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Hi,
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I just got back from the gym and wanted
to get the bipolar news out to you right
away.
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There’s some really interesting news stories this week.
Take a look at them. Also, write me some feedback by visiting my
blog below.
Here are some of the headlines:
Illness can take a toll both physically and financially
DO> This is so true, what do you think?
See the Real Face of Depression, Bipolar Disorder
DO> Interesting article.
Blood can reveal mood
DO> Another very interesting article.
Raising awareness lessens stigma surrounding mental illness
DO> This is what we do.
PBS Frontline Will Rebroadcast “The Medicated Child”
DO> Do you agree or disagree with this idea?
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hi I am a 60 year old male married for 30 years to whom I think is a Bipolar wife It has been hell at time but most of the time it has been great marrage but now the bad times are getting more than the good.I am on your sie looking for help and answer and most of all some guidance on how to seek help for us. right now I am Drowing !!
Hello there, there has been one situation that I don’t recall seeing on the blogs. Now I’ve not seen everything posted here, but what about the spouse and family of a person that is the caregiver of someone with bipolar? Can anyone speak about that. It has been very difficult.
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I just finished up with the news and for once in my life I am speechless!
For hipockets: My husband is 61 y/o and has Bi-polar disorder, mostly stable and he puts up with me, I have BPD, fairly stable, but I am also going thru menopause and the hormonal changes associated with that can be hell too (for the both of us). You have to have your wife evaluated by a Psych and it should take more than 1 visit for a proper diagnosis because at the ages you are representing there are a lot of different things going on with a female so you have to get her to a DR for help and a proper diagnosis.
Hi Hipockets…
I am bipolar…. almost 11 yrs. Married almost 27. I have suffered my own private hell 4 many yrs. Openly admitting 2 & talking about my disorder has helped me tremendously. Since I became a caregiver 4 my 90 yr. old mom in Nov. 06, my lows have become increasingly lengthier & more severe. I have always been the type of person that went out of my way 2 help others because it made me feel good. Since I have developed BP disorder, I can no longer do everything I enjoy, especially from the couch where I sometimes spend 2 & 1/2 months at a time watching the world go by behind an invisible sheet of glass. Each time I had cycled back 2 feeling well, I would help every1 out that needed some assistance. By the time I got around 2 me, I
was out of stamina, & on the couch again.
2 months ago, I decided 2 help out some1 very special…. ME!! I needed 2 become selfish & get myself 2gether so that I could do things that made me happy & continue on the road 2 happiness.
I have started seeing a nutritionist, & am eating much better. I have been through menopause & am hoping the hormones have finally stopped changing. I am on new meds & only taking a small dosage (strictly by happenstance). I have a strong relationship with God & have completely handed over my life 2 Him. I have discovered a woman named Lucinda Basset & the Midwest Learning Center. She had suffered from anxiety, panic & depression & has put 2gether a wonderful program 4 healing. I listen 2 Joyce Meyer who is a Christian minister & has been sexually abused by her father as a child. She was in a very dark, angry & depressed place 4 many years b4 she began 2 heal after “Letting go & letting God” . I read Dave’s newsletter & blogs every day, & have started a personal log of my feelings. I have become my own best friend & give myself the love, respect & advice that I would give any1 that needed my help.
Please let your loved 1 read my post & please reply. My husband has been suffering terribly throughout the past yrs. & I am hoping he may find comfort in reading about how u have been coping.
