Bipolar Disorder? What Would You Say?

Hi,

How’s it going today?

You know, I come out with new reports all the time, because I want
to help people. That’s my bottom line.

I want to keep you up-to-date and give you new information all the time,
information I think you should know.

And most people thank me, telling me how good the reports are, and how
much they enjoyed them, and how much they learned from them.

I’ve even had people tell me how a report saved their life or the life of
their loved one!

Others have told me how a report saved their marriage!

But look at what this person wrote
me:

“I don’t belive in what most of what
you say. unsless of course you DO have the
SUPPORT of others ( like you say ).Tell
me..how do you get that?!!!!
Amanda”

Well, what do I say to that?

What would you say, if you were doing what you believed in most, and you
thought you were helping a lot of people, and someone came along and
trashed what you were doing?

First off, I read the comment again very carefully.

I tried to read it without my first emotional reaction.

Look at the first line: “I don’t belive in what most of what
you say.

MOST of what I say.

Well, that means that she at least believes in SOME of what I say,
right?

That means I’m getting some good information out to her, and that’s
encouraging to me.

I never said that everything I write is going to please everyone.

I know that some of what I write, that some people might think I’m
crazy for writing (especially when I talk about my crazy friends! : )

Or when I talk about some of the things that happen to me (and, yes, they
really do happen to me).

Or how I tie everything in to bipolar disorder. Even the strangest of
things!

Or when I post some of the comments, like this one, that this lady
wrote to me.

But the important thing is that I’m honest. That’s the one thing that I am.
Because I believe in what I do, and that’s who I am.

I assume you’re honest, too. Would you be defensive about that? Would
you defend yourself against the comments that this woman made if she
made them about you?

In my courses/systems, I talk about the importance of having a strong
support system.

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I only bring that up because it sounds to me like this woman doesn’t have
one, or else why would she ask me:

“unsless of course you DO have the
SUPPORT of others ( like you say ).Tell
me..how do you get that?!!!!”
How DO you get the support of others?

If you have bipolar disorder, you get it by developing a strong support
system, like I was saying before.

How does a supporter get the support of others?

By developing their own support system.

By not isolating, by not letting the world of bipolar disorder overwhelm
them, by having their own set of friends, etc.

How do I get the support of others?

I give them good information that they need to know.
What about you?

Do you agree or disagree with the woman who wrote that comment on my
blog?

What would you say to her?

David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide “Bipolar Disorder—The REAL Silent Killer.” Click Here to get FREE Information sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.

  1. I don’t think she meant what she said the way you are taking it. I look at it as a cry for help, that she doesn’t have a support system, that she doesn’t know how to get one and she is asking how she establishes a support system. I believe the comment about how she doesn’t believe what you say, was her way of saying she is hurting, admitting she is all alone or feels that she is alone. I don’t think she meant to hurt you.

  2. I agree if that woman really had someone with bipolar like we do she would be doing and reading everything she
    could get her hands on to help her. Not lashing coments like she said. She needs to move on. If I had known more 20 years ago my daughter just got her diagnosis of this mess and we have been through a living h….with her. She is in Reacovery (drugs) now and a life time of ups and downs and Rehab. I am raising her son 7 year old and he also shows signs of it. The dr. evaluated him at 4 yrs. 5yr.s 6yr. and now I tell her he has more than ADHD/ODD cause he is driving my 61 year old self nuts. Up and down calling
    me all kinds of names, fits, crying, distruction, any and everything his bio mother has done and he will be 8 soon. God help me when he becomes a teen. Her Grandmother had it her real dad had it and borderline
    schitzo too. She is doing better with the right meds.
    He is still on ADHD/ODD meds. Thanks for your help!!!

  3. Hi Dave
    I think this is less of a personal attack on you, and more of a ‘cry for help’ (sorry to use this cliche). If you have bipolar, where and how do you start developing a support group if for example your life has been in turmoil, and you have no-one? My husband’s life was a rollercoaster before we got married, because everyone, including his family distanced themselves from him, or wrote him off completely. I value your column very much, and read it daily, but i think the thing to remember here is that when you are a sufferer, literally ‘in the thick of bipolar’ it is very hard not to feel overwhelmed and isolated. I can’t imagine a lonelier place. And then, how and where do you start?
    Take care
    Wendy

  4. Do not stop with your info…..I will tell you my long story soon….I can finally open up and have stepped back to look at my son’s situation that has plagued my family for over two years.. I hope you receive this email…Thanks a million for your support. M.S.

