Why People With Bipolar Disorder Can Be So Successful

Hi,

Yesterday I told you how I was going to learn
how to record onto my computer. Well the kid
in charge of teaching me looked like a rock
star—he had 100 earrings, black finger nails
and multi colored hair.

I was excited because I knew if he looked like
that he would know his stuff. He helped me buy
everything and explained the ins and outs from
a to z. He did an excellent job and now I know
how to do it.

So, that means I will be making more material
for you. BUT, unfortunately, he doesn’t know
how to do podcasting which I still have to
figure out.

Okay, let’s get to today’s topic.

I received any email from a person the other day.
She asked me why so many great leaders, business
people, etc. have bipolar disorder.

I have long had a theory but I don’t have any
kind of study to point to prove my theory.

Here’s what I think.

Okay. Here’s the deal. In order for you to start
something, whatever it is: a daycare center,
write a book, build a website, go to college,
discover the cure for cancer, create world
peace, you have to do something really important.

Know what it is? Take a few minutes and guess,
then scroll down for the answer.

DID YOU GUESS? Don’t cheat. Scroll down…

Okay here is what you have to do. You have to TAKE ACTION.
You know how many people have ideas to do stuff and
don’t do anything?

Have you ever found yourself saying? I thought of
that…I could have done that? Wow, that guy made
100 million from that idea? I had that idea 3 years
ago.

I can’t believe that so and so saved 30 children with
that idea. I could have done that. I thought of that.
You get the idea right?

Well the difference between the person who accomplishing
something and those that don’t is taking action.

The vast majority of people will never take any action
to accomplish anything.

Then they will blame it on everyone and every thing
other than themselves.

For example just look at my courses:

HAVE BIPOLAR?
In my course/system at http://www.survivebipolar.net/

SUPPORTER OF AN ADULT?
In my course/system at http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING CHILD?
In my course/system at http://www.bipolarparenting.com/report2/

Some people got them. Some people didn’t. Some people had
money to get them. Some people didn’t. But some people who
had the money didn’t get them because they just didn’t
get around to it.

Why didn’t the people who wanted to get it, had the money,
not get them? Hmmm.

How come some people who didn’t have the money got them?
Hmmm.

It’s all about taking action.

Some people without money, saved up the money, did something
to get them.

Some people got the material but didn’t go through it. They didn’t
take action. So it doesn’t help them.

As good as my material is, it will never open itself out of the box
and start working without you taking any action.

Again, I will say it again. The key is action.

You see, with my family nobody took action with my mom. For
decades. I am not kidding around. I remember when I was
around 10 or so, my mom was in bed for YEARS. Now she
ate food and everything, and did get up, but for the vast
majority of the day, she was in a dark house in bed.

NOBODY did anything. Looking back it was insane. I was too
young to do anything. I remember feeling weird when my friends
would ask about my mom and I would be confused because their
moms didn’t stay in bed all day. I didn’t know what was
normal and not normal.

Eventually some how my mom started staying in bed and then
began being active. Eventually she had a major episode.
Nobody knew what to do. No one really did anything.

When my mom was going in an episode, we just ignored it
and hoped it would get better. It never did, it just
got worse and worse and worse and eventually it became
a disaster.

Over the years, no one, primarily my
dad took any action to learn about what she had, make a
plan, etc.

Then you know the story, she had a major episode in 2004
and then I took massive action to figure it all out.

I am just this kind of person. I might not be good at
editing, spelling, grammar (which certainly am not), but
I am REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY good at taking action.

I am thinking of starting a side business editing
people’s written work, want to be my first client? Just
kidding 🙂

As a quick side note, I get some phone calls from folks,
that call and say that my grammar is not good and
I need to fix it. I ask them if theirs is excellent,
and they all say yes. Then I ask, how many websites,
emails, articles, special reports, manuals and guides
do you have?

Dead silence. Why? Because although they are sooooooooo
good at writing them have never taken any action to
publish anything for others to see.

Hey, don’t get bored, I am going to tie this to why so
many great leaders have bipolar disorder. Hold on.

Just look at my daily emails. I got the idea
on one day and then started sending them the next day.
Most people wouldn’t do that. They would plan, wait, plan,
wait, check on stuff, run it by their mother, father, lawyer,
friends, pastor, doctor, dog, cat, bird, etc. They would wait
for everyone to agree and then they would find another
reason why they wouldn’t do it.

Do you know how many people I know that are getting ready, to
get started, to get set, to get ready, to get started, on something?

This guy tom I know, had an idea for a business NINE years ago
and is just getting around to get ready, to get set, to get started
to get ready to write his business plan.

Me on the other hand, I just do things. Just like helping my
mom. I took massive action.

If you are reading this right now. I commend you. I really
do. Why? You took action. You had to find me. Fill out a form
maybe. Then open an email from me. Read it and get this far.
I really commend you. Many people would not have gotten this
far.

There is a ZERO percent chance my brother would get this far
to help my mom.

