Bipolar: Old Photographs and New

Hi,

You know I have a lot of people that work for me, right? Well, I have some that have worked for me for a long time…And some that don’t work for me anymore. Do you want to know the difference? The people who don’t work for me anymore stopped learning. They just kept working off the knowledge they had learned before, and it was outdated. I run a company that is always changing, always growing. And you just have to keep up with it. If you don’t keep up with the growth, and learn new things, you just can’t improve in your job. But the people who have stayed, have done just the opposite. They don’t keep going on old knowledge. They keep up with current trends. They keep learning new skills. They keep improving, so they keep getting better at their job. That’s why they are so valuable to me.

You have to learn and progress. You have to keep learning more and more about bipolar disorder. You can’t just keep going on the knowledge you learned when your loved one was first diagnosed.

Here’s an example: We all have old photographs, right? If you are a parent, every year your children get pictures from school. Well, you don’t keep every picture every year and display them (or else you’d run out of room, wouldn’t you?). Each year, you probably replace the old one with the new one. It’s like replacing old knowledge with new knowledge. It’s not like you throw the old photographs away, you still keep them. You never forget them. You just may put them away in favor of the new ones. Because there’s always growth, you see?

Here’s another example: Say you have a garden. You can’t keep growing new flowers or vegetables off old soil. You have to keep tilling that soil each year. You don’t get rid of the old ground, you just till the old ground, making room for new ground. Again, like new knowledge on top of old knowledge.

So here’s how it relates to bipolar disorder. (You knew I’d get there eventually, right?) The point of all this is that you need to keep learning and progressing. If you have a doctor who doesn’t do this, then they may not be the best doctor for your loved one. If they are like the employees I talked about in the beginning, are they really doing a good job? The best doctors I know continue learning. They keep researching. They read journals all the time. They check the Internet for new information all the time. They attend seminars. They go to lectures. They go to symposiums.

Sometimes they’re even the guest speakers! They attend bipolar support groups and even learn from supporters what their problems are with their loved ones and learn that way. They sometimes discuss difficult cases or problems with other doctors or specialists so that they can learn.

If your doctor isn’t doing these things, and just keeps doing what they learned years ago, then you might have a problem. Because new things are being learned about bipolar disorder every day. Check up on them. Ask them questions. If they hesitate, or if you think you know more than them, then there might be a problem, just like there was with my employees. You have a right to the best treatment for your loved one. And you need a doctor who is always learning new things about bipolar disorder.

Well, I have to go!

Your Friend,

 

Dave

 

Weekly Bipolar News

Hi,

What’s new? Hope you are doing well.

To read this week’s news visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews624/

Mood disorder clinics improve bipolar disorder outcomes
DO>Are you surprised to find this out?

“Teen Mom 2” Star Kailyn Lowry Courageously Reveals: I Have Bipolar Disorder
DO> Surprising revelation about this young reality star.

How to Fail at Bipolar Disorder
DO> Can you see how these things would make your loved one fail?

Is There a “Cure” for Bipolar Disorder?
DO> Do you still wonder about this?

Bradley Cooper Visits DC; Talks about Bi-Polar Disorder
DO> Do you think he can do good?

Mood Disorder Clinics Help Many Bipolar Patients Avoid Hospital
DO> Don’t you find this good to know?

For these stories and more, please visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews624/

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Your Friend,

 

Dave

 

Bipolar: Recipe for Optimism

Hi,

You know, somebody actually wrote me and asked me if there was a recipe for optimism. Now before you get all critical or laugh it off, let me tell you that I really thought about this! I know there really isn’t a “recipe,” per se, but there is something to be said for it. Because another supporter asked, “How can I be optimistic when my loved one has bipolar disorder?” Now do you see why I gave it some serious thought? Well, let me tell you a few things about optimism first. “It is or it ain’t,” as a friend of mine says. “You can’t have it both ways.” Meaning that if you’re not optimistic, then you must be pessimistic. You can’t see the glass as half-full and half-empty at the same time. See what I mean? You’re either an optimist or a pessimist. I encourage optimism, because I believe having a positive attitude is just as important a part of management of bipolar disorder as the other parts, like medication and therapy.