  5. I believe this woman truly wants to be a part of a support system and was reaching out to you to find out how to do that. I’m glad you reread her note and really understood her need rather than being offended by her first remark.

  6. I want to make a comment to Amanda. As well as you Dave.If she doesn’t have any support she has you Dave. You take time out of your life to send emails to all of us that are on here whether we are bipolar or a supporter. I know that having my spouse bipolar etc. is very over whelming and hard, but when I read your emails it helps me to keep going. Now just so every one knows especially Amanda that not all of your comments help me. But that is okay because others do. Not all comments are geared towards my situation. But over all it is helpful for the comments that Dave gives me. Even the CRAZY ones. Because it is good to liken things to ourselves and our situations, it helps us cope better. At least it helps me. So Amanda keep your chin up and enjoy what good you have in life and allow Dave to add a little support to the life you feel no support in.

  7. I know that you are talking about the real thing, for I was at a loss at how to live with my bipolar daughter until I started to read your emails to me and then I was crying, for someone understood what I was going through and gave me good advice at how to love and live with her. You do have the right information and I thank God that you are here for us.

  8. Hi,David…
    I’m from Brazil and I read your newsletters everyday and they have helped me a lot,in many moments…I am not a supporter,I am not a bipolar, but I have a bipolar loved one.. and I wouldn’t know what to do if I didn’t have your help…sometimes, when I am about to give up, it comes a wonderful newsletter and everything is ok again…I think nobody tries to hurt you, or at least, they shouldn’t, cause you, as all we know, give us all the support you can…I have to thank you, David for all you give us…and think…that woman reads your newsletters, too..so, she needs you, as much as all of us…Thank you…

  9. HI THERE……
    Everybody is diffrent we all have our own personal oppinions, you don,t have to agree with what any body eles is telling you, We are all inderviduals.Amanda will have surrporters she just as to reach out,I beleive if you need
    support its there ask for help. x

    Take Care Linda x

  10. I allo belive that this person is realy looking for help, or she would be on this site…………. my daughter has bipolar and we are living threw H………she has ran away and done MANY things that I would not want to know about,she has been gone for 8 months when she called home finally I told her she needed to go to rehap befor she would be able to come home ,,,I wanted her to get the help she needed I have been their for her and tryed everything she has been in a doc care since she was 15 ,we have tryed so hard to suport her but it just drains………you but i keep going and trying she is my little girl and i need to have hope that she can keep taking her med now ,,however she burns every bridge she crosses ,she can not keep any friends ,she went threw school with only one friend at a time and they never stay friends for long ,,,,,,,,,then she would find another one then that friendship would end soon ,,,this last time she ran she only had one friend with her, now she is [back home /rehap first]she is no longer friendly with this person ,,,so when she comes home in 30 days she will only have her mom & dad to suport her again she has this thing that she can be in a room full of people and pick the one person that she should not be with and make friends,in the end there will be lot of hurt feeling and she will be all alone again as to us we will try to help her again but we always try to let her pull her self up but with no one to care about her other then us we need to help in the end …………she can be very smart when she wants to and can be very likable,is realy a kind person and loves animals and can commit to friends but ……………there is a big CONTROLL thing she does with someone it starts slow then when the person feels traped she feels she will louse them then she trys to controll then even more then the friendship ends ……then she does things to get them to stay with her ,witch she never ends up winning in the end we would like to get threw to her about this but when we talked about this befor she alway saids I know ,i know then does it all over again as soon as she gets a new friend we can only think of well how long will it be till she does something to end this then she is allalone again she allways ends up doing stuff to hurt her self more each time because she has no friends ,,,thanks for letting me talk about all this stuff it feels good to just be able to say whats on my mind and to allso know that you all have been threw some of this stuff also ,please keep the info going it realy helps me;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;

  11. You’re wise not to take offense. I consider you a cheerleader: go, fight, win! We’re fighting (or helping our loved ones fight) a battle one day at a time. You remind us in different ways to be steady and perservere. You give information, direction, & hope. After finishing a NAMI course and meeting supporters daily dealing with suicide, electric treatments, etc, Dave, not being a medical professional yourself, remember that some of your information isn’t a fit for the crisis stage people are in. Unrelated: could you focus in on different therapies and how to find a therapist fit?

