 35 years. I’ve survived – but am wondering if, even at this late date, there might be more.

  2. I did not know about this website until recently, and I have already been through all of this and thankfully I had the determination to get better. But I have a friend that complained about his brothers life long behavior and I turned him onto your website. Since he does not have the best relationship with his brother and would reject his suggestion that he could be BP, I told him that copying the information and sending it to him anonymously could open up the door for him to seek medical attention. I imagine your course could have helped my supporters, but they were not all interested in really understanding the disorder they just wanted quick results so they could go on with their own lives and stop worrying about me. Outside of my husband they are still very ignorant of BP.

  3. I have never posted a comment on one of these blogs before, but today has been another one of those days where my world is tranformed a I feel like a victim of circumstance which is my worst place. Recently everytime my spouse has a dreadfull day or incident she tells me her version looking for understadning and sympathy, and quite honestly today is a day where I have non. Recently She tells me one story, but I get another from the preson on the other end of the conversation whether it be family, friends or other people in her life. I try to be the supportive person that she needs but there are some days when I want to call her on everything that she has lied to me about. I hate not believing her and to behonest, I don’t know where to go. She was diagnosed (mis diagnosed if you asked her) with bipolar as a teenager and has been on every drug under the sun. During her pregnancy she went off of everything and I swear she was never better, and even after our daughter was born she was well. She began to experience dreppression, but it didn’t get bad until our daughter was nearly 1 year old. Now our duaghter is 2 and 1/2 and everything is a struggle. Before returning to school she had some testing done and descovered that she had some ADD behaviors. Now she is convinced that everything that happened in the past was due to her ADD and so is everything that occurs now. She still trys to treat her “mood” with medecations as well as the other items, like ADD. I’m starting to feel very frustrated and we are engaged to be married shortly. I love her, and I love our daugther, but I hate coming home to a house that gravitates around her world and what her “mood” is for that moment. I’m not looking for a quick fix, but just to find some ways to address this all with her without her loosing it. Normally we can talk things out but I have to cool off before we can talk and if I feel as if she is not in a place where she wil be receptive I will wait for another time. Am I the problem here? Am I not managing h=this relationship[ like I should? Should I have to manage it at all? Sometimes it feels like we are father and daughter….and that is a sad statement.

  4. Dear David,
    Can you please tell me if too high of a milligram can cause the person to see things that are not there. She was doing very well on 75mg of Lamictal, and now is on 150mg, and in the next 2 weeks she’ll be up to 200mg. She cannot sleep well at all, and in the past several days has started to see things “out of the corner of her eye”. My daughter is 19 and is diagnosed w/ BP II and has never done this before now. Please advise.
    Thank you very much,
    K Smith, Versailles

  5. Thank you for sending me all the infomation Dave.
    Yes taking action is the answer,but I am going through a divorse and have not spoken to my ex for 10 months now.Its too late for me to go back and talk to him about getting help.There is too much anger in our relationship and the children will never speak to me again if I get in touch with my ex again. Everybody has been hurt terribly.It was an unstable, abusive marriage for 29 years of suffering. We all have had enough and want to move on. I have left my ex in the hands of god and pray that somehow he comes to a realization that he needs help desperately.
    He doesn’t even have a computer at home so I can send him your website.I am emotionally drained.


  6. To AARON:
    I so identify with your situation. My husband shut down on me right before I was diagnosed with BP II. The samed kinds of things happened with us – postpartum depression came with the 2nd child, and I thought I would never recover from that. I had depression symptoms and mood swings from the time I was about 16, but the BP took time to rear its ugly head. My husband did not like the person I had become, and neither did I. But when I was cycling, I didn’t see anything different. As far as I was concerned, there WAS NOTHING WRONG OR UNUSUAL WITH MY BEHAVIOR. And that is the sad truth, but truth nonetheless. My husband had a hard time, and shut down on me right before I was diagnosed and put on meds. I have a wonderful psychiatrist and therapist, both of whom have helped me tremendously, and who continue to do so. I do whatever it takes to stay as healthy as possible. I do need people to keep an eye on me, and that is ok with me. I can pretty much identify when an episode is coming on, and that helps me to try to manage it better.
    Your fiancee will not hear you if she is having an episode, or cycling. I don’t know what kind of medical and/or psychiatric care she is receiving, but she needs to be seen and most likely on meds. Medication can take months to be adjusted. Mine did. I have adult ADD also, and that does not help.
    Get yourself educated on the subject of BP. It will help you immensely. My husband has been resistant to that, and I feel that is an ongoing problem for both of us. He just wanted me to get myself “fixed”. You can’t fix BP, but you can manage it.
    Our 3 children, ages, 12,17 and 20, know all about my BP – what it is, what it does, medications I take, what they do, why I have to get enough sleep, etc…They know it can be hereditary. They also know that their mom IS NOT MENTALLY ILL. She has an illness – a mood disorder.
    I hope you will be able to see your way to sticking with your fiancee. It will be hard, no doubt. But your daughter needs BOTH of you, and at this point you are the one who can help your girlfriend the most. It takes a lot of patience and effort to manage BP and to live with someone who has BP. I know. But if my husband did not love me, truly love me, I think he would have already packed his bags. The Bipolar me is not the REAL me. Remember that when you look into your fiancee’s eyes. She needs your help. Let me know what you think.

