Hi,<\/p>\n
There used to be an old nursery rhyme that went:<\/p>\n
There was a little girl
\nWho had a little curl
\nRight in the middle of her forehead.
\nAnd when she was good
\nShe was very, very good
\nBut when she was bad she was horrid!<\/p>\n
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I don’t know why that made me think of today’s topic, but it did: How you have to take the bad with the good when you’re dealing with bipolar disorder. Or maybe it should be the other way around if you continually dwell on the bad \u2013 that you might need to be reminded that underneath it all, there is still some good to be found. Just in life in general, there is both bad and good to be had. You don’t have to be dealing with bipolar disorder for that to happen. But it just seems to be amplified when you are dealing with the disorder.<\/p>\n
Like the nursery rhyme line, “but when she was bad she was horrid,” sometimes what you have to go through can seem almost intolerable. But it could be just your subjective interpretation of
\nevents \u2013 to someone else it might not seem so bad. Not to belittle what you have to go through as a bipolar supporter, because I know it’s rough. I know how bad it was for me when I was going through it with my mom.<\/p>\n
But taking the bad with the good, you have to admit that there is some good in there. Even though the bad times are, as the nursery rhyme says, “horrid,” the good times are just as good.
\nAnd there are good times in between your loved one’s bipolar episodes, you’ve got to admit.<\/p>\n
One of the facts I\u2019ve talked about before is that someone with bipolar disorder only has about
\n4-5 full-blown episodes in their lives. It is a fallacy that they go from one episode to another
\nall the time. But it can seem like it sometimes, can\u2019t it? Because you are there for the worst of it.<\/p>\n
You know your loved one better than anyone else. You know the bad side of the disorder. You know firsthand what “horrid” means. Yes, it\u2019s true that during episodes your loved one can get pretty out of control. But in between bipolar episodes, your loved one can be normal. So you have experienced those times as well. And you need those times to balance out the bad times.
\nOtherwise you wouldn’t still be with your loved one, would you? It would just be too hard to take. Too much bad all the time.<\/p>\n
But it’s the good times that make it worth it to stay with your loved one. And the good times can be very, very good, can\u2019t they? So you have to take the bad with the good. And you have to focus on the good in order to put up with the bad. It helps if you can separate your loved one from their disorder. Have you been able to do that? One supporter I know does this by keeping a photograph of him and his wife from when she was at her best, between episodes. He looks at this picture whenever his wife is in an episode and exhibiting acting-out behavior, so he can separate his wife from her bipolar disorder. Another supporter keeps a scrapbook of \u201cbest times\u201d
\nthat she and her sister have had.<\/p>\n
Well, I have to go!<\/p>\n
Your Friend,<\/p>\n
Dave<\/p>\n
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Hi,<\/p>\n
There used to be an old nursery rhyme that went:<\/p>\n
There was a little girl
\nWho had a little curl
\nRight in the middle of her forehead.
\nAnd when she was good
\nShe was very, very good
\nBut when she was bad she was horrid!<\/p>\n
——————————————————————————————————————-<\/p>\n
I don’t know why that made me think of today’s topic, but it did: How you have to take the bad with the good when you’re dealing with bipolar disorder.<\/p>\n