Hi,
I hope you’re doing ok today.
I am actually driving toe Virginia today so I have to leave right away. It’s a LONG drive.
Hey, here’s a strange question for you:
What if the sun didn’t rise today?
I know, it is pretty strange, huh?
But think about it –
Would it be the worst thing that had ever happened to you?
I have a reason for asking you this question.
Because you know I volunteer at several support groups, right?
Although, sometimes I get so discouraged that sometimes I ask myself, “Why am I doing this?”
And I’ll tell you why.
It’s because some of these people, well, all they do is complain. Like bipolar disorder is the worst thing that has ever happened to their loved one (or could happen). Like their life is over now.
And that gets to me, because what if their loved one had heart disease, or cancer?
Wouldn’t that be worse?
It’s not like bipolar disorder is a death sentence.
But some people act like it is.
So think about the worst thing that has ever happened to you. You made it through it, right?
You must have, because you’re reading this right now!
But some people don’t, because they dwell on the past.
In my courses/systems below, I talk about getting over the past and dealing with what’s happening in your life right now, and how important that is:
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The worst thing that could happen in your life right now, I suppose, would be that your loved one would go into a bipolar episode.
But if you’ve followed my emails and other teachings, you’d be prepared for that to happen.
You would have learned to expect that.
You would have learned to watch for triggers to an episode.
You would have learned to watch for signs and symptoms to an episode.
You would have an Emergency Plan in place in case it does happen.
In other words, even if the “sun doesn’t rise today,” (if your loved one does go into an episode), you would be prepared, and it wouldn’t be the worst thing that ever happened to you.
What do you think?
What’s the worst thing that has ever happened to you, and how did you get through it?
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I never thought of my sons bipolar as the end of the world or any thing. You are so right. There are so many things that could be worse. He is a exceptionally intelligent person and so very creative. This is difficult for him and it hurts me so very much when he suffers but if he was not bipolar he may not be so creative and so intelligent. There is always good with the bad. Your email in the morning helps me to remember this. God bless you and thank you.
Dave,
Yes, you are indeed right about everything, BUT to some of us the severity of the phase is a death sentence to our loved ones, for there is some of us that loose them and cannot help them as you know for various reasons the phase may be too great or they refuse medications, etc. We who are fighting loosing battles because the loved ones are not able to make good decesions and refuse to, we are facing this death just assuredly as if they actually were dying. I know it should not happen, but it does. No matter how much we want to help them, they have to be willing to help themselves also and no manner of loving them will make their decesions. Our love has to accept defeat, death as it were.
Well, David, and all, actually being born is the most traumatic event in life – they say. But what I remember, I’d have to say that finding my step-father after he shot himself was my darkest time. Great family, friends and years of psychotherapy got me thru it. That was before I was diagnosed BP but I was already having symptoms. If it was not for all the wonderful people – past and present on my side – I’d be another homeless, mentally ill, person on the streets. We all serve each other. Serve others and you will be served
acg
hi dave you are so right. back in 1998 when my son was 8 his liver went bad. he only had 30 days to live. luckily he received a liver 17 days later, but unfortunately a little girl had to die for him to live. he had his transplant on dec, 25 1998. that was the hardest time of my life. i had told god that if he wanted him i was ready to let him go, as he would be in a better place.he really tired all the time and sleeps alot, but he is alive. that incident really opened my eyes to what is truly important. at the time i was working 2 jobs,hardly ever seeing my kids. i think god did this so i would see where my priorities are and to slow me down a little.
Hi David, Good Question The worst thing that ever happened to me to my family has to be my daughters accident. Nov 8th 2003 she was 5years old at the time crossing the road on a main street a motorbike caught her on his bike and carried her for about 30ft before he managed to stop.
I had just given birth to my fifth child 4wks before this nightmare unfolded. Her baby sister who was 3 at the time was in a buggy which i was pushing seen it as did her 2 brothers and her dad, they were on the other side. It was horrible.
She recovered very well over time, but my troubles were only beginning, I lost weight and went into what i would call one of my first depressive eposides maybe not first but certainly worst.
I ended up in hospital my first time in a pysch hospital.then due to my daughters scaring decided to sue the insurance of the driver so when she gets old enough she could go for more surgery.
you hear how easy all that can be not so and unless you’ve been there done that i dont know maybe i was unlucky, but the insurance company got the driver to sue me on negligence, it all only ended for me last june it took nearly 5years to close that chapter in my life.
