Hi,<\/p>\n
How’s it going? I must say, I am have a super hard
time with my move. It’s been a nightmare. But, on
Saturday or maybe Sunday, I am going to be sending
out an email about an important concept that
you can use with bipolar disorder that I have
used while moving. You’re going to like it
and it’s SUPER important.<\/p>\n
Well yesterday I was checking my email and I got
this email:<\/p>\n
“Take me off your list, I am Bipolar,
I don’t want to be part of your mass marketing
campaign. I have enough problems. I hop your mother
is alright, I hope she is getting some compansation,
considering you are riding her mental illness for profit.”
-Chris<\/p>\n
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I get probably 5 of these a day about of about 800
responses.<\/p>\n
Obviously this person is totally clueless when it comes
to running an organization. I did use to take these
things personally but now I realize most of the people
that write things like this are really sick. Also
they really have no idea what they are talking about.<\/p>\n
They think:<\/p>\n
Writers are f.ree
Advertising is f.ree
Websites are f.ree
Paper is f.ree
Cds are f.ree
Shipping is f.ree
Boxes are f.ree
Staff is f.ree
Etc.<\/p>\n
When I have confronted people who have written
me nasty emails, I find that they are
really sick and I feel bad for them.<\/p>\n
Today is a good day to talk about this. Remember
bipolar disorder is a mood disorder and people can
say and do things they normally wouldn’t do.
This is very hard for people to understand. It use
to be really hard for me to understand.<\/p>\n
Back when I started, people could just call me
up. This was odd. I would have people call me at
like 1:00pm and scream at me. Then 15 minutes later
email me that I was doing such a great job. I was
new at this all and it was really strange. It was
hard for me to take.<\/p>\n
I use to get mad. I think the thing that would get
me the most was when people would say that I was
part of giant conspiracy with drug companies trying
to medicate them so they couldn’t function. That
would really make me mad. I have some really mean
emails, voicemails and letters in the mail about
how I am a “tool” of the drug industry and I am
liar. I don’t have a mother with bipolar disorder
and this is all made up to sell bipolar disorder
medications.<\/p>\n
Sounds crazy? Well it is. The reason why I think
medication is so important is because of what I have
seen. EVERYONE that I know who is stable and doing
well is on medication. EVERYONE not some people but
EVERYONE. That’s the bottom line.<\/p>\n
Anyway, you have to learn not to take things personally.
And if you have bipolar disorder, I have an important
message for you later on in this email.<\/p>\n
Anyway, back to my point before. When I was first
helping my mom, she would say the craziest things to me
and I would not understand why. Then I wasted my time
defending myself.<\/p>\n
Then I realized bipolar disorder is a mood disorder and
I just started to ignore anything that was an attack
and not take it personally. That made me feel a lot
better.<\/p>\n
I highly recommend that you do this as well. Imagine me.
I get up to 1200 emails a day. About 1% of them are
super negative and are sent from very sick people or
people who have no idea what they are talking about.
The person above who also wrote me the email that
posted in my email sent another one that I can’t
even post because of the language.<\/p>\n
Last week, I received multiple threats of harm
from someone and this week that person says I am
doing a great job.<\/p>\n
I wanted to write you this, to remind you
that I get attacked and you may too if you are
a bipolar supporter but all of us can’t take
any of this personally. I know it’s easier said
then done. I have come a long way, if my mom says
something to me or I get something from one of my
subscribers, these days, I am unfazed. But it took
me about 1.5 years to get this way.<\/p>\n
Anyway, if I took it all personally, I would get
super mad each day. It does take time to develop
the skill of not taking things personally. But it’s
totally possible. <\/p>\n
Just remember who your loved one is when he\/she is
stable. And compare that when bad things are done
or said. This will help you realize it’s not really
them acting out of saying things, it’s their bipolar
disorder and that’s the enemy. <\/p>\n
SUPPORTING AN ADULT?
Visit:
http:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/report11<\/p>\n
SUPPORTING A CHILD\/TEEN?
Visit:
http:\/\/www.bipolarparenting.com<\/p>\n
HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http:\/\/www.survivebipolar.net<\/p>\n
IF YOU HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?<\/p>\n
Note: Notice I had if you have it,
not if you are it. I hate when people say
“I’m bipolar.” It drives me crazy. You
have the disorder you aren’t it.<\/p>\n
Anyway, if you have bipolar disorder, you have
to learn how to ignore totally stupid things
that stupid people may say to you about
your disorder. For example, my brother’s wife’s
brother once said that and I quote (and he
said this at Thanksgiving), “Bipolar people
have their wires crossed and that makes them
crazy.” <\/p>\n
I was so mad when he said this I was going
to verbally destroy him BUT my mom kept
hitting my leg not to say anything and she
made me promise not to say anything and let
it go. This was about 2 years ago and yes
I did take it personally because he was
attacking my mom.<\/p>\n
Anyway, I have heard some of the dumbest things
from people in reference to people with a mental
illness. If you have bipolar disorder, you have
to learn to ignore this kind of nonsense. Don’t
take it personally. I know it must be tough.
I don’t have bipolar disorder myself but I would
be super annoyed if I heard someone say something
about my disorder that was way out in left field.<\/p>\n
Well I have to run now, more moving related things
and I have to go to work. Have a great day.<\/p>\n
Your Friend,<\/p>\n
Dave<\/p>\n
P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/supporterblog\/<\/p>\n
P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http:\/\/bipolarcentral.libsyn.com<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Hi,<\/p>\n
How’s it going? I must say, I am have a super hard
time with my move. It’s been a nightmare. But, on
Saturday or maybe Sunday, I am going to be sending
out an email about an important concept that
you can use with bipolar disorder that I have
used while moving. You’re going to like it
and it’s SUPER important.<\/p>\n
Well yesterday I was checking my email and I got
this email:<\/p>\n
“Take me off your list,<\/p>\n