{"id":5580,"date":"2007-05-09T07:33:00","date_gmt":"2007-05-09T11:33:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/bipolarsupporterblog\/do-you-fall-for-this-bipolar-strategy\/"},"modified":"2007-05-09T07:33:00","modified_gmt":"2007-05-09T11:33:00","slug":"do-you-fall-for-this-bipolar-strategy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/bipolarsupporterblog\/do-you-fall-for-this-bipolar-strategy\/","title":{"rendered":"Do you fall for this bipolar strategy?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Hi,<\/p>\n

What a day it was yesterday for me. My
blog was broken for half the morning
and finally I got it fixed.<\/p>\n

Anyway, today I want to keep it short
and tell you about this technique
you MUST avoid letting happen to
you. You must avoid this like
the bird flu.<\/p>\n

As a side note, the saying you use
to be “Avoid that like the plaque.”
We haven’t had a plaque in a whole
lot of years so I thought that I would
be a trend setter and start saying “avoid
that the like bird flu.”<\/p>\n

Okay, back to the story. I have been
writing this week on strategies that
I talk about in my courses\/systems
but I am doing them day by day so
you can digest and understand them
hopefully. If there aren’t too
many typos. My courses\/systems
are edited but these daily emails
are only edited by me. They are live
and sent first thing in the morning.<\/p>\n

They take me more than a hour to
plan and write and it’s the first
thing I do. Then I go to the gym
normally. I am committed to helping
you and your loved one cope and
deal with bipolar disorder. I hope
you enjoy this information because
I put a lot of time into it.<\/p>\n

So, on to the strategy. I have found
that people who have bipolar disorder
AND people who go into episodes and
aren’t in the treatment, commonly
use a technique I call “the snow job”
or “the smokescreen.”<\/p>\n

When I first started there were a few
people that worked for me with bipolar
disorder that were super creative and
smart but not in the right treatment
plan. They were a disaster most of the
time. They never did anything on time
and caused a lot of problems for me.<\/p>\n

Let me demonstrate how the technique
worked.<\/p>\n

Dave: Amy, where’s the assignment? It’s
already two weeks late.<\/p>\n

Amy: Why are you attacking me. Every
time I write something, you always attack
me and say that I do a bad job. Oh and
by the way, did you know that I caught
Jody plagiarizing material. Did you know
that? I bet you didn’t even know. Want
me to tell you how?<\/p>\n

Dave: Oh, sure.<\/p>\n

Then I would focus on Jody but not
the issue at hand which was why Amy
didn’t finish her project.<\/p>\n

My mom has used this technique countless
times on me. We have been in situations
where I HAD to talk to my mom about point
a, and then she will bring up point b
which appears to be important but is not
connected to her. This way I focus on point
b and NOT point a. It creates a diversion
and that’s why I call it the snow job or
the smokescreen.<\/p>\n

Overtime, if you keep getting diverted you
never can talk about the central issues related
to bipolar disorder. Eventually, disaster sets
in. With my mom she would cause my dad and myself
to always be talking about and focused on everything
other than how to setup systems to manager her
bipolar disorder.<\/p>\n

She also use to talk about being “attacked” by
us or “screamed” at by us even though we
never did. In the old days before I taught
my dad this, he would want to talk to my
mom about let’s say the massive spending and
my mom would say “stop yelling at me, why are
you attacking me?” My dad would then, talk
really, really, really, really, really low
and then my mom would say over and over
why are you attacking me. My dad then would
start to defend himself that he wasn’t attacking
her and then eventually would forget what
is original goal or point was–which was to
talk to her about the spending.<\/p>\n

This happen to me so many times. Then I got
hip to this scheme and here’s what I did.<\/p>\n

I set one thought in my head.
I realized that my mom would probably use a
snow job on me.
I engaged a conversation with her.
When she used the snow job, I only focused on
the mission at hand and that’s it.
I then if I had to wrote her therapist a letter
and let me mom know.
I then told my mom that I knew what she was
doing and it was wrong and that I would not
forget my point and I would only focus on
that point and nothing else<\/p>\n

I also made a list of important points
on an index card and crossed them off only
when the issue had been dealt with and covered
completely.<\/p>\n

Today this is barely a problem for us based
on the techniques that I just outlined. AND,
don’t think “poor Dave’s mom.” My mom is happy
I do these things.<\/p>\n

Some people with bipolar disorder think like
I am running some kind of dictatorship which
I am not. I don’t have to help my mom at all
I could walk away like my brother did.<\/p>\n

I help her because I want to. She knows that
she needs support and NOT codependency or handouts.
She knows she is an adult and I should not and
will not do everything for her. BUT, she also
knows that when I use these techniques it’s
in her own best interest because if she
goes “way off”, it only hurts her.<\/p>\n

She realizes this AFTER any sort of episode.<\/p>\n

If you are a supporter, you will learn in my courses\/
systems about this and more.<\/p>\n

SUPPORTING AN ADULT?
Visit:
http:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/report11<\/a><\/p>\n

SUPPORTING A CHILD\/TEEN?
Visit:
http:\/\/www.bipolarparenting.com<\/a><\/p>\n

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http:\/\/www.survivebipolar.net<\/a><\/p>\n

If you are a supporter, you have to be a tough
person with thick skin. Here’s why. When the
person you are supporting is in a bipolar
disorder episode, he or she will say one thing
that is really generally the opposite of what
you should be doing. Then when the person
is out of the episode, he\/she will say the
opposite of what they originally said. So
you have to ignore what the person is first
saying to you and do what you think is
right and best.<\/p>\n

I hope that make sense.<\/p>\n

Let me give you an example. There is a
person who works for me, who does a great
job. She has bipolar disorder. She went
into an episode. She told her husband she
was fine she didn’t want to go to the
hospital. She was all mad at him. He got
her into the hospital using a technique
that’s rather complicated to explain
via email but it’s in my bipolar supporter
course, anyway, now today after a week,
she is happy he did it. Before she
was not.<\/p>\n

Well I have to run. Have a great day.<\/p>\n

Dave<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Hi,<\/p>\n

What a day it was yesterday for me. My
blog was broken for half the morning
and finally I got it fixed.<\/p>\n

Anyway, today I want to keep it short
and tell you about this technique
you MUST avoid letting happen to
you. You must avoid this like
the bird flu.<\/p>\n

As a side note, the saying you use
to be “Avoid that like the plaque.”<\/p>\n

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