It was all settled out of court with my daughter been given a small sum. I was told at stages that i could end up with court bills the only thing in the i had to pay for was my own barrister he cost me 1500 euro,and had they only offered me 5 euro on behalf of my daughter with cost of courts paid i would of said yes. It was a Great relief when it was all over.
But to answer your Question how did I get through it I dont know some days were bad some ok some good. But alot of it was just putting one foot in front of another coz i didnt have a choice. I know Our Mother Of God got a lot of prayers sent up to her.
But At the end of the day I didnt have a plan.
God Bless. Amanda
You write: “The WORST thing that could
happen in your life right now,
I suppose, would be that your
loved one would go into a bipolar
episode.”
And by extension I imagine,
you might also think that
the WORST thing that could
happen to someone who
sometimes behaves in disorderly
ways because of extreme states
of consciousness they sometimes
experience would also be going
‘into’ what you call a
‘bipolar episode,’
right Mr. Oliver?
Let’s think this through –
I don’t refer to myself
as someone ‘with bipolar disorder’
although I’m sure many others would,
based solely on my PAST behavior.
But for the sake of this comment,
and for thinking this through here,
let’s say that I am “bipolar.”
So by your thinking, to review –
the worst thing that could happen in my
life right now, YOU suppose, would be that I
would go into a bipolar episode.
I patently disagree. In other words,
I think your supposition is FALSE.
I do not think that if I began
to think and act in ways that you
would label as a “bipolar
episode” – I do not think that
that is even remotely the worst
thing that could happen in my life.
I have a family and many friends that
I love dearly. If harm or worse
yet, death, came to any
of them, that would clearly be
WORSE to me than me simply behaving and
acting in ‘bipolar disorderly’
ways, if you will.
If I was injured in a car accident
or attacked by someone, or kidnapped
and held hostage, etc etc etc…
Simply put Mr. Oliver there are
countless things that I can imagine
‘happening in my life’ that I think
would be WORSE than me thinking and acting
in ways that you would classify as
a ‘bipolar episode.’
I’m very curious what you think
about what I think.
Do you care to share?
No being diagnosed as being BipolarII was not a death sentence for me.If is sometimes seems like I am “incessently complaining” there are some people who understand how it has so greatly impacted my life,in my life and will listen to me and I know care.And yes it is funny how the people that are most willing to listen are those that have been in the same situation.Go to any support group meant for those suffering from the biploar diagnoses and I think pretty well all of them just want people to listen,whether we just keep saying the same things over and over,we listen because we know how much it hurts to have people think we are just “complaining”.I was diagnosed 20 years ago and obviously I have been breathing for all those years.That means I fit the definition of the sun rising ever day in my life.I was over-medicated,like a zombie for a good portion of those years.It absorbed a good portion of my life for more than half of my adult life.My youngest didn’t have a “mother” for most of the time that she was at home because I couldn’t take care of her.My son seems to have inherited my condition.I destroyed relationships (those that I was able to form,not many people want to be around those with wild mood swings),though I was always med compliant and did whatever insane things that was told for me to do by “health professionals” in the hope that something could help nothing worked.My life was radically altered by mental illness,but like most illnesses,you have a completely different slant on things if you have lived it.Yes I am still breathing but there is a difference between “living” and “existing or enduring life”.So often during my existence on this planet people,who would go on and on and on about their physical woes,but mine couldn’t be seen, like when I have had broken bones,so like most mental illnesss it was discounted.If you are bipolar it will never go away the only difference is how much it impacts your life,yes sometimes the things are good,sometimes things aren’t so good.Often people would more or less tell me to “pull up your socks and get on with life”. My reply is “what if you aren’t wearing any socks”.I love my children more than life itself but I suppose that the worst experience that I have had with bipolar is that since it radically influenced them, almost as much as me, is that I know I would never have given them life since one of them seems to be following in my footsteps.The thing I do to make things better is to not look in a mirror.