When it comes to my courses/systems, people have to get
them and then they have to go through it. I had a lady
call me a month ago, she just wanted to know ONE thing. That’s
it. I told her I didn’t have the answer and she had to
discover it for herself. I told her it was in my course
OR she could check 2 different books, also 3 websites
and do some other stuff.

I actually told her EXACTLY what to do to NOT get my
course because she said she didn’t have the money. Then
she said, “well I will get that stuff you recommended.”
Keep in mind this was stuff she could get for f.r.e.e. I
gave her an alternative to my material. Are you thinking
I am crazy? I am not, I am not all about money you know.

Guess what? I called today so I could include her in my
email and asked if she got the stuff. She said, and I quote
“Well, not yet, I’ve been busy, I am going to do it next week.”

I laughed. So first, I spent 22 minutes on the phone for nothing
because she didn’t take action.

Now, why do so many great leaders have bipolar disorder? I believe
that it’s because in the manic part of bipolar disorder, you do
stuff without totally thinking it through. As a result, you
get a result. If you keep doing stuff, or taking action,
generally you will accomplish things.

There’s a saying by Woody Allen: “Eighty percent of success is showing up.”

Many people with bipolar disorder, do more stuff, take more action,
show up more and as a result accomplish more. The more a person
does, the luckier he/she will get. If you keep doing stuff
then eventually you catch a break, which makes it look like
you are really smart or special when it’s all about probability.

Take action towards your goal to increase the chance to accomplish
it. Sounds simple but virtually no one does it. People with
bipolar disorder do, and that’s why lots of them are successful.

Gotta run and battle with my printer, duplicator, etc.

Your Friend,

Dave

  1. Dave,
    Oh how right you are about bi-polars and why they can be successful. However, the missing point is….they may take action…but their actions are not consistent! So often times they start an idea or a project with nothing but accelerated action and sometimes it is completed…but more times than not, they don’t see their idea or their project to fruition. Well, that’s been my experience, anyway with my husband.

    Dave,
    I read your messages and site most every day. I didn’t know what BPD was until you educated me….I always thought my husband was strictly bi-polar..and had been diagnosed 3 times as such by different psychiatrists. Now I know more about the difference of the behaviors and he clearly dominates his behavior on the BPD side of the house. My first question is….can a person really be both? Bi-polar and BPD at the same time?

    The second is….I am finally divorcing my husband after years of BPD behavior which truly devistated my life, and my 4 year old daughter’s life…. I heard a statistic that 98% of spouses who are married to a severe BPD, ends up filing for divorce. Is that true? My husband also thinks that I am making the biggest mistake of my life because he is convinced that he can change and will change…..but how long should a person hang in there and fight the good fight through his BPD when he doesn’t even really know what he has himself? I am convinced, I’m not sure he is. I feel guilty and cold hearted because I just can’t take it anymore……how does someone know when it is time to draw the line with consistent and daily BPD/bi-polar behavior and walk away versus continuing to try and get them help?

    Kristina

  2. kristina,

    This is a GREAT POINT:

    However, the missing point is….they may take action…but their actions are not consistent! So often times they start an idea or a project with nothing but accelerated action and sometimes it is completed…but more times than not, they don’t see their idea or their project to fruition. Well, that’s been my experience, anyway with my husband.

  3. 55Dave iam a bus owner with lots of good qualitys but spelling is my worst let alone grammer .you are great.my bipolar son has recently walked out of bus and he was the book keeper / accnt. no stess here ha ha i want to find his doctor so i can give him our insite only to help ,help him. i only know he specoalizes in bipolar and is in oberlin. iam afraid to write to much as my son gave get in to any emails any were , phone messages including cells ect ect i fell like a kid trying to write with out getting caught.

  4. I have a point…..being a bi-polar for me has been (once stabilized) a good thing. but it is hard for me when I loose that manic energy to finish what I started. hence the bi-polar who is tempted to stop meds – to get that ‘high’ again. BALANCE, for me is key. – dawn

  5. [Saw “Running with scissors” specifically cuz one of the characters in it was bipolar]. So how does one deal with the shattered life left behind when one realizes that their life has been one BIG delusion after another?

  6. Dave, action is what it is all about. However, when manic they take lots of action. Sometimes it is good, sometimes it is bad. Like the father of a cetain media mogul who was also BP who blew his brains out because the deal of a lifetime looked like it would fall through. BAM. He’s dead, the deal went through leaving his son to pick up the millions. They like that ready, fire, aim slogan. At least they are not stuck in the planning stage like my borderline H.

