Hi,
I must say I am dead tired today. I was at a meeting
really late last night. Anyway, today I want to
tell you something really, really important
about bipolar disorder.
I called someone yesterday who had ordered
one of my courses. He had filled out
my f.ree consultation form for NON
medical and NON legal questions (because
I am not a doctor, lawyer, therapist,
insurance agent, etc).
I couldn’t read what he wrote he had
hand writing me :). I called him
to ask what he wrote so I could
take some notes and then I could
follow up with him later on after I thought
about his NON medical or NON legal question
Note-I keep writing this so you are clear
that I don’t offer this kind of advice.
Anyway, he told me and basically he said
he went through my materials from a to z
and was starting to implement what I
recommended BUT he said he didn’t know what
to do.
I was thinking, “This is great, I love
when people do well.” I asked him
what the problem was. He said that all
of his friends and many family members
said that he should divorce his
wife immediately because of all of what
she did.
I listened carefully. I asked him to
quickly explain what she had done and
give me a brief summary. She basically
has been totally out of control and cost
him a ton of money. Made him look like
a fool. Possibly cheated on him, etc.
She did many things that my mom did
in my story at
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11
So lots of bad things. I asked how long
they had been married he said not that
long. For some reason he didn’t want to
tell me the exact time so I didn’t press it.
I then asked when was she diagnosed and he
said like a week ago. I asked how long she
knew she had bipolar disorder. He said she
still really doesn’t know. He just found
out a week ago.
Then I remained silent and he said, and
I must laugh at the following because it’s
kind of funny, he said and I quote, “I
know you are not a doctor, lawyer, accountant,
tax person and all that stuff but I want
to know what you would do and I know that
you can’t give out legal, medical, tax,
and advice like that.” He laughed because
he said he follows my emails every day
and he thinks it’s funny how my list
of what I am not gets longer.
I told him I was going to add this week
that I am not a dentist, and chiropractor
either.
As a side note, when you are dealing with
supporting someone with bipolar disorder
you have to laugh some times and not
be so serious. I learned the humor
technique from my friend Stacy. Just
realize that you can laugh and don’t
have to be so serious.
Anyway, after we talked about all the
things that I am not, I said to him
that basically I would never leave someone
with bipolar disorder that just found out
and has no time to even comprehend what
they have.
Since I am “not running for office” so to
speak, I pointed out his friends were giving
bad advice in my opinion.
I then went on to tell him how much bad advice
I got from many of my friends about my mom.
All my friends basically told me to let
my mom go homeless.
The guy said that he felt that what I was
saying was right but he just needed some
confirmation from someone and that he
was excited to help his wife. He felt
that the material in my bipolar supporter
course would help him find a great
doctor and get his wife back on track.
We hung up and then I had to go eat
my burnt lunch that I made myself.
I wish someone would make a how to
cook if you have no idea how to cook
course which I would buy right away.
BIG BIPOLAR DISORDER WARNING!!!
Beware of friends advice. Many friends
love to give advice when it comes to
bipolar disorder and they have no clue.
I am not sure why this is. I find
that many friends look for quick
solutions to bipolar disorder. The quickest
solution is to not to deal with the person
ever
You have to be careful who you are getting
your advice from. Be careful of friends.
Many times friends are sincere but sincerely
wrong. They just don’t know. They don’t
want you to suffer as a supporter of
someone with bipolar disorder so they
look for a quick fix. The quick fix
is to walk away from the person.
I have also heard many other stories
of people getting advice from friends
that is really disturbing. Too disturbing
to write about.
One of the things that I did when I put
together my courses/system was to find
people who really have bipolar disorder
and are successful OR people who really
do support people with bipolar disorder
well. I wanted to hear about real strategies
and techniques not theory.
Just be careful. Even if you hear something
from me. Think about it. Talk to people
about it. See if it make sense. Always
think about what you hear. Don’t just
run with what any old person says.
Well that’s what I have to say today.
I have to take off. Have a great day.
SUPPORTING AN ADULT?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11
SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com
HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net
Your Friend,
Dave
P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/
P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com
thanks for this advice, it made me feel more hopeful – I am in love with someone with bipolar disorder, and I am coping with it by learning all I can about it. I feel reasonably confident that we could have a good future together, we communicate really well and both care about each other. Because I have been through a divorce, I am afraid that my friends will think that I should walk away before it is too late when I tell them about the BPD, and that I’m heading for an unhappy future. They have seen me so upset by my marriage breakdown that they are trying to protect me from possible hurt. My new partner is afraid that I will be hurt too. Is this inevitable? Am I being naive? I don’t want to walk away and he makes me feel good.
