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But when talking about childbirth itself, the act of it, the pain of it, that’s called the birth process.

Well, there’s something I call:

THE BIPOLAR PROCESS.

And the Bipolar Process is compared to the birth process.

In the Bipolar Process, you grow in your stability like going from a child into an adult.

You go from low functioning to high functioning.

See, learning to manage bipolar disorder is a process.

It won’t happen overnight.

And it will be painful.

Any process that is worth doing can sometimes involve pain.

You know I work out a lot, so in the gyms I’m always hearing the saying, “No pain, no gain.”

Well, in the Bipolar Process, it’s the same thing. There will be pain.

But it’s like the childbirth process.

Whatever pain there is, will be forgotten in the end, when you are left with something beautiful –

When you become that high functioning person with bipolar disorder.

But it is a process…

And no process happens overnight. Even the birth process takes time.

The mother first has to go through the pregnancy, and that takes nine months.

And for some women, it’s easy.

But for other women, it’s not as easy.

For those women, they get sick a lot.

For some, in the end, they are even bed-ridden.

Then a woman has to go through labor, and sometimes that can take a long time.

For some women, they say their labor was easy.

For other women, they say their labor was very, very hard.

For some women, they say the pain was bearable.

For other women, they say it was the worst pain they ever had to go through in their whole lives.

But again, like I said before…

Ask any one of them about the nine months…

Ask any one of them about the labor…

Ask any one of them about the birth and the pain…

And every one of them will tell you it was all worth it.

In other words, the birth process is all worth it in the end.

So what I’m saying is that everything you have to go through in the Bipolar Process…

Everything you have to go through to become stable…

All the pain… the side effects of medication… the doctor visits… etc.

Will all be worth it in the end, when you are something beautiful.

When you are a high-functioning, happy, productive, STABLE person with bipolar disorder.

Bipolar? Do You Agree With This Man?

David Oliver July 13, 2009 Daily Bipolar Disorder Message 16 Comments

Hi,

How are you today?

Yesterday there was a daily email but it was never sent. I have no idea what happen to it. It’s a mystery. It vanished.

Anyway I have to try to figure what happen but in the meantime let’s jump into today’s topic.

I hope you’re feeling fine.

I wanted to share with you a comment I received on my blog the other day:

“There is a difference between a symptom

and a behavior. A symptom is what is

experienced by a person as a result of an

illness. A behavior is an ACTION that

person takes in response to that experience.

Hypersexuality, for example, does not

mean being unfaithful. Hypersexuality is

a symptom. It is the experience of a

suddenly or dramatically increased sex drive.

There are many choices as to what to do

in response to a sudden increase in libido.

The vast majority of those choices are

not harmful to self or others, illegal,

irresponsible, or regrettable.

So I don’t dispute for one minute that in

general, there is a set of symptoms that

is typical for a person with bipolar disorder.

Most of us here agree that bipolar disorder

doesn’t go away. That means if I have

bipolar disorder, I will have symptoms —

EXPERIENCES of the illness for the

rest of my life.

My responsibility to myself is to think

about how I want to conduct myself, what

kind of life I want. Responsibility means

I keep tabs on what I DO. Yep, I know

that typical set of symptoms. What I DON’T

do is ACT just the same as every other

person who has those same symptoms.

And therein lies the difference which some

people tend to disregard when talking

about the whole big bunch of us.

I could feel like doing all manner of

destructive things. I could tell you the reason

why I feel like doing destructive things is

because of symptoms of bipolar disorder.

And I could be right! At the end of the day,

it doesn’t matter what destructive thing I

felt like doing, nor does it matter why.

It matters which CHOICE I made.”

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So, he is basically talking about the difference between a symptom and a behavior.

He’s defining a symptom as what is experienced by a person as a result of an illness.

Then he defines a behavior as an action that the person takes in response to that experience.

He uses the example of hypersexuality (increased sex drive), which is one of the symptoms of bipolar disorder.

So hypersexuality is something that a person in a manic episode might experience, because it’s a symptom.