May God bless u & your wife, & grant u both favor so u r feeling well 2day, Cathee
You can email me personally @ CatheeCG@Gmail.com
How do I deal with the daily stress when I get mad I don’t know what to do
WE JUST HAD TO CUT OFF MY DAUGHTER’S CELL PHONE AND TODAY MY TIRE WAS SLASHED. I KNOW IT WAS HER BOYFRIEND WHO IS BI-POLAR 2 OR SCIZO. HE IS NOT ON MEDS AND SELF-MEDS FROM ALCOHOL AND POT. HE HAS THREATENED US ON THE PHONE WE PAY FOR, FOR OUR DAUGHTER SEVERAL TIMES AND THAT IS WHY WE HAD TO STOP THE PHONE. THOU WE FEEL SHE MIGHT NEED IT FOR A SAFETY FOR HER AND MY GRANDSON- WHO IS 7MONTHS OLD. SO TELL ME HOW WE CAN PROTECT US AND THEM FROM THIS SICKNESS THAT HE DOESN’T WANT TO GET HELP FOR. I READ ALL THE STORIES THAT YOU WRITE ABOUT IT. SO WHAT HAPPENS TO THE VICTIMS OF THE PEOPLE THAT DON’T WANT HELP? HOW CAN YOU HELP US? YOU NEED TO ADDRESS THE VICTIMS AND GIVE THEM HELP BEFORE THEY HURT US AND THE CHILDREN. WE NEED THE HELP TO HELP OUR CHILDREN THAT OUR INVOLVED WITH THEM AND THEIR SICKNESS, BEFORE IT’S TO LATE! PLEASE HELP THE PARENTS WHO’S CHILDREN ARE WITH PEOPLE WITH BI-POLAR AND NOT ON MEDS. HOW CAN WE CONVNCE THEM TO LEAVE BEFORE IT’S TO LATE AND THEY TAKE THEIR LIVES OF THEM AND THEIR KIDS OR US. THANK YOU PEGGY S.
ONE MORE COMMENT I HAVE FROM PEGGY S. WE DID PRESS CHARGES ON HIM. NOW WHAT IS HE GOING TO DO-RETALIATE? WE ARE SCARED FOR OUR SAFETY! IS THAT WHAT WE SHOULD EXPECT FROM HIM? PEGGY S.
Dave – There were some links I couldn’t access in BipolarCentral News that I would have liked to have read; the one about mental illness having a drastic effect on finances, especially.
However, there was so much BAD news that I’m sitting here in a stupor. The young girl who was found dead when she was just coming to terms with her bipolar has left me bereft. Such a waste.
Patty Duke is ALWAYS inspirational. I read her first book, CALL ME ANNA, but not her second. She seems to have turned the corner with her diagnosis; as I am only 1 year younger than she, I CAN relate!
I know you have to mix the bad with the good; I just have to learn to live with it.
I’ve been laying here, on the living room floor, for almost a week, sleeping late, taking a lot of meds. I am denial that this is all happening to me. I am crying, feeling sorry for myself, not wanting to go on. I don’t know how I am going to pay these bills, I don’t know how I am going to find a job, I don’t know how I am going to keep a job. I just don’t want to face the world, now. I cannot ask for help, all I get is mean, awful things said to me. I don’t want to go to a hospital – that will NOT help my problems. I don’t really know what else to do. I am just laying here, looking up at the ceiling, wishing either I OR the world would go away. Preferably me. I want to be in a better place where there is no worries, no hurt, just happiness and warmth and love for one another. I am not there. Best to all. Kerrie
Heaven…
Let go, let God… Ask HIM 4 help… I promise u, u will not get the mean awful remarks from Him.He is kind, loving, & understanding.
He answers prayer. God loves u, & so do I. I am a good listener & can help with advice… read my post 2 hippockets 1:33 pm same day as your post
Dear Heaven (Kerrie):
I’ve been reading your blog entries for a while now and I’m really concerned about you. I know from the things you say that you are really depressed.
I agree that hospitalization doesn’t really help (UNLESS you’re suicidal – it is good for keeping you safe until you feel better and your thinking is straightened out).
I just want for you to start crawling out of this depression. Are you seeing a good therapist? It made all the difference for me. Also, when you’re this down for this long, sometimes a med change or adjustment is called for.
Do you have a support system – at least one person who you’re close to who knows what you’re going through?
I just don’t want you to go through this alone, and I don’t want you to be feeling so bad for so long. I’ve been there – I know how painful it is…
A lot of us here care! If you haven’t already done so, PLEASE see a therapist, and make sure your psychiatrist knows how bad you’re feeling.
God Bless!!
Love, Sue
To SuzanneWA,
Hi, let me check into why the links don’t work.