Dave,
My wife of 5 years is bi-polar, has anti-social personality disorder and is an alcoholic. She has been violent numerous times over the years and is off her medication until recently. She has threatened that if I call to have her hospitalized under an emergency petition or call the police to respond to her violence, she will say she was being abused and was defending herself. I was once arrested for such an incident. She refuses to get treatment, says her meds do not help her and is verbally and emotionally abusive to me. The threats continue. One day in particular she was out of alcohol in the house and ordered me to go get her a bottle and if I refused she would drive to a bar, pick up men who would buy her drinks. When I told her I have had all I can stand and I am leaving, she contacted a friend who was in a military kill squad and currently not of sound mind himself,asking that he murder me. She said if I left and she could not get to me, she would have my young son killed instead. I contacted the police who told me until a crime has been committed, there is nothing they can do. You may have heard this story many times, but this is the only time I have had to endure such a horror. Is there any options for me to escape considering coping is no longer a choice? Thanks for your work in this field.
Jim
I have had many problems along lifes way and I am still here. I have my faith in God and that has got me through. My daughter was 13 and had anorexia . it took three years to get well. when she was 18 she was sexually assaulted and it took her many years to get over that. In the mean time our son was acting up very bad. Our daughter is grown up and doing well . our son is grown up and now I hope we are going to get help with his problem. there is still God on my side who gets me through the days.
I don’t think my bipolar illness is a death sentence or the worst thing in the world. Then again, when I was totally delusional, psychotic and paranoid, that rates pretty high up there on my Top Ten Worst Thing That Could Happen – list.
There are other devastating events in my life that have occurred, but I’m still standing.
But on the other hand, my brother is worse off then I am. He refuses meds, treatment and is in serious denial and he’s on one of his excursions. He could become deathly ill, get mugged, stay homeless. He just doesn’t think it through and one day my parents are going to get “the” call that something dreadful has happened to him. He’s like a ticking time bomb. I’m waiting for the day he’ll hit rock bottom (which in my mind he’s hit) and come back looking to fix what’s gone wrong.
So, in his case, I’d say worse things have still happened to him, but a serious misjudgment or mistep could be all it takes.
I hate sitting on the side lines waiting for what seems will be inevitable.
Hopefully one day he will wake up and tell himself he’s got to face facts or he’ll keep running from himself, us and his problems.
Hi David and Everybody!
It’s been almost like the Sun hasn’t risen these past few days because the Weather’s been dull and overcast, but that’s not stopped me trying to get things achieved before my Operation on Monday.
My Doberman’s still sick – the Anti-biotics cleared up the Cough, but he’s got an infection in his Penis and can’t eliminate the waste water, so after numerous visits to the Vets, we’re praying that the latest Injections will reduce the inflammation in the tip of his ‘Winkie’ and allow him to wee again, otherwise he might have to be ‘put to sleep’. He’s had a Catherta inserted into his Bladder twice to remove about two litres of Urine and is due to have it done again in the morning, but the X-Rays didn’t reveal any swellings or blockages. Please all pray that he gets better soon as hearing him groaning in pain is soul-destroying and as his three-seater sofa-bed is in my Bedroom, I get to hear every moan. He does look funny in his Victorian Collar though, to prevent him from licking his private parts and he’s asleep now.
I’ve stocked up on foods so that I’ve got plenty of “ding meals” (Microwaves make that sound once they’ve re-heated the stuff!) and Martin’s promised to look after me and the animals, so although I’m nervous, I’m looking forward to when I’m recovering and able to exercise again, etc. The Hospital were over-zealous with their pre-assessment Tests on me yesterday, in order to cover themselves because of the various Bipolar Medications I take. So, I’m hopeful…
To help keep my mood upbeat, I’m promising myself that once I’ve recovered from the Op and lost the excess weight, instead of rescuing Ponies in the future, I’m going to get a Horse and nurse it back to health FOR MYSELF TO KEEP. At the latest Horse Sale in Wales, many couldn’t be sold for even the pittance of £17.00 – less than a ‘Pony’ (slang for £20.00!), as even the Meat Traders were spolied for choice. It’s disgraceful that such beautiful healthy beasts are being sent for slaughter but the present ‘Credit Crunch’ is causing people to abandon the costs of looking after their animals and are dumping them. However, I’ve worked it out that once I begin part-time working again, I’ll be able to afford to keep my own Horse and together we’ll get fit.
Take care all,
Sue and all the animals. x
I have been sick and out of pocket. I was again hospitalized from November 23rd to December 23rd of 2008.
I am at the public library in Memphis at present.
I wanted to touch base with some of my emails. I have had a large set back due to lack of enough Lithium, and the sodium levels affecting each other. Warn those that take Lithiun to watch their sodium intake.
