Hi,
Have you ever heard the expression: Today is the tomorrow that you worried about yesterday.
It’s sort of a humorous way to look at things.
If you’re one of those people who are always worrying from day to day. If you project from one day to the next what might happen. And especially if you tend to think on the negative side of
things.
It just helps to look at things in a positive way when you’re dealing with bipolar disorder, because so much of it can be negative. But you don’t have to worry all the time, either. If you do, you’re just going to set yourself up for negative things to happen. Because you’re going to be looking for them. Enough bad things are going to happen in life all by themselves, you don’t have to help them along. To fight them, you have to think and act positively.
For example, when your loved one picks a fight with you, which can be a normal occurrence when you’re dealing with the rage of a bipolar manic episode, you can either react in a negative or a positive manner. If you react in a negative manner, it’s just going to prolong the fight. But if you react in a positive manner, it might just de-escalate your loved one’s behavior.
So what I’m talking about are things that may be inevitable, but that you can do something about just by changing your attitude about them. If you go around expecting bad things to happen, they will. You’d be a sort of magnet that bad things will be attracted to. But it can work the opposite way, too.
Like with people. Have you ever noticed that negative people seem to attract other negative people? But that positive people tend to attract other positive people? It is like a magnet sort of thing.
Think of it this way: Your positive attitude can help change a negative situation. Like the example I used of fighting with your loved one. When your loved one is negative, your being positive can have that positive kind of influence on them. Who wants to fight with someone
who won’t fight back?
Now, I never said that having a positive attitude in the face of a negative situation would be easy.
It isn’t. But it sure gets you further, and with a whole lot less stress. And, hopefully, eventually, it will turn things around for you. Hopefully, given time, your loved one will change. Hopefully, they will begin to be more like you. And hopefully, you will begin to experience more positive situations than negative ones. And, like I said, a lot less stress as a by-product as well.
Positive people just seem to be healthier, too. Probably because they have less stress, they are physically healthier.
Well, I have to go!
Your Friend,
Dave
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THAT REMINDS ME OF A MOTHER AND SON SHOW!!!!!!!
AT FIRST THE MOTHER FOLLOWED THE SON (AND SAW THE BEST WAY TO SHOW SELF LOVE) WAS BEING HERSELF
NOW THE SON IS FOLLOWING THE MOTHER (HE OBSERVES SHE’S A MUCH BETTER AND HAPPIER PERSON) THE SON NEVER KNEW THAT IT WAS HIS IMPACT THAT CHANGED HER LIFE SO MUCH…
why worry about things are somethings are just a bit “too obvious” – YESTERDAY IS GONE, TOMORROW IS NOT YET ALL YOU HAVE IS THE PRESENT – THIS IS THE GIFT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Your letters have made differences, I am a reader.I feel one can never have to much knowledge on subject of by polar desease..fact is Jennifer smith,age 33 has by polar, disorder.her phone # is 337- . Call her from time to time, identify yourself to her as Dr.north or associates, she needs to know that help is out there’she is on new meds now and doing much better.no longer as per her phyciatrist is she on Lithium. Now she is loosing weight,and is more active in her daily life.but she does need help in coping with situations which to her are stressful..and needs to know she must stay on meds.last time it took nearly 1 1/2 to 2 months.for her to get back to a more normal state of mind after she had stopped meds.she as you know is very lucky..but she does need other qualified people whom she can talk to..thank you!!
My husband can be negative at times but I’ve prayed the rosary and now he is praying it too. So fighting with negative with possitive can be helpful. We don’t fight that much anymore. And he is more supportive than before.