I was wondering why there is ALWAYS a period between the f and r in the word free? its f.ree.
Just a question that has been bugging me.
Thata man Keep doing what your are doing .Laura
Thank you for sharing your knowledge with me. My daughter was bipolar. I lost her a year ago but before that I was just going crazy with the moods and concerns for her. Wish I would have found your information sooner. Once again, thank you.
I can’t beieve people today looking for reasons to get divorced. If the partner was just dx then they weren’t knowing thier condition and had no buffers in place. when you know you have a problem or disorder you can act accordinly for the most part doing what you can to compansate but when you don;t know you can harldy be held accountalbe for you actions.
I find this happens alot the carers having unrealistic goal or expectations.
or that fact that people just want an excuse to be free of ill people friend foe r other wise
Dave,
My daughter is bipolar. She is 36 yrs. old and has four children ages, 14, 11, 8 & 5. The children have lived and been in our primary placement custody since Nov. 2005. Our daughter can no longer live with us because she chooses to leave at will and run the streets at night on foot, I might add, because she wrecked her “our” car. She stays awake all night or into the wee hours of the morning every night. My husband who is 64 yrs. old works three jobs to support all of us. One of his jobs requires after hour responsibilities as he is a pastor, he never gets a full nights sleep. Our daughter over the last four or five months has become increasing violent, abussive, both verbally and physical. She comes in our home and is beligerent, argumentative, obnoxious, disrespectful, profane & demanding. She wants money, cigarettes, rides something to eat and anything else that she fills entitled to. She has been in and out of jail, treatment centers, hospitals, mental health clinics and psychiatric hospitals. After her visits her daughter the 5 yr. old has “melt downs” is disrespectful and she does not sleep well at night and I find her in her bed in the morning holding an 8×10 picture of her mom & dad and picture albums open. She prays every night that her mom will get well and come home. The older children are boys and seem to care less if their mom is her are gone. They won’t talk to her on the phone if she calls and does not won’t to see her when she comes. She came to my house yestereday morning demanding, pushing & shoving, cussing and totally elevated to a manic state. I asked her to leave and told her I was putting her on trespass notice. I feel at this time that it is in the best interest of her children’s emotional and psychological well being to limit her visits with them. I can tell by your post this morning that you would not agree with this form of treatment. At this point in our lives we are just striving for SANITY & SURVIVAL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
PS: my daughter just informed us she is pregnant again (not her husbands!)
I have been doing alot of research & am pretty sure I am bipolar. I also have a teenage daughter diagnosed with it. I began looking at myself because of a comment the judge made at a child custody hearing. He said it bipolar was heriditary & wanted to know if either my ex or myself had ever been diagnosed. My ex is in denial of my daughter being bipolar even though she has been to 2 psychiatrists!!! He is unsupportive & has done a number of things to undermine my daughter’s mental health since our divorce even to refusing to get her the medication she needs. I left my ex for excessive drinking & abusive behavior & have been thru hell with my daughter the past 3 years. Anyway, over 32 years of marriage I knew something was wrong & continually begged my ex for help, help with the finances, understanding of me & what I needed, & support in the way of counseling (none of which I ever received either in support or even acknowledgement). Needless to say I am incredibly angry with him & what he’s done. My daughter is 16 1/2 & has chosen to live with him because I implemented “tough love” at my house & because she doesn’t have to be accountable for or make restitution for damages I have incurred recently because of her actions. At this point I am pretty sure my daughter is no longer seeing a psychiatrist nor is she taking any medication & I am scared shitless for her. What you said in your e-mail today was like a lightening bolt hitting me. Over the years the ridicule I’ve taken from so called friends & my so called loving & supportive ex has been bad. I am realizing that people living with bipolar disorder get shoved into a bubble where they feel isolated & judged by the so called caring & empathetic people of this world. I am going thru a really bad time right now as I have been taking Zoloft for the past 10 years & am getting off it as it isn’t helping. I am now looking for a good psychiatrist for help & guidance. Do you happen to know of anyone good in Pensacola, Florida? I’ve had experiences with Dr. Cruz & Dr. Benton, both of which have been totally inept at helping my daughter???? I could certainly use your guidance here!!!