  12. From my experience, my wife being bipolar, we are old timers, in the 70 years, she does not even ever go on the internet. My dear wife has been a sufferer of bipolar all her life as far as I know, we are married for over 50 years. Most of which time we new there was some thing quite out of the normal as it seemed, but didn’t know what.

    But I know now as a supporter, and want to stress, I am not doing justice to the sufferer if I would claim to know how they feel. But I know that is a very lonely life. Very often they think you have no sympathy even when you do. I respect my wife now, especially that I know more of what it is, after getting the course from you David. I think you are doing a great and honorable work. Because many times you must have faced people who badly need your advice, who don’t think you are helping them because of how they are suffering from ignorance and just plain being bipolar. They can not help feeling very negative sometimes.

    Now that I know more of what bipolar really is, I try never to criticize my dear wife, which has done much to build up a relationship. Thank you David for all you have been through, in the first place helping your mom, and now, helping others who need people who can at least partly understand them, because of what you know by experience.

  13. Jayne This is just an idea. You might ask your daughters doctor to consider checking her for borderline personality disorder. There are alote of us who have both diagnosis. It is alote harder to get your Bipolar under control with meds alone if there is a personality disorder too. It would be alote easier to get the talk therapy and education she would need while in-patient. I needed years of therapy to get a handle on these personality issues. I wish the Bipolar issues with finding the right combination of meds would work out as well.

  14. Hi there, First Ï would like to say hello to Mary like you ,I have a daughter with Bipolar and like you I am a parenting – in this case 2 children – the amazing thing about this blog is that, having read everyones responses good and bad, on a daily basis I can get clues and answers to my own problems as a supporter. I am not alone.
    It is such a relief to be able to freely express feelings honestly in this forum – the blog in itself is one of my supports along with Dave’s emails, I feel included in a global discussion on bipolar on a daily basis.whats really great is that the website also gives me updates on where to find the latest news, discussions, reports on Bipolar.
    I think what Dave is saying is really true – SUPPORT is crucial- I have tended to seek support from those family members and friends who are positive and nonjudgemental- since I havent the time or the strength to listen to the judgemental voice I steer clear of negativity.I need strong support – those who will tell me that I’m a good person and the Rachel they know is also a good person. Strong support will offer me respite for the myself or for the boys in my care- will offer gentle time out and quiet time freely. Friends and family support has to be carefully cultivated and cared for, and not abused – I ONLY seek that support when there is a need and when I am myself I need of clarity. For instance a 5 minute call to my son ( who lives in another city 800 kms from me – when I am in the depths of depair over my daughter can be so uplifting – being a pragmatic boy and generous of heart to boot – he will get down to the nub of the matter- ever practical he will tell me he loves me and that Im a good person , he will give me the hard word on looking after myself , he will offer sincere and helpful advice if I ask for it. Or he will distract me by talking about some of the odd and funny things that happen in his day – he is a cop and a coach of little kids rugby. Then he will love and leave me to get on with things. And for 5 minutes I have had the necessary distraction from what sometimes “looks”tragic and hard and burdensome and dark. His time is always just enough of a positive burst, for me to catch my second wind, I see a glimmer of light.
    I love my daughter, she has had 2 weeks of positve head space ( I think its because her meds have been tweeked ) and I rejoice in her positivity, and her returning calm and inner peace.
    Rachel is recovering she will manage her bipolar.

    Regards
    Shona

  15. I think this woman needs you more than she realizes…I also think she doesn’t realize all of the people,like my daughter for instance, who wouldn’t be here had I not found you and your books and e-mails. Her Drs and definitely her meds have helped also. But David you and your support to me, her supporter, are what truly has kept us going for almost a year now. So I thank you for all of your info and advice. I still have my daughter today thanks to you and what we have learned from you. May GOD bless and keep you!

  16. To CORNELIUS: WOW!! Being married to a woman with bipolar disorder for FIFTY YEARS!! You must be a SAINT! Sounds like she might have had several diagnoses over these years, but is finally stabilized; more power to you both, and may you be blessed for your patience.

    I just found out that my biological mother has been diagnosed with bipolar at – 83!! She was constantly moody (I could tell through our phone calls, as she lives in WY and I live in VA), and was VERY difficult to be around. Her father – my maternal grandfather – was a paranoid schizophrenic. I knew this when I first met Mom, but to have her be diagnosed at such a late age, I think, is remarkable. NOW, she is getting therapy and the meds she needs to be more stable and happier in her senior years. Thank GOD!!