In his words, “Most of us here agree that bipolar disorder doesn’t go away. That means if I have bipolar disorder, I will have symptoms – EXPERIENCES of the illness for the rest of my life.”

I like the way he put that, because it is realistic.

It’s not realistic to assume that you won’t have symptoms if you have bipolar disorder, because if you have the disorder, no matter how long you’ve been stable, you WILL have symptoms from time to time.

That’s why, like this person who wrote that comment, I take the realistic approach in my

courses/systems. I go over the symptoms of bipolar disorder as well as how you or your loved one will experience them.

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So then he goes into CHOICES.

This has to do with what he said in the beginning of his post:

“A behavior is an ACTION that person takes in response to that experience.”

So you have a symptom, then an experience, then a CHOICE, then an ACTION (behavior).

Now, some people stop there, and make poor choices, or impulsive decisions, which cause

wrong actions.

So what is the key, does he say?

RESPONSIBILITY.

He says, “Responsibility means I keep tabs on what I DO.”

He uses the example of wanting to do destructive things, and he concludes, “At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter what destructive thing I felt like doing, nor does it matter why. It matters which CHOICE I made.”

And that would be great if everyone could do it that way.

Unfortunately, when someone with bipolar disorder is in an episode, their thinking is impaired, and they won’t necessarily be able to make good choices, or exhibit good behavior.

When they are in an episode, your loved one may throw responsibility out the window and be unable to control their impulses as a result of their “symptoms.”

At that point, everything this man said is “out the window,” since the person is “experiencing” a bipolar episode.

At best, though, in my opinion, I agree with what he said.

What about you?

Do you agree or disagree with what this man wrote?

Bipolar? What Do These Things Mean To You?

David Oliver July 11, 2009 Daily Bipolar Disorder Message 14 Comments

Hi,

How do you feel today?

I hope you feel good.

I want to ask you a couple of questions:

How do you feel about the things that you own?

Are they just possessions, things you could easily sell at a yard sale?

Things that you wouldn’t even miss if a robber came in and stole them from you?

Things that you could give away to a charity and not think a thing about it?

Or do they mean something to you?

Something you can’t define?

Oh, not that your possessions own you instead of you owning them, that’s not what I’m saying.

What I’m getting at is that these things probably took you years to obtain, didn’t they?

Some of them are most likely heirlooms, handed down through generations.

Some things you had to save for, took time to get, even had to wait a long time for.

Some things were gifts from other people that you cherish very much.

Some things maybe your children made when they were little and, like the commercial says, are “priceless.”

There are some things you might not miss, but I bet if there were a fire in your home, the majority of things you would miss very much, wouldn’t you? And how do you feel about your house itself?

Is it just a shell? A place to “hang your hat,” so to speak? Just a place to live?

Or is it your HOME? A place that matters very much to you?

How would you feel if you lost it?

What if you had to move somewhere else?

Would you miss your home very much, or would it be easy for you to make the move?

There’s a couple that I know that are facing these very same questions right now.

As are many other people, because of the economy.

Some people are facing foreclosures, and some are even facing bankruptcy, like this couple.

They are facing the loss of their home and their possessions, which took them many years to obtain.

And it’s not their fault, really – it’s not that they’re living a lavish lifestyle or anything; in fact, they live very frugally.

But do you know what they have to say about it?

“This is awful, losing all this. But at least we still have our stability.”

You see, this couple, well, they both have bipolar disorder.

And just like you may have worked so hard for the possessions that you have…

Well, that’s how hard they have worked for the stability that they have.

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In my courses, I talk about the different elements that make up stability.

Just like the gathering of possessions, it doesn’t happen overnight.

And it takes hard work to do these things.

So stability is hard fought and hard won.

So, like this couple I was talking about who are losing their home and possessions, people who have obtained stability are grateful that they have it.

But like I was saying, just because your loved one may be stable, doesn’t mean it was easy to get that way, does it?

If you are living with a stable loved one, be grateful for it.

If not, be encouraged that someday they may be.