But let’s get back to optimism (great subject, isn’t it?) It isn’t something you can learn. Or something your parents can teach you. Or a secret a friend passes onto you. Or something you can do research about, or study in a laboratory. Optimism isn’t something tangible. It isn’t something you can touch. It isn’t something you can even experience with any one of your five senses, for that matter. But optimism DOES exist! It IS real! And some people DO have it! In fact, those people are very glad to have it. Optimism just IS. It is a choice. It is a decision. One that you can make, if you want.

So how can you be optimistic if your loved one has bipolar disorder? For every day that your loved one goes without an episode, you can be optimistic that they’ll go the next day without one, too. If they’re taking their medication like they’re supposed to, you can be optimistic that they’ll stay medication compliant and continue to do well. If they’re going to all their appointments with their doctor, psychiatrist, therapist, and any other medical or mental health professional regularly and as scheduled, then you can be optimistic that they’ll continue to do so. If they’re following their treatment plan faithfully, they you can be optimistic that stability is in their future. If they’re healthy, you can be optimistic that they’ll stay healthy. And especially, if they’re doing all of the above, you can be optimistic that the two of you can enjoy your loved one’s stability in the future.

And as far as a “recipe” for optimism? Well, there really isn’t one (but you knew that :))

But if there were, it would probably go something like this:

RECIPE FOR BIPOLAR OPTIMISM

Take one part positive thinking

Add one cup good attitude

Add an ounce of adventure

A cup of excitement

A bunch of understanding

Another bunch of support

A lot of patience

And top it all off with good feelings

And hope for tomorrow

Well, I have to go!

Your Friend,

 

Dave

 

Bipolar: Attitude is Everything

Hi,

I got this email lately and I wanted to share it with you, because this woman makes several good points:

“It has taken me years to realize attitude is everything not only with BP, but with life in general. I lost my father when I was 15 years old and went through periods of manic followed by depression with periods of extreme anxiety. It was not until I reached the age of 24 that I was diagnosed with BP disorder. For many years I felt like I was stuck at the age of 15 and although I was in denial about my mental condition, I knew something was terribly wrong. Yes, I had periods of suffering in the past, but I am beyond that now. Today, I am 67 and understand my condition and I am no longer in denial, yet I have discovered I can be a happy productive person and enjoy my life…Also, I have learned…that I can recognize when I am going to have an extreme mood swing and control it. Over the years I have discovered tools that are so helpful such as Meditation, exercise, and reading positive thinking books…Everyone does have the power to change their attitude and transform their life for the better. I think change is a process…My life feels normal most of the time, and I have discovered a new kind of contentment and happiness. Also, I have grown spiritually as well in the process. I no longer allow labels to define who I am. –Joy”

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The first point she makes is that: ATTITUDE IS EVERYTHING. And I totally agree with that.

In fact, I’ve talked about that on several occasions. Attitude can determine whether you have a bad or good day. It can also determine whether you have a bad or good life. Like Joy says in her email, “…attitude is everything not only with BP, but with life in general.” If you have a good attitude, things will go much better for you. On the other hand, if you have a bad attitude, things will be much harder for you.

The next thing Joy talks about is how she was in denial. When you’re in denial about things, it makes it that much more difficult to cope with them. That’s because it’s necessary to accept something before you can cope with it, and denial interferes with the acceptance process. That’s how it is with other things, not just bipolar disorder. But it is especially true with bipolar disorder. But Joy says: “Today, I am 67 and understand my condition and I am no longer in denial, yet I have discovered I can be a happy productive person and enjoy my life…” So one of the ways to get out of denial then is to understand your condition. And I’ve always said that about denial: That you need to get educated so you won’t be in denial any more. And if you do, you too like Joy can be a happy productive person and enjoy your life. It means that you accept your disorder. Then you can go on toward stability. And then recovery. And recovery is when, like Joy says: “Also, I have learned…that I can recognize when I am going to have an extreme mood swing and control it.” If you can do that, you are in control of your bipolar disorder and not the other way around.

