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Hi,<\/p>\n
I hope you’re having a good day.<\/p>\n
Yesterday I had a lot of questions of why I sent the daily email at 6:00am EST.<\/p>\n
I was up really early : )<\/p>\n
Anyway, I want to share something with you.<\/p>\n
It’s a comment to an email I sent out the other day:
\nDEAR DAVID, THERE YOU GO AGAIN, PRAISING THE GUILTY AND CONDEMING THE SUPPORTER…I AM TIRED OF THIS ILLNESS BEING A COP OUT FOR HURTING PEOPLE AND VIOLENTLY ABUSING PEOPLE…<\/p>\n
I HAVE A DAUGHTER IN LAW WHO GETS AWAY WITH EVERYTHING… SHE GOT AWAY WITH BEING ARRESTED FOR ASSAULTING MY SON…AND SLANDERING ME…AND HURTING MY LITTLE GRANDDAUGHTER… THERE ARE TWO GRANDBABIES INVOLVED WITH THIS PERSON… AND I JUST FEEL, QUIT PATTING THEM ON THE\u00a0 HOULDER AND SAYING, ITS OKAY, ITS NOT OKAY…<\/p>\n
……THANK YOU…<\/p>\n
\nWow. Pretty overwhelming, huh?<\/p>\n
This is just a sample of some of the negative comments that get posted on my blog sometimes. Some are even death threats! But you know how I respond to those – those people are reported to the authorities.<\/p>\n
I respect everybody’s right to free speech, and even people who post negative comments have a right to their own opinion, but this one I wanted to respond to, because I think she makes some points here.<\/p>\n
So I thought you should get a chance to see what she wrote, because I do have some comments to make about her post.<\/p>\n
First of all, I don’t see it as threatening.<\/p>\n
But let me address this one thing at a time.<\/p>\n
As far as me “praising the guilty and condemning the supporter,” I really disagree with that.<\/p>\n
I don’t think I ever condemn the supporter. In fact, I try very hard to write encouraging emails to supporters, because I know how hard it is to be a supporter to a loved one with bipolar disorder, because of my mom.<\/p>\n
Why would I condemn supporters? That doesn’t even make any sense! I always try to show my support of supporters and to help them, because I know life isn’t easy for them.<\/p>\n
As far as “praising the guilty,” I assume she’s talking about people with bipolar disorder. And I know I don’t “praise them.” That definitely isn’t true. What I do is try to educate them about their disorder. To teach them how to manage it.<\/p>\n
That is exactly what my courses\/systems are all about; not just for the person with bipolar disorder, but for
\ntheir supporters as well:<\/p>\n
NEW LEARN THE SECRETS OF THE MOST SUCCESSFUL WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER? SUPPORTING A CHILD\/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER? HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER? Then she goes on to say, “I am tired of this illness being a cop out for hurting people and violently abusing It sounds like she is frustrated and very angry now.<\/p>\n Speaking in general, many supporters are hurt just by the fact that their loved one has bipolar disorder. And some of their loved one’s behavior does hurt them.<\/p>\n But “violently abusing people” sounds like an individual case,” as (only my experience, not speaking as a mental health professional or member of law enforcement) the only way I know of that someone with bipolar Even then, if a supporter feels like they are being abused, they should involve the right authorities to get their loved one the help that they need and to keep themselves safe.<\/p>\n As far as “this illness being a cop out,” now that may be a point.<\/p>\n Some people with bipolar disorder do use their disorder as an excuse sometimes to behave in certain ways. Although most of them are not a danger to their loved ones. Ways like being lazy and unproductive, like sleeping too much, or feeling sorry for themselves, etc.<\/p>\n Or in others, like not taking responsibility for the things they do when they’re in an episode. Some supporters even think their loved one is lying when they can’t remember the things they said or did when they were in an episode. They think their loved one is using their bipolar disorder as a cop out, or excuse for what they did. So I can see why this woman might say that.<\/p>\n But as far as “getting away with everything”?<\/p>\n And the specific things she described?<\/p>\n These are pretty drastic and dramatic things.<\/p>\n They are also very descriptive and detailed.<\/p>\n They are also only one case, one case that eaves a lot of questions unanswered.