Dave,
My daughter is 36 yrs. old and has bi-polar. She has four children, 14, 11, 8 & 5. They have lived with us since Nov. 2005. We have primary placement custody along with the children’s dad. Our daughter and her husband have been married 16 and a half yrs. and are presently separated. Our daughter lived with us from May 2006 till about a month ago. She chose to leave rather than not be allowed to walk the streets at all hours of the night and stay awake and disturb the household all night. My husband is 64 yrs. old and works 3 jobs to support all of us. He is a pastor and has after hours responsibilities. He never gets a full nights sleep whether our daughter is here in our house or not. She calls at all hours of the day and night, pulls up in front of our house in a cab for cab fare. She demands money for cigarettes, for food, wants rides to this or that place. She has been in and out of jail over the past two years. She has been in treatment centers, mental health clinics, hospitals & psychiatric hospitals. She does not take her medication and mixes it with drugs & alcohol. I constantly find her 5 yr. old daughter in her bed holding her mom & dads 8×10 pictue and looking at photo albums. She does not sleep well at night and has what i refer to as “meltdowns” after she talks to her mom on the phone or after her mom visits. The 3 boys could seemingly care less if she comes or goes. They won’t talk to her on the phone and have very little to do with her when she is here. Yesterday she came to our house at 8:30am demanding, abusive, violent & profane. I told her to leave she would not and I put her on trespass notice. I feel it is in the best interest of her dad & I are her children to have to put up with this behavior on a daily basis. I can tell from your post that this is not your form of treatment. We are just trying to keep our stressful lives in SURVIVAL mode!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
PS: she also informed me yesterday that she is pregnant (not her husbands). So pardon me if I don’t have your same opinion.
Cooking is an art as well as a science. that means that you have to look at the food and make judgements, not just incinerate at 350 for 3 mins and not one second more or less.Would love to write what you mentioned. I taught my brother and my dad how to cook over the phone. Good luck.
It’s so nice to know that there is other families out here dealing and living with a Bipolar. I have a 15 year old that is not only Bipolar but several other things going on. Two hospital stays at two different hospitals in one month this pass year..we are just coping with getting threw the end of the school year right now, we try to take things a day at a time when we can. would like to see how to handle the stress of high school on a Bipolar teenager
Hi Dave:
I thought your email today was great, thanks for that. I’m also in a relationship someone who has recently been diagnosed with BD II. I think that I’m going into it with a fairly clear idea of what I’m in for, thanks to research I’ve done, including your website and mailings.
As to cooking food when you don’t cook: you weight train, don’t you? Can you have pasta on your training diet? It’s the easiest thing in the world to cook, and there’s basically only three or four components to worry about. Meat, vegetables, sauce, pasta. You can leave out the meat or the veggies, depending on what you want to eat that meal.
Boil a pot of water.
While you’re waiting for it to boil, take another pot and put a tablespoon of olive or other oil in it, and place it over medium heat. (If you like onions, add some chopped onion at this point and stir it until it’s somewhat translucent.) Dump your choice and amount of meat into the pot and let it cook, stirring it about fairly often so it doesn’t burn. (I like shrimp, which I buy frozen in bags and keep in the freezer, or strips of lamb, etc.) At this point, you can add some chopped garlic, if you like and if you didn’t use onions.
Then dump in a serving of frozen vegetables, also bagged and kept in the freezer. Stir that until it’s not frozen anymore, but don’t worry about it being fully cooked yet.
Open up a bottle of spaghetti sauce, your choice of flavor (they come in lots). Dump in about a quarter cup of sauce. Stir it all up. Lower the heat and put a lid on the pot and let it simmer a bit.
Sometime in here, the water will boil. Dump a serving of pasta into the water. If you choose a wheat pasta or a shape of pasta that’s thick, it’ll take longer to cook than, say, spaghetti.
When the pasta is cooked the way you like it, drain the pasta in a colander, dump it into your bowl, then dump the sauce over the top.
You can sprinkle a bit of grated romano or parmesan cheese over the top. (Look in the deli section of the grocery store for little plastic tubs of pre-grated romano.)
This can be as elegant or as home-cooked as you like. You can make it vegetarian by not putting in meat. You can make it company-ready by choosing something like shrimp and asparagus with no sauce, just toss the whole thing together with some olive oil, grated romano, and balsamic vinegar right before you serve it.
Bon appetit. 🙂
P.S. Cindy: it’s “f.ree” so the emails don’t get caught so easily by spam filters, I’m fairly sure.