I again will have a slow road back to recover, each and everytime seems to get harder. My mother has kicked me out and If it was not for my ex husband I would be on th streets. It gets harder each time to recover. I am glad as always to hear from my Bipolar friends. Only those are the ones that really understand.
I far from think a Bipolar episode could be the worst possible thing to happen in anyones life. I understand when you say the people at the meetings constantly complain. How irritating it is! The worst thing that has ever happened to me was about three years ago. My boyfriend and I were in an accident. We hit a big old Sycamore tree head on at about 50 mph. I actually died in the accident and he brought me back to life. I don’t dwell it being the worst thing that ever happened to me, I just forever thank him and the good Lord for giving me another chance. I just know I love life even though the world we live in is so mesed up and am very thankful. I never dwell on anything just try to make it better if it’s bad. The bipolar thing, I’m just glad my dr. diagnosed and is treating it and that I feel as good as I do today.
Thanks for giving me the oportunity to respond to your message.
Being diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder “shut out the sun” for me. When I worked my whole youth to achieve my “dream job” at 20 – working as a Senate Staffer in Washington, D.c. with my own apartment and being engaged – and only holding the job for about 10 DAYS before I was hospitalized for a full-blown manic episode, yes, THAT was the worst thing that ever happened to me.
I have always been told I was “intelligent” and “creative” and, even, “brilliant, genius, etc.” – to suddenly realize that I couldn’t TRUST my own mind/brain. When the delusions started – and I BELIEVED in them soooo strongly – only to find that they were, indeed, UNTRUE through and through – then I started to doubt my own SANITY. I questioned God on this one; “Why me, Lord?” Hadn’t I been “good enough?” My moods were all over the place, and I was literally “flying off the walls.” Then, the next minute, I’d be in tears, thinking about REALITY and what I had truly LOST.
I had 2 major hospitalizations in my 20s after that, but have been fortunate NOT to be “manic” again to that extent. I have had the “mild” hypomania that has been taken care of on an out-patient basis at the local Community Mental Health clinic, but I’ll be 61 next month and – you know what? I’m posting on this blog, so I MUST have SURVIVED!!!
I STILL worry about going through another full-blown manic episode because, with the life I’m leading now, I can’t AFFORD it. Two to 4 months in a hospital would ruin me. When I have the occasional CONFUSED moment, THEN is when I worry most often about my SANITY. “Confusion” has ALWAYS led to a hospitalization. I just hope and pray that what I’m going through are “Senior Moments!”
BIG HUGS to all bipolar survivors and those who love us. May God bless you real good. I pray for my country.
Little one;
I looked at your “FREE” offer, only to find it would cost me over $400. WHY? Do you have a Dictionary? Women call it I think a Richard Carainium.
As you wish to believe ALL the SHIT said about us: Compulsive spending… (Yes one on “meds” would be desperate enough to buy it).
These beliefs are only lucretive if you are a Quack.(If you made a $ why still push, I see Greed, and it is all form letters).
“Stmptoms” are not applicable NOT to me anyway I have read “symptoms” of ALL 6 or so kinds of BP. I must be the only one in the World not to fit a “profile.”
On the Drugs I have more of the symptoms.
These “Beliefs” well they Piss us off, as do Morons… I have told many Quacks they can believe whatever they want. I do see it is of great benifit to them. My Nurse was present. I don’t see any whithout her. As a psych. will do and say as they please. Constant lies, deal breaking… They are of no value!
My Nurse is very nice & She keeps me out of the Mental Illness Factory. Hospital. They come in well, leave Zombies WHY? I have seen this for 8+ Years. You can see a “medicated” person. They look different to normal, say car accident victims, mostly they are WORSE.
Perhaps I would buy the “course” if I had NOT read your Daily chant of “See the Quack Take the Meds.” “Choose a “Dr.”
What would you know? I supposidly have had it for 34 Years, and yes you, you only regergitate what they say. ALL BS!
They are still read to from Freaud, PROOF they still know NOTHING! Prof of thier detrement to society, after seeing one, you are offered a Pension. One I seen got 21.6K$ per hour, cost me $40. The Taxpayer payed the rest. Over 8 Years I have seen frauds like this.