Current Bipolar News

David Oliver July 10, 2009 | July 10, 2009 Daily Bipolar Disorder Message 3 Comments

Hi,

How are you?

Here’s the bipolar news. Enjoy.

To read this week’s news visit:

Mental Illness Affects your Job

DO> Good insight for bipolar supporters.

Is There a Lab Test for Bipolar Disorder?

DO> HMM. Very interesting article, take a look.

Consequences of Childhood-Onset Conditions

DO> WOW, great for parents of kids with bipolar.

Stanford to Offer Bipolar Education Day on July 25

DO>Great idea, other places should do it.

Study will Try to Follow Genetic Trail of Bipolar Disorder

DO> This is going to be a great study.

Clocks and Bipolar Disorder

DO> Interesting article, take a look.

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10-Letter Word You Must Be With Bipolar

David Oliver July 9, 2009 Daily Bipolar Disorder Message 5 Comments

Hi,

How’s it going?

I hope you are doing well. I noticed on my blog at www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarsupporterblog

were asking “where’s David.” I really don’t know why. I am right here. What’s the reason people are asking where I am. I am here every day : )

Okay, let’s move to today’s topic.

There’s a lot of things you don’t have to be to get by in this life.

You don’t have to be popular.

You don’t have to be rich.

You don’t have to be beautiful.

You don’t have to be thin.

You don’t have to be powerful.

You don’t have to be famous.

You don’t even have to be president.

But one thing you do have to be is:

PERSISTENT.

People who get anywhere in life ARE persistent.

They set goals, and they achieve them, and that means being persistent.

If you want to get rich, that means being persistent.

You start off small, maybe with a little bit of capital, with your big goal in mind, and every day you’re persistent at your goal, and eventually you reach it, and you become rich.

The main point is, you don’t become rich overnight.

It takes being persistent to reach that goal.

That holds true for those other things I listed as well.

You just can’t reach a goal overnight.

You have to set smaller goals along the way…

And then, by being persistent, you reach that bigger goal.

People who try to reach a goal without persistence usually fall on their faces.

Do you know why?

Because they try to do it too quickly, and don’t take the steps necessary to get there.

For example, the business owner who doesn’t do it the right way, just jumps in there and maybe follows one of those “get rich quick” schemes…

And loses all his money, because he didn’t read the fine print…

Because he thought he could get rich overnight…

Because he didn’t want to pay the price…

Because he didn’t want to set the big goal and take the necessary steps to reach it…

Because he didn’t want to be persistent.

It reminds me of the old fable of the tortoise and the hare.

Do you remember it?

Where they both start off the same…

But the hare thinks he can get off easy by running quickly, then being lazy, because he underestimates the tortoise.

So he stops halfway through, and rests, figuring he can catch up easily later, and finish the race in first place.

Meanwhile, the tortoise, although the slower of the two, keeps going steadily along (with persistence), never stopping, until he reaches the finish line, winning the race.

Thus we have the expression, “Slow and steady wins the race.”

That slow and steady could be renamed “being persistent.”

And that’s what you have to do with bipolar disorder.

See, there’s lots of things you have to do to be persistent with the disorder, that I go over in my courses/systems:

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But if you’re persistent about them…

If you go after them slow and steady…

Setting big goals and persistently meeting the smaller goals along the way…

Then eventually you will reach stability…

Just like that tortoise won his race!

Do you know what I mean?

The Big Bipolar Supporter Mistake Revealed

David Oliver July 8, 2009 Daily Bipolar Disorder Message 21 Comments

Hi,

How are you?

I know how hard it is to be a supporter to a loved one with bipolar disorder, because I am one, and because I attend so many support groups, and because I talk to and hear from so many other supporters too.

But I also know that we make mistakes, because nobody is perfect.

Like Tonya points out, who posted on my blog.

Here’s what she wrote:

“After 5 years of being a Bipolar

Supporter, I have found the

hardest thing is to differentiate

between care giver and supporter

vs. mothering and nurse maid.

