Hi,<\/p>\n
Well Father’s Day is over and it went fairly
well. There was no serious drama. This was
the first Father’s Day where there was no
serious bipolar drama. Since there was only
three people, myself, my dad and my mom,
it’s hard to have drama :).<\/p>\n
Anyway, my mom did throw out what I call
Bipolar Bait to kind of start a situation.
In all cases, my dad and myself didn’t
take the bait so there were no problems.<\/p>\n
But as this was happening, I was thinking
about writing you this important email
about a very important principle I have
learned when supporting someone with
bipolar disorder.<\/p>\n
You MUST choose IMPORTANT Battles<\/p>\n
What does this mean? Well when supporting
someone with bipolar disorder, things are said
and done that are either important or not
important. <\/p>\n
For example, yesterday my mom said, “Why
are you guys jumping on me.” My dad and
I were not “jumping” on her rather
simply engaging in a conversation and
not agreeing with my mom. She called
that jumping on her.<\/p>\n
I could have gone on and gone and defended
myself and my dad but I let it slide because
I don’t care and it’s not important.<\/p>\n
On the flip side, I INSISTED that my mom
NOT get all worked up and involved in
a family reunion that is going in Texas.<\/p>\n
I will fight this battle because it’s
important. I know if my mom starts getting
all into planning, figuring things out,
buying stuff, etc from New Jersey for
an event in Texas it will probably lead
to some kind of episode. <\/p>\n
How do I know this? Is it because I am
a psychic? NO, because I have charted
patterns of this happening in the
past 20 years.<\/p>\n
Another example of a battle I choose
to fight was the battle over finances.
I choose to make sure my mom didn’t
create any more d.ebt and fought
to make sure she wasn’t using c.redit cards.<\/p>\n
But there are other things that I just
let go because they are not that important.
If you don’t learn to figure out what’s really
important and what’s not really important
you will find yourself constantly stressed out,
tired all the time and feel like you are at
war 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days
a year and that’s a hard way to live.<\/p>\n
SUPPORTING AN ADULT?
Visit:
http:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/report11<\/p>\n
SUPPORTING A CHILD\/TEEN?
Visit:
http:\/\/www.bipolarparenting.com<\/p>\n
HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http:\/\/www.survivebipolar.net<\/p>\n
Hey, well I have to take off for the day.
Have a great day.<\/p>\n
Dave<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Hi,<\/p>\n
Well Father’s Day is over and it went fairly
well. There was no serious drama. This was
the first Father’s Day where there was no
serious bipolar drama. Since there was only
three people, myself, my dad and my mom,
it’s hard to have drama :).<\/p>\n
Anyway, my mom did throw out what I call
Bipolar Bait to kind of start a situation.
In all cases,<\/p>\n