{"id":5634,"date":"2007-03-15T07:37:00","date_gmt":"2007-03-15T11:37:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/bipolarsupporterblog\/the-worst-mistake-you-can-make-with-bipolar-disorder\/"},"modified":"2007-03-15T07:37:00","modified_gmt":"2007-03-15T11:37:00","slug":"the-worst-mistake-you-can-make-with-bipolar-disorder","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/bipolarsupporterblog\/the-worst-mistake-you-can-make-with-bipolar-disorder\/","title":{"rendered":"The Worst Mistake You Can Make With Bipolar Disorder"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Hi,<\/p>\n<p>I think the worst mistake that people can make when trying<br \/>to support someone with bipolar disorder is hoping that<br \/>it will fix itself or the problem will simply go away.<\/p>\n<p>My dad tried this method for DECADES and it NEVER<br \/>worked. The small Bipolar episode always got worse and<br \/>between a nightmare.<\/p>\n<p>I get so many emails from people saying &#8220;David,<br \/>my loved one is not as bad as your mom, I think<br \/>she will just get out of it.&#8221; That&#8217;s a quote<br \/>I got last week.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Get out of it?&#8221; What does that mean? I assume it means&#8211;<br \/>snap out of it. Maybe he\/she will, maybe he\/she<br \/>won&#8217;t. If I had to bet, I would bet, the person will not.<\/p>\n<p>If you have a loved one who has bipolar disorder<br \/>and you are concerned, you need to take action right<br \/>away and do something. You have to put a plan together.<\/p>\n<p>You can&#8217;t just wait around.<\/p>\n<p>You know in my course at:<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/report11\">http:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/report11<\/a><\/p>\n<p>a HUGE, and I mean HUGE theme in it is planning.<\/p>\n<p>I say, &#8220;Plan for the worst hope for the best.&#8221; I find<br \/>many supporters HOPE for the BEST plan for the BEST case<br \/>scenario.<\/p>\n<p>Want to hear something really sad?<\/p>\n<p>Since I have been doing this for two years, I now have<br \/>people who scoffed at my concepts, strategies and information<br \/>saying I was &#8220;too extreme&#8221; or that I was &#8220;too negative&#8221;<br \/>and their loved ones were not the &#8220;same&#8221; as my mom and<br \/>everything would be okay.<\/p>\n<p>When I first started this, I use to take tons of calls and respond<br \/>personally to most emails. People wouldn\u2019t even get my course<br \/>or anything. I didn&#8217;t care. It&#8217;s not about money with me.<br \/>I had the time and there weren&#8217;t 800 emails a day (yesterday 822)<br \/>like there are today.<\/p>\n<p>Anyway, I would get responses from people that were way off<br \/>track and I would write them for their phone number. I would<br \/>call them on my dime, paying the long distance, and talk<br \/>with them and try to &#8220;sell&#8221; them on why they had to plan.<\/p>\n<p>For example, many times I would give them complete plans for<br \/>how to protect their money. People would think that I was crazy.<br \/>I will never forgot one woman asked me, &#8220;You are talking really fast,<br \/>are you bipolar?&#8221; I was like, &#8220;Whatever lady, I am trying to help<br \/>you.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Unfortunately, I got an email to my private email address I use<br \/>to give out, from a husband and wife that are DEAD BROKE. Their<br \/>loved one destroyed them. It was so odd because I totally remember<br \/>who they are even though it was almost 2 years ago since I heard<br \/>from them.<\/p>\n<p>They are one of the people that argued with me. I spent time on<br \/>the phone for free telling them what to do. They said, and I quote<br \/>&#8220;We have a doctor and he will give us all the information we need.<br \/>He never told us about all the stuff you keep telling us about&#8230;<br \/>Your mom was worse then our son.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Anyway, the son, went into a super episode. And the did all<br \/>kinds of things to their finances.<\/p>\n<p>And now he moved away, and wants to come back. Sounds good? Well<br \/>it is, BUT he destroyed their finances<br \/>and money that was suppose to be used for the sister&#8217;s college<br \/>fund. The sister hates her brother and their parents.<\/p>\n<p>Friends and family members think the family is &#8220;crazy.&#8221; The cops<br \/>were always at their house.<\/p>\n<p>The doctor he was going to &#8220;retired&#8221; or vanished. The son has<br \/>a ton of bills attached to the parents. There is no therapist.<br \/>Both the parents have worried themselves into depression<br \/>anxiety and major health problems.<\/p>\n<p>The son lost his job. He has no health insurance. Some days<br \/>he wants help. Other days he doesn&#8217;t.<\/p>\n<p>One of them is actually taking medication for anxiety or depression<br \/>or one of these.<\/p>\n<p>SHOCKING!<\/p>\n<p>As a side note, I find it strange that people who are supporters<br \/>are taking medication because of problems caused by their loved<br \/>one&#8217;s. It&#8217;s really strange.