Then Joy ends by saying: “I no longer allow labels to define who I am.” Now that’s real stability.

That’s recovery.

Well, I have to go!

Your Friend,

 

Dave

 

Current Bipolar News

 

Hi,

What’s new? Hope you are doing well.

To read this week’s news visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews623/

Employees with bipolar disorder: How do they affect your workplace?
DO> Do you know how to spot and help one?

Risk factors pave way for tailored substance use prevention in bipolar disorder
DO> You need to learn these risk factors to help your loved one.

Semantic priming abnormalities differ between bipolar disorder and schizophrenia
DO> Interesting study, don’t you agree?

Impulsiveness linked to severe clinical features in bipolar disorder
DO> Do you agree with their findings?

Bipolar Disorder and Drug Abuse in Teens
DO> You need to read this if you have a child or teen with bipolar.

Bipolar Disorder in Children: Misunderstood and Misdiagnosed
DO> Do you know the difference between adult and child bipolar disorder? This might help.

Catherine Zeta-Jones on Her Battle with Bipolar Disorder
DO> You’ll enjoy this video.

Childhood adversity raises comorbidity risk in bipolar disorder
DO> Are you aware of this risk for bipolar disorder?

Man accused of attempted murder needs evaluation for schizophrenia, bipolar …
DO> You’ll find this man’s story interesting.

Going off meds to write my book
DO> You will sympathize with this woman’s struggle with her bipolar.

Asenapine for Bipolar Disorder?
DO> Do you agree with using this drug?

Bipolar pedigree endophenotypes found
DO> Do you think one family was enough for this study?

Reboot: A Novel of Bipolar Disorder
DO> Sounds like a great book, take a look

For these stories and more, please visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews623/

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Your Friend,

 

Dave

Bipolar: Do You Know This Type of Person?

Hi,

Do you know a complainer? Someone who always complains about their situation and their problems, but doesn’t seem to have any solutions for them? Do you know a blamer? I think they’re related to complainers, to tell you the truth. They blame their situation and all their problems on something else (or someone). These two types of people are REAL people! I know, I’ve met them at bipolar support group meetings. They will complain about their problems with their loved one. They will even complain about their loved one themselves. And/or they will blame all their problems on bipolar disorder. Or, worse yet, on their loved one. There’s one thing that these two types of people definitely are NOT. And that is solution-oriented. That’s what you need to be.

Being solution-oriented means that you don’t complain or blame. You take responsibility. You look for solutions. You even look “outside the box” sometimes for answers. It means that you are willing. Willing to admit you don’t know the solution right now, but you sure will look for one.

You are willing to try different solutions, too, to see what works and what doesn’t work. Like your loved one may have to do with their medications. They may have to try different ones to see which ones will work for them. Being solution-oriented means that you will not always end up on the popular side of an opinion. But you stick to your guns and do what’s right for YOUR loved one and family anyway.

You must be motivated as well. See…Complainers and blamers just sit around giving “lip service” to what they say. They don’t look for or offer any real solution to their situation or problem. They are lazy. Solving problems can be hard work. But it’s worth it in the end. Say you look at a problem that you and/or your loved one have and you look for ways to solve it. You may come across a totally off-the-wall way to solve it, and do that. It may not be the easiest thing to do…It may not be what someone else would do…But it WORKS for YOU! So you stay solution-oriented.

Being solution-oriented also means that you look at a problem every way that you can. Then you look at solutions every way that you can. The answer to your problems may not be obvious, but if you keep looking, you will find them. There have been times when I have come up with a solution that other people thought was impossible, or the wrong thing to do, but it worked.

