You know, we read all the time about people who get into trouble with the law, who even do really serious crimes like murder. And we wonder about their background…We wonder what made them that way. What was their life like growing up? Was it terrible for them? Were they abused? And it’s very surprising when we sometimes find out that they came from a home where their mother loved them very much. So you come to ask yourself: “Is love enough?”
Sometimes you get to the point where you ask yourself “Is love enough?” when it comes to dealing with a loved one with bipolar disorder, too. Like you may wonder after you read the following email that I got recently:
“At this point, i have to say I’m at the very end of the rope now, and I’m losing my grip now. Few days ago, my man was at his worst, he wanted to leave me, I didn’t stop him this time as i was so emotionally and physically exhausted. Then he left the country and planning to die alone in a strange land. Last night, I almost lost him. I tried every possible effort i could to hold him back by threatening him with my life. Finally I managed to hold him back for one more day, but I don’t know what’s going to happen the next day. And I don’t know how much longer can I hold on to this end of the rope on one hand and holding him on the other. I feel like I’m losing my grips on both hands now. I love this man very much and i know he loves me deeply too. But at this point, I don’t know what else can i say or do to help him get out of this darkness,
especially when he’s now in such a faraway land.”
It certainly does sound like this woman is at the end of her rope, doesn’t it? I can just imagine all the things she’s already been through with this man before she’s gotten to this point. And now you can just hear the desperation coming through in her email. Like when she says at the very beginning of her email: “At this point, i have to say I’m at the very end of the rope now, and I’m losing my grip now” And again later when she says: “I feel like I’m losing my grips on both hands now.”
Things can get so bad that you may feel as this woman does: “I didn’t stop him this time as i was so emotionally and physically exhausted.” If you do, know that it is common for a supporter to feel that way.
Then, she says, he left the country to die in a strange land. She doesn’t say whether he was planning to kill himself, but we can assume that. That’s because 1 in 5 people with bipolar disorder will kill themselves. So he could very well be one of the statistics. Bipolar disorder could have driven him to that point of desperation. But look at what point of desperation trying to deal with it drove this woman to: She says: “I tried every possible effort i could to hold him
back by threatening him with my life.” That’s pretty desperate, too. And sometimes, as a supporter, you can get to feeling that desperate as well. Like when you’ve “tried every possible effort,” as she had.
She says she loves him very much, as I’m sure you love your loved one very much, but is love enough? This woman needs to get this man into treatment as soon as possible, if there is to be any hope for recovery for him. That’s the best hope for your loved one as well. Because love is just not enough when it comes to bipolar disorder.
Well, I have to go!