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Hi,
How’s it going?
I need your help read on please.
I hope you are doing well.
I just got back from the gym.
Yesterday was a really difficult day for me.
I had a whole lot of problems with a bunch of people
that work for me. I don’t know why but yesterday
was probably the worst day ever in terms
of different people’s different disorders
all creating problems on the same day.
Hopefully everyone will be okay today.
I did however get sucked into wasting a
whole lot of time arguing with several
people about absolutely nothing.
I guess I kind of forgot about the nature
of the illnesses that I am up against.
With now 12 people who work for me that
have bipolar disorder, I do have to remember
this.
One of the most difficult things with bipolar
disorder is that the disorder causes people
to do and say things that will ultimately
lead to their demise. It’s really strange
when you think of it. There is no other
disorder outside of a mental illness where
the illness or disorder causes a person
to say things and persuade people into
things that will cause total destruction.
Even though it’s difficult, I continue
to hire those with bipolar disorder and remember
the good and try to forget the bad.
Just because yesterday was one of the worst
days ever, this mean that I get all mad and
throw my hands up in the air and quit.
No. I actually spent a lot of time reflecting
on what went wrong yesterday and how I got
sucked into arguing. It will NOT happen again.
Okay, with that said, on Thursday, just so
you know, I am going to California on a business
trip. I have a whole lot of work to do
across several of my businesses and also
specifically with this organization for helping
people dealing with a mental illness. I have
to meet with several people.
Anyway, I am leaving on Thursday.
PLEASE HELP ME
I need some help.
I am looking for people that are in something
called Ticket To Work.
If you are, please email me your experience–
how’s it going, how you like it, has it helped.
Email me at feedbacktodave@mentalhealthworld.net
If you have no idea what I am talking about, just
ignore this.
If you know anyone, please forward this email to
them.
Okay let’s move on. I brought up this
topic before and since a lot of people
are writing me with problems, I wanted
to bring it up again.
Yesterday I reread something I read when I am having
a hard time. It’s by M. Scott
Peck, M.D., from the book The Road Less
Traveled. The thing about it is that it was
written in 1978, but it is still as true
today as it was back then:
“Life is difficult. This is a great truth,
one of the greatest truths. It is a great truth
because once we truly see this truth, we
transcend it. Once we truly know that life
is difficult – once we truly understand and
accept it – then life is no longer difficult.
Because once it is accepted, the fact that
life is difficult no longer matters.”
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Wow! Don’t you think that’s powerful?
I sure do.
Especially when you’re living with
bipolar disorder. Just living life in
general is difficult enough, but when
you throw bipolar disorder into the
mix, it can seem practically impossible
sometimes, doesn’t it?
We’ve talked about truth and bipolar
disorder before, but not in this way.
What Dr. Peck is talking about is
accepting truth in such a way as to
rise above it once we understand it
and accept it.
So the key is to accept the truth,
Like accepting the truth of having
bipolar disorder, because once you
do, the next thing you have to do
is learn all you can about it, so you
have the knowledge you need to
rise above it – to make that
knowledge work for you, instead
of against you. In fact, that’s
one of the things that I teach
in my courses/systems:
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I like the way Dr. Peck says that
once we truly understand and accept
that life is difficult, then life is no
longer difficult. I mean, he doesn’t
say that anything changes or anything,
I mean nothing changes in your life
except your attitude towards it!
Just like I’m always telling you –
It’s always in the way you look at
things – you can look at them in a
negative way (then you’re defeated)
or in a positive way (then you’re
positive and proactive).
If you believe that your life is
a mess just because you or a loved
one has bipolar disorder and it has
just ruined your life, then you will
become a self-fulfilling prophecy,
and bipolar disorder probably will
ruin your life.
But if you look at it as a challenge,
that you’re going to overcome,
look at it like you are going to beat
it, no matter what, then that will be
your self-fulfilling prophecy, and
you will beat the bipolar disorder.
I think what Dr. Peck is saying is
that YOU are responsible for how
you look at life. You have a
CHOICE. You can look at it like
it’s really difficult, or you can look
at the very same life and understand
and accept it and life is no longer as
difficult as you thought it was.
That’s the way you need to look at
your or your loved one’s disorder.
