Dave, you don’t need to apolgize for anything, this has nothing to do with messing up from BiPolar, I’m a Psychiatrist who suffers from BiPolar and a few other added illnesses…we all mess up. And yours was the lovely attack of the “cyberspace attachment” variety which you will never control. LOL! If they leave over 1 email that “Karma” allowed cyberspace to mess with, they aren’t in reality your “friend” nor understanding. On a professional side note; BiPolars are some of the most self-centered people that exist. Yes it’s due to the illness but it can be overcome most times. Don’t let it get you down.

Hi David:

Consider me a “Virtual Mother” and your Virtual Mother is telling you to stop having panic attacks over silly, simple things. I am glad your interview went well for you because it was very important to you. But you are human, right? And every human makes mistakes so quit apologizing for silly mistakes. I know that sending these emails and other information is very important to you too. Calm down, relax, and stop worrying so much. I think, from the sounds of things, you may have a had a glimpse of what a person with BPD having an episode experiences. I am not close to being a doctor but I do know (from personal experience) that stress is a killer and you must take care of yourself or you will not be here for the critical few and the rest of us who highly appreciate what you for us. Cut yourself a break, ok! Nobody is perfect all the time.

Hello David,

Well I can tell you that to me you actually shared your day and believe me that is what it feels like to be bi-polar.
I have those days very often. I recently found a job helping a man in the fashion business, My first day on the job, went like this. Got up eat breakfast, headed 45 miles to work. My car broke downwith a flat tire, tried to make it up by going faster ending up with a ticket on the freeway, for trying to go on the side lane to get to the exit as the traffic was backed up. When I got to work I was on time but after one day of working with this man I realize that he was a rude crude man who drinks and hates women. Oh yes, a one man agency who loves to pray on older women and make them feel like stupid objects.
By the time I returned home I was
a mess.
So you are not alone in having one of those days. In fact if you say to people I am having one of those days. They understand.
That is what is important about
sharing today’s email with us.
I really enjoyed stormcaller’s comments.
I wish he could give us some more tips. I am trying to come to terms right now with my illness and I felt that I could never work again.
Knowing he is Psychiatrist and working helps me to have hope that I can function again. I have been slowly for 15 years withdrawing from life.
I need at this time to have a home base business that truly pays you do you know any that are real. I have been spammed. Hopeful

Self-centered? – make it work for you!

Yep,…if we like to focus on what’s wrong – quess what? We’ll get real good at that! But, is that what we really want?

Looking for mistakes game – that’s that focus – The game plan is to look for mistakes, AND, you’ll find lots of those! Everywhere! Then, guess what? Do positive things really start happening in your life – even though you may think you’re very cool for pointing out mistakes. Your focus is mistakes!!! Ack! And, then, wow! Isn’t it weird how all of a sudden there are sooo many mistakes – everywhere! What’s with this world? What are we all coming to anyway?

How to make it all work for YOU…

Ever have something nice happen to you? Like getting a new car, or looking for a new car and falling in love with one. Then, all of a sudden, those cars seem to be everywhere – or at least more abundant than you had ever thought? You never noticed how many cars there are out there like yours, after you get a new car, or are interested in a certain kind of car? And, if you get that car and you’re driving down the road – even if it’s a very unique car – then all of a sudden there is someone like yours right next to you, or coming the opposite direction, and you get all excited! and you honk at each other?!

Yep,it’s the law of attraction! And, that feels good! That’s what you want in your life!

So, if your goal is to get good things happening to you, then it’s easy – just look at what you’re looking at. Good stuff coming to you? Then, you’re playing the right game – play that one over and over again! Yeah! If you get off track, just change the game, you went back to the old one. Get with the new one!

In practical terms, if you are just a tiny bit self-centered or full-blown, “it’s all about me” – doesn’t matter – this works great, because you can ask yourself, what’s in it for Me? What am I gaining from Dave’s messages?

What car do you like?

Cheryl
PH.D, School of Hard Knocks

Dave-your doing fine,would you like to come to the southwest of England & give a talk?,I AM PRESENTLY SUFFERING FROM ACUTE DEPRESSION BIPOLAR? & its awful,the lithium i think can increase the depression[i am on 400mg night & morning & nothing else]it would be helpful to receive any tips from you,keep up the good work & come visit England-bye for now Dudley[Perrin]

Dearest David!

Although I noticed your error, it didn’t matter because EVERYBODY makes mistakes sometimes and I’m surprised that it doesn’t happen more often.

I spent an hour writing to you last week, then pressed some button and lost all the text BEFORE I could send it to thank you! Boy, was I really mad!