Typical meeting, ALL 12 psychs. the same: “What are you on?” “Need a Prescription for anything?” “Any Medical Problems.” THAT WAS IT!(Sometimes I request and get medicine. If I am getting near normal, they want to “medicate.” Further DECERIBATE). 2 Minutes was $720.00. The next VICTUM entered, I wated, he had 2 Minutes. Lucreative no wonder they damaged my Brain with Olanzapine,& what they told me was “Vitamin B” (Not B did not hurt going in, did not effect Urine..Had me unconscious in Minutes, Comatose for 20 hrs a Day, barely conscious & feeding for 4.
Then the illegal LP, my Parents where told: “He must have it so as we can find out why he has BP, then we can FIX IT.”
WHAT? My Back is still sore 8 Years later, results of the LP after 4 Kits: “We got no juice”. WHAT?
Where they injecting More vile Drugs into the spinal cord so as to Ruin my Mind?
Blondie as she was called (The one driving Nails into my Spinal cord). she hit my sciatic nerve, I made a lot of noise, she laughed: “I’m not even in yet.”
I looked at the “Dr.” he started to Cry & left the T.V room. Yes NOT in Sergery. Where a Sergen told me it is done: “Look Mate I work here, if it’s not done up here it’s Bullshit.”
Why did the “Dr.” Cry? It was such “an important process.” It was done by students… Guess he thought he would lose his liscence to print money B4 he got it. Possibly why I was Kept Comatose 4 Years?
Their was one “Dr.” Walter J Freeman a fellow countryman of yours, same “profession” also I see. He performed 100s of thousands of Lobotamys with Ice Picks, sourced from the Ice Box in his Winebago. Said he made them better. Intraocular Lobotomy. (Icepicks through the eye socket in 5 centimeters 2″ then the unmentionable would turn them to gouge out the frontal lobe.
As shown today, with the trade of Fraud. NO Science to back it. Most where found to be left worse, some “no change,” none found to be better off. Wally did this also to Children 12 perhaps younger, Children all said where Fine.
One Guy about 50 odd now he was found. They took him for an MRI (I think). He is the first and only one to be tested this way. The pictures show the Black holes in his Frontal lobe.
The MRI specialist said this would make him impulsive, agressive, stupid, non planing or thinking…It was supposed to do the opposite. Though he has done very well as he was so young his Brain was still forming and he was able to compansate for some of it….”
The Guy said he was all of that and always about 20 Years behind and with a feeling of “something missing…”
I feel “A lot missing”, A WHOLE LIFE!psychs. can BUY it back. What is a 190IQ worth?
I had a great LIFE & an exceptional Mind, I thought it was normal. Then I met the psych.
I am weaker in all ways, even psycaly. Due I guess to mental weakness. I stop the “meds” I get psychicaly stronger, though not much of my mind comes back…
NO Mind NO Life NOTHING!
As we are better in ALL ways than a mere Mortal, why not utelize us?
Who “treated” Da-Vinci, the bastard child who was given the name of the Town he was Bore in?
He was a Great Genius for he was ALLOWED TO BE. All who are or where anything where BP. It is a Gift, untill you meet the psych. Then your beter off Dead!
The first “medication” made was toted as: “A Lobotomy” in a pill.” Wally Freeman (How terrible his name is Freeman, yet he stole minds thus traping People within their Bodies. Body my holding Cell…)
wal was not happy, well their ALL the most greedy, Sadistic…
when doing Lobotomys for the Cameras he would play around, yes to him it was a great joke. Same as psych. he was getting an even more Perverse Pleasure as he was Paid to do it. For me if I committed a Crime once & no chase, then their is No Fun.Why do it? How boring you can do as you please.. Hence they get worse.
“medication” has came forward though, as Lobotomy is only Frontal lobe. Today they can also Ruin the Hippocampas. (Speach part). Hence WE call it Deceribration. My Hippocampas is… The memory is ruined whithout the need of electroshock “therapy,” which is by the way against the GENEVA Convention, yet done in Hospitals to the most Vulernable, already Brain damaged by other “treatment”. WHY?
WHY ARE THEY NOT HUMANE & JUST LEAVE US ALONE, OR SHOOT US DEAD?
If I did any of this to a stray Cat or Rat, I woldd be locked up. The Public would be outraged.
2 psychs. told me:”No Pill or injection will change you, or anyone else, nor can I…”
So I asked them what was their use? NO answer? I beat them all the time. If they are sane, I am highly Insane & proud of it. I told tham that, also that they where psyicaly sick (I can smell it, & see it), Mentaly sick, they won’t let me help them… At best Professionaly they make the tits on the Bull look usefull.”