Dave
For peggy:
When you get a threat from this person, especially over the phone, report it to whatever is the appropriate cops, like if it happens in the city call the city cops, if he is in the county, call the county or the state. My ex (who is the worst kind of BPD, untreated and undiagnosed) called me after we were divorced and told me he had a bullet with my name on it. He was in the county so I called the Sheriff Department and one of the deputies went and had a talk with him about how long his prison term could be if I pressed charges against him and I have not received any more threatening phone calls in the last 11 years since then. So take control of your situation and call whatever cops you need and some things will come to a quick stop. You cannot control him, so you need the law to protect. Get the court to issue protection orders against him and then he will go to jail every time he gets close to you. After a little of that treatment he will move on to someone else to terrorize. And by all means get your daughter another cell with a different number because cell phone # are not available in the phone book or by directory assistance. You, yourself, can’t control him but you can control how he treats you and put an end to the terror.
peggy:
Keep on with law enforcement and quit worrying about retaliation. let him see you dial 9-1-1 and he will disappear real quick unless he like being in jail. Do not let him make you live in fear! Just take a stand and do not back down!
I appreciate the advice from Helen B. The is the advice I got from a friend that heads the domestic abuse center and she told me that when he is arrested and my daughter calls -that I should tell her we love her and will be here for her when she is ready but what he does to us is unacceptable and we are sorry he is doing this to her.And that is all we say-no discussion!But I’m still scared what he will do next,to us or her and their baby. So I still live in fear til he is apprehended!But I know I did the right thing to try to stop him. Thanks Again Helen.Peggy
WELL HELLO TO ALL!!!! LOVED ONES, PATIENTS, AND ALL THE BIPOLAR WORLD…..NO MATTER IF IT IS YOU, YOUR LOVED ONE OR JUST SOMEONE YOU KNOW! PLEASE ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT THEY ALL NEED LOVE , CARING AND ALL THE PATIENCE (ALTHOUGH SOMETINES U FEEL AS U HAVE NONE)IN THE WORLD..I HAVE STUDIED JUST ABOUT EVERYTHING I COULD GET MY HANDS ON, AND I AM HERE TO TELL YOU …IT IS HELL, ALMOST LIKE LIVING A NIGHTMARE AT TIMES…MY SON ( NOW 15 ) SUFFERS FROM MANIC DEPRESSIVE HYPERTENSIVE DISORDER, ( BIPOLAR W/ ADHD) HE WAS DIAGNOSED AT 5 WITH ADHD, WELL LET ME TELL YOU WHEN PUBERTY KICKED IN AT 13 ALL HELL BROKE LOOSE! WOW, WE HAVE BEEN ON A ROLLER COASTER FROM HELL ….IN NOVEMBER 2007, HE WAS REEVALUATED AND WE WERE TOLD THAT IT WAS BIPOLAR…..HE INHEREITED THIS FROM HIS FATHER, GRAND FATHER , UNCLE AND G.GRAND FATHER ON HIS FATHERS SIDE …ONE DOCTOR WAS TREATING JUST FOR ADHD,,,THAT DOES NOT HELP A DAMB THING,SE GAVE HIM VYVANCE, TRAZADONE AND ZOLOFT….TRASADONE WAS TO HELP HIM SLEEP, SINCE THIS IS ONE OF THE TRAITS (INSOMNIA)…ANY WAY I AM NOW TAKING HIM TO A PSYCH… AND SHE TOOK HIM OFF OF THE TRAZADONE, AND VYVANCE, SYING YOU HAVE TO TREAT THE BIPOLAR FIRST, … SHE PUT HIM ON SORQUEL( BUT A BAD REACTION ) NOW WE ARE ON ABILIFY AND ZOLOFT..STILL NOT TO SURE HOW THAT IS GOING TO WORK OUT, NOW HES HYPER AGAIN AND HAS DIFFICULTY SLEEPING…. I WILL WRITE MORE ON THAT LATER…ANYWAY TO LET YOU KNOW ..I HAVE READ ALL THE BLOGS, AND I AM HERE TO TELL YOU WHOM EVER IS TELLING YOU THAT YOU SEEM MUCH BETTER NOW SO U SHOULD STOP YOUR MEDS….THERE NUTS, THEY ARE NOT A DOCTOR FIRST AND FORMOST. THAT IS