My husband and I will have been married 25 years next year. Yesterday, I was ready to leave him because he tolf me to “– —- ——–” because I asked him to turn off the lights in an area he had just left. Becuase of his high bi-polar spending and low earnings, we have to watch that we don’t waste anything. After that insult, he proceeded to go outside and speak courteously and cheerfully to the neighbors. I needed your reminder today about not giving up on the person we are supporting. I need EVERYTHING you say! Thanks for continually sharing with all of us. I hope you get somebody to cook for you who loves you as much as most of us supporters do. XO, CT
In this day and age everyone seems to expect that all should be instant – and healing is just taking a pill to get over it. Bp teaches you that that is not the case, and that maybe the Victorians who went to the seaside or to a warmer climate to convalesce were on to something.
I heard an interesting comment from a colleague when I tried to explain my ditziness since changing meds – “You are better at 50% than most people are at %100.” I think that can be true of us bps, too. We will have our weaknesses, but at least we know what they are – and we are often creative and amusing. Definitely not the boring types – so there is something to be said for us when we are functioning well.
But another note- if a young husband is ready to bail that soon and that easily, it sounds bad for the future, and indicates a great immaturity and other serious failings. It would be almost better to let him go, rather then just have to go thru inevitable problems later. It’s not an impressive performance so early in the game!
Maureen, i suppose it boils down to this: it’s your life, and your choice of who to be with. My fiance is bipolar and many people told me to leave him when he got sick, but I don’t want to leave him. He makes me happy. Life will always provide hurts and setbacks. Educate yourself so that you know how to help him if he gets sick. One thing my fiance said to me while in a manic episode was, “I wanted you to make sure you could handle this.” He sounded totally normal when he said it. The hardest part of it was not having a care plan in place. There is one now.
That you love him is key. 🙂
Maureen, i suppose it boils down to this: it’s your life, and your choice of who to be with. My fiance is bipolar and many people told me to leave him when he got sick, but I don’t want to leave him. He makes me happy. Life will always provide hurts and setbacks. Educate yourself so that you know how to help him if he gets sick. One thing my fiance said to me while in a manic episode was, “I wanted you to make sure you could handle this.” He sounded totally normal when he said it. The hardest part of it was not having a care plan in place. There is one now.
That you love him is key. 🙂
i have been bipolar most of my life, i’m diabled and one of my 3 children is disabled as well. i’m on ssi. do you actually expect me to buy your overpriced course. you are nothing but a crook taking advantage of the mentally disabled.
David,
I had to make a comment…AWESOME email today! The last thing to do to anyone who is suffering, hurting, etc. is to walk away…Yes, I agree that a person should not listen to just anyone when it comes to advice on something as delicate as this issue but nor should they give up…look at this as a test in life and see how good you can and will do…oh, and all that a person can learn!! Dealing and supporting bipolar issues will definitely show you how strong a love can be!!!
This is true of anyone who finds themselves dealing with mental illness or other disability. I have two children with psychiatric disabilities (due to fetal alcohol exposure — they are adopted) and I grit my teeth when people tell me I am an angel or some such. I do what I have to do, as best as I can. I am not going to dump my kids because they are inconvenient, or exhausting, or break my heart. I have had to put each of them in residential teatment at times, and probably will again, but for their sake, not mine. I live with locks on everything and safety plans and a limited social life because that is just the way it is. The alternative is unacceptable.
hi Dave, well youre e/mailwas good, but im bipolar.
Im not that wild… but ima fraid when i got to the “seek and destroy mood”, my friends deal with it, and had suported me. Trying to make me no make things than i could reget latter. And had helped slot when im totally depresed. But you have any advise for me how to deal with it? im getting more and more afraid when im in my “seek and destroy” mood, i geet too agreesive, i get too far, not unpolite but very mean and agresive, any advise?