I suffer Bi-polar and adore your e-mails. Don’t give up.

Love, Sue from Wales, U.K. x

David,

I am a mother or a nine year old with anxiety, ocd, and just found out she is bipolar. I found your website by accident and am thankful I did. I look forward to all the information I can get on this illness. Thank you for taking time each day to write about things that will help us all.

David,
I have just recently begun receiving your e-mails. I want to say “THANK YOU!!” for doing this!! I am bipolar and being able to read your lessons has already made a difference on a daily basis. Please don’t let a few people without compassion get you down. Being able to have contact with others who understand this world I live in is such a comfort. Your lesson for today is outstanding….be who you are.
Thanks again and keep up the GREAT work!

Hi Dave, You are a magnificent person indeed and because of this you felt the need to give such a heartfelt apology. I personally do so much appreciate you taking the time out of your life just to help so many other people who are having the same experiences with such a potentially destructive disorder as Bipolar. I have learned so much more from you than any of my daughters doctors. That is saying a whole lot right there. Yes, you are human and yes you are going to make some mistakes, but yesterday’s mistake as you say, was such an encouragement to me it doesn’t even matter. It was what it was. You are the BEST!!! Please keep doing what you are doing, I take you and everything with you. Thank You so much for everything you do. ; )

hi,
i wanted to purchase the information but my huband is concerned that there is no (s) at the end of your http. he says this means the site is not secure to give credit card details in order to pay.
help?

jakii

westyorkshire

England

To michael.burrows40

The site is secure. I pay a lot for the security certificate and shoppingcart.

Dave

Hi Dave, I think you are being to hard on yourself.You do so much for so may. i don’tknow how you do it and fit it all in to your day. So take a big breath and keep doing what you do, because I for one wouldn’t want you to do it any other way.
I do have a big favor to ask of you. Back in Jan I sent for one of your courses that you were offering a special on. But I didn’t confer with my husband before doing so. When he found out how much it cost he was upset with me. I couold’t get him to understand the importance of your course. So I sent it back and asked for a refund on the payment that had been deducted from my account. I have not got the refund yet and the on the 5th of this month another payment was taken out of my account. To say the least my husband hit the foof. Please Dave I know you are a busy person but could you or one of your staff members look into this.
Thank you so much Dave and God bless you and your staff.

Could ADHD symptoms mimic Bipolar. Impulsive, figiting, not paying attention in class?
babs36373@yahoo.com
Please let me know.
History of subject: 3yrs. old when diagnosed ADHD, Would not or could not go to sleep at night till he was exahusted. Figity, impulsive.
Thank You,
Beth

Hello david,

Well its almost a new day.
I am sure tomorrow will go smooth for you. It was nice to read that most of us can relate to your day.
The the majority of us who wrote you were also saying to not be so hard on yourself.
So what happened to your shoes?
Where are they?
You will at some point look back at this and see the humour in it all.
That is the wonderful part of the human condiiton.
hopeful

Dave, there usually is at least one bad apple in the basket. Please don’t let it ruin the pie!! We all mess up, but to admit that we messed up is honourable!! You ought to get a medal for your determination in helping others, & one for your honesty. I know your not looking for one, but the thought & nomination is there, you deserve one!! And on the pie note, try and remember, not everyone likes pie. They just don’t know what they are missing. Keep on keepin’ on. Your dedication is admirable! Thank you

Dave. You are a great person and I think you are making the best in that you intendend to do. You are also graced with excellent humor. In my country a dictation exists:”The dogs bark and the caravan passes”.Be strong and don’t let to abate for those nonsenses.Lilian P.

Dave,
In your post for today you talked about how people describe how they are feeling when they are having a bad time with their illness.
I find that I don’t know what to say when I get the dreaded “How are you doing question” even with people that know that I have OCD and treatment resistant depression due to a chemical imbalance.
The other evening I went out among people and I said I am up, I am here, or I am standing. I received
some weird looks and responses but I don’t feel like pretending I am fine when I pushed myself out to get where I was going. To top it off I had a sprained ankle so I was
limping around with this uncomfortable splint on my leg.
I have been under a psychiatrist’s care since May,1999. I have been through many of the SSRI medications and many doses. I am currently taking four medications.
My doctor and Cyberonics has tried to get my insurance company to pay for having the VNS therapy device
implanted but the insurance says that it is experimental.
There are times I spend weeks without going anywhere then I start feeling better and can motivate for a while. I have some other physical
problems and am going to have a neurological test done in the near future.
I would like to tell you that I appreciate you caring enough about your Mother to take the time to research her illness and then help others with all of the information.
I wish every person with mental illness or any illness for that manner would have family members to take the time to find out what their loved one is going through.
I would like to hear from you and others on responses to people about
what to say to people about “How are you doing”.
Thank you.
A big Herd fan

Dave,

NO SWEAT! Stuff happens and if people are so touchy they should look at their own faults. I know you are a professional but everyone is human.

