Hi,
How’s it going?
Well, the elections are over.
Did you vote?
I’m not going to tell you who I voted for, but I did vote.
You know, I talked to a young man who said he wasn’t going to vote, because that way he could complain about whoever won. Isn’t that silly?
Well, as you know by now, Obama is our new president (if you are in the United States, if not he is not your president lol)
People said it would be impossible for him to win, but he won anyway.
Do you know why?
Because he had a STRATEGY!
In political terms, it’s called a platform, but in bipolar terms, we don’t stand on a platform.
But we can have strategies, too.
And if you have a strategy, you have a much better chance of winning, just like Obama did.
No matter how impossible it may seem.
You may have been told that it’s impossible for your loved one to get better from bipolar disorder.
But it IS possible!
Look at Obama –
It IS possible, if you have a STRATEGY!
You may have been told that your loved one is hopeless.
But they’re not.
Not if they have a STRATEGY!
You may have been told that it’s impossible for you to help your loved one get better.
But it’s not.
Not if you have a STRATEGY!
In my courses/systems, I talk about the strategies and systems you need to have in place in order to manage bipolar disorder and
get better.
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Because I KNOW your loved one CAN get better if they have a STRATEGY in place!
Ok, let’s look at me.
People told me it would be impossible for e to have a successful company if I were to employ people who had mental illnesses.
They said I would fail for sure.
But I had a STRATEGY!
And now look at me.
I have a successful company BECAUSE of those people with mental illness – I find them to be some of the most intelligent and creative people I have ever known.
They are stable and hard-working, and they are helping to make my company successful.
Even though all those people said it was impossible.
I just had to have a STRATEGY to make it work!
So you need to have a STRATEGY as well.
Prove those people wrong like I did.
Help your loved one get better in spite of what they said, that it’s impossible, because it’s not impossible – not with a STRATEGY.
Believe that your loved one can become high-functioning in spite of their bipolar disorder, because they can, even though people said it’s impossible, because it’s not impossible – not with a STRATEGY!
And if you get discouraged, just remember my story.
Even though people said it was impossible for me to be successful employing people with mental illnesses, I have anyway, because I had a STRATEGY!
And remember our new president.
Even though people said it was impossible, that he would never become president, he didn’t give up, because he had a STRATEGY!
So put your systems in place, don’t give up hope, and use your STRATEGY, and there’s no reason to believe that the impossible CAN be possible!
I remember way back in the day. I was faced with MASSIVE problems all at the same time.
You know the story, you’ve read it.
Debt, Taxes, No doctors, medications not working, no help, no health insurance, no job for my mom, on and on and on and on and on.
My dad tried to be supportive. He said, “we let’s just do what we can do. Don’t worry if we can’t fix all this.”
My brother said things like, “don’t waste your time, there’s no hope, nothing you do will work we’ve tried it all.”
I on the other hand believed that I could fix
everything. I really did. What helped me was
calling a friend of mine named Pascale. You’ve probably heard about her before. Anyway, when I told her all that was happening and how I felt that I could come up with a plan and a strategy to turn it all around she said, “of course you can.”
That statement encouraged me to move forward against all odds.
I invented strategies. I came up with solutions. Virtually EVERYONE told me I was crazy and there was no hope.
Even my mom’s sister said to me (and she was very supportive to me), “David, if you can’t help her don’t feel like you failed.”
She wanted to prepare me if there was no hope or solutions. She wasn’t being mean she just was unsure if there was a way out of all my mom’s problems.
If you have been on my list for a few years, you remember that I talked about how I got angry about how bipolar disorder was ruining my mom.
I went to the library for some quiet time. I took a pad (the one I always use, yellow legal) and began to brainstorm a new approach. A new strategy. A new system that NOBODY had ever thought of.
From that day, I launched my strategy in my war against bipolar disorder. I was determined to beat it.
If you have gotten any of my material from www.bipolarcentralcatalog.com you’ll see that many of the things I recommend are very unorthodox but they work.
Based on the election of Barack, I highly encourage you not to sit and argue about politics and whether he should have won or not but sit and say to yourself, “What strategy can I come up with that is different to get to where I want to get to.”
