{"id":5624,"date":"2007-03-24T07:14:00","date_gmt":"2007-03-24T11:14:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/bipolarsupporterblog\/its-tough-being-a-supporter\/"},"modified":"2007-03-24T07:14:00","modified_gmt":"2007-03-24T11:14:00","slug":"its-tough-being-a-supporter","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/bipolarsupporterblog\/its-tough-being-a-supporter\/","title":{"rendered":"It&#8217;S Tough Being A Supporter"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Hi,<\/p>\n<p>This is a message to both those who have bipolar disorder<br \/>and those that are supporters of those with bipolar disorder.<\/p>\n<p>I was just thinking last night how tough it is to be a supporter.<br \/>My dad had said something that really annoyed me, that I will<br \/>get into fully in another email or maybe a podcast because I don&#8217;t<br \/>have a lot of time.<\/p>\n<p>Basically he suggested that all of the stuff I did he could<br \/>have done to help my mom. This is kind of funny because if<br \/>he could, he would have done it. It would have been great<br \/>to have TWO people working to help my mom not just one.<\/p>\n<p>Last night, I started to say to my dad you know<br \/>I had no information or anyone to ask for help. I had to<br \/>figure EVERYTHING out myself. It tooks almost a year. I slept<br \/>2-3 hours some days.<\/p>\n<p>I have THREE main courses\/systems:<\/p>\n<p>SUPPORTING AN ADULT<br \/>Visit:<br \/><a href=\"http:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/report11\">http:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/report11<\/a><\/p>\n<p>SUPPORTING A CHILD\/TEEN<br \/>Visit:<br \/><a href=\"http:\/\/www.bipolarparenting.com\/\">http:\/\/www.bipolarparenting.com<\/a><\/p>\n<p>HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?<br \/>Visit:<br \/><a href=\"http:\/\/www.survivebipolar.net\/\">http:\/\/www.survivebipolar.net<\/a><\/p>\n<p>I am not bragging but the bottom line is, these courses\/systems are excellent. BUT, I am not trying to sell them to you right now. I want to make a point.<\/p>\n<p>When I got started there were NO resources. Each problem I had<br \/>to sit and brainstorm a solution and get books, hire people,<br \/>call experts, go to meetings, etc. etc.<\/p>\n<p>There wasn&#8217;t a David Oliver that I could use a f.ree consultation<br \/>certficate, included in my courses\/systems, to ask non medical<br \/>and non legal questions to.<\/p>\n<p>There was a $49 ebook that offfered virtually no help at all. On<br \/>a side note, people that do get the ebooks and my stuff always say<br \/>how much more they got out of my material versus the $39 ebook. I always<br \/>laugh and say what do you expect out of a $39 to $49 ebook? :).<\/p>\n<p>Anyway, in addition to just bipolar disorder, I had to deal with<br \/>issues related like:<\/p>\n<p>-Taxes. When my mom when into an episode, Internal Revenue Service letters &#8220;rained&#8221; down on her which were all given to me to &#8220;handle.&#8221;<br \/>-Helping my mom buy a car when she was in an epside, how bad c.redit, etc.<br \/>-Finding my mom&#8217;s c.redit.<br \/>-Disability issues<br \/>-Financial problems<br \/>-Getting great affordable health insurance<br \/>-Setting up a plan for my mom&#8217;s retirement after she gave it all a way in an episode.<br \/>-Undoing all the lies that my mom said to various people<br \/>-Helping my mom paid off her d.ebt<br \/>Etc.<\/p>\n<p>You have seen these long descriptions of my courses\/system<br \/>so you know what I can offer.<\/p>\n<p>I looked at my dad and was amazed that he basically thought<br \/>he could have done it all. Anyway, it reminded me how<br \/>thankless this caregiver job is.<\/p>\n<p>My mom also told me how hard it is for the person with bipolar<br \/>disorder as opposed to the supporter. I think my mom really<br \/>believes this. BUT, if my mom can&#8217;t remember half if not 90%<br \/>of what she said and did, it can&#8217;t be that much harder on<br \/>her than the rest of the family.<\/p>\n<p>I remember it ALL.