Hi,<\/p>\n
How’s it going? I am dead tired for moving. I
sure would do a lot of things differently
if I had to do it all over again. But, this
isn’t about my sad moving story, I want
to share something that’s really important
that I thinking about in reference to my
mom.<\/p>\n
I got a call from my Aunt. Well first
let me say that my mom and dad are in Texas
visiting family. Before I get started,
let me say, about a month ago I had
written a daily bipolar disorder email
that my mom was going to Texas.<\/p>\n
I had also indicated that I had found
that after my mom generally went to
Texas, history showed she would go
into some kind of episode. I don’t
remember all the times but this is according
to my dad. <\/p>\n
With the big episode that described
on the sites the offer my courses:<\/p>\n
SUPPORTING AN ADULT?
Visit:
http:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/report11<\/p>\n
SUPPORTING A CHILD\/TEEN?
Visit:
http:\/\/www.bipolarparenting.com<\/p>\n
HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http:\/\/www.survivebipolar.net<\/p>\n
I have a long story that talks about how
I learned all this stuff related to bipolar disorder.
Well after my mom got back from Texas one time
she then ramped up into the mother of all
manic episodes. That’s when my dad asked me
to help and at the time I had ZERO and I
mean ZERO knowledge of bipolar disorder.
I didn’t even know that my mom had it.
It was something nobody in the family ever
talked about.<\/p>\n
Anyway this huge episode started after Texas.
I do remember being younger and other episodes
which when I was younger it was called “mom’s
is sick” started after Texas.<\/p>\n
HANG IN THERE PLEASE<\/p>\n
Please hang in there because I have an important
point to make but I have to explain the background
first.<\/p>\n
Okay so if you have my bipolar supporter course\/system
you know how I am really into planning and predicting
things with bipolar disorder. I feel that you have
to hope for the best and plan for the worst. Some
people hope for the best and plan for the best case
scenario. That’s bad news with bipolar disorder.<\/p>\n
So in the PAST (historically speaking)
this is what I have seen to summarize:<\/p>\n
-My mom goes to Texas<\/p>\n
-She does really well in Texas. Everyone thinks she
is doing just great. She is very talkative, happy
and gets along with everyone<\/p>\n
-She gets back and then starts doing lots and lots
of cleaning and yard work<\/p>\n
-Slowly she starts doing erratic things but it’s
hard to see them unless you really look carefully
and think about it.<\/p>\n
-She starts calling people a lot. For no
good reasons.<\/p>\n
-She starts to go into an episode<\/p>\n
-It gets worse and worse and worse and eventually
my mom has to go to the hospital<\/p>\n
This is the pattern that happened the last time
she went to Texas. This is the pattern the time
before the last she went to Texas. I can remember
this happening when I was around 16 or so when
she went to Texas. My dad tells me there were
other times this exact pattern happened.<\/p>\n
Now also in the old days here’s what was
done when the bipolar disorder signs
were sign:<\/p>\n
-My dad did nothing. He just allowed my mom
to get worse and worse with her bipolar disorder
episode.<\/p>\n
-The doctor was not informed with the situation with my mom.
Nobody knew the doctor. Nobody knew how to call the doctor
or what to say. There was little to no understanding
of how the doctor could really help. <\/p>\n
-There was no therapist, so he\/she was not contacted<\/p>\n
-I did nothing (half the time I was just a kid
or in college…not that I am making excuses for
myself)<\/p>\n
-My brother did nothing<\/p>\n
-My mom’s mom or my grandmother would send my mom
money for my mom’s bills she couldn’t pay<\/p>\n
-She would lose her job eventually<\/p>\n
-My dad would struggle for months trying
to get my mom into the hospital and when I was
younger not tell me exactly why she was going into
the hospital. It was understood it was just something
that happened but there was no specific reason ever
given. I remember this as a kid even when I was
older than 18 I never knew the reasons. I guess
I could have asked but just never wanted to.<\/p>\n
So let’s fast forward. So my mom’s in Texas now.
I am also moving. And I am moving further away from
my parents so it’s harder for me to come over. Plus
I have many business trips coming and I will not
even be in the state. My mom knows this and you
can tell that it bothers her.<\/p>\n
So my aunt calls me and leaves a message that instead
of my mom coming back to New Jersey on Sunday
she is coming back early. She is suppose to be
back today Thursday. She told my aunt it was
because she had lots of yard work.<\/p>\n
My aunt indicated that my mom looked great, was
really upbeat and got along with everyone
and was really friendly.<\/p>\n
BUT, since my aunt has my bipolar disorder course
she knew that historically speaking everything
with my mom is a bad sign. My mom’s bipolar
disorder pattern indicates these may be signs
of an episode. <\/p>\n
To the outsider, my mom would be doing great
and there is nothing to worry about. I haven’t
spoken to my dad but I am 98% sure that he would
say “Your mother is doing great. It looks like
we avoided an bipolar disorder problems.” <\/p>\n
My dad struggles to understand the signs to
look for. I think he just doesn’t want to see
them ever.<\/p>\n
Anyway, the bottom line is, with bipolar disorder
many times it’s hard to see the signs. I can
see them because I use worksheets and it’s in
my head. I have thought about it a TON and I know
what to look for. <\/p>\n
If you are a bipolar disorder supporter, you have
to learn how to look back in history, figure out
what leads up to episodes. What were the old signs
and then look for them in the future. <\/p>\n
Then have a plan as to what to do if an episode
starts to occur. I go over how to handle
this in my courses\/systems:<\/p>\n
SUPPORTING AN ADULT?
Visit:
http:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/report11<\/p>\n
SUPPORTING A CHILD\/TEEN?
Visit:
http:\/\/www.bipolarparenting.com<\/p>\n
HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http:\/\/www.survivebipolar.net<\/p>\n
Well I have to continue finish moving so I have
to take off. Have a great day.<\/p>\n
Your Friend,<\/p>\n
Dave<\/p>\n
P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/supporterblog\/<\/p>\n
P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http:\/\/bipolarcentral.libsyn.com<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Hi,<\/p>\n
How’s it going? I am dead tired for moving. I
sure would do a lot of things differently
if I had to do it all over again. But, this
isn’t about my sad moving story, I want
to share something that’s really important
that I thinking about in reference to my
mom.<\/p>\n
I got a call from my Aunt. Well first
let me say that my mom and dad are in Texas
visiting family.<\/p>\n