You can do it, it’s possible.
No matter what your circumstance with bipolar disorder, whether you are a supporter or survivors you can turn it all around no matter what.
NO MATTER WHAT THE ODDS ARE
You just need the right strategy.
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Dear David,
Great lesson in building a strategy. A key point to keep in mind is that the strategy must be fluid… that is ever-changing, flexible and one that can be adapted to work on a moving target like bipolar disorder. You have said before that conquering this disease is an ongoing life-long process and that key thought needs to be the basis of any longterm strategy. We must be ever mindful that works today may not work tomorrow… but the may work a year from now again. It’s therefore absolutely crucial to managing this disease is to be constantly vigilant to change and develop away to remain constantly flexible and open to tweaking the strategy or taking it to the next level with innovative out-of-the-box thinking. We must always be ready to colour outside the lines of our strategy. The only part of our strategy that can be chiselled in stone… is that nothing is ever chiselled in stone with this nefarious disease. Keep up the good work!
Best regards,
Jan
thats great im glad you can make it work 4 u but nothing works 4 me! yes i did vote if you dnt vote then you DO NOT HAVE THE RIGHT TO B-T-H!
Well done America on your new president. It is about having a plan, as with bp but not all have poeple who understand, loved ones do try their best but times they do get tired too. well thats how i feel sometimes, and i know feelings are not facts, i dont know if this even makes sense but it does in my head. From a bi polar patient, cant say survivor, not yet anyway.
I am trying to get maximum knowledge for the benefits for deserving and needy peoples.I got very bad experience to face bipolar wife.the most good result were found in Homeopathic medicine along with provide loving environment.
Glad you voted.Another week of advets and I would have snapped. Have the flu or something like it.Son is at the point where he usually self-destructs.Guess it is boring sleeping inside and eating real food.How can I get him/them to channel this force that drives them?It is like the tension in a spring.
your e-mail was on the dot. we can not do anything and make it work without a plan. but nearly all your mail talks about working with a supporter. what do you do when you don’t have one supporter that is. when there is no one there to help when things get to be too much to handle. i am not feeling sorry for myself i really do not have someone who fits that catergory in my life.
carol
Dave…
I may not say much… but I read you every day and I admire your determination to make everything work for good. Good results are BECAUSE of a strategy and not due to blind chance.
People are successful because they have a plan. When you impliment strategies that lend themselves to success… is it no wonder that good results turn out.
Again.. I say little, but I just wanted to let you know I admire the work you do on behalf of those with bipolar. It’s an uphill battle, but what part of life isn’t? We just have different streams to swim in, that’s all.
-Leoni
Please remove me from your email newsletter and all other forms of correspondence. I deeply appreciate your help in this matter. My name is Anna Cropley and my email address is anna@absolutegrace.com.
Thank you!
More than strategy, more than a plan, your belief in your ability to change your circumstances and putting forth a conscious effort to do so is change and success within itself.
Positive thinking, letting go of negative emotions and the right attitude to go the extra mile for self and love ones for the greater good of the whole can only bring about the best of any situation.
You are a success David Oliver, because you are dedicated to the greater good and outcome of us all -mentally challenged or not.
Your support and knowledge will always bring about hope and healing.
Please continue giving us pieces of the puzzle that give us a vision for a better outlook to seemly hopelessness and disparity.
Yes if we have a plan, strategy, and truly believe that we are worthy,
then
YES WE CAN !
I believe that Obama won because he told uninformed people what they wanted to hear. Yea, I want to hear that he will fix our economy and there is hope for the future, but hope is so fake. Hope is something just there to get you all worked up about the future for a big let down. I have been disappointed by my loved one, who hasn’t been diagnosed but I believe to have bipolar, for years. He always gave me hope that things would get better and he would “change” but it only lasted a few days maybe a week and then back to his old self. I don’t have anything left to give after almost 13 years together I’m all gave out. I give up. I don’t know what is going to happen to this country, but I hope it doesn’t do like my life and fall apart.
I am happy to see your support of those with central nervous system disorders.