<\/p>\n<p>I find that being a caregiver or supporter is like being a<br \/>fireman that never really gets thanked. I have many friends<br \/>that are fire, I guess I should say persons, because there are<br \/>several woman that I know who are involved in these organizations.<\/p>\n<p>Anyway, I asked, &#8220;Hey, does anyone say thanks to you?&#8221; Many say<br \/>not really.<\/p>\n<p>I think if you have bipolar disorder, and I know that I am going<br \/>to get a bunch of angry emails but I don&#8217;t care, you should say<br \/>thank you for the person who is supporting you. It&#8217;s way more<br \/>difficult than you can imagine. I know that&#8217;s hard on you too.<br \/>I know. I know. BUT, the vast majority of supporters have<br \/>tried so hard to help you the person with bipolar disorder.<\/p>\n<p>They have:<\/p>\n<p>-Spent and lost tons of money<br \/>-Lost tons of sleep<br \/>-Ruined their health<br \/>-Lost out on many opportunites<br \/>-Made huge sacrifices<br \/>-Been stressed for days, weeks and months at time<br \/>-Worried all the time<br \/>-Tried to figure out what to do to help you<br \/>-Contacted people like me for help<br \/>-Searched the internet, books, manuals, support groups, etc to try to help you.<\/p>\n<p>The list is sooooooooooooo long. One guy I knew who had a ton of money,<br \/>was flying all over the country to different support groups and doctors just to help his family member.<\/p>\n<p>The vasy majority of supporters don&#8217;t mind doing this but I think<br \/>that a thank you would make them feel better. SO, if you have bipolar<br \/>disorder why not thank the person or persons supporting you?<\/p>\n<p>My mom actually does thank me a lot. My dad, hmmm. I can&#8217;t remember if<br \/>he ever thanked me. Maybe once. He likes to believe I didn&#8217;t do that<br \/>much because I think he feels bad knowing he did nothing. My brother has<br \/>never thanked me. The rest of the family thanks me all the time.<\/p>\n<p>Now I am not looking for everyone to have a David Oliver holiday but<br \/>thanks is nice.<\/p>\n<p>So if you are a supporter, I am thanking you. You&#8217;ve done a great<br \/>job helping your loved one. Just reading emails helps them. Listening<br \/>to my podcasts that I finally figured out how to make. Or the blog<br \/>posts that I put up everyday.<\/p>\n<p>I know that you might not get a thank you so you&#8217;re getting one<br \/>from me. If you have bipolar disorder, thank the people or<br \/>persons. Do it today if you can.<\/p>\n<p>Give me feedback to how it works out for you.<\/p>\n<p>I have to run to the gym.<\/p>\n<p>Your Friend,<\/p>\n<p> Dave<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Hi,<\/p>\n<p>This is a message to both those who have bipolar disorder<br \/>and those that are supporters of those with bipolar disorder.<\/p>\n<p>I was just thinking last night how tough it is to be a supporter.<br \/>My dad had said something that really annoyed me, that I will<br \/>get into fully in another email or maybe a podcast because I don&#8217;t<br \/>have a lot of time.<\/p>\n<p>Basically he suggested that all of the stuff I did he could<br \/>have done to help my mom.<\/p>\n<p> <a href=\"http:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/bipolarsupporterblog\/its-tough-being-a-supporter\/\" class=\"more-link pull-right\" rel=\"bookmark\">Continue Reading<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v21.6 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>It&#039;S Tough Being A Supporter - Bipolar Supporter Blog<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"http:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/bipolarsupporterblog\/its-tough-being-a-supporter\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"It&#039;S Tough Being A Supporter - Bipolar Supporter Blog\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"Hi, This is a message to both those who have bipolar disorderand those that are supporters of those with bipolar disorder. 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