{"id":80,"date":"2008-07-20T10:06:17","date_gmt":"2008-07-20T14:06:17","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/bipolarsupporterblog\/?p=80"},"modified":"2009-03-19T13:13:16","modified_gmt":"2009-03-19T17:13:16","slug":"imperfection-is-ok-with-bipolar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/bipolarsupporterblog\/imperfection-is-ok-with-bipolar\/","title":{"rendered":"Imperfection is OK with Bipolar"},"content":{"rendered":"

Hi,<\/span><\/p>\n

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I am running late so I have to get going.<\/span><\/p>\n

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I am going hiking again today and I am not 100% sure where the place is so I will probably get lost. <\/span><\/p>\n

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Someone called me this morning to talk about bipolar disorder. <\/span><\/p>\n

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Which is why I am late today.<\/span><\/p>\n

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She was basically talking about how her loved one is always making mistakes. It was odd. She wanted her loved one to be perfect.<\/span><\/p>\n

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I\u2019ve yet to meet an absolute perfectionist who was dealing with bipolar disorder and had a stress-free life, have you?<\/span><\/p>\n

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If you expect your loved one to be perfect, you\u2019re going to be sadly disappointed. <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

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However, if you\u2019re willing to become accepting of your loved one\u2019s imperfection, you will begin to notice that your stress will decrease, as will theirs as they see that you expect less of them.<\/span><\/p>\n

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The need for perfection and the desire for less stress conflict with each other.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Whenever <\/span>we want things our way, or are too attached to having something a certain way \u2013 especially better than it is now (like our loved one before the bipolar disorder) \u2013 we\u2019re engaged in a losing battle.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Instead of accepting what we have to accept now (accept things the way they are instead of the way we want them to be), which would lead to a more positive attitude, we\u2019re still wanting perfection.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Learning to accept the diagnosis of bipolar disorder in your loved one is one of the big things I go over in my courses\/systems:<\/span><\/p>\n

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SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?<\/span><\/p>\n

Visit:<\/span><\/p>\n

http:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/report11<\/span><\/a><\/span><\/p>\n

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SUPPORTING A CHILD\/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?<\/span><\/p>\n

Visit:<\/span><\/p>\n

http:\/\/www.bipolarparenting.com<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n

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HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?<\/span><\/p>\n

Visit:<\/span><\/p>\n

http:\/\/www.survivebipolar.net<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n

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If, instead of being content and grateful for the life you have, in spite of the bipolar disorder, you\u2019re focused on everything that\u2019s wrong (a negative attitude), and your need to fix it, you\u2019ll never get rid of your need for perfection, and you\u2019ll never accept your loved one\u2019s bipolar disorder.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Whether it\u2019s related to ourselves (a scratch on our car, a messy closet, an imperfect task, being a few pounds overweight) or someone else\u2019s imperfections (the way our loved one looks, behaves, or manages their disorder), the very act of focusing on imperfection causes unneeded stress.<\/span><\/p>\n

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A strategy for overcoming the need for perfection has nothing to do with wanting to do your very best but with being overly attached and with being focused on what\u2019s wrong with life in general and your life in particular.<\/span><\/p>\n

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It\u2019s about realizing that while there\u2019s always a better way to do something, this doesn\u2019t mean that you can\u2019t enjoy and appreciate the way things already are.\u00a0 The solution here is to catch yourself when you fall into your habit of insisting that things should be other than they are. <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

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Try simply to remind yourself that though your loved one has bipolar disorder (and it is NOT your fault),\u00a0 <\/span>that life is ok the way it is, right now.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Hey I have to run well actually hike. I will talk to you later.<\/span><\/p>\n

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David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide \u201cBipolar Disorder\u2014The REAL Silent Killer.\u201d Click Here<\/span><\/a><\/strong> to get FREE Information<\/strong> sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Hi,<\/p>\n

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I am running late so I have to get going.<\/p>\n

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I am going hiking again today and I am not 100% sure where the place is so I will probably get lost. <\/p>\n

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Someone called me this morning to talk about bipolar disorder. <\/p>\n

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Which is why I am late today.<\/p>\n

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She was basically talking about how her loved one is always making mistakes.<\/p>\n

Continue Reading<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"\nImperfection is OK with Bipolar - Bipolar Supporter Blog<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"http:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/bipolarsupporterblog\/imperfection-is-ok-with-bipolar\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Imperfection is OK with Bipolar - Bipolar Supporter Blog\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"Hi, I am running late so I have to get going. I am going hiking again today and I am not 100% sure where the place is so I will probably get lost. 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