Reminding someone who is

bipolar of the things they need

to do each day makes me a nag,

but not reminding them causes

repercussions that affect all our

lives. Where is the line and how

do you keep it?”

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One of the biggest mistakes a supporter of a loved one with bipolar disorder can make is to go from supporter to enabler.

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It’s just like Tonya was asking, “Where do you draw the line?”

She’s talking about the line between caregiver and supporter vs. mothering and nursemaid.

You wouldn’t believe how many times I’ve been asked this very same question.

So if you’ve been wondering it yourself, be assured that you are not alone.

Many supporters struggle with the same problem.

So now that you know what the line is, how do you keep from getting there?

Well, let’s look at Tonya’s situation.

Here’s the first clue:

She says that this has been going on for FIVE years!

She should have done something about this long before now.

You’ve heard me talk before about accepting unacceptable behavior.

That if you do this, your loved one has no reason to stop the behavior, and will keep on doing it.

That’s when you have to become a mother and nursemaid.

I mean, why should they expect any different?

If you keep doing things for them that they can do for themselves, that’s called being an enabler.

But if they get used to you doing that, then they won’t do things for themselves.

They’ll just let you keep doing these things.

Then, before you know it, you’re being like Tonya says in her post:

“Reminding them of things they need to do each day…” and feeling like you’re a nag.

After 5 years, especially, your loved one should be doing many things for themselves.

They shouldn’t need you to be nagging them at all.

So where is the line and how do you keep it?

As a supporter, you need to be the one to draw the line.

You need to tell your loved one what is acceptable behavior and what is unacceptable behavior.

You need to tell them when they are being lazy, what things they need to be doing for themselves, what you will do for them and what you won’t, etc.

Tonya also asked, once you find the line, how do you keep it?

Simple.

You set boundaries (limits), and then you stick to them. Kind of like an “If you…then I…” sort

of thing.

Do you feel like Tonya?

Do you feel more like a mother and nursemaid?

Or do you feel more like a caregiver and supporter?

If you feel more like a caregiver and supporter, what would you say to Tonya to help her out?

Bipolar Disorder? Don’t Do This With Your Life

David Oliver July 7, 2009 Daily Bipolar Disorder Message 8 Comments

Hi,

How’s it going?

I want to warn you today about something important.

It’s something that I see too many supporters do.

They are still making bipolar disorder the main focus of their life.

At first, when your loved one was initially diagnosed and you were learning all you could about bipolar disorder, it was your main focus, and that was ok.

But it still shouldn’t be the main focus of your life now.

The main focus of both of your lives should now be stability, or the management of your loved

one’s bipolar disorder.

You have to understand and realize that bipolar disorder is a lifelong illness and you and your loved one will be dealing with it for the rest of your lives.

Still, it shouldn’t be your main focus.

Even though there is no cure, bipolar disorder can still be treated with medication and therapy.

There are other things you can do to help your loved one to maintain their stability as well.

Things that will keep the focus off their bipolar disorder.

Concentrate on your relationship, for one thing.

Remember that bipolar disorder is not what defines your loved one.

You are with them for other reasons.

Your loved one is a person with a unique personality, has interests and goals, and is capable

of living a stable, healthy life.

Surround yours and your loved one’s life with all that life has to offer, not bipolar disorder.

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Concentrate on that relationship, and make it the best that you can.

Remember what brought you together in the first place. Don’t make the mistake of Don’t make the mistake of making bipolar disorder the only focus of your lives.

There is so much more to it than that.

You should share some common interests.

Enjoy doing the same things.

I know a couple who when they were dating, used to go to their favorite restaurant and eat strawberry shortcake and drink coffee and talk for hours, and despite the bipolar disorder, they still do it!

What was your favorite thing to do when you were first dating?

Do it again!

Spend time with your children.

Or even grandchildren, if you have them.

Don’t forget extended family, either. Family is important to your loved one’s stability.

A social life is important, too, so they don’t isolate, because isolation is a trigger to a bipolar episode.

And it, too, keeps the focus off the bipolar disorder.

And keep fun in your lives!

Try to think of some fun things to do.

