Bipolar Lesson From Story Of Man That doesn’t eat for one year


How’s it going? I had a quick story that
I wanted to share with you that will
be really important to you if you have
bipolar disorder OR if you are supporting
someone with bipolar disorder.

Yesterday after I took several phone calls
related to all my businesses that I have,
I had to go to a business meeting.

Let me tell you, it’s far. It’s almost in
New York which is far from me. And there’s
traffic. And the closer you get to New York
the more mean the drivers are. So I wasn’t
looking forward to it.

Well some how, amazingly, I got there
on time even generally there is so much
traffic you just can’t leave early enough.

So I got to the meeting, was listening and
doing the meeting thing. HOURS went by.
The meeting was suppose to be only 2 hours

I didn’t have my cell phone on and I leaned
over to a guy and looked at his watch I thought
it said 9:15pm. I was like, “What the heck,
it’s time to go.”

So I kept hearing, “Oh, and another thing.
Oh and one more thing. Isn’t this meeting
great, I know it was a little long
but it’s great isn’t it?”

I was dying in my chair. First it’s hard
for me to sit still for this long to
begin with. Secondly I get bored kind
of fast and I have so many things to do.

In the meeting that was NOT related to
bipolar disorder, I had already outlined
my goals for all the mental health stuff
for 2009, outlined multiple interviews
I was going to do, new article ideas,
a new way to handle my phone calls, etc.

So I did get a lot done in the time
plus I listened to what was going on. I really
did. I swear :).

Okay, so at like 9:40pm, I lean next to the
guy and say, “Hey, this is way longer
than 2 hours and it’s almost 3 and 1/2 hours
and when’s this going to be done? I have
to eat every 2.5 hours and I am starting
to feel really bad and sick.”

NOTE-I body build non competitively and
I do eat ever 2.5 hours when I am awake and
if I don’t, I start to feel really sick. I can
probably pass out if I hit the 5 hour mark
and I get really weak and I can’t even think
so I was being totally serious.

Anyway, the guy leans over to me and says:
“Don’t worry about it, you know a guy once
didn’t eat for a whole year?”

I was like “What the heck? Just because
some moron supposedly didn’t eat for a whole
year I am suppose to be happy not eating
when I am suppose to and then I was thinking
who cares about the guy that didn’t eat
for a whole year? Am I the guy who didn’t
eat for a whole year? Is that a true

I was super mad. And started to leave
and then the meeting was over and then it
hit me…

The Bipolar Disorder Statistical Outliner

What’s that? Well when you look at mathematical
averages there is something called the
Statistical Outliner.

This is something that falls way outside
of the average and is on the outlining
areas of a given group.

For example, most people eat daily, but there’s
a man that eat or ate once a year. He is on the
OUTSIDE of the averages of normal people.

How does this relate to bipolar? Good question.

Here’s how it does. There are certain things
that are done to support someone with
bipolar disorder or if you have it yourself.

We could argue that you could call them “bipolar
disorder best practices.” Best practices is a term
used to define things that are generally proven
to work best for a given objective.

So let’s look at bipolar disorder and best practices.
Generally it’s things like, find a great doctor,
go to him/her regularly, find a great therapist,
go to him/her regularly, take medication, take it
like you are suppose to, exercise, eat right,
don’t have too much stress in your life, protect
your finances, etc.

Those are all things that are considered best practices?
That makes sense?

Now the statistical outliner would be like a person
that you found who is stable who does NOT do
or engage in best practices. This person doesn’t
take medication, doesn’t see a doctor, does
illegal drugs, drinks all night long, is stressed
a ton, eats junk food, etc.

This one out a million or 10 million would be stable
but he/she is NOT the norm and should not be modeled.

For example, with kids, you encourage them to go
to college or at least high school? Why because going
to high school and college is best practices with
getting a good job right? Well there is probably at least
one person who dropped out of the 4th grade and is a
multi millionaire.

Now would you encourage your kid to drop out of the
4th grade and skip all the rest of the grades and high
school and college? Of course not. Why? Because you
know that statically speaking your kid will not
do well financially in life.

It’s the same thing with bipolar disorder, you have
to model best practices and average of people who do
well, NOT look to the statistical outliner and follow

Occasionally I go to a support group meeting and hear
that there is such and such a person that does NOTHING
that makes any sense and the person is doing great.
99% of the time I believe it’s a lie but 1% I think
it’s true but I always say the same thing “So what?
You think I am going to have my mom do that kind of thing
with her bipolar disorder, you’re crazy.”

This is a VERY important concept that I hope makes
sense to you. Bottom line is you have to follow
what works for most people with bipolar disorder
whether you are a supporter or a person with
bipolar disorder not follow things that work for
1 out 25 million people. And be careful of people
that tell you stories of people who are doing
well bipolar disorder or being a supporter
of someone with bipolar disorder which makes
no sense at all and seems to deviate from
normal things.