LOL, Obama won due to having extravagant amounts of money to spend on advertising, preference by mainstream media/celebrity folks and the targeting of younger, less educated folks, Blacks and Hispanics. I am not racist at all and Obama will have my respect as president but I do think he has zero experience to lead this country and I am concerned. I suppose he’ll have to learn as he goes.
Hi David,
I voted for Obama-yeah!-and I worked to get him votes.
Things could always be better; but I am stuggling to take care of myself-one thing I notice is that if I don’t get too Hungry, Angry,Late,or Tired (HALT), that things go a lot more smoothly. Also, I try never to deviate from my routine.
Thanks for all of your helpful advice.
Shari
I am new to the bi-polar world and i’ve had a serious relationship with this guy for a little over a year and although he has not had an official diagnosis, the ONLY symptom that he does not have is the over-spending of money. I’ve asked him nicely to talk to his doctor about it. He is a nurse practitioner and knows from a medical stand point that he has a problem and he takes medication for it but then he does a 360 out of nowhere and decides that there is nothing wrong with him and stops taking the meds and it just goes down hill from there. I have been fortunate enough to have only gone through about 5 episodes in the past year. Some have lasted a few hours and some have lasted 2 months! But on 3 of those episodes, he broke up with me. When he becomes himself again he hangs his head down and whole-heartedly says he’s sorry. Am I crazy for taking him back every time?
Friends keep telling me to forget about him and that I deserve someone better and I don’t need to be dating “a bipolar person.” I am used to dealing with sudden mood changes because my son is Autistic AND a teenager. My hard-headed way of thinking is that I love him enough to want to learn everything I can about the disorder so I can support him. I haven’t given up on him. I’ve even left our pictures out and simply cut out a clown face to tape over his since he is not being himself. 🙂 That’s my reminder, plus it makes me laugh when I see it. Is it too late to work on a strategy?
SWedemeyer, I glad that your not a racist. I am educated AND informed AND I am black. I voted for Obama because he is smart and I was tired of being Led by an idiot like Bush! I actually would have considered voting for McCain execept he picked another idiot (Palin) to run beside him. If I have to chose between the two I will take someone who is smart and inexperienced over experienced and stupid anyday.
“What is impossible for man, is possible with God.” ALL things are possible if you go into it with faith. I have come a long way from when I was in my 20s, and hospitalized 3 times for mania. I’m 60 now, and, when I feel an episode – or have a mini-episode – I know to go to my psychiatrist/therapist, and get my meds tweaked, or work with whatever STRATEGY they deem right for the moment.
I did NOT vote for Obama because of all the intangibles, like his associates and his education in Hawaii. He will bring Western European socialism to America, and our great country will not be the same when he takes office. I am not a racist; just a pragmatist. “Spread the wealth” is good old Marxism, and I HOPE and PRAY it will NOT work here. I’m praying that our Congress will keep “checks and balances” on the Executive branch, and not allow our new President to implement all the new “changes” he tells us he is going to bring to America. I pray for our country.
BIG HUGS to all bipolar survivors and those who love us. May God bless you real good. My thoughts and prayers are with you, as you work out strategies that will work for those who suffer with bipolar disorder.
After a year and two months, I am finally getting to know when an episode is on the rise and do use strategies to deter it, sometimes with success, sometimes without. I find my life has been enriched from being a caretaker of a lady with bipolar. I have learned patience beyond what I thought I was capable of. I have learned not to be judgemental in any way, not just the obvious. I have learned that people can be cruel when they are not informed. I have learned that I am not the boss. I have learned that if you ask a person what they would like to do, rather then tell them what to do, you get more accomplished. Thankyou to all who take the time to teach me. Sincerely.