Another couple I know enjoys playing board games, so they do that.

It doesn’t have to be anything fancy or extravagant.

The important thing is that you don’t make bipolar disorder the focus of your lives.

What do you do to keep the focus off bipolar disorder in your lives?

I’d love to hear some ideas.

I might even put them on here!

Bipolar Disorder? Don’t Do This With Your Life

David Oliver July 6, 2009 | July 6, 2009 Daily Bipolar Disorder Message 15 Comments

Hi,

How’s it going?

I want to warn you today about something important.

It’s something that I see too many supporters do.

They are still making bipolar disorder the main focus of their life.

At first, when your loved one was initially diagnosed and you were learning all you could about bipolar disorder, it was your main focus, and that was ok.

But it still shouldn’t be the main focus of your life now.

The main focus of both of your lives should now be stability, or the management of your loved

one’s bipolar disorder.

You have to understand and realize that bipolar disorder is a lifelong illness and you and your loved one will be dealing with it for the rest of your lives.

Still, it shouldn’t be your main focus.

Even though there is no cure, bipolar disorder can still be treated with medication and therapy.

There are other things you can do to help your loved one to

maintain their stability as well.

Things that will keep the focus off their bipolar disorder.

Concentrate on your relationship, for one thing.

Remember that bipolar disorder is not what defines your loved one.

You are with them for other reasons.

Your loved one is a person with a unique personality, has interests and goals, and is capable

of living a stable, healthy life.

Surround yours and your loved one’s life with all that life has to offer, not bipolar disorder.

In my courses/systems, I talk about how important a good relationship is to bipolar stability:

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Concentrate on that relationship, and make it the best that you can.

Remember what brought you together in the first place. Don’t make the mistake of Don’t make the mistake of making bipolar disorder the only focus of your lives.

There is so much more to it than that.

You should share some common interests.

Enjoy doing the same things.

I know a couple who when they were dating, used to go to their favorite restaurant and eat strawberry shortcake and drink coffee and talk or hours, and despite the bipolar disorder, they still do it!

What was your favorite thing to do when you were first dating?

Do it again!

Spend time with your children.

Or even grandchildren, if you have them.

Don’t forget extended family, either. Family is important to your loved one’s stability.

A social life is important, too, so they don’t isolate, because isolation is a trigger to a bipolar episode.

And it, too, keeps the focus off the bipolar disorder.

And keep fun in your lives!

Try to think of some fun things to do.

Another couple I know enjoys playing board games, so they do that.

It doesn’t have to be anything fancy or extravagant.

The important thing is that you don’t make bipolar disorder the focus of your lives.

What do you do to keep the focus off bipolar disorder in your lives?

I’d love to hear some ideas.

I might even put them on here!

Are You Blaming Bipolar Problems On This?

David Oliver July 5, 2009 Daily Bipolar Disorder Message 6 Comments

Hi,

How are you today?

You know, things are getting really bad all over.

You know I’m not a negative person.

In fact, I’m one of the most positive people I know.

But I also have to be realistic.

And realistically…

The economy is really bad.

We are in such a bad recession, and some people are still trying to pretend it isn’t there.

Others are being so devastated by it.

That’s the majority of people –

Those who are losing their homes and cars…

And the many, many people who are losing their jobs.

So many people really can blame their problems on the economy.

But if you have problems because of bipolar disorder, can you really blame those on the economy as well?

Well, let’s take a look at that.

Ok, if your loved one with bipolar disorder was working at a job and lost their job because of the recession, then maybe you could blame the economy for that.

Then your finances could suffer, and that would be related to the economy instead of the bipolar disorder.

However, if your loved one is suffering because they’re not taking their medication, that has nothing to do with the economy.

That has everything to do with your loved one and their choices.

The responsibility for good choices, especially when it comes to medications, belongs to

your loved one.

The responsibility isn’t even yours!

I know you want to be a good supporter, and you definitely want your loved one to take their medication, but you can’t make them do it if they don’t want to.

Have you ever heard the expression, “You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make them drink”?

