Hi,<\/p>\n
How’s it going? I have a pretty busy day
today but I wanted to share something that
I spoke to someone yesterday about.<\/p>\n
I have a friend who’s wife has bipolar
disorder. It’s a nightmare situation. His
wife doesn’t really take her medications,
she drinks, she is violent, she is manipulative
AND this is all when she is not under
the right treatment plan. He tells me,
the few months that she was doing all
she was suppose to do, she is a great
wife and stable person. <\/p>\n
Well I was talking to him and he was telling
me some really disturbing things about himself.
He has gained like 70 pounds. He takes anti
depressants, anxiety medication. He never
exercises. He feels terrible. He can’t run
and play with his kids because he is too
out of shape.<\/p>\n
He is basically walking time bomb about to
die because of very poor health. He has
done what I did when supporting my mom
initially. <\/p>\n
Let me explain.<\/p>\n
When I first started supporting my mom,
I was 221 pounds 8% body fat. After she
went into an episode I was 191 pounds.
I don’t know my body fat. I never looked
at myself but my friends tell me I looked
close to death and like a skeleton. One
friend said that they thought I was seriously
ill but didn’t know how to bring it up to
me.<\/p>\n
I never slept because I was worried 24 hours
a day. I completely had all kinds of anxiety.
I never went out with friends. I ate every
other day down from 6 times a day. <\/p>\n
All I focused on was helping my mom. <\/p>\n
THIS WAS A MISTAKE.<\/p>\n
If you are supporting someone with bipolar
disorder, you can NOT let your health
completely go. NOW, you might be thinking
what I was thinking which was, “Oh, I know
I am destroying myself but I am doing it
for a good cause and I will fix myself
up after my loved one is better.” I use
to think that every day.<\/p>\n
I believe this is flawed thinking. NOTE
I use to think this way. BUT here’s why
I think it is flawed thinking. You actually
can get so ill that you can be far worse off
than the person you are supporting with
bipolar disorder. And if that happens,
what good are you going to be to your
loved one with bipolar disorder?<\/p>\n
I strongly encourage you at least do
the following:<\/p>\n
-Try to do some kind of exercise like walking
-Try to make sure you eat at least three meals
a day
-Take some vitamins
-Look for solutions to your loved one’s problems
right away to help cut down on the stress. Don’t
focus on the problem, focus on the solution.
-Don’t dwell on the past it just increases your stress<\/p>\n
I really want to sell you on doing this. I think that
seriously could have died at the rate that I was going.
I think probably because I was younger and have done
lots of training for sports I survived.<\/p>\n
My friend on the other hand is in really big trouble.
He just can’t keep doing it anymore. The strange
thing is, I gave him EVERYTHING that I have on bipolar
disorder but he hasn’t listened or read one thing. It’s
been almost 8 months. <\/p>\n
You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make
him drink is the old saying which seems true with my
friend.<\/p>\n
I warned him however that at the rate he is going
with his health, he won’t be around to see his
kids in the future.<\/p>\n
I feel really bad but I just don’t know what to do. I
completely believe things can be turned around with
his wife if he follows my system outlined in my
supporter course which he has but has not looked
at?<\/p>\n
Anyway, I have to run now. This is a really important
email even though it may be simple. Read it again
if need be. <\/p>\n
If you have my courses\/systems, <\/p>\n
SUPPORTING AN ADULT?
Visit:
http:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/report11<\/p>\n
SUPPORTING A CHILD\/TEEN?
Visit:
http:\/\/www.bipolarparenting.com<\/p>\n
HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http:\/\/www.survivebipolar.net<\/p>\n
you’ll notice that many of the people I interviewed
almost destroyed their health supporting a loved
one with bipolar disorder and urge other supporters
NOT do this.<\/p>\n
I have to run I will talk to you tomorrow.<\/p>\n
Your Friend,<\/p>\n
Dave<\/p>\n
P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/supporterblog\/<\/p>\n
P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http:\/\/bipolarcentral.libsyn.com<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Hi,<\/p>\n
How’s it going? I have a pretty busy day
today but I wanted to share something that
I spoke to someone yesterday about.<\/p>\n
I have a friend who’s wife has bipolar
disorder. It’s a nightmare situation. His
wife doesn’t really take her medications,
she drinks, she is violent, she is manipulative
AND this is all when she is not under
the right treatment plan.<\/p>\n