The whole sickness trade serves me best when it ignores me, ALL are probably the same.
Usualy I would get: “You need no longer see me if you do not want to.” Othertimes when I defeat the psych. at its game, my Nurse must step in, or I go in.
One sent my GP a letter 3 Years after the last visit to tell him she did not wish to see me ever again… My GP read it to me. WE both found it very amusing: “So we came to an agreement, she does have 1 Brain Cell, only took her 8 years.”
GP: “Perhaps she needs more money.”
“She would not give me a ticket to prove I am Sane, I told her if she & her kind are sane, I am proud to be labled Highly Insane!”
Proffessor of the trade told me: “BP does not make you insane.” Therefore it is true we are NOT Delusional, I never am. How could one be Sane, President of the US, and Delusional?
BUSH? Please do not tell me he is BP, or his DAD Or the other one. Too much Bush destroyed America & the World.I heard he is the 1st pres. never to have read a Book. I read one: “The cow jumped over the Moon.” More sence than psych.
I will go for now, supposed to see GF.
Their is STILL NO SCIENCE BACKING IT. NOT the trade, NOR the psych. None of its doings, or its “medications” NOR ANY of its’ “treatments. Are PROVEN. They do not know what even Lithium does after 50+ Years Pushing it. They know not what any of their “medication” does, or how it does it. SO WHY is it ALLOWED?
WE ALL know the “medication” ALL of it the SAME (My GP told me so). Is of detrement to the entire Body. Hence every 2 Months when using I need my internal organs tested. No Little One they do not test the Brain, it is ment to atrophy. (Chuncks go missing, Neurotransmitters stop Transmitting & or recieving…DEATH is BETTER).
The “meds” do the exact opp of what the Quacks tell you they do, WHY? Lilly is in court, due to LIES. Quack will not try its’ “meds” They are smarter than they let on.
WE tell the Quack: “I feel much better now, thank you so much…..” So we can get home, stop the deceribration, and rid our lives of that unmentionable organism, the Quack!
The Quack loves this, it records it, marks it down as “another great victory…” Hence they say the “medication” works. QED! NOW FOOL WAKE UP OR SHUT UP.
my 8+ Years of study in the field prove to me the “Disorder” is Polypharmacy, it is entirly iatrogenic! It is also I KNOW from LIVING it the DUITY of the psych. & “medication” to RUIN lives & Families.
I will write a Thesis. I have a BILLION Masters Degrees on the FRAUDULANT SADISTS…..
I have found NO American knows any meaning of the word FREE. From my many years online. Is it true a Woman cannot go topless in the Good Ole USA. (The Sun feels great on the Breasts, almost as good as on the Genitals). Yet I read a Baby under 1 Year Old had a Liscence for an Automatic Pistol. I know the right to bear Arms, NOT Breasts or Genitals.(In case the King comes back it said).
ALL have seen Breasts (Feding) I rember it, went on I am told for 3 Months. ALL have seem Pussy, hey that’s the 1st thing we see. (Yes my Nana said I was looking around, & I was 1 Week early & Weighed 10 Pound UK).
It also said to be President you must be White and Male?
The CCHR I hear is closing the Trade?
SUSIE, I do hope both you and your dog will be well again soon. Animals are the best therapists, but give you stress when they are not well. If they can’t sell the horses why don’t they just give them away to a good home? Here in Ireland it’s the same with dogs. People breed them as a business and when they can’t sell them they dump the puppies in a field. I hope I can move to a better house with a more benevolent landlord soon, as I would love to have more animals. My cat hasn’t been in perfect health but is doing ok on meds. My boyfriend lost his dog while he was in hospital, because I wasn’t allowed to look after her in my rented home. The dog is happy where she is though. My man says he loves me, but likes his own space too much and is not ready to set up home with me. It maybe because he doesn’t fully trust himself and his bipolar and I need to be patient. I’m not too happy about him being in contact with his manipulative ex again, although tey’re platonic. She gets him stressed and could easily tip him into another episode and into the psych ward. It’s a pity they stopped transporting people to Australia so long ago (lol). My prayers are with you and your dog.