As Dr. Peck says, “[then] the fact that
life is difficult no longer matters.”
What do you think? Do you agree
with him or not?
When I started this organization, I really
didn’t realize how hard it was going to be to
build. It’s been a massive project. I can see
why no one else has done it. Even drug companies
with millions upon millions of dollars to invest
in things, haven’t been able to figure out how
to reach and help as many people as me.
It’s been difficult. I constantly remind myself
that life is really difficult and you have to
deal with it. Agree?
Your Friend,
Dave
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Dave, That was profound!
Please hang in there! You don’t even realize how MANY people you impact and encourage with what you are doing with your daily emails.
Keep on doing what you are doing for all of us BiPolar Supporters.
Many Blessings to you,
Kseelow
Dave:
I remember reading “The Road Less Travelled” when it first came out, and I also think that Dr. Peck is very wise. I believe that he said (I’m paraphrasing) “Why shouldn’t life be hard? We should expect it to be. That’s just the nature of life”. And he talks about how if you change your attitude, stop expecting life to be easy, then you won’t be disappointed.”
For the first time, I have to say something to you. I’m disappointed in the way you started today’s e-mail. First of all, I don’t think it’s professional to tell us about your problems with your bipolar business. First, I think that the members of your staff who have bipolar and/ or other disorders might feel hurt. It’s a personal matter. Second, I’ll bet you that anyone who runs a business occasionally has a hard time with one or more members of his staff. I realize that we bipolar people can be “difficult”, but so can “normal” people. It may not be fair to blame your problems with your staff on bipolar, and it sounds a little insulting and condescending. That’s just the reaction I had when I read it – sorry.
Of course I STILL say that you do a great amount of good for a lot of people.
I Dave it is really a great proyect,business and I think it is also and adventure I would say to make things easier for you and your company,if you get the right person for each position on your tim based on a personality profile you would be more sucsessfull and you could probably get more productive and would reach more people to help. Delegate and delegate to the right people is the key for any business.
I truly believe that accepting that you have bipolar disorder is some times just as hard as having it. I thank you for all of the work you put into your daily emails,article research,etc. Some days they are the only things that keep me going. AAA+++
Hi Dave. I totally agree with what you said, your attitute does have an influence on all situations. I have bipolar disorder and lead a successful and balanced life because i chose it to be that way. I also agree that us as individuals determine the outcome of things. Someone once told me that your trials and tribulations will only be as hard and difficult as you want them to be, its so true. Very few people know about me having this disorder because i take my medication like a true slave, i am very serious about my condition and am fully aware about what life will be like when i dont take my meds. I have accepted that i am different but it doesnt mean that you have to be different to the world out there, only you can choose to let your disorder get to you and take you down or you can do all you can to get it under control and keep it that way. If you truly love your family and friends and respect other people you will try everything in your power to live the way you are destined to. All of us are destined to be happy and successful and by success i mean inner success. Life is too short to let bipolar disorder hold you back. There will always be negative things that happen around you and to you but only you can decide what you are going to do with those situations. Our mind is way stronger than what we think. Finding out that i have bipolar disorder changed my life for the good. Most people have unaswered questions about their lives and they die unfulfilled, i can honestly say that my long search for explanations and answers about many aspects of my life fell into place and gave me the peace that i was longing for for so long because now i know what i am dealing with and that makes things so much easier in life than to be in the dark. Thanks for your great emails and information. You are a true inspiration to people like me. Never allow anyone to critisize you in a bad way because very few people have the patience and insite about this like you do. You are doing an excellent and very unselfish job. Leoni, South Africa
Dave,
Thanks for your work.
Acceptance is the answer to all my problems.
I am a recovering alcholic and my wife is a recovering bi-polar.
Your reminder on 4/14/08 is inspiring.
Blessing to you.
Ken
Dave,
Keep it simple, take care of yourself , or your no good to others.
Dave your site is very informative and helpful. I have a friend who befriended a guy a few years or so back who(he) is Bi Polar.
When she first gave up her profession, family and social life to help this guy get off drugs we (her friends) had no idea he was also Bi Polar. She went through hell with this guy. Even his own parents wouldn’t let him come around (dysfunctional mother married to second husband who is a tyrant).
