Hi,<\/p>\n
Have you ever had to deal with someone who had a lot of pride? Maybe someone who could never believe they were wrong or even to admit they made a mistake? That’s pride. And pride can alienate a lot of people. People who are prideful are not the easiest people in the world to get along with. I’ve seen this in the support groups I go to. It’s sad, really\u2026I hear a supporter complaining about their loved one, but not be willing to do anything to help them \u2013 it would mean swallowing their pride. So it’s as if they feel somehow “better than” their loved one because they don’t have bipolar disorder.<\/p>\n
Then there are other supporters who, just because their loved one might be doing better than yours at the time, act like they have an attitude that their loved one is better than yours. That’s really bad, because you shouldn’t have to feel that way. In fact, they shouldn’t act that way, because the Bible says that pride goes before a fall. And they might find themselves in your shoes. Then when their loved one starts not doing as well, they don’t know what to do.<\/p>\n
Swallowing your pride means asking for help when you need it.<\/p>\n
Prideful people think they can do it all themselves, then are stuck when they find out that they can’t do it all themselves after all. If you are having trouble with your loved one, don’t be ashamed to ask for help. You can even contact their doctor, psychiatrist, and\/or therapist and tell them how your loved one is acting and that you need help dealing with it. There is no shame in asking for help with your loved one. In fact, there can be even more problems if you don’t.<\/p>\n
You can easily suffer supporter burn-out if you don’t ask for help when you need it with your loved one. You can get totally stressed out trying to do everything alone. You might even get depressed. You might feel alone or lonely. You might get frustrated. You might feel disappointment. You might even get angry, resentful, or any number of negative emotions\u2026 All because of pride. All because of not asking for help when you need it.<\/p>\n
Maybe all you need is a break. Ask someone else in your loved one’s support system to watch them while you do something on your own. It just might be the very thing you need to break the\u00a0cycle of depression or frustration. Don’t be too proud to ask. That’s what those people are there for \u2013 that’s why they’ve agreed to be part of your loved one’s support system. You have to be willing to let others help you. You can’t expect yourself to handle everything all by yourself all the time. Don’t ever let pride stand in your way. If you do, little things will become big things.<\/p>\n
Small issues will become large issues. And things that you otherwise might have been able to handle, you won\u2019t be able to handle after all.<\/p>\n
Pride is a very negative influence on you and the choices you make.<\/p>\n
Well, I have to go!<\/p>\n
Your Friend,<\/p>\n
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David Oliver<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Hi,<\/p>\n
Have you ever had to deal with someone who had a lot of pride? Maybe someone who could never believe they were wrong or even to admit they made a mistake? That’s pride. And pride can alienate a lot of people. People who are prideful are not the easiest people in the world to get along with. I’ve seen this in the support groups I go to. It’s sad, really\u2026I hear a supporter complaining about their loved one,<\/p>\n