Come live in my world Dave and you will know what it is like to feel scared and full of negative self esteem issues. I could not do what you do, I would crumble quickly under the pressure of scrutiny from the masses.

Even with all the positives you get the negatives seem to be what impacts you the most.

Your irritations are completely understandable especially with how hard you work everyday. The last thing you need is a nagging self righteous emailer dragging you down to a 4.

GET OVER THE NEGS….DELETE THEM AND PLEASE Start posting the GOOD NEWS EMAILS YOU GET INSTEAD OF THE NEGATIVES. PLEASE!!!! For all our sakes. 😎

Dave, it is so wonderful that you do what you do. Lucky for us having you. Let’s not sweat the small stuff.

dave

you are doing a great job and service to a lot of people. so what if you make a mistake, now and then, you’re only human like the rest of us.

keep up the great work!

i was wondering about the people that work for you – do they do so on the internet? or how?

carol

DAVE, Of course you are forgiven for a little mistake. Anyone who never messes up isn’t really human. And those who don’t forgive other people’s little mess-ups probably make the most mistakes themselves. Keep going, Dave, but do take a little break now and then.

Dave: Don’t worry about one mistake = we all make them. I think it is amazing what you do everyday to help people with Bipolar disorder. Thank you.

Sincerely,
Rene

Of COURSE I forgive you, Dave. Things DO come up for “normal” people, even as they do for bipolar survivors. The only “down” side is – we can’t explain or “cover” for our mistakes in the same way YOU would.

In a hypomanic episode, we can become confused, distracted, and forget easily. Right now, dealing with my new diagnosis in my esophagus, my brain is a “sieve;” my boyfriend told me things, and I forgot 15 min later! I tried to explain to him about my “condition,” but I think HE thinks it’s a personality defect. I hope he will be more understanding now…

I visited my best girlfriend today, and, because of all the stress, I broke one of her china plates. I took it personally, and apologized all over the place. She was so kind and understanding, she made a joke out of it! I DID, however, ask her to bring my teacup into the living room, because of my shaky hands…

I chilled the rest of the day, until the man who cleans for me (a verrry old friend; he lived in my basement “room” at my apartment house, and helped with my late husband, who used a wheelchair), came over – and my day brightened somewhat. He went over and above-board in cleaning; even sweeping the ENORMOUS amount of trash under the computer! He had just lost his mother on Saturday, but he threw himself into the dirty dishes and the bathroom like a whirling dervish! He’s a godsend, actually, and is my “right arm.” And to think – he did all this for $20…

I’m going to bed early tonight to catch up on sleep, and get my pattern somewhat back to normal. I HOPE I won’t feel so “ab-normal” tomorrow, when Allan comes to celebrate his birthday!

BIG HUGS to all bipolar survivors and those who love them. My prayers are with you, and may God hold you in the Palm of His Hand.

People who are not bipolar make mistakes. People who point out others errors need to relize that no one is perfect. Well, we had one perfect man and look what we did to Him. Don’t be so hard on yourself, you are only human and you are going to mess up. Don’t waste your time worrying about what others think of you. I am sure those who are willing to overlook the occasional error are getting a lot out of your information. I know I am. Thanks.

For SuzanneWA:
I am like a Motherly type figure for all who have to suffer and you suffer in many ways as my daughter does and Lord knows that while I try very hard to understand what she and my husband feel I will never truly, fully understand. My maternal instincts are very real, and maybe a bit extreme, but that is who I am. If I had the money, like some very rich people I will not name, I would take care of as many people as I could. But my situation is a very poor one and all I can offer is my Prayers (I think I mentioned before that I do believe in the power of Prayer). I know my prayers will be answered but in God’s time, not mine. And I can offer the compassion I feel in my heart for all who suffer from anything, anywhere. I do not have to know someone personally to care for them, if that makes any sense? Take care and I know God has blessed you and will continue to do so. I realize sometimes, especially with BPD, it is hard to feel like God has blessed you but you are a miracle in yourself because you have been born and are alive and can feel “normal” most of the time. So hold your head high and remember you are one of God’s creations. with love and lots of hugs and Prayers:
HelenM

Hi Dave,
I think you do a great job and have learned so much from your emails. Thank you for all the time and effort you put into writing everyday. So what if you sent a previous email, it was something I needed to read again!!
Have a good day!