We her friends tried our best to get her to put this guy out of her life but alls she could say is ’he deserves the right to live a drug-free life and he has no one and I can’t turn my back on him like his family has’.
Well many years now and yes she got him off drugs and she has stuck by his side and dealt with a lot of crap from him and when I believe oh she has had enough something else happens (he begs her not to go or he’ll go back to drugs and now it’s the BiPolar thing and he will not make it without her) and believe me if he does love her he is not as good to her as she is to him.
One thing about all this is she doesn’t need him she has a family that loves her, she has friends long time life long friends and she has money and no she is not co-dependant. She feels that to this day (though his relationship with his mother is better) he would have no one if she walks away. I tell her not to walk Run!!
This man is so selfish and self centered and thinks only of himself. Now he has put himself in a spot to where he feels he needs more money than he is making and is pressuring her to give to him. She has spent big amounts of her money on him through the years but now he wants a big sum and she is not comfortable about it cause they are still just ’boyfriend and girlfriend’ and I don’t care how long they live together he is not her husband and nor does he act like it. The simple things she wants out of life he doesn’t and he is still so selfish like the money he wants to buy something big for himself when what she needs is a get away – relaxation!
For all these years she has kept him clean, minded to his illness, dr apts, and moods and taken care of his business and worked along side of him and taken care of the house and everything!!! She does it all!!! And since she has been with him she has nothing but a bank account dwindling. Good thing her parent helped put money away or she’d not have any if left up to this guy and he is upset she can’t just hand the money over.
She has done so well when it comes to this guys illness Dave, she believes that once a Bi Polar person is aware of their illness most can control their mood or modify it by the awareness and positive attitude and knowing it is wrong to act out etc…. knowing they can lose the person they are with and lose their lifestyle (home, job….possibly of hospitalization) I may not be saying this right she is the informative one. I’ll tell you she sure has done the right things with him but then she has always had that gift to help others. She is special and one of a kind.
I tell her she has done enough and now let his mother take care of him. I think she is coming around and realizes this guy is a user and is out for himself. She needs to live and come back to the life she was such a part of we all her friends and family love and miss her. She hasn’t been well for years and we are so afraid she will die and in the last years with him she has had little happiness.
Bi Polar people have to understand what they are doing to their loved ones. I know they are ill when they are in these moods/episodes but come on I think some of them want the attention and that person with them to hang on forever. I understand not wanting to be alone but they need to treat the one they are with better. I know I will get hate mail from this blog but I’m telling you we all have so much control and some use their illness as a crutch and some need to see ’IF IT ISN’T WORKING FOR YOU THEN MAKE BETTER CHOICES AND STOP MAKING YOUR LOVED ONES LIFE HELL’ yeah most Bi Polars from what I’ve heard and seen are selfish people – self centered ! Wake up or you could lose the one that has been there for you!! I sure hope my friend soon opens her eyes…enough is enough! Stop the crying and worrying caregivers and go on with your life….you can’t help everyone specially those who don’t want help. Some like to lay in their pity and self loath. My friend has had many many good men in her life and who still want to make a life with her and I pray she one day soon leaves this guy behind and let his mommy do her job she neglected to do all his life. He was ill and a druggie as a teen she didn’t get him help she pushed him out to keep peace with dear old stepdaddy and expected society to take care of him. And if his mother would tell the truth she would have to say her life has been made so much easier since she’s come into his life to take care of him. That is no way to live, be a partner to take care of someone for ‘their’ good how about my friends good? I think his mother is as selfish as he is probably where he got it. Well one day and soon I hope they will be sorry she woke up and smelled the roses somewhere else…and left. I pray and pray it will be soon. Then mommy will have to do what she should have done years ago take care of her own son, but then she may push him off again. More than likely yeah she will I guess he will be doomed without my friend. Oh well.
Dave I have to tell you that Ive only been diagnosed with bipolar for 8 months now, and I only know one other person that has it and was diagnosed about the same time as me, we struggle together. It is very insightful for me to read your newsletter and responses to them, I realy did think for along time that I was just crazy for fighting horrible battles inside myself that noone else would or could understand. Its amazing for me to read your words. Thank you!
