Bipolar Manic Episode – Be Careful of This


How’s it going?

I hope you’re having a great day.

Today’s topic is a touchy one, so I’ll tell you that up front.

It’s about how people in a manic episode make mistakes.

In this case, they tend to choose the wrong people to surround themselves with (negative or toxic people) when they are in that episode, and it comes back to hurt them and their families.

Remember before when I’ve told you about Michele and how she taught her children about picking the right friends by using the 10/2 Equation.

It works like this:

If you are a 10 and they are a 2, and you hang out with them, you are not going to bring them up to an 8, they are going to bring you down to a 4!

So that’s what I’m talking about here.

It’s hard for a supporter to watch their loved one go into a manic episode…

Your loved one might get all outgoing and such (whether that is their normal behavior or behavior caused by the bipolar disorder)… and the next thing you know, your loved one is hanging around with these people…

…and you KNOW that these people are bad for your loved one, but he just uses excuses, or defends his “new friends”…

Because he can’t see how they are bad for him.

In a manic episode, your loved one’s judgment can be totally altered by their bipolar disorder.

They may not even realize that these people are bad for them (or you).

That can be so frustrating for you, because your loved one just won’t listen to you when it comes to their friends, because they think they’re ok, and they may get defensive about it.

And you don’t want to get into a fight with your loved one over their choice in friends, but you may not know what else to do!

It’s really tough, but you may have to stand silently by and watch your loved one get hurt by these “friends.”

Maybe they are just negative people and will bring your loved one down, but that’s not as bad as what some will do –

Some will take advantage of their “new friend” (your loved one while they’re in a manic episode) and possibly use them for their money, etc.

Even so, your loved one might still defend them!

In my courses and systems, I teach not only about how to deal with your loved one when they are in a bipolar episode, but also what to do when they won’t listen to you:







It’s very difficult in this situation to get your loved one to listen to you.

For example:

Michele (who works for me), her mom has bipolar disorder, just like my mom.

Michele spent hours with her mom, working out a routine for her to be able to manage her bipolar disorder.

Her mom was doing great on her routine.

Until she met Mary.

Mary became close friends with Michele’s mom.

But Mary decided that Michele’s mom didn’t need her routine any more, and that she had better

advice for her.

So guess who Michele’s mom listened to?

Well, after awhile, Mary kind of floated away from Michele’s mom, and Michele’s mom went into a mini-episode, most likely caused by the fact that she had no routine to cling to, like she had before.

Do you see the important point that I’m making here?

Now, I’m not saying that people with bipolar disorder shouldn’t have friends.

But only that they should be VERY particular in who they choose for friends.

In fact, this is one of the areas where your loved one should trust you more than themselves.

A manic episode will definitely affect their thoughts and, like I said before, it will affect their

judgment as well.

If you see that your loved one is making a poor choice in friends, or even being taken advantage of, then you should tell them.

Hopefully, they will listen to you.

Or at least think twice about who they are hanging around with.

I will tell you this as a p.s. – Michele’s mom sure learned her lesson about choosing her friends

more carefully. And now she sticks to her routine, too!

  1. I agree wholeheartedly with this email it mirrors exactly what happened to my daughter during her episode- the saddest thing was that during her episode her so called friends came into her house and stripped it bare took all her money and when she was in the worst part of that episode abandoned her- and your right she never listened to anything I had to say.
    Sometimes one has to watch the loved one go through their terrible time and monitor from the edges to limit the damage and sometimes it is shocking.
    Rachel is now stable and has been for the last 6 months.
    we have a plan in place if she does go into another major episode – I have power of attorney in just such a scenario – she saw what her “friends” had done
    (stripped her home of everything taken all her money)and abandoned her and her children.She does not want this scenario to play out ever again and just incase she is in no condition to help herself I am there.
    After all we have been through I have proven to my daughter categorically my total commitm goes to her wellness but in the event of her becoming unwell again we have a plan in place for such an eventuality.
    thank you Dave if it hadn’t been for your timely advice ( on having a plan ABC) we would not be in the safe position we are in today

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