Hi,
I just heard from my mom with very good news. My mom’s
doctor is very happy with my mom’s progress and now
she wants to see her in 2 months which will be the longest
period my mom has gone without seeing her.
BUT, we are still going to be vigilant. That means
she will keep doing what she has done to get the
results she has gotten.
Many people make a big mistake. Once their loved one
is doing well, they feel they can forget about everything
that got them to the position of doing well.
I wanted to send this “good news” message this morning
because if you have read my story about my mom here at:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11
You know that things were really, really bad. There didn’t
look like there was much hope. Many people doubted
my mom could get better. I can honestly say that
I never doubled it. It’s funny my bother said
there was no way that things would get better.
I remember one time trying to figure out how to protect
my mom’s c.r.e.d.i.t when she was in the hospital. I
told my brother one day when my aunt three wayed us
together.
My brother said, “Don’t waste your time. Even if you
fix it, she’ll ruin it again. Just have her declare
bankruptcy.”
I found that very cold.
Although I am known for information on bipolar disorder,
I am equally most product of my course on handling
d.e.b.t. which you can see here:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/debtletter/
When it came to whether or not my mom would do well,
most people were burned out over all the years of
episodes.
My dad never made any comments. I think my aunt
was highly skeptical but she was really supportive.
Most of my mom’s friends wrote her off.
But, now she is doing great.
Now:
-Admits she has the disorder
-D.e.b.t is under control
-She will be out of d-e-b-t in 6 months. She will have paid off
about $30,000 of d.e.b.t herself with my system. BUT it was her
effort. She get’s the c.r.e.d.i.t not me.
-Great doctor
-3 Backup doctors
-Great therapist
-2 Backup therapists
-Medication working (is modified to this day, or tweaked)
-Detailed plan if she gets sick again
-Full cooperation
-Working for 2 years
-Getting along with people
-She will have saving and a surplus in the 4th quarter of this
year and start building a retirement fund. I am currently finishing up
my system for that. I have spent 6 months working on a system to
build a retirement fund fast, if you don’t have a lot of time and aren’t making a lot of money.
-She is taking computer classes and knows them fairly well. Prior to her episode she had virtually no knowledge of how to use computers.
Everything is going very well. So there is hope. No matter
what your situation. If we can do it, you can. Things
can get better.
When I speak to people on the phone, some take action and
know things can get better. Others try VERY hard to sell me
how there is no hope for them. They really want me to agree
and kind of get mad when I refuse to.
They say they had it worse than I did so that’s the reason
they can’t be successful helping a loved one with bipolar disorder.
I totally disagree with them.
The key is knowledge and a plan. That makes all the difference.
You don’t have to get my course you can
-Get all the books, manuals, guides, seminars on tape you can
-Start interviewing people
-Contact good doctors in your area, pay them for time to ask questions
-Contact good therapists in your area, pay them for time to ask questions
-Same with social workers
-Check with psychiatric hospital workers
-Also, learn from those who are high functioning with the disorder.
There is information out their for you. This what I did, and you can
do it too.
We are regular people. Over the last two years,
I have seen so many people that had everything going
against them, turn things around with a plan and strategy. It
can get better. Hang in there.
On a side note, I finally found someone who is going to teach
me how to setup the podcasting stuff. So you will be able to
hear me over the internet for free. It’s kind of like radio
but on the internet.
Well I have to run. See you tomorrow.
Your Friend,
David
Good news about your Mom,it has given me hope.
Truly, you bring honor to your mother. Your mother has worked so hard, and you have proved to be a blessing for her. You are a man who has touched many lives and is truly a “giver” and I am sure that you have found TRUE richness in your life. I am honored to be getting to know you.
Sharon
God bless your mother and God bless you, David.
i was diagnosed in 1991 with bi-polar. i was not ever really well until about 2 years ago. I see the difference in my family life and the way everyone around me feels more self confident around me. I guess it’s because I am becoming predictable. Anyway, I know what you’ve gone through as the child of someone who is bi-polar and I’m so happy for your mother’s success.
Hi, My name is Renee and I was just diagnosed with Bipolar type 2. My husband sounds a lot like your brother. He wants a divorce and says there is no hope for me. I have 4 kids and I refuse to believe there isn’t any hope. I wanted to say thank you your emails give me hope. I am trying to save enough for your course but it is very hard, I have placed our family in so much debt that it is scary. Any way I am happy for your mother and I know one day I’ll be able to say the same about myself.
hi i am trying to figure out if i have bp, my dad
was diagnosed when he was my age- and lithiumj worked really well- it took a while to get a diagnosis.
I suppose i’ve been battlling a LONG time
and some alterative things have worked
lately i just got so stuck and go around in circles.
My life has fallen apart- I abruptly left my boyfriend then realized what i’d done then friend by friend talked abou tall my problems and when the tried to help, or went out of their way , i just
kept up the negative behavior.
I haven’t been ablet o work for over a year and havnt’ had a steady job since i graduated college.
I’ve done different projects here and there but mainly have survived on very little and been supported by my boyfriend and parents.
I’m also a genius and apparently have some creative abilities.
I feel so trapped and frustrated.
I saw what meds did to my dad- made him a zombie
and always afraid ofbreaking down again
no one really knows why it works so they don’t dare stop…
I suppose I’d like to have a life like i see my friends have- multi talented- traveling and getting paid to do what they lvoe.
Maybe in’m being unrealistic.
I don’t konw..
I have symptoms of adhd,ocd, maybe bp, depresion, anxiety and eating disorder.