Well, I have to go!

 

Your Friend,

 

Dave

 

Bipolar: Undercover Boss and You

Hi,

Have you seen this show called “Undercover Boss” yet? It’s on cable TV. Well…On this show, the CEO or boss of a company puts on a disguise and goes undercover in his/her own company to try to find out what’s really going on behind the scenes. It’s amazing what some people will say when they don’t know they’re talking to the boss! But the CEO/boss does this so that they can stay on top of things. Do you know how the smartest people know so much? They stay on top of things. Do you know how the richest people stay rich? They stay on top of things. Do you know how the most successful people stay so successful? They stay on top of things, too. That’s the secret for all of these people: Staying on top of things. But it’s a secret that you can learn, too. You need to stay on top of things.

With information so plentiful, it should be easy to stay on top of the news and latest research on bipolar disorder. But you have to make the effort, and you have to take the responsibility. Anything new that you can learn might help your loved one to get better, you never know. So stay on top of things. Stay in contact with your loved one’s medical and mental health professionals. Make sure there is a signed Medical Release of Information form on file at all of them, giving them permission to talk to you. Then periodically “check up” on your loved one to see how they think your loved one is really doing. This is especially important if you notice that your loved one is behaving differently from their normal self. How will you know? Well, you’ll have to stay on top of things.

Be observant of your loved one’s behavior, so that you can tell at the first sign of any kind of irrational behavior as soon as it starts. Especially if your loved one is hallucinating or having delusions. These are easy enough to spot. As their supporter, it is your responsibility to stay on top of things when it comes to your loved one. Because you know them best…And because you know so much about bipolar disorder…And if you stay on top of things…You could very well mean the difference between them being treated at home or in the hospital.

If you can catch an episode before it begins or even as it first starts, you can get your loved one the help they need before they go into a full-blown bipolar episode. You just have to stay on top of things. Stay on top of their medications, too. Keep a watch on whether they are still effective or not. This is important. Because some medications reach a level where they are no longer effective. At that point, the medication needs to be changed. And you can help spot this if you stay on top of things.

Well, I have to go!

Your Friend,

 

Dave

 

This Week’s Current Bipolar News

Hi,

What’s new? Hope you are doing well.

To read this week’s news visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews621/

Measuring Functionality In Depression and Bipolar Disorder
DO> Will this influence your opinion on functionality?

Signs of Bipolar Disorder
DO> Do you know these signs?

What is bipolar disorder?
DO> Are you familiar with this basic information?

No Going Back: A Hard Look At Bipolar Disorder
DO> Review about a book you’ll want to read.

How do happiness and sadness circuits contribute to bipolar disorder?
DO> Interesting study.

Obesity not linked to bipolar disorder course
DO> You might find their findings surprising.

Cannabis use may worsen illness course in bipolar disorder
DO> You’ll find these study results interesting.

Lawyer says her experience with bipolar disorder is reason for appointment to …
DO> Do you think this is fair?

Police Searching For Missing Man Suffering From Bipolar Disorder
DO> Isn’t this a shame?

More Evidence Brain’s Emotion Circuitry Disrupted in Bipolar Disorder
DO> This is obviously and not news don’t you think?

For these stories and more, please visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews621/

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Your Friend,

 

Dave

This Week’s Current Bipolar News

 

Hi,

What’s new? Hope you are doing well.

To read this week’s news visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews622/

Family: woman arrested after suspected arson has mental illness
DO> Read about this woman’s surprising story.

Befriending Bipolar Disorder: BipolarLab eBuddy Program!
DO> Would you be interested in this program?

Learning to live with bipolar disorder
DO> You’ll appreciate this man’s honesty about his disorder.

A few basics about bipolar disorder
DO> Interesting interview about the basics of bipolar.

Tell tale neurologic soft signs for schizophrenia and bipolar disorder
DO> Interesting study.