  7. Aaron,
    I am sorry to hear that you are having such a hard time with your fiance’s moods. I may have some information that may be helpful, or it may not, but this is information that is coming from experience with a person who is suffering from bipolar disorder and does not want to admit that they are bipolar. My husband suffers from bipolar and was misdiagnosed as having clinical depression. I have tried everything that I could to get him the help that he needs, including contacting his psychiatrist and medical doctor to let them know that he is not sut clinically depressed, but in fact bipolar. I grew up with my best friend who was diagnosed with bipolar disorder when she was 15 years old. She never accepted her diagnosis, nor did she receive the appropriate support from her family. My cousin and I were the only two people in her world who tried to understand what she was going through, and helped her through her episodes of mania and depression. Her pride got in the way of allowing her to receive the treatment that she needed and deserved. About 6 years ago, my friend drove her car off the highway into the median strip, flipping her car over six times and was ejected from the vehicle. She left behind two beautiful children of whom I remain in contact with. The lives of those children have never been the same, and her oldest daughter is now asking me about her mother’s bipolar disorder. My point, is that my friend loved her children soooo much, but the untreated disorder took control over her actions and feelings, she no longer had control, because if she would have had control, she would not have drove her car to her death. Both my husband and my late best friend do or did not want to face the disorder for what ever reason. My friend is dead as a result, and my husband is losing his mind most of the time. I no longer have any idea who I am married to. Aaron, if you are hoping things will miraculously get better without treatment, I am here to testify that THEY DO NOT GET BETTER. They have to want to get help, but first they have to admit that they are suffering from bipolar. For those of you with bipolar reading this, do not be offended, I do not know what it is like to have bipolar, but understand that I do know what is is like to suffer directly from bipolar by watching those that I love and dealing with the consequences of it. Aaron, try to convince your fiance to get help before you are married, that is my work of advice. I made the mistake of thinking that things would get better, and each year, my husband only seems to get worse. If she does not get help now, you will resent her for it later into the marriage, I can guarantee it!


  8. My grandparents and Mom knew at a young age that something was not right w/ Mom, They did have her hospitalized when she was in her teen. When my Mom had my Sis at 19 and me at 21 she was in a very abusive relationship and then another. She finally moved my Sis and I to a different province…she was the appidamy(sp) of the perfect Mom untill we were in our teens and did not rely on her as much. Oh and the next marrage and abbusive realationship. When I was 13 Mom hasd a nerves breakdown and has never been her self since…that was 16 years ago. She was diagnosed with bp…and has been on over medication in the book..and still has not found the right combination. There was one med that was working good but made her gain alot of she went on litium..and has just gone toxic 2 weeks ago, and now is having trouble w/ her liver.

  9. Hi Dave. I can imagine where that young man would be because that is where my son is. At home with no goals. Almost never getting any sleep. Driving the rest of the house crazy.


  10. Hi Dave, I am OK thank you. I started testing for voc. rehab.. I explained to the evaluator besides the eight surgeries I had in my arms that I had bipolar, we were having a conversation about it and then she kinda wispered, “Most people that have it do not like to talk about it.” I am not like most people, maybe there is a whole closet, do not mention it thing happening out there. I am going to take her some of your online thearpy. I am taking the medicine, tomorrow I have an interview at UC Berkely. My cousin emailed my resume all over, got me these great interviews. I am probably not ready, it is still good interviewing experience. Thanks for everything. Karen

  11. Hi Dave, I almost forgot when I took antidepressants I got worse, like tried to jump out of moving cars on the freeway worse. I have to take mood stablizers. I am only taking half of what Iam suppose to because I felt I was doing the thorzine shuffel, but so far I sleep at night now. Thanks, Karen

  12. Hi Dave, It makes perfect sence, sabbatosh at its finest. I am a master of it. LOL, when I was 11 and I overdosed, my mom left me in that hospital, she never looked back- I started very young!!!! I will be getting a story to you, or a few, probably will mail them. Thanks for everything, Karen

  13. Dave,
    I went to see my Doctor yesterday, I hadn’t seen him for a while so had a lot to update him on. I was only diagnosed 3 months ago but clearly now see this has been going on since I was 11!
    Anyway, I mentioned that I’d found this website very helpful, told him about the emails and how it had educated me…initally he thought it was maybe a scam looking for money but when i told him it was free he was a bit stumped!Your emails have made me so much more aware of my own condition and helped me prevent myself from getting worse, sliding into an episode.


  14. Yes, you HAVE to be proactive in your own treatment. Your supporter can only do SO much to help you in an episode. I know when I’ve been manic, I don’t have good judgment, and do irrational things that stump my family and friends. I have lost many good friends by being in a manic episode; they don’t understand, and when they find out that everything they believed in my delusions were just that – delusions – they turned tail and ran. My Mom refused to believe I had manic depression – she said, “You are not a maniac,” thinking “manic” meant “maniac.” She was NOT supportive during an episode; however, when I came home for recovery after a hospitalization, she took VERY good care of me. She ALWAYS treated me as if I WERE normal, and gradually, following her lead, I became a highly functioning bipolar.

    A supporter can only do SO much during an episode; it is up to the one suffering from bipolar to seek help – either through an intervention OR the courts. When I’m manic, I DON’T listen. I go my own way, until I reach the point where SOMEONE gets me the help I so desperately need. BUT – ultimately, it is through the meds, therapy, and self-help that I DO recover.

    BIG HUGS to all bipolars and the ones who love them. My prayers go out to you that you will all have peace.

  15. I have to thank you for your most tremendous help with helping me to see the simple things that go towards problem solving and brainstorming when it comes to support of those with bipolar. My daughter has bipolar and she introduced your emails to me. I am so grateful.

  16. David,
    I think you are a real-life ANGEL and what you’ve done here is really amazing! Your mom must feel so blessed and LOVED to have such a wonderful supporter (and son.)
    Your emails have been so helpful and have given me a new hope since now I can put a name to this disorder that I’ve had for years. (I’ve always been misdiagnosed and treated for depression.) I just wanted to say THANK YOU SO MUCH for all the time, money and love that you’ve put into this program. Please don’t stop! I know you’ve been a life-saver for me and many others, as well.
    Big hugs,

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