{"id":611,"date":"2009-01-22T08:57:19","date_gmt":"2009-01-22T12:57:19","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/bipolarsupporterblog\/?p=611"},"modified":"2009-03-11T21:52:35","modified_gmt":"2009-03-12T01:52:35","slug":"the-truth-about-abuse-and-bipolar-disorder","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/bipolarsupporterblog\/the-truth-about-abuse-and-bipolar-disorder\/","title":{"rendered":"The Truth About Abuse And Bipolar Disorder"},"content":{"rendered":"<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Hi,<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Hope you&#8217;re doing ok.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Today&#8217;s subject is a serious one, because of an email I got in response to my post about being supportive\u00a0 but not enabling:<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Jeannie1 says:<br \/>\n&#8220;Could someone please tell me what to do when I am trying to be a supporter not an enabler.  When the lady I support is in a manic episode, do I walk away from her, do I sit there and take the abuse, how do I handle this????  I know when the episodes are coming, I just don&#8217;t know what to do.  I have tried everything at this point and to tell you the truth I am ready to walk away.  It is my responsibility to help her when she is in an episode because she is totally unable to help herself but she gets so abusive and tells me to get away from her.  I try talking to her but of course it doesn&#8217;t work, she just gets more and more abusive&#8230;&#8221;<br \/>\n&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;-<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Now, I&#8217;m not a doctor or therapist, so I can&#8217;t give that kind of advice, but I can try to at least address some of the comments made in this post, because I think it brings up a serious subject we should talk about &#8211; abuse and bipolar disorder.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">The first thing I would say to this person and to you is that if violence or abuse is involved and you are getting hurt, that is wrong.  You need to protect yourself.  You don&#8217;t have to accept the unacceptable, and you shouldn&#8217;t accept physical abuse.  No one should, and bipolar disorder is NOT an excuse!<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">If you are being physically abused, you seriously need to consider getting the police involved and\/or leaving your loved one.  You do not have to tolerate it, just because they have bipolar disorder. Would you tolerate it from someone who does not have bipolar disorder?<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Ok, with that said, let&#8217;s go on to some other things this person says in her post.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">She says she knows when the episodes are coming, she just doesn&#8217;t know what to do.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">That&#8217;s one of the things I teach in my courses \/systems &#8211; how to be prepared ahead of time for episodes and what to do about them.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?<br \/>\nVisit:<br \/>\n<a href=\"http:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/report11\">http:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/report11<\/a><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">SUPPORTING A CHILD\/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?<br \/>\nVisit:<br \/>\n<a href=\"http:\/\/www.bipolarparenting.com\">http:\/\/www.bipolarparenting.com<\/a><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?<br \/>\nVisit:<br \/>\n<a href=\"http:\/\/www.survivebipolar.net\">http:\/\/www.survivebipolar.net<\/a><br \/>\nYou have to be prepared in advance.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Sit down with your loved one during a time when they are NOT in an episode and determine together a plan of what you will do when they are in an episode.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Unfortunately, in this person&#8217;s case, where it sounds like their loved one might become violent, they would have to determine what to do when the person becomes abusive.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">You need to set some boundaries with your loved one about what is acceptable behavior and what is not acceptable behavior.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">You also need to determine what the consequences of unacceptable behavior should be.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">The hard part for you, as the supporter, will be to stick to your boundaries. But you must do so.  You must make them accept responsibility for their behavior, even if they don&#8217;t want to.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">What about you?<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Have you dealt with an abusive loved one with bipolar disorder?<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">If so, please share with us how you have handled it.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">And as far as this post, do YOU think this person should leave their loved one, like they are asking you?<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">PLEASE POST RESPONSES TO THIS EMAIL BELOW FIND OUT WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING ABOUT ME<br \/>\nVisit: <a href=\"http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/testimonials\">http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/testimonials<\/a><\/p>\n<p>David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide \u201cBipolar Disorder\u2014The REAL Silent Killer.\u201d  <strong><a href=\"http:\/\/www.hypertracker.com\/go\/Post\/BP_Kills_BlogAd\/\"><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">Click Here<\/span><\/a><\/strong> to get <strong>FREE Information<\/strong> sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Hi,<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Hope you&#8217;re doing ok.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Today&#8217;s subject is a serious one, because of an email I got in response to my post about being supportive\u00a0 but not enabling:<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Jeannie1 says:<br \/>\n&#8220;Could someone please tell me what to do when I am trying to be a supporter not an enabler.  When the lady I support is in a manic episode, do I walk away from her, do I sit there and take the abuse,<\/p>\n<p> <a href=\"http:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/bipolarsupporterblog\/the-truth-about-abuse-and-bipolar-disorder\/\" class=\"more-link pull-right\" rel=\"bookmark\">Continue Reading<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v21.6 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>The Truth About Abuse And Bipolar Disorder - Bipolar Supporter Blog<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"http:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/bipolarsupporterblog\/the-truth-about-abuse-and-bipolar-disorder\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"The Truth About Abuse And Bipolar Disorder - Bipolar Supporter Blog\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"Hi, Hope you&#8217;re doing ok. 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