    To DAVE: I thank God that I found your site! The one most important part of it is that I have found that I am not ALONE with the disorder, that there are literally THOUSANDS of people on your website, and hundreds more post blogs on your site. Some days, your emails are fun, sometimes enlightening, and sometimes sad – but they are ALWAYS informative. Without your research and work on informing all of us with bipolar what to expect and how to manage our disorder and our loved one’s pain, I would have gone through life thinking I was the ONLY one who felt “this way.” So – keep up the GOOD work, and don’t sweat the small stuff. I agree with the poster who said that Amanda was reaching out for help; she just couldn’t express herself any better. I don’t think she was dissing your efforts at all. You have been a godsend to all of us with bipolar, and I can’t thank you enough.

    BIG HUGS to all bipolar survivors and those who love us. May God bless you real good. I pray for my country.

  17. Hi dave, yes your contact and letters are great. My husband has Bipolar, visits his Psychiatrist and Doctor regularly, I am probably what you would call his supporter. He doesn’t like talking about it and certainly doesn’t try and find out more about it. He takes his Meds, keeps in touch with his Drs and is generally ok. Has had BP for 35 years, but only diagnosed about 15 years ago. Last year he had his 1st episode in 11 years and 2 of our children, now adults, were his and my support , which is new and fantastic, as I have no desire to get help from friends when he is unwell. It has only caused some nasty rifts in our relationships, especially if they have children. They just don’t want them exposed…I guess. Your emails are my lifeline and encouragement . Thanks

  18. Please do not receive “negative comments”, put them in file 13—
    Love & Prayers as always,
    Marie.

  19. Hi, Dave:
    I do appreciate your info and the support that you give to those of us that support our loved ones with bipolar disorder, but I have a question. Where does bipolar disorder end and personal responsibility begin? Are we to dismiss all of the behaviors of our bipolar loved one simply by saying “Oh, they’re bipolar.” Do we suspend our desire for apologies or explanations for their indiscretions(a long love affair with someone else while they’re in a 26 year marriage. How clueless am I?) Am I unrealistic in wanting to know if I am just the consolation prize when their indiscretion says goodbye? Is lying a part of bipolar or just a character flaw? Sorry if this is too much. Just looking for answers. Thank you for what you do.

  20. Hi Dave,
    My opinion is that this woman is indeed lacking support. She is crying out for help. She needs to be directed to a support group in her area, or reconnect with people whom she may have lost touch with due to the illness. She sounds very angry and frustrated that she has no support. Sometimes I know exactly how she feels. But there are times when all I can draw on is my own inner strength, because I am single and although I have several friends, and they all know I have bipolar disorder, they can’t always be there for me just when I need them. I do spend a lot of time alone, sometimes depressed, and it does take a huge extra effort some days to get out of bed and go about my daily chores. But it’s that extra kick in the a– that you need to give yourself sometimes, and later on you’re glad you did. Being bipolar aint easy, but it is manageable with the right medication and the right attitude – never give up, never give in to the disorder.
    We shall overcome!
    -Been there; still there

  21. Hey Dave,
    Don’t take it personally!! You of all people should know that bipolar people are MOODY,sometimes VERY ANGRY people. They feel superior to the rest of us as well. Pointing out what they may consider as flaws on any given day might make her angry or nasty all depending on her mood. I know this from spending 17 years with my husband who was diagnosed as bipolar. He has nearly bankrupt us, he was a raging alcoholic (26er of rum a day),had multiple affairs,and finally walked out on me,his wife,baby girl and son to move in with an affair.Gave us no warning,just GONE a few days before Christmas.
    Again Dave,don’t take it personally.
    Sincerely
    Bonnie Walker.

  22. Hello again Dave;

    Be encouraged by her, she reached out. Possibly not in the normal way, but just by taking the time to write you should tell you that she is reaching out.

    Remember, you keep telling us not to take the lashing out personally.

    Thanks for your daily newsletter. It is helping me get through this. Next week they are going to start decreasing my hubbies meds. That is scary for me because it will be really hard to go through another episode if it is too soon. My daughter and I are his only support system as he wants to keep his condition a secret from everyone else. Maybe you could address that at some time. I forward the emails to him that I think might encourage him.