suzanne,
Don’t be fretting – the European examples of communism never were real Marxist anyway! Stalinism, Leninism – all fake – which is why Marx’s most famous quote is: “I am not a Marxist.” Not many people know that, or want to. In fact, not many people really know what Marx thought, just what other people who didn’t like what he wrote tell us! Example: It’s often quoted that Marx favoured ‘dictatorship of the proletariate.’ That didn’t actually mean that the proletariat should be dictated to, but that the proletariat would dictate, like (say) the House of Commons in the UK “dictates” the Laws of the country on those who elected them to do so. It meant that the power of a parliament should fall into the hands of ordinary people and not be concentrated in those of the rich and powerful, as it still is today. Indeed, Marx never said that communism required a one-party state dictatorship or a single-person dictator either. Marx’s government would have been much more democratic than that, much more than we have today. Big difference to what we’re usually told, isn’t it! Now, doesn’t that remind y’all of how folk don’t want to know the truth about mental illness? They’d rather be buried in their prejudice than know the truth. The Lie may be preferred because it’s easier to handle. Its easier to accept than to face up to the fact that there is another way to see the world, iof mental illness (and also the real Marx!) because the truth will upset their closed view of the World and challenge them to do things differently. Differently, like not accepting that BP can rule our lives!
Over this side of the Pond it sometimes seems Mr Obama didn’t so much win the election as the other guys lost it … one of them in particular lost it! Perhaps the lesson here is that a strategy to cope with BP doesn’t have to be Napoleonic in its detail and execution! So, we need not fret about it: Something simple, and perhaps incomplete, may well be quite sufficient, and anyway, something small surely better than none at all.
To GRAHAM: Perhaps I cut Marx too much slack. A man in my Sunday School class told me last Sunday – when I mentioned that Obama might lead us into socialism (Marxist), he reminded me that “How RIGHT do you want to go? Hitler’s party was called NATIONAL Socialism.”
I’m NOT anticipating a “dictatorship” with “one party” rule, but we’re close. The Democrats hold power in both the Senate and the House, probably leaving a non-veto power for Obama’s policy.
I was afraid, during the campaign; now I’m terrified. Obama wants to abolish the Second Amendment (right to bear arms), so that only the law enforcement and government soldiers will have guns. I anticipate knocks in the night, and people disappears, never to be heard from again. This is NOT the United States of America I ever wanted to live to see.
BUT – we won’t know WHAT is in store until the President is inaugurated on January 20, 2009; only what his Vice President said – “There will be an international incident, primarily in America, that will test the President. Don’t worry about what he does, thinking it is wrong. He will have a STRATEGY to work it out.” “FEAR mongering” is all I can call that.
Perhaps the rest of the world is “overjoyed” with his election; more power to him, then. But I also want to say, in my defense, that the MSM (mainstream media) who coddled and endorsed Obama, MAY turne against him at the first “nuance” of a mistake (like they do most celebrities), and it will be a whole new “ballgame.”
Thanks for your reply; it DID teach me something, Graham. You are certainly a wise man with an AWESOME education in the ways of the world.
Regardless of who is elected president, we still have a strong Constitution and three tiers of goverment with a system of checks and balances. We have a democracy that is of the people and for the people. We are not a socialist country or a dictatorship. Our founders set up our Government so that not one branch can overthrow the other. We are a strong country, despite our recent problems. The USA will prevail over hardship, regardless of its leadership.
It may be that Obama won because he had a better strategy. However, I think McCain had a difficult battle to fight because a Republican president currently in office did not install confidence in his party.
Strategies are important, but we must also consider the circumstances that are sometimes out of our control. Not everything can be planned for or considered when planning a strategy. Sometimes we are up against difficulties, despite having a plan in place. That is when we have to say that we have done the very best we can, even if the result is not what we hoped for.
what a mind boggling blog to read tonight. I am from Canada and am almost a-political. How? I choose not to worry. I trust the Big Guy. We get American TV here and have been inundated with political commercials etc…for almost 2 years it seems!! Sometimes I feel I know your government better than my own! Sad how they think they are so important. Are they not suppose to be working for you? What isn’t sad (or maybe it is) is that our loved ones, or maybe yourselves, are dealing with bipolar. That is the issue in this forum, and I think we should stick to it.
To whoever who mentioned HALT. That stands for Hungry, Angry, Lonely and Tired. I think it came from AA.
My son continues to do well in college after being diagnosed bipolar almost a year ago. He is in a different city, so it’s hard for me to support him. I do talk to him on the phone several times a week, but lately I feel like I am smothering him. I try, and Thank You David for these daily emails!