take care,
Adam
I have been married to someone with bipolar for 15 years. He has only been diagnosed for about 18 months but I knew he had the disease for years before hand. He has abused myself and the children verbally and physically for years and has cheated on me. I always said I would support him if he just got the help he so obviously needed. He only agreed to see a psychiatrist after child welfare were called in when his oldest son, only 12, told a counsellor at school of his erratic behaviour. I went with him to the doctor and agreed to help him if he got the necessary help. The doctor recognised that he would be reluctant to be medicated so started him on the minimal treatment of trying to get him to sleep well and so prevent triggering his mania (which is by far his predominant symptom, very rarely depressive). That didn’t work but he refuses to try any preventative medication as he doesn’t want to put on weight and enjoys his mania. He thinks he is only getting into trouble for being happy. Our ten year old boy is also diagnosed and is trying so hard to find an answer and is on his third trial of medication to get the right fit but so wants to be able to function normally. If only his father was as pro-active. I once loved this man with all my heart but the years of abuse eroded that and, even though now he is not as abusive, he still torments relentlessly and is erratic and unpredictable with his children. I no longer love him. If he was actually trying to help himself and us I would have stuck by him and tried to rekindle some feeling but we can no longer live like this. I carry enough guilt around but can now only try and support my children, especially my troubled precious boy, through this. I shall always be there for him as a friend but can no longer be married to him.
I agree Dave…But gee a big cross to bear. You cant help!! you can only go along with the rollercoaster ride if you want to…wish i had an excuse to put on everyone else! U may say but that is part of the condition..but hey when guided to see insight and determined (at the time) to kick this thing or at least get a handle on it./and yes u guessed it “they” dont…poor thing!! Its ok we will keep bouncing back because “they” cant help it.Seems to me that these individuals need individuals like “us” to keep them……who is the sick one here. Dont give up? no its to consuming…once you have become “involved” with a person with this dis..ease You ARE! Thank you It amazes me with all your reporting..that this seems to be the norm!! I think we shouild also support the ones that want to RUN!!!!!!!cos thats not easy either x
WOW, Thanks loads for todays e-mail. The old indian proverb applies double time to dealing with bipolar. You never know what another person is going through, even if you are dealing with the same problems. My son has bipolar disorder and A D D. I have been dealing with this for his entire 28 years. Just as the others are saying, everyone has their opinion of how his step father and I should “handle” him. Everything from “kick him out” to “cut him off” (financially) to “I wouldn’t allow …..”. The problem is, you wouldn’t throw a dog out in the street. (or at least we wouldn’t) Anyone with any compassion at all cant turn their back on someone who needs help. I suppose that is why I became a nurse, because I am compassionate. Sometimes, my heart hurts for him so much that I think I just can’t stand it anymore. Sometimes, I have even thought that it would be easier to bury him than to have to keep seeing him hurt so much. I know that the REAL him wants to please and then the bipolar victim in him bursts out in profanity and anger. I have to constantly remind myself that it is a disease. If he were diabetic or even alcoholic you would hate the disease and help the person. The same thing goes for a person who is bipolar. Everyday is a new chance.
I guess I am probably not making much sense. But the short of it is, we experienced another episode a little over a week ago. Thank the good Lord above, this time my son was able to realize it was building up and stopped before it got to blind rage. If you have never seen “blind rage” that is what happens. You can tell by looking at his eyes that he is not there. He has no idea what he is doing or saying.
Since he has been on this most recent medication, each episode has been a little milder each time.
I Praise God that we havent given up on him before now.
My question now is exactly what is the difference in bipolar disorder and borderline personality disorder. Eventhough I am a nurse, I am having a very difficult time with these definitions. Believe it or not, I had to diagnose my son myself and handed the research to his psychiatrist and ask that she look it over and tell me if I was on the right track.
I would appreciate any help I can get. I purchase your bipolar supporter master package. I read your e-mails all the time, but I get behind because of trying to work full time, take care of family, husband travels out of state and occaisionally out of country, etc… of course you make time for what is important.
Thanks for all you do. I can appreciate how much time goes into all your hard work.
OK I am now on my year three of knowing my husband has bipolar but it is like year 10 that he has battled depression. To anyone who thinks that their loved bipolar makes them feel good. Well that’s great they probably like you. BUT here’s the catch, will they think of you when they are feeling bad! Probably not. That is what I face. Since my husband has been on medicine four times and now he has taken himself off for the fourth time and thinks that God will heal him. I am not in a position to support him. ANd that is something everyone has to think about. If you are the main financial support of a couple then maybe you would have more say. That is my goal to be more independent of him so that when the next episode happens, I am able to keep making the house payments, the utilities on, and food on the table. Each episode costs money. Either he has spent money and we lose that way, he has ran up credit so that now the financial charges are ridiculous or like the last time he actually stole money so that had to returned and he has to pay fines to avoid legal charges. SO if you are thinking about sharing a life with a BP you had better be able to take care of yourself.