<\/p>\n For one thing, is getting arrested “getting away with it”? It sounds to me like it’s more like “getting caught with it.”<\/p>\n And you don’t get arrested for slandering someone. I could see how someone might take offense at what someone says about them… and I could be wrong, but isn’t that something that’s taken up in court and not As far as getting away with “hurting my little granddaughter,” I’m not judging here, or challenging what this woman is saying, but I know that authorities come down hard\u00a0 on child abusers, and that little girl would not still be in the home if she were truly being abused. They would have taken action.<\/p>\n And she never really says what she means by “hurting.”<\/p>\n I know when I was small and my mom had her episodes, I felt hurt. She yelled at me a lot, and said bad things to me, and that hurt me. And I didn’t understand what was happening at all. But she never, ever hit me or hurt me that way.<\/p>\n But after saying all that, this woman says, “And I just feel, quit patting them on the shoulder and saying, its okay, its not okay…”<\/p>\n And here’s where I take exception.<\/p>\n I would never, ever condone abusive behavior (if this were, indeed, what was happening in this situation) in someone who has bipolar disorder. I certainly wouldn’t pat them on the shoulder and say it’s ok! I think you I may understand bipolar disorder, and why people who have it do what they do, but I still wouldn’t think it’s ok for them to do bad things.<\/p>\n If what this woman is saying is truly the case, then it’s obvious that her daughter-in-law needs help.<\/p>\n But was this a one-time occurrence while in an episode, or is this ongoing behavior?<\/p>\n She couldn’t be on her medication and do these things. She is obviously not stable, or following any kind of a treatment plan.<\/p>\n Did this woman who posted this comment actually SEE all these things, or did her son maybe just tell her them, and are they accurate accounts?<\/p>\n As a supporter, he needs to know that he can’t help his wife if she won’t help herself. That’s one of the things I’ve tried to teach you. At some point, she needs to take some responsibility for herself. And this woman said that there are TWO grandbabies involved. How come she didn’t say anything about the other one?<\/p>\n But here’s the biggest point that this woman brings up:<\/p>\n She thinks her daughter-in-law is “getting away with it,” meaning she is getting away with all of these things just because she has bipolar disorder.<\/p>\n I do think that this woman feels helpless to do anything in this situation. I understand that feeling, because there were times that, as a supporter to my mom, I felt that way, too.<\/p>\n I think she is also very angry and very frustrated. So I don’t blame her for writing this email.<\/p>\n But what do YOU think?<\/p>\n What do you think about the situation? Do you think her daughter-in-law is “getting away with it”?<\/p>\n What do you think she should do?<\/p>\n FIND OUT WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING ABOUT ME David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide \u201cBipolar Disorder\u2014The REAL Silent Killer.\u201d Click Here<\/span><\/a><\/strong> to get FREE Information<\/strong> sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" \n Hi,<\/p>\n I hope you’re having a good day.<\/p>\n Yesterday I had a lot of questions of why I sent the daily email at 6:00am EST.<\/p>\n I was up really early : )<\/p>\n Anyway, I want to share something with you.<\/p>\n It’s a comment to an email I sent out the other day:
\nhttp:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/bipolarmastersystem\/<\/a>
\nSUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
\nVisit:
\nhttp:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/report11<\/a><\/p>\n
\nVisit:
\nhttp:\/\/www.bipolarparenting.com<\/a><\/p>\n
\nVisit:
\nhttp:\/\/www.survivebipolar.net<\/a><\/p>\n
\npeople…”<\/p>\n
\ndisorder might actually resort to violence would be in an actual episode, and that is much rarer than you might think.<\/p>\n
\nwith the police?<\/p>\n
\nknow me better than that. That isn’t something I would do.<\/p>\n
\nVisit: http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/testimonials<\/a><\/p>\n
\nDEAR DAVID, THERE YOU GO AGAIN, PRAISING THE GUILTY AND CONDEMING THE SUPPORTER…I AM TIRED OF THIS ILLNESS BEING A COP OUT FOR HURTING PEOPLE AND VIOLENTLY ABUSING PEOPLE…<\/p>\n