“the next thing you have to do
is learn all you can about it, so you
have the knowledge you need to
rise above it” – David Oliver 4/14/2008
This “rising above it” is why I am applying for work with your organization: please look for my fax this week and…choose me! Thanks, Rapha Thomas
Dave, I have not responded thus far, as I am new to this. My son was diagnosed bipolar a few weeks ago and it has been very hard. He has a wife and two small children and is seriously ill. He is suicidle and has just started an outpatient intesive care program. He is turning from family and friends except for myself and I feel helpless. I don’t know what to do to help. I am trying to educate myself on bipolar and do the best I can when speaking with him. Your email helps thank you dajjaj
Hi Dave, not sure if this will work,but thanks for your efforts.The person I am concerned about is male,nearly 50,highly intelligent,an ex-smoker and not addicted to anything–as far as I know.Via his wife I hear about swearing sessions,where,5 minutes later he knows nothing about the event.Can anger cause this memory lapse? I know that his father refuses to talk to him, and that this is eating him.The father had divorced the mother many years ago,and does not really acknowledge the children from the first marriage.I will keep reading your newsletters and blogs, in the hope of finding a name for his sickness.Then I’ll be able to help…
The 1st Noble truth in Buddhism is “Life is Dukkha” Dukkha translates in Sanskrit as “Suffering”, “Difficult” etc. Dr Peck was right on, as is anyone who realizes life is tough. My wife has Bi-Polar disorder, and I know her life is hard, but this terrible affliction makes everyones life hard, but I accept it and I/We will beat this thing.
David
I think your Sunday was much like mine! I, too, got sucked into arguments and heated discussions that did little more than make me feel I had been banging my head against a wall. I was trying to deal with my son, aged 27, who has just been diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder (though I was sure for some time that was the case). He is on his first full week of medication.
He lives 4 hours away, so I have been trying to keep in tough via email and phone calls. Even the simplest of tasks, such as faxing me a copy of his W2 forms so that I could file his taxes for free, ended up being as complex as the planning for the Iraq invasion!
So, your words and the attitude that you took helped to force me to refocus on seeing things in a positive light rather than allowing all of this to overpower and drown me in despair.
Thanks so much for the daily emails – as a “neebie” it has been a great deal of help to me this week!
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DAVE, could it be that your bipolar employees are giving you a hard time, because they are all having episodes? My boyfriend only said to me today that bipolar is not an affliction, it’s a gift and he is glad he has it! He wouldn’t want to be cured, if they found a cure. Just over a week ago he was so “down” that he threatened to commit suicide and I was worried sick. I’m sure he would want to be cured of that part if it were possible. At the moment he is going through an episode, where he creates works of art at the speed of a factory production line. I wouldn’t want to be cured of that part either if I had that ability.
The good thing is that he is not depressed at the moment, but very productive. The bad thing is that, although he is “up” his moods change several times a day from being happy and full of fun to being very angry and full of rage. He is also making some bad decisions and believes he can pick a quarrel with big authorities and win.
I encourage the good things he does and try to prevent him doing something he may later regret. I can’t force him to listen, though. In the end he will have to make his own decisions, good or bad.
I know some people who have a fairly easy life. Sometimes I envy them, but I also think that their lives are dull. My life is never dull. There is a wisdom (Chinese, I think) which is given at births and weddings, etc. “May you live in interesting times.” It could be a blessing or a curse, or a bit of both, depending on the individual’s interpretation of “interesting”. I think generally it’s a bit of both and I rather have an interesting life (with difficulties) than a dull one.
Hi Dave,
You are the meaning of careing,please do not ever doubt what you do. I do not believe in god but I always have your books with me, they are like my portal back to Karen. Whoever is sending the nasty emails is with out a doubt stupid. I like a good challenge, and I have a few, they are rewarding once you overcome them. I have an idea why dont the nasty emailers sent me their nasty emails, kapenonu@aol.com of can get pretty damn mean myself, then David can keep helping so many people who need the help. You might not like what I have to say, I am not blunt and if you do not like the truth about yourself you maybe should leave Dave and our blog alone you evil bitch. I need him, and I am sure many more feel the same.