    Peggy

  23. My son recently had a manic episode and went out and had a few drinks, well he ended up in some very serious trouble. I was arrested for DWI. This is a shot in the dark but are there any Lawyers that handle these type of cases for bipolar people like my son? Keep up the good work Dave and the best to you and your family

  24. I have experienced a lot of what you have said. Ihave a husband who is Bi-Polar2. I was was told at age 11 that I and my brother both are Bo-Polar. I have since learned that the woman carries the gene and passes it on to her childern. All four of my childern and my daughters childern have been dianosised with some form of bing Bi_poler. some with severity and three are on
    medication. I remain with the deprsion and have some epoisodies of anger but have learned a lot of contol.
    Ionly pray that others will listen to you and get help for any of thier love ones or themselves with any of the symptoms you talk about. It is not something to be hidden you cannot put it on a shelf and hope it will go away. you need to address it and get help as soon as possable.
    Thankyou for the informaation you have given us.
    Peggy

  25. Id say that I agree with her, and with your comments in responce to hers. I dont agree with half of what you say, but Dave you say it, and as a supporter of a loved one with bipolar, its sure as hell nice to read what it is you say. Some of it applies, some doest. But I read all your emails and the ones that apply to my own situation have saved me from running away from the person I love. Saved me from thinking I was the “crazy” one and helped me to understand things that I would not have if it were not for your work and support. Yes I feel very supported by you, even though your siruation varies from my own, the similarities are not coinsidental. Tell her to stay tuned and maybe she will feel the same way-supported

  26. I believe this woman has written out of despair. Either because she has bipolar and has not been able to be supported by the people around her OR because -I am in this case- has someone who she realises has the bipolar disorder and cannot get him/her to seek medical treatment, which usually results in social chaos for the family or working environment. This is due to the fact that not having a diagnose it is imposssible to ask or demand “support” or even have conversations about “having a system”. Unluckily, David has already warned us. However, being this my father’s case, I keep reading David’s advice and “learning” as much as I can. Many tips have been helpful-not enough, though.

  27. Nothing. She is one little fish in a relatively large sea of your supporters. Not everyone in your life will approve of you – that’s the way life goes.

  28. As far as her not agreeing w/ most of what you say well I geuss thats her perogitive. However yes it seems that she is in real need of some info on how to get her own support group. I kinda know what she is going thru, I know that I have very few people in my life that I can truely say support me w/ my bipolar disorder, the rest, well they simply dont understand & maybe dont really care to. Only cuz they are among the millions who cant comprehend mental illness of any kind other than one who is tottaly disfunctional and in most cases institutionalized. I dont think any less of these people, sometimes I feel bad for them like when I have an episode and they are affected even in the smallest way, when that happpens all I can do is apoligize and do my best to let them know that I am trying to understand myself therein makeing it eaiser to help them to hopefully not be so shocked by me at any given time. When I was a child {before being diagnosed} Inever thought about the things I did {episodes} and the people in my life well they would just say “thats Stacey” and I geuss in a way thats true, however its also bipolar dissorder! My mom {the saint that she is} is my main support, and I know that I have put her thru stuff that no child should ever put a parent thru, like begging her to give me permission to kill myself! She of course said NO!!!!, then the next time I saw her {when everything was ok} she told me that if I ever asked her that again her answer would be ok on one condition; that we go together. She knows me so well, & thats all it took I know I’ll never ever do that to her again. And she knows that I could never hurt her by takeing my own life no matter how baddly and often I wish I could. Dave I would like to know what you think of my moms idea, it worked I can tell you that. I love her more than life it seems and for me thats ok. thanks for everything you do, I wish I was in a finacial position to get any of your courses I’m sure they could help me and the ones I love very much. For now your emails help out alot and I am greatful for them! Keep it up please! your friend in cyberspace Stacey.

  29. c’mon and cut her some slack. the poor woman is overwhelmed. anyone who’s not been in her exact situation ought not be so negative. before my husband was properly diagnosed as bi-polar and not merely depressed, he went off the rails all the time. and then the next day (or the next week) everything would be fine again. it made me crazy, going from being fearful (that the situation would escalate and become even more volitile) – to later having to smile and be polite/civil afterwards while I cleaned up the physical and emotional wreckage he left behind. and all the time with anger simmering underneath because the things he said were so wrong/mean/unkind. oh, yeah . . . and then there’s the worry when he stomps out of the house at 3:00 a.m. with no money, phone or identification (is he going to hurt himself ? is he going to hurt someone else ? how long will he be gone ? is he going to come back at all ? what condition will he be in when he gets back ?) he wouldn’t eat or sleep – this gave him energy. it also prevented me from sleeping, which made me tired. I started making mistakes; big ones. my world was blowing up – literally. I live in the netherlands and because of my husband’s condition, have developed an excellent relationship with our family doctor, who campaigned with me for over four years to get this remedied. I have good friends here, but didn’t feel comfortable talking about bi-polar after awhile because my husband was rapid-cycling so quickly sometimes even I had trouble keeping up with it. most people have misconceptions about bi-polar – and only a few people will bother to learn. I can truly sypmathize with this poor woman because I used to be her. I hope God blesses her with help – and soon. everyone criticizing her should be glad they don’t have to live her life because it takes a strong, strong person to be her. I’ll keep her in my prayers.