<\/p>\n<p>Back to the story, NONE of this had to happen. I gave them a plan for free. I begged them to take action. They refused. They kind of thought I was crazy. If I remember correctly, they questioned whether or not<br \/>I was &#8220;paranoid.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Bottom line is it&#8217;s a really bad deal. NOW, I must say, I am 100% confident I could put a plan together for them but I can&#8217;t.<br \/>It would be unfair for me to not focus 100%<br \/>and also, I must say, since they didn&#8217;t listen to me before,<br \/>I don&#8217;t want to waste my time again.<\/p>\n<p>Actually today I noticed they placed an order for my course. I hope<br \/>they don&#8217;t pull the old, &#8220;get Dave&#8217;s course\/system, fill out<br \/>the f.ree consultation for non medical and non legal questions<br \/>and then immediately send it in and have me explain all the stuff<br \/>over the phone.&#8221; If they do this, I will immediately refund their<br \/>money because I can&#8217;t deal with that.<\/p>\n<p>My course\/system could solve most of their problems, but ONLY if they<br \/>went through it. NOT if they get it, hope that it will walk it<br \/>self into their house, open itself up and start &#8220;doing it&#8217;s thing.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>It doesn&#8217;t work like that.<\/p>\n<p>Here&#8217;s the thing. You have to treat this seriously. You have<br \/>to plan, strategize, and go through material. Or if you are learning<br \/>on your own, you have to go out and learn. What I am saying is this,<br \/>I am not pushing my courses on anyway, but what I am pushing on<br \/>you to DO SOMETHING. Take action and be a good supporter. Don&#8217;t<br \/>become a person I write about via email saying, &#8220;Oh so and so, well<br \/>they did nothing and now their life is a disaster&#8230;. HELP ME NOW!&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>You don&#8217;t have to get my material, but go out and:<\/p>\n<p>speak to doctors (pay them for their time)<br \/>speak to therapists (pay them for their time)<br \/>drive to several support group meetings<br \/>get all the books on bipolar disorder<br \/>Watch some of those videos on the illness<br \/>Talk with people with the disorder that are doing well<br \/>Get books on protecting your finances<br \/>etc.<\/p>\n<p>That&#8217;s a good start.<\/p>\n<p>The thing is, when I started doing this, at first I thought I could<br \/>help everyone personally. I really did. I thought I would have a<br \/>few dozen people on my mailing list. I thought we would become<br \/>friends and we could even go and &#8220;hang out&#8221; sometime.<\/p>\n<p>But then the numbers went from 500, to 1000, 10,000, to 25,000<br \/>to 45,000 to more than 75,000 people on my list. I had<br \/>to start creating systems to help people through my courses<br \/>and material. Now I have to figure out a way to control my email.<\/p>\n<p>Yesterday I spent four hours in the library mapping out a plan,<br \/>which is going to work great. I will be writing more about this<br \/>plan and how it can help you soon.<\/p>\n<p>BUT, the bottom line is, there are people out there, that have<br \/>a disaster ahead of them and they aren&#8217;t doing anything about it.<\/p>\n<p>Hey I have to run.<\/p>\n<p>Catch you tomorrow.<\/p>\n<p>Your Friend,<\/p>\n<p>Dave<\/p>\n<p>P.S. A ton of people have asked about my how to get out of<br \/>debt course, you can get it here:<br \/><a href=\"http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/debtletter\">http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/debtletter<\/a><\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s the same system my mom followed to go from $30,000<br \/>of d.e.b.t to only $5000 or so and this will be paid offby the 4th quarter this year&#8211;three years early.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Hi,<\/p>\n<p>I think the worst mistake that people can make when trying<br \/>to support someone with bipolar disorder is hoping that<br \/>it will fix itself or the problem will simply go away.<\/p>\n<p>My dad tried this method for DECADES and it NEVER<br \/>worked. The small Bipolar episode always got worse and<br \/>between a nightmare.<\/p>\n<p>I get so many emails from people saying &#8220;David,<br \/>my loved one is not as bad as your mom,<\/p>\n<p> <a href=\"http:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/bipolarsupporterblog\/the-worst-mistake-you-can-make-with-bipolar-disorder\/\" class=\"more-link pull-right\" rel=\"bookmark\">Continue Reading<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v21.6 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>The Worst Mistake You Can Make With Bipolar Disorder - Bipolar Supporter Blog<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"http:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/bipolarsupporterblog\/the-worst-mistake-you-can-make-with-bipolar-disorder\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"The Worst Mistake You Can Make With Bipolar Disorder - Bipolar Supporter Blog\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"Hi, I think the worst mistake that people can make when tryingto support someone with bipolar disorder is hoping thatit will fix itself or the problem will simply go away. 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