Karen
WOW, Dave – you’re dealing with bipolar people and you DON’T expect SOME difficulties?? I guess reality hit you pretty hard when things came falling down, eh? It does NO good to argue with people with bipolar when they’re even the slightest bit “off;” you just have to resign yourself that things will NEVER be “normal” with those employees and you have to “cut them a little slack.”
When I’m in a hypomania, or even in a manic episode – EVERYTHING seems so EASY. Life doesn’t throw me any curves, so to speak – the Lord leads me, and I do what I’m “told.” Except – once I’m further in the episode, the BAD things start to happen, and they seriously SCARE me. It’s THEN that I KNOW I need HELP, and check myself “in.”
Once any bipolar person accepts the fact that their life will be HARDER with this disorder, and they gain some knowledge about it and start the regimen of a treatment plan and do everything they HAVE to do to remain stable, then they can MAINTAIN a fairly “normal” life. But – it’s HARD. You have to remember to take your meds as prescribed; get off of any substance that self-medicates; eliminate or lessen the stressors that cause an episode; be sure and get enough sleep (the hardest part for me); and eat and exercise right to keep you in shape (another thing I have trouble with).
You ARE right that the way we look at our troubles will make or break how we react to them. Right now, I have a $28K debt to the IRS I can’t pay; my funds will run out in six months to pay the mortgage on my condo; I have the probability of going into aspirational pneumonia because I’m swallowing down my windpipe and have to go for another barium swallow on Wednesday; and I have excruciating pain in my lower abdomen that I’m seeing a gastro DR for in a week (probably will need a colonoscopy). NOW – I look as these things as HARD – who wouldn’t? But I have a faith in my Creator that everything will turn out just as it’s supposed to. I pray over them; but I don’t stop there. I’m investigating refinancing; I’m going to the right DRs; and I’m proactive on the above situations. They will NOT solve themselves on their own.
Perhaps people with bipolar have to be STRONGER than “normal” people because the disorder is mainly dealing with moods. Even the slightest change in routine can throw us off. When you add to that “small stuff” BIG stuff, and you have to face it alone – it can seem insurmountable. Fortunately, I believe in a God who can perform miracles; perhaps He’s got something that will lead me in the right path to overcome…
BIG HUGS to all bipolar survivors and those who love us. Please pray for Susan as she goes through a hard time. And save a little prayer for me, too. Thank you.
Dave,I find myself often wondering whether or not the doctors diagnosed me correctly.They branded me with bi-polar substance abuse which honestly I am still trying to figure out whether the substances help or aggravate the bi-polar reactions. I have been fighting and arguing for the last couple of months with my boyfriend who believes he is honestly helping me when what I see is a guy who is standing on the edge.He tells me my bi-polar illness is rubbish and just another excuse i give myself and others to excuse my behaviour. I don’t know what to say except probably either keep really quiet or start rambling like the village drunk on a bad night.I am currently unemployed and according to my last boss ‘unemployable ,stubborn and impossible to work with’ I’m offended yet through your articles have learnt to recognize sometimes when I am truly going weird and then I stop and ask myself to give in to others and just shut the hell up. however my entire being will feel physically depressed as in I feel like my dog just died and I lost a limb or something to that effect. The feeling makes me feel handicapped and useless and just really really upset and down. Please advise me to seek out anyone who can sort me out further because I don’t want to go see another shrink or emotional healer,neither do i want to go to mumbai http://www.vedantaworld.org just so I can walk around in robes and self reflect from 4.30am to 9pm daily .I’d go nuts!I need to find my way back to having a life where I am actually living it and not letting each day go by wasted and in a blur.There are very few treatment centers in Malaysia and recognizing the illness as a problem in the young people of Malaysia is hard since according to most of my friends the new word for ‘f*cked up in KL is bi-polar’ a cruel joke I ended up bawling my eyes out at .I had confided in these people and they had made it into a cruel joke. I want to give up so many times and trust me I have tried but in the end the only thing that doesn’t hurt me (substances) will as we all know kill me in the end…isn’t it just ironic then that the happiest thing in my life is also the cause of all the unhappiness.please help
Dave at the risk of sounding like a lot of others, I cannot say enough how phenonmal your work is to me. It is encouraging to realize you are taking your hard won knowledge to share with others who so desparately need that positive outreach. Keep it up. You are the substance of what “The
Road Less Traveled” references seem to be projecting. Theresa
Hey, hang in there, once a bad day is over it is gone forever. As a Bipolar supporter I try to learn from bad days. Sometimes I think that everyone has up days and down days but in the Bipolar sufferer it is to a greater degree. What do the rest of you think???