Bless you all!
Tried them all Says,
I think you are spot on.
I think you allude to the problem of inflexibility, when a strategy is decided upon assuming certain conditions will arise but something else crops up for which the strategy is no designed to address. We didn’t plan for it, but it happens anyway. As the term goes, “Sh#t happens!” And it does. Murphy’s Law!
And when the expected happens we have to be flexible to change strategy, even if that means flying by the seat of our pants, not freeze like a rabbit in headlights.
I think your other point is that even if our strategy (original or altered) or even if we do freeze like the rabbit, what we do is still a success, whatever the outcome, if we have done our level best. My Dad aways said to me about my school work, “We don’t care how well or badly you do as long as you always do your best.” That’s how kindly we should treat ourselves, knowing that sometimes circumstances – especially a BP episode – means what we do isn’t as good as we would if we were well. But THAT can still be our best – our best that can be done at that time. As in NOT “I screwed up…” but “It didn’t work out but I tried my best.” Doing your best, even when things don’t work out is still a success. Am I right?
PS Glad to see you’re evidently feeling a lot better than you were a few weeks ago. ;o)
Hi David…where can i write or email you personally for the specific situation i’m in…help
i think there’s much to consider here. no doubt a strategy during those oh-so special times when she’s heading into the “black forest” and, ironically enough, even states so. but then i’m thinking about her psychological and emotional characteristics as well: the learned helplessness, dependency, shaming, blaming, setting up, demands, rigidity and other issues. her lack of insight perpetuates this friction between us and i think about how much of me am i willing to change in order to accommodate our situation. in my job in mental health i wonder about the developmental aspects of those dealing with mental illnesses. well, here i am living with someone with bipolar disorder and i have to challenge myself, thinking how much of this situation am i projecting: my fears, observations, beliefs, values. no doubt, i resent this. i resent the aspects that she initially brought into our situation, some of the worst that bpd has to offer: the debt, addictive behaviors, lack of employment and associative drama. right now i resent her siphoning off of my thoughts and emotions, her hypervigilence drives me coo-coo. there doesn’t seem to be any, as in no appreciation for what’s been done for her, only something that’s briefly contrived as if she’s just covering her bases. oh well, hopefully there’ll be a couple of good days ahead.
I think my stratagy works at times, i fill my pills every two weeks, and i take my pills every night. The problem is we cant find the pills that will work togeather. My Dr. keeps changing them, almost everyother week I am starting and stoping a new drug. That alone makes me sick and drives me crazy. I feel sick to my stomach have the time and am suffering from headaches constatly. When I do feel ok I am usually running around the house cleaning or frantaclly looking for somthing to do. My husband has no idea how to help me. He is ADHD and has no patients when I am like this. I just wish I could find a drug that would make me feel normal without making me sick.
Most Respected David Sir,
I am goinng through all your messages & details given to me with respect to BI-POLAR disorders. Sir,each and every sentences uttured by you in this regards are really very helpful to cure BI-POLAR disoredr. as you know that Iam not sufferring by the same but Ialways mean that this disorder can be well cured by counselling rather than sleeping pills.With due respect Iwould like to submit that all your messages are it self capable enough to cure the abnormality bysimple demonstrating to typical pataints this includes strgtagy. Sir, please go ahead. REGARDS.
DR. U.N.TRIPATHI, MUMBAI, INDIA
Kylara
Your doc keeps changing the meds almost every other week?! If I were you I’d get a second opinion … because every doc I’ve ever spoken to, and everyone I’ve ever know with BP have all said that you cannot expect a med, or a combination of meds, to start to work immediately. They usually take 2, 3, may be 4 weeks to start to kick in. That said, I once took the wrong med – an anti-depressant, and that threw me into the most severe mixed episode I have ever had in the course of a few hours! So, perhaps some meds for BP do work fast, but I don’t have any knowledge, let alone experience, of them.
Umanath
Do you really mean you think Bipolar Disorder can be cured, or do you actually mean it can be effectively “treated” by counseling?