Well, I’ve heard it said, “You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make them drink…but you CAN make things salty so that they’ll WANT to drink!”

The way you can apply that to your situation is that your “salt” could be encouraging your loved one to take their medication, or offer suggestions, or even show them the statistics on what happens when people with bipolar disorder don’t take their medication, etc.

Then, hopefully, they will WANT to take their medication.

In my courses/systems, I offer suggestions on how you can get your loved one to take their medication, because so many supporters have told me that this is such a problem for them.

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Let’s look at another bipolar problem that gets blamed on the economy.

Say that your loved one gets depressed.

Yes, some people are getting depressed because of the economy, I’ll grant you that.

And there are some things about today’s economy that are enough to be depressed over!

But because your loved one has bipolar disorder, they are prone to mood swings.

It’s just part of their illness.

And one of those mood swings is depression.

Maybe the recession is just a trigger to their depression.

But the economy (the recession) cannot be blamed for their bipolar disorder or, more pecifically, their bipolar depression.

Their depression is part of their disorder, not part of the economy.

See the difference?

Now, some people are angry about the state of our economy.

And people have a right to be. I get angry about it sometimes, too.

I wish things were better, as I’m sure you do, too.

But you don’t have to have bipolar disorder to be angry.

There are many people without the disorder who get angry about the economy.

If your loved one is angry about the economy, you can’t necessarily jump to conclusions and say

that is part of their bipolar disorder.

However, anger can be a symptom of bipolar disorder.

So if other symptoms of the disorder are present, your loved one may be in a bipolar episode,

and may need help.

But if it is anger by itself and part of their bipolar

disorder, you just can’t blame that on the economy.

Are you blaming your loved one’s disorder on the economy?

Are you blaming your problems on the economy?

What can you do to improve your situation in spite of the economy?

What have you done to improve it?

Happy 4th and Problems with Bipolar? Try These 3 Steps

David Oliver July 4, 2009 Daily Bipolar Disorder Message 10 Comments

Hi,

How are you today?

Happy Fourth of July if you are in the United States.

Hope you have a great day.

If you have problems today, keep looking for a solution, and you will find one.

I am really convinced of this.

There is a great book call the Startup Entrepreneur – which has nothing to do with bipolar disorder, but has to do with starting an organization like a business – but you can still learn a lesson from it.

In the book, the author talks about people like inventors who faced tremendous adversity trying to get whatever they were trying to get done.

The common theme was “when you study the problem over and over again and again and harder, you find a solution eventually.”

I really believe that.

Many people with bipolar disorder don’t focus on the solution, they just kind of focus on the problem and just complain about it.

Sometimes it’s ok to complain, because it’s kind of like therapy, but you have to eventually focus on the solution.

My friend goes to a 12-Step Program, and they have a saying that goes, “When I stopped living in the problem and began living in the answer, the problem went away.”

That’s kind of what the theme of the book I was telling you about was saying, too.

In other words, if you complain about the problem and do nothing, it won’t get you anywhere.

But if you bounce the problem off other people, maybe you’re still complaining about it (like to your therapist, for example), but you’re actively looking for a solution.

You have to look at all your problems that way.

Like look at your problems with bipolar disorder.

One of the biggest problems I hear supporters complain about is that they can’t get their loved one to take their medications.

Ok, so now you have defined the problem.

That’s Step 1.

Now, you don’t just keep complaining about the problem once you’ve defined it, because then you can’t do anything to solve the problem that way.

Someone said, “If you’re not part of the solution, you’re part of the problem.” Well, you don’t want that, do you?

So once you’re defined the problem (whatever it is), you start looking for a solution.

Step 2 (after defining the problem) is to gather information that will help you to solve the

problem.

So let’s look at our example about your loved one not wanting to take their medication.

In this case, why aren’t they taking their meds?

Is it because of the side effects?

Is it because they’re forgetting to take them?

Is it because of how the medication makes them feel?

Step 3 is to think of solutions.

I talk about how you need to be positive about solving your problems and different problem-

solving techniques in my courses/systems below:

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