  30. My dear informative friend u CAN NOT please everyone all the time, and it sounds to me like she is very burdened and scared. Look at it this way at least you got a reply from her so u planted a seed , you got her thinking… that’s a good thing! It is obviously a cry out of desperation for help, i know because i have been there. Will keep her in my prayers she should try to find a “support system ” i do not pretend to have all the answers either.. but i am learning more everyday and with knowledge comes power. I am extremely great full for your information there is so much to learn and she may not have had the chance to learn yet. So many people judge so quickly but when the shoe is on the other foot it is not so easy, i can suggest she gets out and learns more ,talk to a friend, a pastor a co worker she trusts. we both know that there is much stigma about mental disorders out there so u can only keep trying and keep hope alive. I would offer her this suggestion there is a silver lining in every cloud and u cannot find it if u do not look .When u least expect it your peace will come because you never get more then you can handle in life really! NAMI helped me alot ALOT i understnd more things now so i can deal with them better that is the best way i can break it down for her and you. Thank you so much for haveing such patience and KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK!!!! Will keep going….i’m a survivor

  31. Listen to what Amanda isn’t saying here, “I don’t believe (Most) of what you say” From that you hear what
    she doesn’t say which is, obviously what she does believe is helping her to reach out to you for help in establishing a support system! You are helping her!
    If I am researching useful information for “Bipolar disorder” and found that I didn’t believe most of it, I would not continue to read from that resource, I would seek out one that I did feel was true and useful! Not only has she continued to use your information, she reached out to you for answers! If I don’t believe in you, I wouldn’t be asking you for answers! Another thing I feel that because of her lack of a support system, this woman is going to have trouble believing in anyone as we all know, supporting a loved one with this disorder is excruciating at times to say the least and believing in someone let alone reaching out is a huge risk to them for fear of being abandoned, judged and rejected, just to name a few of the endless list of issues MY DAUGHTER’S bipolar disorder has created for her! I believe ALL of what you say by the way, you have become my savior of sorts, I look forward to all your e-mails as I love my daughter dearly and up until a year ago when I started reading your letters, did we finally re-bond as I was clueless and actually hurting her unintentionally of coarse, but nun the less I was! So I applaud you commend you and thank you from the heart for all your insight and willingness to share your personal experiences and Amanda will too even if she never says it, Sometimes we have to hear what they are not saying…Again heartfelt thanks

  32. hi dave i really wanna ask ya a question.since i cant have your book yet.but i read tht u mentioned talking about high functioning people who has a stabled life and a happy 1 too.which means they can manage their bipolar ,their lives and enjoy life.this made me think is it possible to live a life without addictions such as drugs,sex,cigars and alcohol.which i know causes big problems with bipolar disorder.is it possible to live a lifre without them.its hard to find god and other happiness.what shld i do .im really struglin.but i know a lot of peopl non bipolar who live their lives without these adictions n they r still happy.my dad is a grt example.i realised he lived his life playing sports,videogmes,watching movies,listeing to music he did the things a holy man did.im gonna start doing those things and other activities as well and im really trying hard to find god.im really struggling.i havent started any addictions yet.coz for some reason i have this fear of going to hell after death.im not really a bad person.i just dont have enough faith.and i feel adictions is a way most people survive wid their lives.but i still know wats right.so wat shld i do in my life-FIND GOD AND DO OTHR ACTIVITIES THAT MAKE U HAPPY RIGHT.coz if u avoid these substances u get stablized and if i do find god and find other activites-I WILL LIVE THE NORMAL(HIGH FUNCTIOING)LIFE u r talking about.so dave u knw seem to be a nice staright forward fellow.HOW DOO I FIND GOD WAT ACTIVITES R THERE.HOW CAN I LIVE A NORMAL LIFE BEING HAPPY ,HEALTHY AND STRAIGHT WTHOUT ADDICTIONS.PLS REPLY.

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