Neural clues found for impaired emotional response in bipolar disorder
DO> You’ll find this study very interesting.

For these stories and more, please visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews622/

Check out all my resources, programs and information for all aspects of bipolar disorder by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentralcatalog.com

Your Friend,

 

Dave

 

Bipolar: One Bipolar Day at a Time

Hi,

I heard the saddest story about bipolar disorder the other day. This girl had bipolar disorder, and she went off her medication. She was stable on her medication, and was even going to see her therapist and psychiatrist regularly. She was ok for awhile, but then she started to get unstable, and then went into an episode. Then she committed suicide. The thing is, it’s not that I’m immune to hearing stories like this – I’m not, I still feel sad every time I hear one – it’s just that I hear so many of these stories, and I’m not surprised, because I know that 1 in 5 people who go off their medications are probably going to kill themselves.

But anyway, about this girl. When they talked to her friends and family, and asked them why she killed herself, they said that she had been telling them that she was feeling very overwhelmed by

everything lately. So that made me start thinking about something I want to talk to you about today. Feeling overwhelmed. Whether you have bipolar disorder or not, you can still feel overwhelmed sometimes. But there are things you can do about it. I know this may sound corny or over-used, but take things One Day at a Time. You take things as they come – you don’t dwell on the past, and you don’t worry about the future. You just deal with today.

Many people can’t handle more than just this one day (many people choose not to). Some people can’t even handle that, and have to do it one hour at a time (or one moment at a time).

And that’s ok, too. You can build from there. With bipolar disorder, I call it: One Bipolar Step at a Time. I got the idea from this movie I watched once with Bill Murray in it called “What About Bob?” where Richard Dreyfuss played this psychiatrist who was treating Bill Murray for these really big fears about everything. I mean, this guy was afraid to get out of the elevator and walk into his office! He was so overwhelmed by everything. So the whole idea of the movie was this concept called “Baby Steps.” He taught him how to do everything one step at a time, or by doing everything in baby steps, and building up from there. And eventually Bill Murray’s character was able to overcome his fears and not be so overwhelmed by everything anymore.

It was a funny movie, but you could take a lesson from it.

So…One Bipolar Step at a Time The idea is not to do too much, or you’ll be overwhelmed. For example, say you’re keeping a To-Do List as part of how you’re staying productive. If you have too many things on that list, and you don’t get them all done today, that might overwhelm you.

Instead, make a smaller list, and you won’t feel so overwhelmed. In fact, by completing the things on your list, you’ll feel a sense of accomplishment at the end of the day. Then, in steps, as you can, you can add more things to your list.

Another example would be if you wanted to go back to work (first of all, I would advise not doing this without your doctor’s okay). In order not to be overwhelmed, start with a small, part-

time job with just a few hours a week. Don’t try to tackle a full-time job right away. It may be more than you can handle, and do you more harm than good. If being productive is what you’re worried about, set a long-term goal, and then your One Bipolar One Step at a Time would consist of the short-term goals you would set and take to reach that long-term goal. You can do the same thing with projects. You would decide on a big project you want to do, then do it a little bit at a time, like the long-term and short-term goal idea. If you’re wanting to learn how to take on more responsibility as part of managing your bipolar disorder, then start with smaller responsibilities (One Bipolar Step at a Time), so you don’t get too overwhelmed, and then build to larger responsibilities. If you’re in a bipolar support group, you don’t start with running the group right away, you start with setting up the coffee, see what I mean?

Now, here’s my biggest point with the One Bipolar Step at a Time idea: If you’ve been in an episode, and now find that you have consequences to pay as a result of things you did while you were in that episode, you might be feeling very overwhelmed by it. Take it One Bipolar Step at a Time. This is very important to your stability. If you have people to ask forgiveness from and relationships to repair, take it one person at a time. If there are consequences to pay (like paying traffic tickets, for example), do them one at a time.

Well, I have to go!

 

Your Friend,

 

Dave