The worst thing that has ever happened to me: My son and his wife were arrested on drug charges, and my only grandchild was taken by Children and Family Services. How I got through it: prayers, family, and time. I know that this didn’t actually happen to me, but it is an experience that affected me greatly and hurt me deeply.
the worst thing that ever happened to me was when i was 10 years old i was in a really bad car wreck and was hospitalized with a depressive skull fracture and a broken arm i did die on the way to the hospital and i wouldn’t put anyone in the world what i have been through i was just about to the hospital and was loosing pressure fast my mother was not able to accompany me to omaha and was listening to a radio what was happining and with gods grace i sat up and asked where my brother was and made it i am not so sure how that happened but i thank god every day for being here i have 2 beautiful children ages 14 and 7 that i would not have now if i had died that winter day. although we deal with bipolar disorder every day because both my children and husband are bipolar i would not have it any other way if i can endure death and make it i can do anything with gods will behind me i thank you so much for your newsletters they are so inspiring and help so many people you have no idea thanks so much kamie turner
Hi Troy,
Thanks for your e-mail. My Doberman slept quite well and ate four slices of beef last night, but this morning he still can’t wee and refused freshly cooked chicken breast. However, we’re on our way back for him to be drained again (all the males in the Surgery wince when they know how he has to have a Catherta inserted up his really sore ‘winkie’!) and he’s under the personal care of the Head Vet, so I’m still hoping for the best.
A local Farmer friend told me the other day that he’s had to refuse the begging offers of taking on two Horses because their owners can no longer afford to keep them, simply because HE also can’t afford the extra costs. I guess that the Sanctuaries are also getting full, which is leading to the awful slaughter of healthy Horses and Ponies. It’s tragic!
I used to joke too that all the horrid people should be shipped to Australia and in the past, this did indeed happen, but they’ve got and had some amazing people who’ve helped make the World a much more humane place, like the legendary ‘Crocodile Hunter’, Steve Irwin and his wonderful American Widow, Terri Irwin from Australia Zoo, whom are an inspiration to us all.
Take care all and have a good day,
Sue and all the animals. x
Dave, I read what you wrote and what others have responded and it gave me hope again. Your question was what if the sun didn’t rise again? Well I do suffer from bipolar and many other diseases, and lately it feels as though the sun hasn’t risen. Because even though it has my heart, mind, and soul are still black with hatred and pain and hurt. My head has just been spinning with many different dilemna’s that I have been faced with and it is causing me to go into an episode that I can’t seem to get out of. But reading what you wrote and the others, I have realized that although things may seem dark and bleak right now, eventually the light will return and my life will find the happiness it once had. It is very hard to stay upbeat and positive. You also stated that it feels as though your life is over, and that is exactly how I feel right now. But as I said before your words and the other people that responded have really made me think that this is not the worst thing that has ever happened to me, and probably wont ever be the worst. You also mentioned an emergency plan in case one does have an episode, I would like to know more about this emergency plan. What it entails, what it does things like that. Becuase at this point I am lost on what to do. Thanks for all the advice and for letting me know that the sun will shine again, just will take time.
well i dont know if i have bipolor or they say adult add,witch i deny to beleive.but i do know as long as i could remember i have been a very sad,lonely depressed and lost girl.Iam a compulsive spender,have anziety and panic attacks mind races over worries and or thinks,have to e organized,can’t relax live on little sleep or i want to sleep all day,and so on i got help finally,or want answers and started to face things that i can’t change but help me through my stressfull life.First step may 2008.I have 2 young children my soon was 4 last august and my little girl 3 this march.iam in a marriage saperation.My son was dignosed in novemer with asperger syndrome with comorbid adhd,extreme dysfunctional behaviour.he is on dexamphetaminead and resperidone my heart aches i want to take it away for him.he is very vilent and my daughter gets hurt so bad and hits me to.my husband has a history all the boys add,adhd,I wnt to blame someone and want to deny it,thats my little man i love so much,yet get so mad,neverending in house and world,so if the sun did not shine for a day then maybe i could sleep in, if they thought it was slill night time still that is.
Before I started to research the matter, or even found this amazing person,Mr. David Oliver, I felt trapped every day, and often had suicidal thoughts, because it genuinley hurts when the person you loves is unpredictable from day to day, constantly complaining, and doing things that were beyond my understanding. I love her soooo much that her how she transformed for Dr.Jekyle and Mrs. Hyde, sincerely broke my heart. I was honestly thinking about giving up on her, her parents are in denial, and the love me because I am the “speed bump”, and her father has the condition also. Imagine loosing a job no because of negligence on my part, and trying your best to find one, she unplugging the phone and hiding keys, and he saying that you don’t look as much as you should, most people fear them, but I understand them, many thanks to Mr. David Oliver.