That gets in the way of me doing small practical things
although I have donethem in the past , just lately
everythign seems overwheliming..
I know talking about the past does’t help but I keep reviewing all the little times i thought i could have made a better choice– about styaing with my family to get stable, eating correctly, not leaving the boyfriend, movingon, not living alone
taking any little job or developing any one of the numerous projects i started-
It feels like a waste. I was also dancing and doing yoga- and have done nothing for about 2 months-
I’m confused…..
everything i look at says somethign different
and i dont’ know who to trust.
WOW, Dave!
So glad to ‘hear’ the great news about your mom. I,too, hope to be there someday!
I am still lost in the ‘red tape’ and trying to find a psychiatrists that won’t ‘fire’ me for missing appointments or changing them last minute (a problem I have had for years) Time Mangement !!! I have none!!
I am a single mother of four (divorced 2 years ago when diagnosed) one child is an adult who also shows signs but has NO treatment, neither do I , except Wellbutrin.
Again, Congratulations!!
Michele
Wow that is so great! Your mom is so lucky to have such a supportive son. I hope she knows that. I’m all alone trying to figure this out. It’s hard enough reaching out for help only to find none. I have nobody to help me get the help either. I feel so doomed. This is the time I slip into the dark abyss of nothingness. I wish it were all over.
Sorry so gloomy. I’m so very happy for you and your mother. At least it gives me a glimmer of hope. You are a very special person. I’m sure good karma will come your way and hopefully soon.
When I read about your mom’s success story it gives me hope. I just wish my bipolar woman could change for more than a couple of months. Her rages are intense and frightening. I don’t know what to do any more. Now she won’t talk to me, and she has created a very bad situation for me that she could fix if she could stop hating me. I wish she would randomly come across some food or substance that would suddenly end this hateful phase and make her remember all the good times we’ve had together. Please, anyone reading this, if you believe in prayer, pray for me. Pray that she will end this awful phase and be normal again, and that she will help me sort this out. Pray that somehow I can get her into therapy and get her on meds soon. Otherwise I don’t think she will ever consistently be the woman I took vows with, lived with, and co-parented with. I’m in a very dark place right now.
God bless you all. My prayers will be with you.
How was it 4 ur mother when she was growing up as many parents want their children to be ‘normal’ i heard that my whole life and i tried so hard but could do nothing right as when i was too happy i was called crazy when i was down i was told i took after my crazy father and paternal granny. So one feels different but try so hard to be normal and yes i excelled at school. But i cant let anyone close enough because i dont want to hear the words crazy said in different ways.
Since i started reading ur newsletter after i signed up the last week i am feeling a bit ok. The bit is because i think i am starting to understand me and its like a new territory;curious and also a bit scared.
I was on and off medication for 8yrs and from 2005 i took it regulalry until february 2007 when i suddenly stopped. But i see now that i was feeling so good i thought the world loved me–no actually i thought i am the brightest kid and wanted no one to question me. So i dont understand when people say i am weird or they dont talk to me.
But after last week spending it reading thru so much stuff that made sense because ‘it sort of understood me’ i settled into the depression that i had been running from and agreed with doctor to book me a bed at hospital. So wednesday i am going in its good but also not good because i fear the stigma which has not left me from last time i was in(remember this is south africa and even pms is seen as bonkers)
Thanks for ur view on ur moms’ health and now thru her illness u are helping others to actually survive step by step each day. They have helped me alot as i have stopped crusing along to the moods and its like a taking charge of of myself and being empowered.That is why i agreed to go to the hospital although it was a week late. So from tomorrow i will be at hospital. They better have internet or i am going to find my inbox full of daves’ mail.
Prudie
Hi, Dave, don’t you just love those people who have things worse than anybody else in the entire history of the world? That’s why I don’t go to bipolar support groups. I went one time and tried to talk about some things I’d found that had worked for me. (I’m high-functioning BP II.) Well, all I heard was an overwhelming chorus of “Woe is me, you obviously don’t have it as bad as I do, I’ve been on fifteen different medications at the same time and I was a zombie, etc. etc.” There are some people who just don’t want to understand that their situation is fixable if they’ll take some initiative. That’s why I like this blog–you’re talking about things that actually work, not bad-mouthing everybody who’s ever had successful treatment because “obviously they don’t have it as bad as me.” These same people are the ones who’ll also tell you they’ve been off all their medication for months trying to “find themselves” (Hello, I’m right here, where else would I be???), are going to try Garamon berry supplements and Windowbright amino acids so they don’t have to be on “chemicals” for the rest of their lives, etc. (Yes, I made up the supplement names, but you understand what I’m getting at here.) I agree with you, let’s talk about what works.
Marae
Wonderful news about your mom! Love the articles. They give me hope and inspiration! Thanks for all of your hard work!
my grandson was recently diagnosed with B.P. and we knew nothing about it. Now, thanks to you and all your articles and books we are learning more and more. So glad your mom is better and you sure are a good son to continue to help her and believe in her. Keep up the good work. God will bless you.
Ginny
your site is terrif – not only does it help my family, but it also helps me to understand what i have been struggling with. you make it easy to see what happens, or has happened to me, without blaming me. so far, i have lost a house(TO Pay off debt)car(bought during an episode), husband (my idea, but paranoid at the time),boyfriend whom i loved (yelled at him every day til he didn’t want to see me anymore)declared bankruptcy, lost jobs, have no retirement, no way to get health insurance, and drained family resources –as well as their patience. Can yuou get this out to people early in their pathes?
great work ! many thanks for your hope!