If you listen to all my interviews in all my courses
I only let people talk about things that are best
practices not random luck of the draw statistical outliner
type of strategies. That’s no good to regular and
average people like I am and I think you are as well.




Your Friend,


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  1. Hi Dave,
    I have been reading your emails for a while and I have a question. My husband is Bipolar and within in the last month lost his only child in a car accident. I have had him successfully on his meds without fail for just over a year. He will see his doctor that writes the prescriptions, however, he flat out refuses to talk to a therapist. Since a few days after his son was buried, he has become rude, snaps when I ask him anything and pretty much totally ignores me. He walks past me like I am not even there. I am trying so hard to be patient and I don’t want are marriage to end because of this. I have not found anything on how to help him or what I should do. I just need some guidance in this situation. Please help.

  2. I’m quite sure you receive many requests for opportunities to work with you. I also am interested and have extensive experience in writing and computer related work. If there is any interest, I have the time and resources to assist you in your newletters or associated matters.

  3. Sherry, grief takes many forms and anger is certainly one of them. Trying to be patient with your situation requires a great deal of stamina. The care giver of anyone takes its toll on that care give. It would be to your advantage to read articles on grieving family members and try your utmost to be patient, loving, and supportive. There will be frustrations for you, sexually, emotionally, and the whole nine yards. Look to support from someone you trust, (and not a male friend-you are asking for trouble there). It wouldn’t necesarily be wise to let your hubby know too many details of that. Support his painful loss. Find a hobby that you like and let that be your outlet. I feel for you and have been in a similar situation. Time does heal a lot, but patience and loving support may be the ticket. Hope this helps. I also am not a doctor or lawyer, but I am a wife and I know how desperately painful loss can be. Wishing you the best.

  4. My grandson is 11 years old . I was reading the article about not eating for a year ,what about these people that cant remember that they have eaten already but don’t feel like they have? My boy can eat all day and still complain of hunger. His meds are metadate 30mgs twice a day ,ritalin 10 mgs, serouquel, clonidine. We have been on these drugs for about 1 and half years now and 4 drs later, and also in therapy who needs a sympathetic ear I am here we have tried many different meds with all kinds of side affects including distonic reactions that arent like anything I have ever seen before Its been more of a learning process as we all know bipolar isnt like any other sickness I have ever seen before ! If there is any one that needs a sympathetic ear I am available,

  5. Dave,
    I really wanted to join your inner circle,what a disappointment to find you had to have a check or c.c, which I have neither as I am waiting on disability.I have no income & we are living on my fiancee’s disability.He doesn’t have BP.Anyhow,i really wanted to join since I can’t get no doctors or therapist here.Word of advice “Nothing is {FREE}in life”.
    Lori Young

  6. I agree with the “man who didn’t eat,” remark, because when I get to the point where I’m feeling REALLY good, can go without a lot of sleep, am faced with one stressor after another, and am able to keep up with my work; then the delusions start, and I KNOW I’m in BIG trouble. For about a month now, I have been taking a day or so, when I go to sleep about 2AM and get up at 4AM, and have the best days I ever have. I feel empowered, and get a whole lot done. I find the days when I sleep 1 – 1-1/2 hours sleep, I can function FAR better than when I have 10-11 hours sleep. I DO, however, make up for the short nights by sleeping the next day. Like now, I got up at 1:30PM (it’s 11:40PM now), and plan to take my meds at Midnight, hoping to get up at 4AM. I have a LOT to do tomorrow, and feel that if I get little sleep, I can accomplish MORE than if I had more sleep. I will make up the sleep deficit tomorrow night. I feel I’m “playing with fire” here, but don’t know how else to feel “better” than to continue this routine.

    I see my therapist tomorrow – one of my stressors now is I have to break up with my boyfriend of over a year on Saturday. We are just NOT compatible, and don’t have very much in common, but I WILL feel guilty in letting him down. I broke up with him last November, but he came back into my life at Eastertime. He will get mad and give me the silent treatment, and I have to know how to deal with the let-down.

    I, too, am interested in writing/editiing for your program. I will fill out the papers you put on your website, but should you decide to contact me, Dave, my new email address is: I KNOW I can do a good job for you…

    Wish me luck with the break-up!


  7. David,

    For sometime I have allowed you emails to inendate my mail. Nothing you have offered in these emails are worth any attention to anyone with this true and existing disorder. It’s real sad that you pretend your life stories are an answer for someone whom is sick. If anything, I think you see your mother as the ultimate Bi-polar individual. Let me tell you, she is not! Bipolars are not a sect that immitates one another, it is different for each person. It seems you know nothing about bipolar past that of your mother. Your techniches are cliches at most to aid minor depression. I’m very sad that I have allowed you to waist my time and energy in hopes to find true bipolars to talk with and true very unique experiences.

    So now, you are SPAM.


    Mary Ellen Winn

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