DAVE, Would it be possible to make the names of who posted a comment on the blog bigger and bold and place them at the top, as in the old version? The very pale small letters at the end of the comment can get people confused. I had replied to a comment by Susie (see above) and she replied to me addressing the person who posted the comment above mine. This proves my point.
SUSIE, I wrote to you about animals, etc. Troy’s comment above mine was a very different one about lobotomy amongst other things. I never use names, my own and others’, as I’m already getting enough grief from people like my boyfriend’s ex, and prefer to keep private. I have friends in Australia, who I would love to visit, if I ever win the lottery. The reason why I want to send my man’s ex there on a one-way ticket is to have her as far away from us in Ireland as possible. However, nowadays nowhere on earth is far enough. My prayers are with you and your dog. Kind regards, Nightlady
Hi Nightlady, David and Everybody!
Bad news – I had to put my Doberman to sleep yesterday and although it was on the honest guidance from the Head Vet, I’m still devastated. He said that urine was leaking from his Urethra into the surrounding tissues and thus poisoning his system. He was so heavy that Martin and the Vet had to use a Stretcher to carry out his body whilst I drove the Car into position and as I was holding him as the Injections were inserted, I keep remembering how he died as I sobbed into his head and repeatedly told him that I love him. Martin dug a hole in the hard, rocky and icy ground and we buried him next to other previous pets and today I feel awful. My Border Collie’s absolutely loving all the extra attention but I can’t switch my brain off about all my memories of my wonderful dog. He was so soft and such a Clown… I’ll miss him terribly.
On a lighter note, try and send your partner’s Ex to the Moon with the use of oxygen only permitted if she promises to stay away for good. It’s not healthy that she keeps meddling in your lives and if it were me, I’d serve the ultimatum that he’s got to choose.
Take care all,
Sue and all the animals. x
First of all Susie I am sorry about your Dog. I am sure that you must be devasted. From your descriptions in a couple of blogs it seemed like things weren’t doing well but I know that there is no way to prepare yourselves ahead of times for these decisions.I always have professed that I am not an animal lover but I am the one that was sobbing the last visits I had to take “Martha” to the vet.That receptionist saw a lot of tears.
You know I dont’ think that I have been reading many posts from how people feel when then are sharing,that to us is life-altering moments,intimate details with someone you trust, and since they have heard it once, they feel there is no need for it to be repeated.I lived with one of those for over 25 years and in the end your self-esteem and ego are at such low levels you retreat to a state of self-loathing.If you are not helping, can’t walk the walk, then back on and try to find out someone else who can.A lot of people help those with mental illnesses just because it makes them feel good,not the person ill. There are no medals handed out for meritorious service if you are pissed off all the time by hearing the story over and over.. We can tell when we are being listened to. You start to worry when they stop talking.
I am very ill (will never work again and I am only 51)but for several longer intervals in my life I have been able to function better than others.Since I did “get it” I spent a good portion of that time networking with others and trying to help them out. A lot of the time I was not much better than them but I was always wasr ready to listen. Might not be able to get out of bed but will still listen.I was on a lot of peoples speeddials. I did not expect to be elevated to sainthood but do know what it feels like to have people not listen to be dehibilated by an illness that is life-altering. and be alone is scarier. I have not yet deternmined whether it would be better just talk about the weather, or avoid me completely rather than making me feel like you are doing me a favor by listening but most people know when you are just paying them lip service..
I wonder how many of the “impatient listeners” have ever had a problem that completely consumes their lives. Also wonder if maybe peole around them have thought, for God’s sake can’t they stop complaining about the neighbor who plays their stereo too loud day after day after day at the water cooler.
You would do us more of a favor that trying to find someone else to listen, let you out of that terrible bind, though your application for sainthood with be discarded.
FAB
Bipolar is not an terminal illness in its self… but the disease can be so severe that death is an answer to the unrelenting torture of voices. Voices that control your thoughts and moods. I think that my son is the bravest person I know. He deals with such sadness and pain everyday. Yes he is medically compliant. Sadly, I guess, not everyone can be helped as well as others.