One thing that we noticed at the nursing home where I worked, was the phase of the moon. As the moon is nearing and at the full, that was the time that both staff, and residents exibited the most incitents of aberent behaviour. Because the moon is cyclical, I would hardly be surprised………
Facing the truth that you have Bipolar and accepting the fact that you have Bipolar are essential to moving on and living with Bipolar. It is also essential to recognize the fact that, at least right now, it is a lifetime disorder and the person with Bipolar will need to be on medications for the duration. Yes, life is difficult and it only seems to get worse when you add something like Bipolar to the mix. But it could be worse. It could be a life-threatening illness. It is not. Don’t live your life like it is. I’ve had Bipolar symptoms since I was 14 or 15 and wasn’t properly diagnosed until I was 33. I will be turning 40 this year and I thank God for my doctor who has kept me stable for these past 7 years. I have been living life, not just surviving it or enduring it. You have a CHOICE. How do YOU want to live your life?
Hi David and all:
I agree life is difficult, to say the least. I have often heard the phrase “Life is a bitch and then you die”. I have been married 5 times and a couple of long term relationships added in the mix. I was recently told by my Psych that I have been treated for Bi-polar Disorder for several years now and then asked if I didn’t know!! No I really didn’t, although when I reflect back on the crazy things I have done in my past, all the indicators are there. I have been married to 2 men with BPD and divorced, the 2nd being the father of my daughter with BPD, Been widowed twice and am currently married to another man with Bi-polar who just thinks he has a bad temper. But I have secretly gotten him on a cocktail of meds, from his doctors, that keep his BPD in check most of the time. That is a positive thing because I am too beaten up by life to go searching for another mate at this stage of my life. I read the blogs of others who put with the crap that comes from people with BPD who refuse to get help and continue to terrorize the ones who love them and it makes me so sad to read about them because you can’t change anyone and if the person with BPD will not get help then he/she will continue to terrorize the ones who love them, until they get fed up with the abuse and do something about it, even it means terminating the relationship. I realize how painful it is to end the relationship with a loved one or a scary one, as it is with peggy’s case, but sometimes you have to grab the bull by the horn and say enough! Physical abuse usually will heal and leave scars, but mental abuse is a tough one to heal and that is the typical method of abuse from a person with BPD. Although my 1st and 3rd husbands were very physical. I came to a point in each of those relationships where I saw things were going to get worse and I bailed out. I got over the physical abuse, but the mental abuse is still there whenever I stop to reflect, such as now, even when I realize it was the disease and not the person who inflicted. My heart and Prayers go out to all who are suffering from what can be a life changing, mostly repairable disease, as I can understand their pain and sorrow with the ones who have nobody to help them and I sing to my Lord for the ones who are triumphant (most of the time, anyways) in treating this disorder!
It’s the people that like to help people , that like to make their world seem worth while that take on the challenges of the Bi-Ploar individual. They see them as willing subjects, and in return they give us advise and knowledge that sometimes leads down the road to financial destruction. Like every individual you have to remeber some people are skilled at money mangement and some are not. Like all true skilled people we have our own special qualities and Bipolar people just can not manage money because they lack organizational skills that are associated with their lack of focus at times due to normal causes we allexperience but due to Bipolar they are crippled again because they don’t separate this from Bipolar they see it as just do it, with out htought. Like many of their comments and criticzum, they just blurt it out with out the organized thought and indept evaluations needed to succeed. My question is are they lazy then? Or are they just eager to repay the kindness to others they have recieved in unplanned yet in some caring way. About me, It took 7 years of a crazy marriage to realize that my husband had Bipolar and if he didn’t except medication and I help I was gone with the kids. He got help and sinct then have discovered our daught has ADD and Aspergers Disorder, I survive and deal with it because I refuse to let it control me. The right and just should prevail with love. Doe.