Hi,<\/p>\n
I want to tell you about this situation that my friends were in, because I think there is a lesson that we can all learn from it. They lived in this huge apartment complex. I mean HUGE! There were like 3,000 people that lived in this apartment complex!<\/p>\n
And the thing was that it looked real nice on the outside and all, at least to the naked eye. And at least in dry weather. But here\u2019s the rub \u2013 When it rained, the parking lots all flooded! That\u2019s because they weren\u2019t paved right to begin with. But you couldn\u2019t see that to the naked eye when the weather was dry, you could only see it when it rained.<\/p>\n
So here\u2019s what happened: So many of the tenants complained that management finally decided to do something about it. Great, huh? NOT! Well\u2026 They got the pavers to come out, and they inconvenienced the tenants by making them go all the way around the paver\u2019s blockades to get to their respective apartments while the work was being done (which they didn\u2019t mind, because they thought well at least the parking lot was finally getting paved and no more flooding, right? WRONG!)<\/p>\n
The next time it rained, the parking lots flooded even WORSE! That\u2019s because all the pavers did was PATCH the parking lots where they were at their worse. They never fixed the REAL problem at its SOURCE.<\/p>\n
So here\u2019s the lesson I think we can learn: When you\u2019re solving problems, you have to get to
\nthem at their SOURCE. Or else they\u2019re going to keep coming back at you again and again and again, just like that flooded apartment parking lot.<\/p>\n
If you\u2019re having problems with your loved one and their bipolar disorder, for example, you can\u2019t just \u201cpatch\u201d them and expect things to get better. Oh, they might get better for a little while\u2026But then the problem is just going to reassert itself, possibly even worse.<\/p>\n
Say, for example: You want to stop the fighting. So you just start getting real quiet. And the fighting may stop for awhile, but since you never discussed with your loved one the source of the fighting, nothing is really resolved, and eventually the fighting will start up again.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s just inevitable. Because you never really solved the problem. You never went to the SOURCE.<\/p>\n
In this case, you need to talk to your loved one about what is causing you to fight in the first
\nplace. You need to practice this strategy whatever the problem is that you\u2019re facing. As long as you go to the source, you have the best chance of actually solving the problem and not just patching it up.<\/p>\n
Well, I have to go!<\/p>\n
Your Friend,<\/p>\n
Dave<\/p>\n
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Hi,<\/p>\n
I want to tell you about this situation that my friends were in, because I think there is a lesson that we can all learn from it. They lived in this huge apartment complex. I mean HUGE! There were like 3,000 people that lived in this apartment complex!<\/p>\n
And the thing was that it looked real nice on the outside and all, at least to the naked eye. And at least in dry weather.<\/p>\n