  7. Hi David,

    After I was diagnosed with bipolar, I was told I would never work again – I found a different doctor, which is hard to do in Canada. We spent 10 years trying to find the combination of medication for me to take, and of course, as you are well aware, by then I had other physical ailments by then. No one seems to just get bipolar alone. My point here is that I gave up my personal insurance policy, because they wouldn’t let me keep it, and went back to school. I have entered graduate school and will be a minister 3 years from now. No one said, “Hey you’re healthy enough now to try”, I just did it. I had my family doctor, who really didn’t believe I had bipolar, to fill out the medical forms and off I went. I had quite a time with a family doctor that did not believe in bipolar or fibromyalgia. It was a good thing I had a great specialist. I was afraid to ask the specialist to fill out the form because I know he would have said I couldn’t do this. I am almost through my first year and I am passing. I have had a very episodes, but the world did not stop spinning. My teachers gave me an extension and on I went. I encourage everyone who has bipolar to “take action”. No matter how small, which is sometimes better at first, it will remind them they are still part of the human race.
    Thank you for all your letters David. I really appreciate the information you provide.

  8. It took medicene many years to figure out what I had. They didn’t have a name for it. But when they did I was it, Bipolar WOW! It took me a year and many trials to get my dose right back then. When it was finally balanced I felt normal. Every three years I have to change my meds. But its so easy now. Please never give up on yourself. My husband and I studied up on Bipolar so that we could help me to stay healthy.

  9. Dave,
    I have an ex boy friend that will never talk to me again that is bipolar. I have learned alot from your letters and I feel he is not with the correct doctor nor on the right medication. I still love him and I was hoping I could send him your letters and such without him knowing it has come from me. He once told me he was manic depressive and I understand that is bipolar? All I have read from you fits him to a T. He told me he was once then after another episode he said he wasn’t. Regardless I was hoping he could maybe read and learn from you. I only want to see him on the right meds and doing better. He had started his own business with my credit line that he has now stopped paying for. Will not talk to me so I dont’ know what’s going on. Just want to help. Can you?
    lisa

  10. Hello all,

    I agree totally that belief in oneself preceeds action. I am currently studying towards a PhD in Scotland, and among other sources, I am including the work of psychologist Abraham Maslow, whom I find very helpful. I also find Colin Wilson as a very useful introduction to Maslow, and other useful sources of inspirational and optimistic thinkers. I have asked my friends and family to keep a look out for any self-defeating behaviour on my part, and as long as people are aware of what BPD is, I have found that they respond with kindness and vigilance.

    All the best to you all, Peter C.

  11. P.S, these sources I mention are NO substitute for medication, so please don’t think that’s what I’m getting at.

    Best Wishes,

    Peter C.

  12. Dave, I am 64 years old. I am not sure I am a BP, but may just have major depression. The last episode I had was twenty years ago. I was normal for 20 years. Then due to a series of serious tramas, I became deeply depressed. This was the result of all of the following: first a heart attack, then open heart surgery, triple by-pass, followed by diabetes foot ulcer, very little income, so I had to file bankrutcy, and I lost my home. Before I lost my home, my wife left me after 20 years of what I thought was a great marriage, then she filed and got a divorce. I also lost my car. Being married since I was 18, I am extremely fearful of living alone, so my sister has been living with me to help out. Now she is tired and wants to go back to her home and life. Keep in mind now that she is a nurse. She says there is nothing wrong with me. She says my mind is good, good memory, I pay my own bills, get my own groceries, attend to my medicine and doctor visits. She is moving out this week and I am terrified about living on my own. The one thing that has me really upset is that my ex-wife has been calling and coming over to see me and lets on that she still loves me, then she will go home, and when I talk to her on the phone, she says there is no chance that we will ever get back together. She has done this many times over the past year. She did this to me again this week-end and I lost it. My sister saw my temper and all this and calmly said that the medicine that I was taking was not working. Oh, and by the way, my ex-wife is also a nurse. She is no longer allowed to call or visit me. My nerves are the problem, I have not worked for the past year and a half, I shake from the time I get up until I go to bed. I have no one else to help me, I try to take care of myself, but I am just getting by with minimal output. I know that I am sick, I knew when the depression was taking over, and I lost 70 lbs. None of my clothes fits anymore. Where do I go from here?

  13. Hey, no kidding…I am going to write a book and yes I’ll be your first client (ha). Actually, this was a great point and I find it quite charming to think I’ll correlate chaos in my head (ideas) with productive results one day.

  14. Dave,
    I appreciate the little notes on borderline personality disorder but, do not really want to know about bi-polar as I do not have bi-polar but suffer myself from borderline personality disorder

  15. RE:
    Many people with bipolar disorder, do more stuff, take more action,
    show up more and as a result accomplish more. The more a person
    does, the luckier he/she will get. If you keep doing stuff
    then eventually you catch a break, which makes it look like
    you are really smart or special when it’s all about probability.

    ————————-
    You are SO right Dave!

    Bipolar thoughts and business can be very productive due to the “Just Take Action”. I only caution that those ideas and taking action on them be tempered by a strong support group and a clear head in making financial decisions.

    As a small business owner I think putting to use the flow of ideas generated from the illness/asset can help you succeed in life.

    All the best to those who “Take Action”.

    Cheers,
    Rob

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