THE FIRST SIGN THAT YOUR MEDS ARE WORKING AND IF YOU STOP TAKING THEN YOU WILL JUST REVERT RIGHT BACK BECAUSE YOUR MOOD(S) ARE NOT STABBLED….. AND YOU CAN’T EXPECT SELF MEDICATING TO WORK , HELLO THATS ILLEGAL NARCOTICS AND IS ABSOLUTE TOXIC POISON FOR A BIPOLAR PATIENT. ALL BIPOLAR PATIENTS DIFFER FROM ONE ANOTHER NO ONE IS THE EXACT SAME, IN TEENAGERS THE MOODS ARE A LITTLE DEEPER THAN WHAT THE AVERAGE TEEN WILL PUT YOU THROUGH…DRAMA, DRAMA, DRAMA, YOUR WRONG AND THEY ARE RIGHT (SEVERE PROBLE) I LIKE TO SAY THEY DO NOT SEE IN BLACK OR WHITE, THEY SEE IN GRAY -ALWAYS….MORE PRONE TO USE DRUGS, ALCOHOL, AND HAVE A SEX DRIVE OUT OF THIS WORLD( FOR MALE ANYWAY) SO IF YOU HAVE CABLE , BLOCK THE PORN OR YOU MAY END UP WITH THAT SUPRISE 618.00 BILL….. OH THERES JUST SO MUCH…BUT PLEASE LET ME HERE FROM SOMEONE…..I REALLY NEED TO HEAR FROM PEOPLE GOING THROUGH THE SAME AS I…BECAUSE AFTER A WHILE YOU FEEL FOREIGN,LIKE YOUR ON A PLANET YOU ARE UNFIMILAR WITH…BECAUSE EVERYDAY IS DIFFERENT, WHAT WAS GOOD FOR YESTERDAY WILL NOT BE AT ALL GOOD FOR TODAY……..CAN’T WAIT TO HEAR FROM YOU,,,MY LOVE AND HEART GO OUT TO YOU ALL
I spent the night in the ER (one of my family members called the police, apparently. The psychologist and doctor deemed me not to “be of a harm to myself or anyone else,” and let me go after they did their blood tests. Now, I just have another ER bill. It did not accomplish anything. I still feel badly, I still am terrified of not having a job, and I have no one to help. Instead of just calling 911 for someone who is distressed, the family member could have asked HOW she could help me. Obviously, what she did WAS OF NO HELP. I am so frustrated with my family and the ‘mental health system. Kerrie
For Peggy:
There is no reason to live in fear of someone like that while we still have the justice system. He won’t get help well then lock him up and do what you have to, just keep him away so he can no longer cause you any more suffering. I have been in your daughter’s position more than once and worse – I was married each time. I finally figured out I was worth more than being abused all the time and now I am 54 y/o but I am happily married.
TO Heaven, Sorry to hear that you feel you have no support from your family and the only thing they know what to do is call someone else to take care of you. Do you have a therapist that can help you or are you like many of us that have little or no insurance to get help? Please know that their are people that do care.Do you have a church that you go to that can help you? I hope someone on this site can maybe give you the support and help you need to get through this hard time.Wish I had a answer for you but again remember that you seem to be a strong lady who has the strength to reach out for that help.I’m sure your a beautiful person inside that only wants to be loved by your family and for them to be supportive. Take care of your self Kerrie and I hope you get the real help you need. Peggy
For AMothersLove:
You asked to hear from us who have a similar story, mine is my daughter. She is still not in control but slowly getting there as it sometimes takes a very long time to find the right combination of meds to stabilize someone with Bi-polar Disorder. Especially if they are under 18 years old because there are so many drugs that are too dangerous to give to the young but they work fine to stabilize BPD when they are older. So hang in there and the day will come when the right meds will make him so much more stable than he is now. Prayers for you and your son, Helen
P.S. You are by no means alone with this awful disorder! I think there are a lot more people stricken with BPD than we will ever know.