I am trying to find lawyers who speicalize in dealing with families with mental illness. If I ever file for divorce he is not going to take it well and probably will have an episode so I can’t expect child support or even alimoney. I am just hoping that I don’t have to take care of him.
That is the current issue. I no longer want to be fiscally responsible for him. I really am not right now. He doesn’t listen to me. I work and pay for things for the kids. If I didn;t work they would not have those things. I don’t make enough to s pay the bills so until I am able to pay the bills and pay for what the kids need well I am stuck unless he goes out of control.
Ok for all those out there who may be able to say I have done that and survived and the bipolar has too.
I am doing this as logicaly as I can because now that I have had children with him, my children or grand children may have it so I better get good at dealing with it
I thought I was a supporter but not really , I do the laundry, food shopping and other things that keep him going to work but I no longer support his decision to refuse treatment.
To have a conversation with those who suffer from any form of mental illness is a very good thing, however one must remember that each person is different in the illness as well as the recovery with medications. I find it very difficult to believe that David sells information that he should be providing and sharing for free. I for one suffer from bipolar disorder as well as my son. We have had very good luck with our doctors and our efforts in healing. I currently work as a counselor for the mentally ill and their families. I can tell you that to charge for advise is in no way helping these people and families. I would love to be taken off David Oliver’s list of people he emails as his stuff is just that stuff he sells.
Go look at one of the emails. Scroll all the way down to the bottom. There, see the sentence that says to unsubscribe or change your subscriber options to click there? Click there. Hey presto.
So, how do you make your actual living, if you counsel people for free? Just curious. 🙂
KATMAMA,
Does it matter if he is bipolar or borderline personality disorder?
ANd you may want to consider other reasons for that blind rage.
Not that I think your son has tumors but what if it is
The hatfield McCOy feud may be have continued because of an illness.
http://www.ninds.nih.gov/disorders/von_hippel_lindau/von_hippel_lindau.htm
You might have to google on the von hipple lindau disorder or the Hatfield McCoy illness.
I think it doesn’t matter. If the affected does not participate in the healing then they want to stay sick. Do I have to grow old with this sickness? I don’t think so.
SO I am beginning to come to believe that only sons daughters or parents can really support a BD.
I am getting exhausted as a wife.
I want to start off by saying thank you for all of the great advice you give, it has been really helpful in certain areas of my life.
The more i learn about bipolar disorder the more I feel that I am in control of it then it being in control of me till something throws me into one of my episodes and its like I,m living under that dark cloud again. and its especially hard on my family because instead of them seeing it as side effects of the disorder that come and go, they see it as something I’m personally putting them through. Although in their hearts they know its the bipolar they just dont seem to grasp how normal i can be on new meds then all of a sudden flip out with no warning………they never come out and say I am but it is strongly implied that I am a big burden to them and the household.
Could someone please give me some advice on what might help my situaton…and why I feel so guilty for even living sometimes.
the guilt and the insecurity of having bipolar is what keeps me under a black cloud even when I’m having good days….or even better months and controling some of the triggers that set episodes off..I know that bipolar is this emaginary figure that sit on my shoulder saying to me ” ALL I HAVE TO DO IS SNAP ONE FINGER AND FLIP YOUR LIFE UPSIDE DOWN AND INSIDE OUT”!
If anyone whose reading this can give me some advice on anything I would really apreciate it.
MY E-MAIL IS connye_am_i@yahoo.com
have tried to call the number to subscribe and your numbers are unavailable?? Would like to talk to someone sometime can you suggest who?There is a 13.5hr time difference.
I support my partner. IT was the toughest 1st year now we know whats wrong I am able to cope better, we are now in year 3 and we are more loved up than when we first met. I found the right supporter makes Bipolar less dramatic as the wrong partner triggers them too easily causing a bad relationship. BE nice but Firm about decisions and if they need to let off steam blow up a bubble round your self from getting emotionally hurt and let them vent that stress. I notice if you don’t pay attention when theyre talkative they tend to cause a reason so that you will listen to them before you allow them to get to that stage!!
HI my name is Angie and also in love with someone with bi-polar. I have been reading everything I can get my hands on. This seems to be the best place to be. My friends say I feel sorry for him and that is why I stay. We love each other, and he tells me that I do things for him that others never did. I’m the kind of person that always sees the good in people. I hope I’m not making a mistake. I have been married before and dont want to walk away from something good.