I read a quote the other day that I’d like to share with you:
“I once heard a teacher say that life is a lot like gambling in Las Vegas: you have to be present to
win. But sometimes winning entails much more than just showing up. It requires making a bet on your best, bravest self and then stretching beyond what you already believe you can do to win the jackpot of your full potential and deepest desires.”
In other words, you have to go that extra mile. Which is never easy, and sometimes demands quite a bit from you. Part of going that extra mile means making sacrifices. It’s like that quote said, it’s like “stretching beyond what you already believe you can do…”
But the quote says that if you can do that… You can “win the jackpot of your full potential and deepest desires.
So how does this relate to bipolar disorder? Well, I’m sure that one of your deepest desires is to see that your loved one gets better, even becomes stable with their bipolar disorder. That’s what most bipolar supporters want most. They want a normal life, despite their loved one’s bipolar disorder.
Sometimes that means that you have to go the extra mile in being a good supporter. Sometimes you have to stretch beyond what you think you are capable of doing and doing just a bit more to get better results. Sometimes what you think you are able to do and what you are actually able to
do with a little more effort are two different things. With a little more effort, you are able to
accomplish more than you had even thought you could accomplish.
And when your loved one sees you going that extra mile, it accomplishes two things – Number one, they appreciate you more for your effort at going the extra mile in supporting them. And number two, you are more of a role model to them, and they can go by your example, and they can go the extra mile for themselves!
Then, when they go the extra mile in their own quest for stability with their bipolar disorder, they too can “win the jackpot of [their] full potential and deepest desires” as well. They can learn from your example that sometimes it takes a little more effort to accomplish a little bit more, but that it is worth it.
Sometimes it takes a stretch of your emotional muscles, so to speak, to get where you want to get in supporting your loved one. And it takes a stretch of their emotional muscles, so to speak, to get where they want to get as far as management of their bipolar disorder goes.
Still, it is not beyond either of you. It is not asking the impossible.
Going the extra mile can sometimes mean just giving a little more effort than you might usually give. But the results can be an enormous difference.
Well, I have to go!